Reviews of eHarmony

1. Believe me, women get the "take one look at your photo and close" treatment too. I've had 123 closures, only about 15 were sent by me to the guys. It's disappointing. 2. Re: mismatches: obviously there is something to be desired in eharmony's matching process. I got a really creepy match the other day from this guy who kept mentioning his nephew, over and over, as in, hanging out with his nephew is one of his favorite ways to spend leisure time, one of the things he can't live without, one of the most important things to him. Yikes-a-rama. Think he's on the wrong site. All I can figure is that when I did my profile and preferences, I didn't rank certain of my preferences strongly enough to screen some of these characters out. 3. A word of support to my single friends reading this: don't feel you have to defend your looks here. The fact that you are willing to freely share your personal experiences about these dating sites so others can make an informed choice shows you are generous and kind. And some of us still sound hopeful and optimistic despite the bad experiences! That's fantastic. And way more important than whether you wear glasses or not. :-)

I have only been on eHarmony for a short time so I'm unable to give a very detailed review. I was absolutely horrifed however by one of the matches they sent to me. A man who is HIV+ and listed "sex" as one of the things he can't live without. Please do us all a favor and sign up on a dating site for others like you. Not to mention that he couldn't spell words I could spell in 2nd grade. I hope it gets better because that's about as bad as it can get.

All I can say is eharmony is a total waste of time and money. I give them zero stars.

How scientific and rigorous can the process be when it matches you with people who are diametrically opposed or almost total opposites?

Why did it match me up with these people?

1. A match with someone who finds religion extremely important to the point of being a fanatic when I just listed myself as spiritual only. This person asked me if I was able to remarry (I am divorced) according to the bible's tenants. What? I am legally divorced in the state of Oklahoma. But when I asked where in the bible it mentioned that they couldn't tell me.

2. Numerous people who put that looks are extremely important to them despite the fact that they are old, wrinkled, and pushing 50. I am youthful and in my mid 30's. I also put on my profile that I am of average looks. So how did I match with these people?

3. I also matched with a symphony conductor. I have no musical interests besides rap and hip hop, and I am tone deaf. (Couldn't carry a tune in a bucket, I've been told.)

4. Matches with people in the psychology/medical fields. A couple of these people seemed very peculiar to me bordering on scary.

5. Numerous men pushing 50 or older who seem obsessed with sex and want to talk about it in emails before I even really have gotten the briefest chance to know them. Give me a break, I am no prude but please be realistic here.

6. Players who want to date numerous women at the same time and who have trouble keeping track of the ones they are communicating with. That is they refer to things that don't make sense, like they think they are communicating with another person.

Eharmony is a total waste of time. Aren't there any decent, normal, honest, faithful men left out there? Are all the good guys taken?

I am 35 dwf living in Ardmore, OK. And I am a ehamony reject. If you have more to say about eharmony or want to say something to me drop by.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/without_eharmony/

I'm not truly rating it. I just filled out information. I would like to try. Just not sure if I want to pay that much. I was reading everyone's reviews here to help decide. As to the person who posted they did "research on a college level" --you want Russia--then hell..move there. Just because YOU researched it, doesn't mean squat. As for everyone, all of the match sights are pretty much the same. I have tried Match, Yahoo, and a couple of others. Guess we all just have to keep looking. Online and in the real world --get out more and mingle. I try to get out--just not a lot to do here. I also am trying online to give me more opportunity. I think the more we attempt to go through and the more people we meet, the more opportunity to meet the right person will show up. I've been blown off online, and I've been blown off on a date, and I've actually been on a couple of decent dates. It's just the nature of dating. I just wish people would date normally --most of the people I have met want to rush into a relationship or just want a one night stand. SO>>good luck to everyone out there. Glad to know I'm not the only single person left!! :-) It would be nice to meet single friends even...my friends have moved off; and the few left are married and don't consider me to hang with anymore...

I have done research at the college level into online dating for my business degree. Thus I checked out this review website. You will have a lot of crazies like Random who think they know something, except maybe they know something about sheep, and that's about it. He might also have some experience at stalking seeing as how he gets on a single person's case, like he will with any female that pisses him off. We females know his kind. This is a good place to see what goes on in the online dating world, and there isn't much positive to say about it. If you go online, go to a totally free site like POF until the majors like Match.com who charge clients verify all the information in person. BTW, the Russian agencies that Random slags are the most profitable out of all the personals websites. The N.I.S. did a study and found that marriages were 2.5 times more likely to succeed when an American male marries a Russian woman. The reason is that they interview women and send the worst ones out the door, because they can charge more moeny for having the best women. The Russian agencies cherry pick, the best agencies that is, the walk-in agencies in major Russian cities. I suggest any of you guys going online hang out in forums discussing that aspect, because online dating in the USA is a wash because of VERY low female participation of the sort that is marriageable. I'm not going there, and you will not meet people like me there.

There are many flaws with this system - mainly that no-one checks or evaluates the information being posted. The one person I decided to meet turned out to be from a completely different city than he had posted and also 8 years older. OK - I was foolish enough to overlook that and started dating him. Eventually I found out that he was simultaneously having affairs with about five other women - so much for his statements that he is sincere, honest and has integrity!!!

I haven't tried EH yet but I wanted to laugh publicly at DoctorPhil in Montana.

You want a Russian mail order bride pal? Oh please feel free. Friend of mine got one, now he's broke with a prison record for beating her - he didn't, but when she got citzenship and he ran out of money he ended up getting arrested. She cried her pretty little model eyes out and said that he beat and raped her.

Oh she was fine, no doubt about it. I'd hit it - but you want that just go to a brothel in Ukraine and go home. (even then watch your wallet though)

Sure, they're model-quality - that just means they can play you and everyone else better.

You're in MT, right? Stick with the sheep - and remember, the red-arsed ones kick, green means go.

We all know that EHarmony is expensive. But that aside, I went ahead and tried it. I was quite disappointed. I am not all about looks but I am a very attractive woman and I would love to be matched with a somewhat attractive man. Most of the men I was matched with either didn't have pictures posted or were, well, how can I say this without sounding like a conceited bitch, not my type. I specifically asked to be matched with others who do not have children, yet Eharmony kept sending me matches that do have children. Also, I requested that I be matched with only those who have visible pictures, but EHarMONEY kept sending me matches without visible pictures. I cancelled my membership within the 7 day trial period but to my dismay, I had to call their call center in order to get my money back. I was on hold for 10 minutes before Judy came on the phone and tried for 5 mintues to keep me on as an EHarmony customer. Thank God I got a refund! Whew! What was good about it? Well, the matching system, the can't stands and must haves are pretty good. You can tell right away whether or not you and another person have the same values and morals, that is, if both parties were honest and accurate when filling out their profile.

I did the evaluation at first to see where it would go. At the beginning I was given much older women that I would never date. When I looked back at my profile there were some items that I swear were not there the first time. I also got a prospect that was 5 years older and Afro American--no offense but not on my preference list. If I am expecting EH to chose someone for me based only on my list of characteristics, I'm afraid to pay and end up with clones of my mother! Sorry mom but I am looking for something else despite a happy family upbringing. I want to make the choise if the "first impression" is good enough for me. I don't need a 10 but I don't want to pay to get someone that I won't see her face weight or height for a long time. I am quiting before investing any money. I was not impressed because much of the EH process was not explained (or in an obvious location) until inputting my personal data.

My first month on eharmony I was matched with over thirty women. I got to the open communication stage with seven and all but one never wrote me back or closed me out after the first email. The one that actually wrote back I am now in a great relationship. The two of us are very well matched and see the world the same way. She is also one of the better looking woman on the site; which isn't saying much.

If you are seriously looking for a match I suggest to keep at it and find a person who is also serious about it. I met with some woman that made it sound like they wer'e serious about finding someone but when it came down to it they just blew me off. Their loss because I met a great person.