Reviews of eHarmony

I had been on Match for about 4 years [no, not a loser or serial dater, just a busy trial lawyer]. Last year I saw somewhere, news, newspaper, not sure where, mention about eHarmony. I thought it interesting that they had a detailed questionnaire, etc.

So I bit and took the free "exam." As I was doing it I grew weary of all their questions, but hung in there. The most comical thing happened at the end. eHarmony came back with ZERO matches.

Mind you I am normal and had normal desires. I guess it was that personality stuff they ask about. Also, as I recall, they had a lot of pics and I had to choose which women I found attractive. As I recall, I found about 3% attractive. Maybe that's why they nixed me.

I thought it was pretty damn hard to get an F or to where they would not want to attempt to get my money. Later, about 6 months later, they sent me an e-mail asking if I wanted to consider becoming a member, since they now had "the following matches" for me."

How many "matches" were in the e-mail to entice me back? ONE! :0

Pretty funny, I think. Don't know if eHarmony is good and honest, or if the service is chocked full of women in their 40's, overweight, and a house full of kids, so there was no one for me.

I like the site but in general it suffers from the same problem as other sites. Which is, its hard to find a "soulmate" in a meat market.

Ive gone through almost 1000 matches in the year I have been on the service. Got some sort of communication with about 400 of them, made it to open with about 200 of them. Ive gone out on maybe 50 first dates, had 3 relationships that ended up sexual.

In general the least attractive or most overweight ones are the most aggressive, initiating contact with me as soon as the match is made. I consider myself a good looking guy, and Im in great shape. So I would close matches who were so unattractive to me that I doubt I could achieve an erection if I was with them.

Seems like a lot of ladies there are using the site to find a guy who would not date them in the real world. Get real ladies. If you weigh 250lbs, well dont try and pick up guys who weigh 175. Go find yourself some 300lb hairy nerd who is so happy to get with you that he will worship you.

Also, the most attractive ones are the most likely to let the conversation end for no reason, even if it was them who initiated contact. Clearly they get a lot of attention and have a hard time deciding on who to date.

One thing guys - if you are decent looking and have a good job, you should score no problem. Some decent girls are very desperate when they join the site, will give it up very easily. Just be sure to let them know that being physical does not mean being in a relationship and being in love. I tell them that up front, and if they want to wait, fine - but they never want to wait so no worries.

I have grown to like eHarmony, especially when compared to the other sites-which are magnets for liars, idiots, maggots, sickos and--did I say--liars, and despite the negative reviews about the site. I have been on eHarmony for about a year and although the layout of the site has improved slightly, I'm not thrilled about navigating around it. I lucked out and got a GREAT deal on the price (obscure email special last year offered the service for $13/month auto-renewing on my CC), so cost makes it worth hanging around a little longer.

At first, I was upset that there wasn't more matches, but someone said that you must read what Dr. Warren has written and I did and it all made better sense. PLUS, you have to evaluate why you are looking for someone online. You have to be willing to be patient and willing to know EXACTLY who you are inside and where you are in your relationship-readiness. You also have to be prepared to be open-minded about who you may be matched with. I was a few months out of a divorce when I joined and I was not desperate for a man PLUS I was coming to terms with who I was and what I wanted in my next potential mate.

I got a little frustrated with the matches at first because I was used to dealing with guys who looked a certain way tall, cute, ripped, whatever. But because I realized the kind of long-term relationship bad luck I had in the past with allowing myself being with guys for each other's looks, then I humored being selected by other traits. I am a little embarrassed to admit that it's been tough meeting a guy shorter than me or totally not who I would have gravitated to unless they were a professor for one of my grad school classes.

But I've been meeting them, rejecting them, being rejected by them, finding out they have some lower-drama issues early on---- and it's been MUCH better than bar-club-gym hopping, which I HATE (leave me alone when I am on my stomach on the leg curl, would you??). Some of these eharmony guys have been REALLY nice, and I never would have given the time of day in my vain reality.

I tried other sites in the meantime, so- called "selective" sites like Perfectmatch and black tie singles, but there are SO MANY LIARS and GROSS men who MISREPRESENT THEMSELVES so badly (I am beginning to think that they honestly don't know they are misepresenting themselves). These overzealous doofuses don't know what FIT means (if you have a double chin, you are NOT FIT) and they don't express themselves clearly (you want a woman who is attractive and intelligent and is professional, but WHY, when YOU look like a SLOB and a TROLL, you are EGOISTE, drink and smoke way more than "rarely" and you are not "FIT" like you say you are and you are UNEMPLOYED--often marked "other" under profession? Please.

I believe the successes are more genuine on eHarmony, cuz you cut out a lot of the fake, freaky-deaky jerks out there. GUYS, if you want a really want a great babe you connect with, take the time to do the eharmony questionaire, even if it takes you a few days--I know I had to stop and take a few breaks. There are some of us who look like models on eHarmony, but I think even if you don't get a model, you can get a lady who can really dig an HONEST guy she can like you for who you are inside. Isn't that worth paying for, especially when you look back years from now??

Last words--if you are in the right mindset and are patient, eharmony is not that bad.

Despite the hype, I'd gone through over 200 "matches" at eHarmony before cancelling and swearing it off. Many of the women didn't so much as bother filling out the basic questions, many had no photos posted, and a few never even paid to join the site. Out of the 236 "matches" I only got through the email, phone, and date process with three: One put up photos that were easily 15 years and 100 lbs. older than she was; one was a psycho who went into my wallet on our ONE date to get my social security number and run a credit check on me; and the third turned out to be married and looking for a man to bring into her marital bed with her husband--in other words, the same lunatics that I could have found anywhere else for less money and investment of time.

Furthermore, they engaged in the fraudulent practice ot trying to lure me back months later with phony "let's give it another try" messages from women that I had closed out on up to a year earlier! No sane woman is going to send that type of note to a man she never even so much as talked to after THAT length of time. Shame on eHarmony and their line of bullshit!

Although they try to set themselves apart, eHarmony is just another dating site with a gimmick. Although I specified I only wanted someone in my country (Canada) I kept getting matches from the States. The process is cumbersome and frankly, quite silly. I have had very few matches but got suckered into taking another 3 month subscription. After 2 months they have only sent me 1 match. I am not terribly fussy so this is quite silly. Save your money and avoid this dating service.

I give eharmony a very big two thumbs up rating. the site introduced me to quite a few very intelligent and attractive women 28-35 in a very short time. I met about twelve on an intro date and dated about four of them before I met one in particular that I have been dating now for 8 months.

I found the personality matching to very helpful in screening out some of the women i would not have been interested in and in finding people that did have some genuine common ground.

if you are expecting any of these services to magicly produce a mate for you, then you are a kook. the service just expedites the introduciton process and put you in contact with a refined pool of people. Providing the indtroduction is the biggest benefit, you have to take it from there.

I like that eharmony slows things down and makes you get to know each other before you meet. with the first girl I met, we corresponded for several weeks and then talked on the phone three or four times before we met. I really liked that. we had a good start, before we ever met.

I can give you one strategy with eharmony that will save you some frustration. I found taht if a girl didnt want to reveal her photo or did not post her photo, that 9 times out of ten, I didnt want to meet her. she eitehr was not attractive to me, or she had a bagful of issues and attitude. I learned fast - no photo, you go on HOLD.

best of luck to you!

Number one, I want to begin with a bit of disclaimer because I took advantage of the try it for seven days free thing and canceled right at seven days. They were really nice about it. They offerd to give me two months free if I stayed and at first I accepted, then I changed my mind based on some questions I asked. My feeling is that the odds of meeting someone aren't that good. First I filled out the questionair, and I'm a not bad looking female who gets along pretty well with people, I put in the entire world as my search criteria and they came up with four matches. Of course, most of my matches were far far away, and I had no idea what they looked like, I was one of those upfront people who put my picture so people could see it. I got three matches from my city of San Francisco or not too far away - They say they have eight million members and four million of them are men, and there are only two or three people from the bay area with it's densly populated tech savy envronment that they could match with me? I find that a little bit odd. And what are my chances of finding someone if that's the case? I honestly think I would be better off going to a bar and just working on getting up the courage to talk to people. Of course if I did that I wouldent have Dr. What's his names levels of compatiblity now would I? If you ask them, you have less chance of a successfull relationship if you just go out and get comfortable with people in general.

I also do think that, like someone said in another review that is it is a christian website, and of course very conservative. And this could very well be true in this case as you all know ther is an exlusivity to heterosexuality. If their mission is to help people find there soulmate, my opinion is that that should include everybody, home hetro trans bi, whatever you happen to be. Personnally I have some issues with that.

Unlike some people out there, I didn't have a bad time with the costomer service people. They told me I should widen my search area, Wich was the only advice given to have more matches. Of course since at one point I had the whole world to choosen from that didn't really make a lot of sence.

If you sign up for the one month for sixy dollars and call them in seven days and say you are going to cancel they will offer you two free months. That way you can get three months for sixty dollars. That's just alittle advice for people who want to try it and not have to spend so much money. It is pretty dammn expensive.

I think that I was a bit of a challenge for eHarmony. I live out in the middle of nowhere. I don’t think there are 1000 people within 10 miles of me. The nearest significant town (population 1850) is 20 miles away, the nearest major city is 65 miles away (a 90 minute drive). Still, I found a wonderful woman that loves me for who I am. What more can a guy ask for?

I know when I first started my eHarmony experience, I wish I had some the benefit of some thoughtful advice. Since then, I have spent a lot of time considering my eHarmony experience, what I did right and what I could have done better. The result is an eBook , A Nice Guy’s Guide To eHarmony. If you are curious, you can see it at: http://www.Romantic-Advice.Net/tm003.html

I think the bottom line question is: Do I recommend eHarmony to others? Yes, I do. I have a friend that is a really nice guy, but has had the absolute worst luck with women. I have literally begged him to join eHarmony. I have even offered to pay for the first month, but for his own reasons, he isn’t quite ready yet.

eHarmony certainly isn’t for everyone. If you are serious about finding someone to share your life with and you are willing to invest the time, I think eHarmony is a good option to consider.

I think that I was a bit of a challenge for eHarmony. I live out in the middle of nowhere. I don’t think there are 1000 people within 10 miles of me. The nearest significant town (population 1850) is 20 miles away, the nearest major city is 65 miles away (a 90 minute drive). Still, I found a wonderful woman that loves me for who I am. What more can a guy ask for?

I know when I first started my eHarmony experience, I wish I had some the benefit of some thoughtful advice. Since then, I have spent a lot of time considering my eHarmony experience, what I did right and what I could have done better. The result is an eBook , A Nice Guy’s Guide To eHarmony. If you are curious, you can see it at: http://www.Romantic.Advice.Net/tm003.html

I think the bottom line question is: Do I recommend eHarmony to others? Yes, I do. I have a friend that is a really nice guy, but has had the absolute worst luck with women. I have literally begged him to join eHarmony. I have even offered to pay for the first month, but for his own reasons, he isn’t quite ready yet.

eHarmony certainly isn’t for everyone. If you are serious about finding someone to share your life with and you are willing to invest the time, I think eHarmony is a good option to consider.

I joined in the hopes of finding a true life partner and what I started to realize is that eharmony is just a scam.they dont link you up with any "scientifically matched..." they do though take your money easily! Also when I did have an argument with aservice rep. within that day I was cancelled from the site and was told that I would get an answer as to why if I contacted their help line,well what do you know I was e-mailed that they dont have to tell me why I was cancelled.Is there any way that this can be an invasion of privacy? To top that off my "matches" were e-mailed and told that if they kept communication with me outside of eh that eh wouldnt be responsible.......(for what?!) its nearly libelous.My matches were afraid of the mesg. here and I havent done a thing!Is there any one who has had a similar situation and to put it another way,DO NOT JOIN ESCAMHARMONY !!! THEY TAKE CREDIT CARDS AND DO NOT HAVE TO ANSWER QUESTIONS.THE RATING IS NEGATIVE STAR