Reviews of eHarmony

eHarmony sucks!!!!!!!!!!! I have been on this site for four months and have been matched with about 30 women. The problem is that only about five of them posted photos. Two of them I had to get to the "Open Communication" stage before they would share theirs. After all the time getting to that point you see their pic and you realize that you could never be with someone like that. I felt bad because you get to that point and as soon as you see their pic you stop talking to them. Like they don't know its because of there pic. It makes you look like an asshole. I finally did meet one woman and lets just say she didn't look like her photo. I spent about a month talking to her via email and phone. She was very nice. I am very phyically fit and I keep telling her that. I even put in my profile that I didn't want anyone thats overweight. I spent all that time getting to know her only to find out that when I met her she was very overweight. I am not happy at all with eHarmony. Waste of money!!!!!!!

None of us can buy a mate, so I'm not sure I get the angry responses unless your expectations were unrealistic. Any experience can be a positive one. Thinking outside the box here, let me propose another idea altogether. If you participate in eH and are open to growing - why not focus on YOU instead of your matches? In taking an introspective approach myself, I have learned to define what I do and do not want in a future mate, I have clearly identified my relationship "blind spots" and I have been able to overcome reasons I chose poorly in the past. I also discovered that it's more conducive (for me)to allow love to grow naturally than for a match to go zooming toward marital bliss. My advice - eH or no eH - focus on who you are and on improving YOU. That alone makes every penny well spent. Peace.

As bad as e-Mo'money is (and it is a complete BS scheme), the sites that belong to the Tango Wire chain are especially repugnant in terms of customer respect. To the webmaster of eDateReview, please include the Tango Wire sites especially biggerbeauties.com. Biggerbeauties' Gestapo tactics makes Match, eHarmony and Yahoo look almost legitimate.

I started an escamony account about 4 months ago now; went in optimistic, came out empty handed. Everyone says that they were matched up with 100 or 200 matches in a few months time, they must've had their preferences set to regional or anywhere in the world, because when I set it to my state only, I've gotten 43 matches total. Heres the different cross-sections of ladies they matched me with.

39 out of 43/No pictures

28 out of 43/Incomplete profile (Thought this one was important?! They want us to fill out ours!)

41 out of 43/I attempted communication with

5 out of 43/Communicated back and went through the introductory process

2 out of 43/Actually met, went on dates; clingy, massively overweight train wrecks

I know I sound like a superficial, shallow bastard for saying that, and I'm sure the two women I met are wonderful mothers and I'm sure they have the best of intentions for any man they meet, but I don't think I should have to settle for that, and no one can help who they're attracted to! And as for the women that are fat and proud of it, find someone who is also fat and proud of it! I'm 23, single, 6'4, 203 lbs and I work out every day to feel as good on the outside as I do on the inside. I used to be fat and feel sorry for myself too, so I got up one day and it took me 4 months, but I dumped off 60 lbs. ITS NOT HARD TO DO AND ITS NOT ASKING A LOT! YOU THERE! FOR CHRIST'S SAKE PUT DOWN THE CRISCO SANDWICH AND BUCKET OF FRIED CHICKEN! QUIT TAKING YOUR ANGER AT THE WORLD OUT ON YR OWN BODY! NO ONE WILL SUFFER BUT YOU!

Internet dating is a complete wasteland, Its like digging in a dumpster for something to eat. Can't wait for Escamony to go belly up, BEWARE! I threw $200.00 down the toilet.

WOMEN BEWARE....eHarmony is for men only. My last match, an 8 month liear, stayed on eHarmony for 6 months and received close to 800 matches to my 74 over the same period of time. Don't be fooled by the look of "the nerdie nice guy" marketing his product to the desperate women of the world. I have experimented with different stage names and zip codes and talked to men on the same website and the results are the same. It's a shopping spree for men and a dead end for women who are exposing their most intimate thoughts and photos to a bunch of liars. Most of them will tell you anything you want to hear. Be careful.

For each gender there is a equivalent in an area. Think about it!!!

There are Female Gold Diggers that equal to Men who are looking for Barbie Dolls.

Men who use Women for just Sex equal to Women who prey on a Man's emotions or desire for sex to get Material possessions.

Married Women who sleep with the Cabana Boy equal to Married Men who sleep with his 20yo intern.

Men who are rejected on Match.com are equal to Women who are rejected on eHarmony.com.

I could go on and on for hours about the similarities between men and women but I think you get my point. I've been studying on line dating for 3 years and the only thing worth researching is its members. The fact is when someone knows they're in demand they become very selfish. This person will throw out matches they would normally consider dating. Sometimes this person will loose touch with reality and only seek out someone who's too prefect in their eyes. Finally, this person becomes a Perpetual Internet Dater, P.I.D. for short.

Over the last 3 months, I have been contacting as many of these P.I.D.s as I possibly can contact. When I contacted them I started out with a normal email to get their attention. In the second email I sent to them, I would point out that they have been using Internet dating for a long time. In most of the replies I received from these P.I.D.s, they saw no problems with their overuse of Internet dating. In fact, quite a few of them worded their reply in a hostile manner. Other times, they would blame the other gender and say there are too many inadequate members.

From what I can see about the P.I.D. subject, I think these people are addicted to Internet dating. Is it really healthy for someone to ward off a committed relationship or steady dating for 3, 4, 5, or even 6 years, while they're a member on a Internet dating site? I would say "NO" to this question.

From my observations, I think an Internet dating addiction is similar and just as powerful as a gambling addiction. As some posters have said, these P.I.D.s are waiting for that big payout, in terms of finding that prefect person. I agree with the posters who have said this. The reason I agree is these people are doing damage to themselves in order to collect on something at such high odds.

The sad fact is since P.I.D. is such a new disease it is misunderstood. Since there is not much understanding about P.I.D., there isn't any real way for these people to get the help they need to kick the disease.

eHarmony must face what it is ...a scam. Please email me at insprire@yahoo.com with your name, contact info and story to be part of a class action lawsuit that I am initiating against them for fraud and deceptive trade practices. Believe me...you are not the only one and you deserve to have your wrong righted....Dr. Schmoozy Pants will pay you once for each of his lame 26 factors of relationship strength. There is power in numbers, so we have to unite. THIS IS FOR REAL!!

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eHarmony is a complete ripoff.

Dozens of supposed matches are just people that were just THINKING OF JOINING! You have absolutely NO WAY OF TALKING TO THEM!

Of 40 matches only 5 had pictures -- WTF? This is a premium service???

They want you to actually REJECT people -- even say you reject them. Worse they all have to say why they rejected you.

Way too much reading. The little click me questions are worthless -- eHarmony calls that "communicating" I call it a waste of clicking time.

NO FAT CHICKS! how's that for one of the 29 dimensions of making a match?

I had used other online dating services, and met some men who were not who they said they were and some nice guys that I just didn't have enough in common with. I tried eharmony as my last shot at online dating. I was sent several matches and went through various steps of the communication processes. They sent me several matches right away. One of the first matches they sent me, whose sense of humor in his profile attracted me, turned out to be a wonderful man! We have a lot in common; interests, hobbies, life style, backgrounds, etc., and he lives just 35 minutes away! If it wouldn't have been for eharmony, we wouldn't have met, and the way things are going, I think our match will last a long time! I don't know if we just got lucky, or were in the right place at the right time - on eharmony. I managed to meet him during my 7 day free trial period and still had no problem with my refund! My personal experience with eharmony has been very, very good. Normally I'm not so lucky, if I were, I wouldn't have needed eharmony!

I signed up for Match, Yahoo and Eharmony simultaneously. I have sent messages to women on both Math and Yahoo and got no replies even when we had similar interests and goals in common and lived one town apart. I could tell they looked at my profile but never even gave me a "no thanks".

I was going to cancel Eharmony after seeing how tedious the process was and how stupid the questions were that got traded back and forth. Plus reading sites like this after the fact didn't help.

BUT..I've been on it two weeks and met one woman last night and talked to another woman on the telephone when I returned home from that date. I might see her this weekend for a drink.

For me, talking to two women in two weeks seems like a pretty good success rate compared to 0 out of 20 on Yahoo and Match in the same time period.

A big complaint is you can't narrow down your geography. You have to chose a miniumum of 30 miles away. Most of my matches are showing up more than 40 miles away and yet there are a few the next town over but you can't pick within 10 miles of me.

Complaints people have here about getting closed out of the service too soon and not knowing if all matches are paid is a real problem. Plus, most people do not post their photo.

Why not post your photo? Just about everyone on Yahoo and Match has one yet a site supposedly committed to creating lasting relationships that you pay more for and you don't post a photo?

I actually talked to an Eharmony rep on the telephone..it was quicker and easier to talk to him than trying to get a hold of anyone at Verizon. He said that only people who have paid can actually read your email to them so if your matches say "answering your questions" then they are paid members.

I kind of still doubt that but we'll see. That's my review for now and we'll see how it goes. I paid $99 for 6 months.