Reviews of eHarmony

So I did the test again making up a brand new profile and adjusting my answers making sure to match her in all the key areas including location, religion and child preferences. I figured I had to see her profile in my Match list. Not at all. I did however receive one of the same matches as in my previous profile. This e-Harmony is a complete crock o' sh't.

My girlfriend and I did a little experiment to prove this 29 dimension thing is all hooey. First, I had her go through the questionnaire process. I only looked at three of her answers. Then I filled out the questionnaire knowing full well what she wanted in a partner. I made sure religion, age, smoking and drinking preferences were a match as well as children under 18 years of age. I entered the same zip code location as well. So far, neither of us has been given the other as a candidate we match with. Each of us has had 5 matches sent to us. Giving e-Harmony the benefit of the doubt, I toyed around with my profile to attempt to be a shoe-in for her. Still no luck getting her as one of my potential choices. I realize our little test was not scientific but neither, I'm afraid is e-Harmony. Anyone else try anything like this to test the method e-Harmony employs? I'd like to know your results. Would you buy a used car from these folks?

I just joined eHarmony a few weeks ago and have found it to be a good service. I like the fact that I can say "up front" who I am and what I "must have" and "can't stand". The process has weeded out men who would never be a good match for me - without me having to by the trial-and-error process. Also, I have found that I am now much more willing to say up front what I want - and stick to it. At first I was somewhat hurt that someone would close my profile because I have no photo posted (have not had time to post one yet) - but then I realized that I would prefer to find a man that falls in love me, not what I look like. Also, I know that if I am willing to WAIT for God's best for me - He will bring him into my life.

Just saw this parody of eHarmony: "eHar-money" at:

www.daveloveselizabeth.com.

The website is hilarious.

It starts with Neil Clark Warren explaining how he wishes he had met Elizabeth before he got married. And it ends with a marriage proposal.

You pay more for their "29 dimensions of compatibility" and it does not get you any where. When you get matched chances are that the other person has not subscribed and you are not able to see what happens. If eHarmony matches two people why can't the one who paid for the match be allowed to communicate with the other??? The match should not be made if the system will not allow them to communicate. When I bring up these problems with eHarmony their response is a canned answer talking about wanting only serious people to meet; they don't care. Why would someone go through 300 questions and not be serious about wanting to find a mate? To me the answer is all about the money...they just want the money from both people. They are already the most expensive match making site, give the paying members a break and open the possibilities. Yahoo Personals allows the person who pays to communicate with any listed person and they have a personality profile too. If you are choosing please don’t choose eHarmony, try yahoo or another site first.

Actually it is ZERO stars...eHarmony is the Worst...in fact after doing the lovely 40 question thing..or whatever...they actually told me...sorry, we cant help you...and the ONLY thing I can figure out why that would happen would be I answered all the RELIGIOUS questions wrong...bascially I dont go to church and didnt get baptized (not that I had a choice on the latter)...hmmmmm.....interesting???...I actually wrote them an e-mail on it and hmmm...what a surprise ! NO REPLY... what a crock

Giving one star to EHarmony seems criminal. I've gone through two three month sign up periods with them. Most of the men 'sent' to me had taken the 'test' but never paid for the service and never responded. Very few were located in my area. I am middle aged but very good looking (cough cough) which is about the only reason I think I recieved some responses, but, as another poster mentioned, the guys who responded were often weird, looking for paradise, and appeared to be very uncompatible with me. (There seemed to be an abundance of prison guards, for instance). Also, again mentioned by someone else, most guys I could find on Match.Com as well, and Match.Com makes it easier to communicate (or not, as may be the circumstance). The forced question and answer templates are moronic and slow. A complete waste of time and money and complete misrepresentation. Most of us should get refunds.

I love it! I'm not the only who thinks that Eharmony SUCKS!!! In fact how pathetic that in my rage over my Eharmony dissapointment, I actually typed "Eharmony sucks" in the search engine and found this site (plus many others.) So yeah, Eharmony sucks, or is criminally deficient, anyway. Every week I get a boatloat of certifiable losers in my "match box," who have NOTHING in common with me. I'm wondering why in the world Christian radio stations keep lauding Neil Clark Warren as some sort of Christian demigod when he's really just a savvy marketer taking advantage of a generation of singles? Ugh. Blasphemy. Fraud. Capitalism. Grrrrrrrr...

Eharmony is junk. It is nothing but a scam. I have received over 112 "matches". I am 140lbs. what am I going to do with women over 300 lbs?????. I think they used my profile to dump a lot on me. I'm very open minded but the bulk of the profiles given to me were ridculious. If you read the fine print they do use a picture to make matches on the crap about 29 steps.

First, if you're considering eHarmony, do a Google search for "eharmony coupons" before you sign up; you may save some money. I got six months for $100.

It sounds like many users had very few matches, and if that had happened to me I'd be dissatisfied too. I suggest you do the personality profile and have eHarmony send you matches without signing up. That might give you some idea of what volume of matches you’ll be in for. I got four matches the day before I signed up, and continued to get 4 or 5 a day for months after joining. Even assuming your match volume drops once they’ve got your money, it’s probably still informative to see how fast they send matches before you pay.

Reviewing only my own experience, I give eHarmony the highest rating possible. I'm a woman in my late twenties of average looks who hopes to marry and have children, and I wanted very much to meet a man who shared my outlook on life-- politics, religion, goals for the future, education, values, family, all that good stuff. I have high standards for men and I don't make friends easily, so I had little prospect of meeting someone compatible. I tried eHarmony because it seemed to be focused on all the attributes that were important to me, and because I personally know two women who met their husbands on eHarmony. My personality proflie didn’t really grab me at first-- it described me in terms of how I relate to other people, and that wasn't how I was used to thinking of myself. After dating for a while, I now think it was pretty accurate.

Most of my matches looked incompatible and I closed them right away; the rest I left open and just responded to the few who chose to contact me. I asked nosy questions in the first round of communication, like "How many children would be ideal?" and "What is your opinion of premarital sex?" That weeded a lot of people out-- often they weeded *me* out. I love that the eHarmony system helped me find out what I really wanted to know, right away. These things are so important to me but so hard to ask in person. I tried hard to be very honest and upfront about what I was looking for, even though my impulse was to try to be pleasing to everybody.

A small but significant percentage of my matches really seemed compatible with me, and that's why I'm so happy with eHarmony. I went from knowing nobody I'd want to date, to meeting about ten strong possibilities and many more weaker possibilities in just a few months. Best $100 I ever spent!

Apparently once one person starts communication, the other person has to initiate the second round. I didn’t realize that in the beginning, so for those of you who complain that matches didn't continue communication, perhaps some of them were just clueless like me-- I was unaware that I had to start the next round myself. eHarmony doesn’t make that clear at all, but I think it’s true because none of my matches ever initiated two rounds in a row (of course, they might just not have been that interested).

After four months I got a match that stood out from the others because he was unafraid to put lots of detail in his profile and be very particular about what he wanted (in other words-- like me!) We seemed to be looking for the same things, so we went through all the communication stages, which gave me a very good idea of what kind of person he was. I won’t say he felt like my best friend on the first date, but I was able to predict how he felt about most things and how he’d behave, and I felt comfortable much faster than a shy person like me would expect when meeting someone new. We’ve now been on lots of dates and I couldn’t be happier. I hope this new relationship will last, but if it doesn’t pan out I’ll just re-up my eHarmony membership and come crawling back to all the matches I have on hold! All a matching service can do is make the introduction, and eHarmony did that. I definitely got my money's worth.