Reviews of eHarmony

I was on Eharmany for 12 months. I found the men that I was matched with were so very different from each other. How could I be matched with so many different types of men but yet still be matched by 29 demensions of compatibility. Also I found that most men my age (40 something) aren't interested in women their own age.

eHarmony is kind of a fun site but the matching system it uses is strange.

The personality test and matching will leave a severe lack of matches, this is why they try matching people who live 2500 miles from each other. Dr.Clark may cite other reasons for long distance matching but we all know the obvious reason for the long distance matching, it's just a matter of common sense.

This site stews with complaints of the site being a ripoff and a scam b/c eHarmony matches people who don't share hobbies or interest. The thing of it is hobbies and beliefs aren't the same a personality, and eHarmony matches on a personality basis.

If I could run a dating site, I would use the personality test, and make it a requirement for people who wat to put a profile on the site, but I would have it set up as a meat market personals like match.com. The thing is I'd use the personality matching scores and members could see how they'd fit with other users on a precentage basis. This would give users more freedom of choice. Also, personality tests can't measure a person's WILL power, and Will power is more of a personal attribute that's subject to change. In the end, a person is better off with a match that scores 85% in comparison with them and the match has a stronger desire to put work into the relationship, than a match that scores 98% with them but the match has little desire to put any effort into the relationship.

Prehaps, Dr.Clark should create a part of the test to see how much effort people are willing to put forth in a relationship.

EHarmony is a joke and the joke's on us because they have only 7 or 8 men and women signed up and paid in your area, no matter where you live. Yes, I'm exaggerating, but whenever I'm matched, which isn't often, I get matched with a non-member. With very little in common, (or already IN a relationship) in spite of their much touted 4,006 points of light or spindles of joy, or whatever they are. Ugh. I asked for my money back and they offered me 2 months more. If I think they're useless, what will 2 more months of poor-nothing-in-common-but-the-movies-and-chocolate do for me down the line? A waste of space but their rhetoric seems to work. sg

I was on eharmony for 3 months and let me tell you if you are condsidering it please DO NOT WASTE YOUR MONEY!! They are terrible the women take forever to respond, they don't match you with people that you want to meet and most women will not respond for your match to communicate, futhermore I'm an attractive guy with a great education and very successful and still they fail to deliver.

I am confused on how Eharmony actually works. I was very disappointed with the site and the matches. For the most part each time I got a match it was closed before I even opened the email. I got to the third round with one match and needed to close as his "hates" pretty much matched me. I hardly got any matches and cancelled my membership as soon as I could. I never understood the matching system. You would think these matches would give you an opportunity since according to Eharmony you have at least something in common but no- they were closed before the introductory stage. I would get matched with people in other states- which was fine with me but not with match once again it was closed quicker than I could open the email to say I had the match.

I have never actually met anyone off eharmony yet, though I have talked to some interesting ladies. I have been a member since July, and I am thinking about canceling my membership at the end of this month, which is when it expires again.

I will say, though, that I have only communicated with very few of the matches I have been matched with. Most never respond, others close me out after one or two communications, and some put me on hold (giving as their reason: "I am taking a break from my search for a while, but may be interested in communicating in the future." Okay, yeah, you take that break, and I'll be waiting around, paying membership fees until you get back.).

I am currently emailing back and forth with a girl I was matched up with. She seems really great, but she is several states away from me (figures, huh?). Oh well, I'm going to keep at it, and maybe something will come from it. Hey, it wouldn't be the first time the net matched up a great couple, taking the man from one state and the woman from another state over a hundred miles away. This woman seems really interested in me, too, and really seems like a good match for me. I only wish that she could have been here in Ohio, like so many other women that closed me out or ignored me *grumbles*. Oh well.

All together, I like the way eharmony is set up. I like it that people can't see your profile unless the site matches you up. A lot of people have a lot of bad things to say about eharmony, and I think they need to remember that the site is only as good as its members. They seem to have an intricate system they use to match people, but that system relies on people being honest about themselves. Also, it isn't eharmony's fault if numerous matches close you out, put you on hold, or ignore you. They can't be held responsible for the actions of their members.

One thing that I don't care for on eharmony, however, is the fact that you cannot give a height range for your matches (i.e. you can't say "I only want to be matched with people who are between 5'0" and 6'0," or something like that). I am a short guy (5'7"), and I seem to get a good number of matches who are 5'10," 5'11," 6'0," and so on. Now, if those tall women are willing to give it a shot, then I am too, but I can't say that I feel too romantic about having to stand on my tiptoes to kiss my girlfriend. But once again, if they're willing to try to look beyond the height thing, then I will try as well.

Another thing I don't really like is the fact that I am getting matched up with women who want to have kids. See, after much thought and consideration, I have decided that I probably don't want to have my own kids. I'm all about being an uncle, but I don't really want a family of my own. Some people might look down on me for that, but that is another debate for another time.

Now, this partially goes back to the fact that you cannot blame eharmony for the actions of its members, because in their "About Me" section, under "Want Kids?" these women answered "no." But, when sending those muliple choice questions, I usually choose to send the one that says, "If you were to marry, how many children would be ideal?" Several of them answered "About 2," "Three or more," or "Three or four." Now, I don't know if they put "no" as an answer to the "Want Kids" question because they want to have kids someday, but not anytime soon; or if they didn't answer that part of their profile at all, and the system automatically put no as an answer, or what, but I got matched with them. I am sure they are great women, but any woman that wants to have several kids is obviously not compatible with me. Though, just the other day, I got matched with a woman who answered the "Want Kids" question with "Yes."

In all, if you're going to use eharmony, I think you need to keep an open mind. We all have our idea of what our "type" is; I am no exception. But, try to think outside that type a little. I think that if you are going to be successful with the site, you have to open your mind up and not close people out just because they don't have right hair color, the right job, the right hobbies, etc.

I read with interest the previous postings. I also believe that eharmony matching is somewhat flawed. Many of the matches that were sent to me were so off the mark. For instance, I am a tall woman. Nearly 6 feet tall and stated in my profile that height was a major consideration. An what do I get? Matches from 5'6" to 5'10". There were a sprinkling on men over 6 foot but not many and most of those guys were looking for someone younger. I too listed my profile as someone with average looks. I am not looking to advertise my wares so to speak so I saw no need to send full body pictures in various arrays of poses. I also recently found out that they keep profiles from people who have cancelled their service. Why would you keep profiles from people who are no longer interested in being matched by eharmony? One gentleman was kind enough to tell me he had cancelled his account 6 months ago and was surprised when he received my match. He closed the match immediately and told me that if I wanted to respond I could do so to his personal email account. I did communicate with him several times and he also told me about the nightmare matches. I am locked in for 6 months then I am finished with this internet dating. This girl is going to get out and mingle more. Good luck to the rest of you.

I think that I was a bit of a challenge for eHarmony. I live out in the middle of nowhere. I don’t think there are 1000 people within 10 miles of me. The nearest significant town (population 1850) is 20 miles away, the nearest major city is 65 miles away (a 90 minute drive). Still, I found a wonderful woman that loves me for who I am. What more can a guy ask for?

I know when I first started my eHarmony experience, I wish I had the benefit of some thoughtful advice. I have spent a lot of time considering our eHarmony experiences and I came up with a number of eHarmony tips and suggestions. If you are curious, they are posted at: www.RomanceForEveryone.com

I think the bottom line question is: Do I recommend eHarmony to others? Yes, I do. I have a friend that is a really nice guy, but has had the absolute worst luck with women. I have literally begged him to join eHarmony. I have even offered to pay for the first month, but for his own reasons, he isn’t quite ready yet.

eHarmony certainly isn’t for everyone. If you are serious about finding someone to share your life with and you are willing to invest the time, I think eHarmony is a good option to consider.

I'll start out by saying e-harmony is not all good. My biggest complaint is that is takes a long time to receive any return in communication from your matches. But overall, it's not that bad. It's no better and no worse than any other dating site out there. I don't really know what a lot of you people on here writing your bitter diatribes were expecting from this. It's internet dating! It's a gamble, and you can't hold the site totally accountable for all the flaky people who join and screw you over on it. You have to go into this with realistic expectations. Good god, there sure are a lot of you with piss poor attitudes, no wonder your experience sucked.

I'm a proponent of eharmony. But, I am feeling the need to vent some frustrations, and I think these are more general than a fault of eharmony. I think eharmony is the best dating site out there....I am scared that I have read atleast 2 or 3 posts supporting mail order brides...wow.

Anyway, this one is for my ladies, no mail order bride supporting here. How dare you refer to women as "model quality" like you go the grocery store looking for one of a certain quality. Gross, puke.

Anyway, I am an attractive woman, not even 30 yet. I'm never married, never had any kids, a couple of degrees. But I'm really quite modest I swear. My pictures are good but I also did not post my best pictures...as I am not really trying to sell myself on my appearance..we get enough of that in real life.

So. I am tired of older, fatter, men thinking that I would really want to go out with them just because they have a career (and in some cases, not even close). If a guy has a great personality and other qualities - fine. But if he has been not taking care of himself for years, having money means nothing to me. It really doesn't mean much to me anyway.

On the flipside...I am meeting a lot of divorced men with kids. I have tried to keep an open mind. But I have not worked my butt off to get matched with someone who is looking to me for financial support because he made mistakes and has to start over now. I have sympathy,but I am looking for a man, a solid man with his life together. At least...enough to buy me dinner on the first date.

someone who has their life similiarly together as myself...and at least within 5 years of my age. Divorce...not a big deal if its well enough in the past, even kids...if they are cute :)....even older, if they take care of themself.

But please, guys, dont expect to walk off with me if you just dont have that much to offer. its not fair. I dont have unrealistic expectations and either should you. I have worked to hard for this!

PS Stop lying and hiding things you dont like about yourself! Post your picture...and dont try to hide bad teeth, baldness, etc. Do you not think this all comes out in the first meeting!? I really hate this type of behavior ESPECIALLY when you have said you picked me cause I was attractive....what gives!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!!? Just be yourself from the start PLEASE. I would be a lot more accepting that way.