Reviews of eHarmony

I have just canceled my membership, of a year and half, on e-harmony because the process was a disappointment. At first, there were few matches. As soon as I was successful at posting my picture a flood of matches magically appeared. Of those, only a few responded. My final frustration came when one of the few reponses told me that he had over 300 matches. 300! I had so much less. I think that eharmony should be more honest about the disproportionate ratios, women to men. Given the nature of women and men it makes sense, women feel safer meeting people online, men are in the clubs, bars, and other meeting places where they can see what they are getting. We all know, men like to look and women want to communicate. I think the profile is a scam. Not one of the matches was based on any profile I gave them. The last match told me honestly that he was charged and plead guilty to assault and battery of his last wife. That did it, I quit. Of course, he claimed that he was not guilty but plead guilty to avoid jail time. There are always two sides to a story, however, I'm still wrestling with whether to contact e-harmony and report this match. I think as a women concerned for women everywhere, I should.

I just tried to sign on to eharmony and it wouldn't let me because it said it was "uncertain about what kinds of people it could match me up with," or something about not having a match for me. I felt absolutely terrible, like something is wrong with me. I think these guys are the worst.

This is simply a way to meet people you wouldn't ordinarily meet (especially if you have a busy lifestyle like a lot of us). It seems that the site is just trying to match people up and minimize the potential for personality conflicts, which will spell the demise of any relationship. If you don't like the concept, don't do it.

The complaints involving a lack of matches are most likely in a more rural area, where there just aren't that many people signed up. If you're close to a metropolitan area and still aren't getting any matches, then perhaps you need to branch out in other ways. Other than that, if your profile is boring (and/or not completely filled out) and you don't put a picture up, don't expect a hot response.

My only real complaint involves the people on the service, not the service itself. Communicate or close out and move on! A lot of women seem to like to get to a certain stage (#3 or 4 seem to be the most common) and then just stop altogether. Not sure if it's laziness or what, but if you're not interested, close it out (it's not that difficult).

After hearing Neil Clark Warren on NPR's "Fresh Air" with Terry Gross, I had a much better understanding of the man, the concept and the process. Even though he admits being a fundamentalist Christian, all faiths are welcome on his website, including agnostics and atheists. This reassured me and should dispel any notions that e-Harmony rejects any profile if the person behind it does not believe in a supreme being.

Other troubling assumptions about e-Harmony were confirmed, however. First, the good Doctor admits that he matches people by faith. I would feel slighted if I paid for an e-Harmony membership and checked the "spiritual" or "Jewish" box. I would want the opportunity to date out of my faith. The great loves of my life have been Catholic, Jewish, Episcopalian and Protestant. Only one of those matched my own faith that I no longer practice with any regularity. The other matter that Dr. Warren cleared up, albeit inadvertently, is that e-Harmony was concocted out of junk science. Actually there is no science at all. He just got a few hundred couples and spoke to them about what they thought made their marriages successful. Hardly a sure thing since everything the mirror reflects into our own eyes is subjective.

The interview lacked some very important questions. First, the whole membership and marriages statistic. Not very different than the numbers from any typical American big city. No inquiry about how many of those marriages are still intact and happy. And not one mention about membership fees that are about twice the amount of other dating sites. Clearly, Ms. Gross failed to do her homework on this interview. Perhaps because she's married, she does not have much interest in those who are not and looking sharp for a wonderful life partner. She also allowed for only 20 minutes for a dialogue that should have been awarded an hour.

I will join e-Harmony for a least the trial period to see if it is at least a more pleasant experience than the junk food dating sites such as Match and Yahoo. I will write a review once the results are in.

Eharmony is a disgusting scam. I tried match.com and salon.com, both of which worked reasonably well for me -- I met some very nice people on them. But it's just amazing to me that Eharmony is still allowed to do business. It's obvious that their so-called "personality profile" has no bearing on reality and in fact reveals nothing at all about you or the people you're supposed to meet.

They only introduced me to two people; both were basically what I would call mean old men. In fact, I found it interesting that they only sent me names when I was at a point where I'd have to send them money. The first time was just before I joined (which I really regret, believe me) and the second time was when my one-month membership was about to expire. At that point of course I had no intention of giving them any more of my hard-earned salary.

Both of these old fellas were quite awful -- I'd be horrified to think that I had anything in common with either of them.

Please don't waste your money! And when is this scam going to be investigated?

OK

I've read the horror stories, but their customer service has apparently improved drastically. I called to request my refund from the 7 day trial (the service just wasn't for me,no real complaint), and they proccessed me quickly, and with as friendly a service as I have recieved in quite some time. I guess they are listening to the comments.

As for the validity of the matches, I got maybe twenty in the first few days. There were 7- 10 that I closed or closed me, there were three pretty good ones that I had some communication with (but eventually rejected me :)), and the others I didn't hear from (but a week isn't much time.)

To me, dating sites in general seem pretty hit or miss. I'm going to focus more time being involved in activities I'm interested in. Seems a better way to meet compatible people.

I completed the tedious profile questions and was considering signing up for eHarmony but wanted to get more information and read some reviews. After reading the reviews (most of which are very unfavorable) I have decided to take the advice and keep my money. Suprisingly I received 5 matches!!! 5 matches??? How can this be?? I am not a member. I didn't realize that before you actually become a member your profile or shall I say information is available to actual members. Okay, so I'm trying to decide if I am going to pay the fee and before I can make up my mind, I receive an email saying 'Joe' had answered my questions. I hadn't asked any questions. I go to the site to follow up and 2 of my matches had been closed saying 'This match never responded to my request'. It really made me wonder. If these were really matches or just bait to get me to sign up and sign up quickly. Well I guess I'll never know because I am going to bypass eHarmony. Thanks

I have been a member of EHarmony for about a year. I went off of it for about 3 months to pursue a relationship then just came back to try again.

I like that Eharmony is private and the only people that see you are the ones that you are matched with. unlike Match.com where you are exposed to everyone out there. I don't like that you can't control the age brackets. I feel that for women they go 10 years older and 5 years younger and men its the opposite. Other then that I think its a great way to meet people when you work long hours and can't get out. Its pricey but at least you know the people that are on are serious and want to be there.

I also believe there should be a rating system on someone like on Ebay this way you can warn potential partners if your experience was with a commitmentphobic, psycho, married, etc.

I had a bittersweet experience on Eharmony. But am still optimistic and overall I am positive about it. It was for 3 months and I really thought he was the "ONE" He made me feel like that from the get go and was so attentive and affectionate and then out of the blue when the relationship was moving forward bailed out due to not being sure I was the "ONE" something was missing. I should have asked more questions, he was 41 never married or lived with someone, only 2 long term relationships in his life and they lived far away. He was in love with the fantasy of marriage but I doubt he could handle the reality.

I wish I knew this before I got involved unfortunately guys don't come with warning labels. So hopefully the next time Ill have better luck and ask more questions on the dates. Good luck to all, you have to have hope there is someone for everyone so don't give up

I have just spent the past year on Eharmony and think Eharmony is a total waste of money. One of the items they tout is the fact that they do a complete personality profile and match each individually. I have found that 73% of the profile I received were incomplete with more then 40% of the profile questions not answered. Of the profiles I received 94% did not have pictures available. There is also a personality profile that is an option to make available. I would think that this is an important part of the selection process and should be available for all to see. Less then 2% of the profiles I received made this profile available. The personality profile is a strong selling point of the system and it is an option to show…that is not right!!! We all know that physical appearance is a part of the selection process. On Eharmony of the profiles I received less then 1% were with photo’s. Eharmony says that physical attraction is not as important as personality matching. Lets face it they are equally important. I think that the process is at best a scam. I have had better luck for half the money on other services. I can only equate Dr. Neil Warren with one other person…L Ron Hubbard…They both have devised a way to screw you out of your money!!!!

I have been a member of eHarmony for over a month. I didn't expect to get married, but thought I might at least have a date. Apparently there are only 6 men in the entire Dallas area with whom I am compatible. Two of them are shorter than I am (hate to be picky but I do like to wear heels and I am pretty tall). Two of them have kids (I am 29. Maybe a family of my own would be nice someday). Two of them haven't responded to communication.

I am totally willing to admit there could be something wrong with me, but I tend to believe eHarmony just doesn't work. I feel scammed and cheated.