Reviews of eHarmony

Patience... I don't expect to find the "1" in two days. That being said, so far I have had about 40 matches [member 3 days] 4 of which I am interested in and 1 who matches my profile almost to the T. I have made the e-harmony requested steps and set the communication wheels in motion. I was matched to her today [02/17/09] so like fishing i'll give it time. To give up after two days may be a little impatient or shallow.

IT sucks !!!! The men are much better looking on match. You fill out this ungodly long profile of yourself and yet not one time did they send a decent match that matched my requested criteria. I canceled after 2 weeks b/c I got so disgusted with what they were sending me. A waste of 60 bucks. For the price match is the better way to go.

I was about to subscribe to E harmony but thought it wouldn't hurt to check out the reviews. Thank goodness I did. I had tried to join a year ago but was declined because I was not yet legally divorced....mmm ok....well that seemed a little strange but left it alone....I got my divorce papers last week so here I was ready to go at it. In reading a few reviews I was compelled to write mine. Perhaps a more general review of dating sites as I have tried a few. As a professional male in my late forties, here is what I have discovered.
Most of the reviews I read were from women and I want you fine women to know that at least I, have had very similiar experiences with dating sites. Such as poor matches or matches that I would consider riiculous.....so I am fit and look a little younger than my age and cant stand organized religion myself and yet I am matched with over weight women that appear not to give a rats ass about their appearance.. but require someone that loves " god " .... please...and then I am shallow because I want someone that does care?...give me a break....that is if I get a picture. I no longer respond ( at all ) to profiles without pics. I figure if you are hiding something at the start you will be doing that 'till the end. I also have found that many women have no intention of meeting anyone because the sites are merely entertainment for them.
It seems so unfortunate that this method doesn't seem to be very effective...on the surface it seemed smart to me, you cut through the bull real quick and see...now I have resorted to the old fashioned way. I am in a small centre so my chances of meeting an open minded gal that doesn't want to get married next week seems unlikely.
Anyway, good luck to us all...we seem to need it.

I was considering joining eHarmony because I felt encouraged by the many "matches" that I received. I however was very disappointed when over half of the men they sent me were 5'8" and 5'9". I'm 5'10" and honestly would like someone taller than me - so shoot me! In any case, that is a part of my profile and they continue to send "matches" to me that do not fit what I am looking for.

For all of you who have taken the time to write a review about your honest feelings about eHarmony - I am truly grateful. I appreciate your candor and am pleased to say that I will not be investing my money in this site as it sounds from much of your experience that it is too good to be true.

THANK YOU for your warnings - they saved me!

I called eHarmony and complained that they have false advertising because everyone on their commercials and photos on the site are good looking. I signed up last year and cancelled because while I am a very attractive woman all they sent me were fat ugly hillbilly guys for 6 months. I made the Customer Service guy of eHarmony enter my account and take a look at the guys they sent me and compare it to my photo. He apologized and gave me 6 months more for free...which proved nothing. Now this weekend I heard they had "free" communication. What a scam! You cannot see their photo and you cannot communicate with them unless you subscribe and pay for they scam service. The only thing you can do is answer the multi-choice 5 questions and send the same back. They do not enable you to communicate beyond the 5 multi-choice questions. Plus, I had requested the age range to be 47-53 and they only sent me 55-63 year old men that were all 5'9 or 5'10 while I requested 6 feet. They never sent one guy in his late 40's. And they want me to subscribe!!! Get serious..They should be reported to the Better Business Bureau.

I belonged to eHarmony for a year. I'm not sure how the compatibility matches worked because the men I met had nothing in common with me. I sent a request for eHarmony to add to their photo regulations the requirement that the photo be at least 6 months or newer. Several of the men I met were at least a few years older than what they looked like in their photo or had gained several pounds. Eharmony responded that they'll send my request to the suggestion department; but as of today, nothing has prevail. The men were also not fun, set in their ways, and misrepresented themselves in their profiles. I don't believe that's eHarmony's fault but men please do not write down things that are not "you". You just look like a bigger loser when attractive women meet you. My matches were with men that I normally would have never dated if I met under different circumstances. I do believe it does work for others but a certain stereotype, those who are extremely religious and a little socially challenged. Women, please also be aware of men who belong to several dating sites. I actually saw someone else on my friend's dating site and what he wrote was quite different than his eHarmony profile.

I was curious whom eHarmony might match me up. I signed up for their one year membership and I was quite disappointed. Not a single one of the prospects contacted me when I requested email chats to begin the next step in building a relationship. Why must I be the first one to risk contact with a match? When the membership expired I was relieved I didn't have to renew. I don't think eHarmony know me as well as they claimed nor my potential soul mate ought to be. Right now I am still searching for that special person to share the rest of my life with but I am a Catholic. I am willing to wait and see who God have in mind for me.

I should've known better when I saw the beautiful people on the eHarmony TV ads (why they needed help finding a partner, I'll never know). When you search for new matches, eHarmony emphasizes not making a snap judgment based on the person's looks, but like any other dating venue, if you are just an average person, particularly an average woman, you don't stand a chance. Every time I started communicating with someone who initiated contact & seemed nice, he would ask to see my photo, and then I'd never hear from him again or I'd get the inevitable "closed" message, usually the generic "I want to pursue other matches" or "I think the physical distance between us is too great". Gee, I wasn't too far away when they enthusiastically requested to see my photo, and at that point they could already see where I live. My photo was nice, I'm a normal, cute person, but my self-esteem has taken a nosedive after at least 10 people immediately stopped writing after seeing my photo. The other thing is, everyone knows that intimacy is the icing on the cake, but some of the "must-haves" choices are inappropriate: I don't want to answer questions about whether I discuss "my innermost desires and needs" with my partner -- way too personal when you're just starting to share info. I've now given up on dating & resigned myself to being alone. I feel horrible about myself. Thanks, eHarmony! :p

Yea, eharmony's pretty lame. I saw all these commercials for the free communication weekend for valentines day, and was like, couldn't hurt. I've already learned that you never pay for these crap sites (pof is a great free one), but free communication for 3 days couldn't hurt. So I sign up, do their stupid multiple choice bs for 15 minutes, then begin getting several decent matches (apparently pretty rare based on reviews). First problem...no pictures! Huh? That's a new one; I've never seen a dating site that doesn't post pictures up front. I guess the gist is 'you shouldn't care', but who's just blindly meeting people you've never even seen before? Yea, that seems smart. I wonder if the idiots that built this site meet people that way (doubtful). Anyway, I did overlook that aspect because of a couple of great looking profiles. So I go to communicate and then...it says ONLY SUBSCRIBERS CAN COMMUNICATE. Subscribers meaning, idiots that pay them money. Um, nope. And nowhere was that in the ad. I mean, "FREE" communication sounds like you know...free to communicate lol. So I wait for someone to communicate with me first. Some sites make it possible to reply if paying people message you first. So the next day, a guy messages me, and I try to respond, and...nope, paying people only. So, basically their free communication weekend is a total scam. Because you have to be a paying subscriber in order to message freely. Huh? Anyway, don't bother with eharmful. There's plenty of free sites out there that aren't looking to rip off people.

*Oh to the people that think matches are ignoring them: those people probably can't respond if they want to. I'm sure that guy that messaged me just thinks some stuck up b#&^% lol.

I just rejoined eHarmony (although I should have known better) after a couple year hiatus. I remember now why I thought it was a useless site for women like me. (And wish I'd found this site earlier.) There's no way to filter out men who simply are not compatible, educationally or on other basic levels. I'm a politically moderate, non-practicing attorney and private investor who divides my time between the States and Europe. In what world am I going to be a match for a very conservative policeman whose dream is to retire to a Texas ranch? I'm not into organized religion; Jesus and church activities top his lists. He's certainly entitled to his life choices, but how are we possibly "compatible on 29 dimensions" or whatever the spiel is? It's a race to see which one of us closes the match first. I'm pretty much resigned to wading through and closing a slew of not-even-close matches over the next 3 months. No fun. Thank goodness I didn't sign up for a longer stint. If someone knows of a good sight for a more professional group of (non-Ivy League) people, I'd love to hear about it.