Reviews of eHarmony

No review, just thanks to all who have reviewed. I almost joined, but visited this site first. After reading some 50 reviews, almost all of which were very negative, I decided to pass. Thanks for sharing, and good luck in other places

I spent the huge amount of time answering the sometimes ridiculous questions on their questionnaire, sometimes thinking I either didn't want any of the answers or could have picked several, not one, but didn't have any other options. Nowhere did they allow for information about how many kids I had or their ages, or if I was interested in having more kids or dating someone with kids. I got 7 matches right away and thought that was great, only to find that not one of them was really a "match" for me. Then I waited...and waited...and waited, for two weeks and never got one single additional match. Useless!

WHAT A JOKE (it would be negative stars if I could)....5 hours later you have the survey filled out. thier 7 day trial is a joke. Here is a email that I sent them regarding their "refund":

eharmony 7 day trial is a joke. you should say it also takes 7 days to get a refund, but by then you have expected the refund to go through. but it doesn't. all the parties involved that I talked to says their transactions happens instantaneously but if that happened I would not be talking to you. I talked to the bank they said it was your fault, you say it theirs. Seeing as I never had any issues with the bank before, it's yours. I am not going to recommend eharmony to anyone and suggest that they never try such a rip off. your customer service is friendly, and consistent no one can help me. You have wasted two weeks of my life that I can never get back. Finally the questionnaire is the longest piece of drivel that I have ever taken, my S.A.T was faster.

I would like you to pay half of my overdraft charges, $135.00, which is $67.50. I will be looking for that deposit.

Thank you

I agree that given the price eharmony's web site is extremely low-tech and limited, making it very time-consuming and unwieldy to manage your matches.

Also their tech-support is a joke. If I'm going to pay $50 a month I want to speak to someone if I have trouble with their site, not just send emails that get form replies.

One HUGE complaint of mine is that despite their success and raking in millions of dollars, eHarmony is still intolerably cheap about investing in technology. For example, they STILL don't provide an acceptable tool to uload an image file. People rarely have electronic photos that are small enough to meet eHarmony's picky requirements. Today's digital cameras rarely take photos less than 200k. And yet, a photo MUST be smaller than that to be uploaded -- unless you want to wait 24-48 hours to have their employees manually resize the image. This makes NO SENSE. Does EBAY do that? Heck no! When you place an ad on eBay, you have the option of uploading an ad photo in its native format, and the photos is automatically resized in mere moments. After all, this is a ***COMPUTER-BASED*** dating service, so why does eHarmony impose upon us the requirement of manually manipulating our image files? Some of my matches who aren't as computer savvy as me simply did not upload a photo because of the inconvenience.

This is just an example -- their website and online interface is amateurish and outdated.

OK, I'll 'fess up, I've never been on eHarmony. But I came here to read the reviews and they're pretty bleak. But I must respond to "Chris" of PA.

You want to know why I look for "fit" women? First, because I'm fit myself. The woman who has me will have a fit partner (and all that entails). Why shouldn't I have the same? I work hard to stay fit and a woman who is with me benefits from that. I deserve as much myself.

Second, someone who is fit and works at staying that way is generally healthier, will live longer, will have lower medical bills, will recover more quickly from illness and injury, and will become ill less often. I have these benefits myself. Why wouldn't I want a partner who has these benefits from being fit too?

Third, being and staying fit requires intelligence, perserverance, and dedication. Fitness is not just a reflection of the physical health of a person. It also reflects upon what's in their hearts and minds.

How does a man looking for a fit woman differ from the height requirements that some women have? Easy. Height has nothing to do with what kind of person you are. It's programmed into your genes. Now there may be some people who are programmed to be unfit/fat, but not that many. (Look at a photo of a crowd taken in mid-twentieth century America. Not a fatty among them. It simply can't be argued that in less than two generations a "fat gene" spread through 40% of the population.) Fitness, getting there and staying there, takes work, intelligence, dilligence, discipline and sometimes guts. It also takes self-respect and a sense of self-worth. (Aren't you worth keeping in shape?) So a person's fitness level tells me something about them as a PERSON, beyond what can be seen in the physical. A person who is short (or tall) can't do anything about it. People who are not in shape CAN do something about their condition.

Lastly, you made the jump that many people make when you surmised that someone looking for a fit woman would be satisfied with looks. Far from it. Guys like me are looking for looks (very subjective, you might be surprised at what I consider attractive) and EVERYTHING else. I wouldn't give the time of day to a fit, beautiful woman who was selfish, mean-spirited or otherwise not a good person. (FYI, Pamela Anderson is not on my list of women I consider attractive.)

I hesitate to even give this site 1 star. I have continually been closed out by women that look like Pete Rose and weigh more than my Mustang GT. However the few and I really mean few attractive women have been responsive to me but they are also emotionally scared In response to Anna Nicol saying she is a beautiful woman who never posts her pic because she does not want to be judged on her looks the only thing I can say is "Yeah right and I have a bridge for sale in Cairo Egypt". As for Chris PA calling men here shallow all I can say is "Enough of the typical female hypoctite BS about men being shallow. You hos are just as shallow as men except you just lie about it. I have been told that I resemble a younger version of Richard Gere and I always get more women that guys who have a better personality and more to offer. Also Chris PA how many fat and balding men get a lot of dates unless they are rich. Women like you are the reason so many men are marrying Asians. They are sick of the hypocrisy and BS from American hos.

I had trouble typing in one star for eHarmony. My experience has been unpleasant at best. Customer service has been unhelpful in the most insincere, syrupy manner possible. It's hard to believe that this site isn't a con designed to part innocent, desperate people from their cash. Maybe there is a famine of people to date in the Midwest but I don't think that's true. Maybe midwesterners have a more "buyer beware" mentality so they're not signing up for the shill. In any event, when I asked customer service what I could do to make my profile more appealing, they suggested that I lie about my spirituality and put down "christian" instead of "spirtitual, not religious". This causes me to believe there is a slant toward religion in their site and 29 matching points my ass! Since I'm not Christian, I told them the suggestion was repugnant and I wouldn't be deliberately misleading in my profile. But that's the sum total of their ideas to help me. So, if you're not Christian, this is NOT the site for you! Buyer beware!!!

You know. I have to wonder why these con artists would want me to shell out a bunch of money to match me with people halfway around the world that I have no chance of meeting and probably don't really match anyway. I am currently a non paying member and, while the dating scene in Delaware is unrelentingly bleak, I,m sure there is someone closer than ohio that I could match with. The matches I do have are mostly closed or on hold probably because they never got any communication with me. Well The good doctor dismisses the other dating sites out of hand at least those other sites are smart enough to let paid subscribers know that those on the economy memberships can't contact them. PHD my rosy red a*&. EHarmony also does not match on any 29 levels of anything. It is my belief that this is only fluff added to liberate you from your money. For instance. I hear again and again that they tend to match according to Judao-Christian values rather than true compatability. I do not want children and this is clearly articulated in my profile. Lo and behold all my matches came in as wanting broods and broods of rug monkeys, or having broods and broods of rug monkeys or both. Nope no way. Now how did these people get matched with me on such an "Extensive" compatability system? I think the answer is that they match people the same way that the other sites do with a tilt toward the whole Christian Idea of what family and dating should be. They look at a few factors and roll the dice. Just my opinion, could be mistaken. Go to plentyoffish or itsjustcoffee. You will at least get your money's worth.

Sure, there are some people that are overweight due to medication or other extenuating circumstances, but they count for such a low percentage that they don't need to be addressed when making a broad statement about a base mentality. As it is, the vast vast majority of Americans that are fat are so because of diet and (lack of) exercise. However, if questioned, the vast majority of them would come up with excuses regarding metabolism or genes or "God made me that way" or other B.S. reasons to cover the fact that they're lazy and don't feel like bettering themselves.

And that STILL doesn't address the main point - that being sexually attracted is part of a romantic relationship, and there is no reason to settle for something that is not the best physically and emotionally, unless you're just a loser that doesn't mind "settling."

Someone below made the statement, what if ugly people were treated like fat people? Newsflash: They are. Life isn't fair - the attractive have the advantages. And looks are completely analagous to brains. You're born with a base ability of looks and brains, and what you do through life affects both. Reading and learning to maintain your smarts is just like working out the body to maintain physical beauty. I'm sure all of you who praise ugly smart people would have no problems bashing pretty, stupid people, even though both are "born that way." Double standards. Life isn't fair and some people are born with an advantage.

And the guy below that said "ho ho ho that's why YOU have to use dating sites!" must have missed the entire thing about signing up with others to try to discover eharmony's marketing tricks? And discovering how they scam people into joining by starting fake communication?

Apparently, reading comprehension is not one of his strong points.

People will always resort to ad nauseum attacks and emotional appeal arguments that completely miss the point when dealing with such a touchy subject, but that's the truth of the matter. Eharmony is set up for the most desperate in both genders, normally due to kids, looks, or weight - and would inevitably have a few success stories based on the "lowered expectations" school of dating. For anyone else, there's not much there (there are always exceptions to the rule, but you probably won't be that exception). Eharmony will still try to bait those people with fake profiles, and this serves as a warning to be careful because of that.