Reviews of eHarmony

I first learned about eharmony when it began in or around 2000 after reading a book ("Finding the Love of your Life") from Neil Clark Warren, a Christian psychologist, who used to attend my chuch and was a former dean of a seminary in my area. In the beginning, I thought it was primarily a Christian website; or at least most of the people who participated and knew about it in its early stages were Christians because of Warren's connection to the Evangelical community. It's evolved into something else now. More commercialized and slick, for one...and no, I'm not directly blaming Warren for the 'negatives' there (no site is perfect).

Anyways, for those of us looking for a committed Christian partner, there's still such matches on eharmony. But I would also recommend looking into other sites such as christian cafe or relationships.com. They're overall less expensive, and offer more flexibility and matches or features that truly reflect your beliefs and values.

I feel that I am safe from being gang raped by divorced porn stars with strap-on fetishes in this website. Those that are into the strap-on thing with eHarmony are usually into the smaller sizes at least. I don't know if that's their preference, as I have heard of some of them saying that a lot of the eHarmony guys were wimpy as* MOFO's, with nicknames like Deedle Nick and such. As I have been using eHarmony for nearly three months and have yet to be gang raped by nympho porn stars with strap-ons, I feel that I MUST give the website a 5-star rating, but I'm not going to bend over to give it to them, if you know what I mean. Sorry if this offends any strap-on nympho porn stars that read this, as I know that you gals really have to push and shove your way around to be a success in your careers.

I also have to agree with the negative comments. This dating site does not live up to what it promises. At this point I have not received any matches for 10 days now. And the ones they send look like they could be my grandfather!!!

This site it great for 60+!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

eHarmony does provide an excellent source of potential matches. However, they do not distinguish between active and inactive members. Inactive members (dead wood) do not communicate. eHarmony suggests that you wait two weeks before closing the match without a response from a request to communicate. You can even send a "Nudge" after one week to let the person know that you are still interested. I have found that if a person is going to respond (yes, no or hold) that in will happen within 72 hours. Give them 3 full days and then kick 'em to the curb - you have selected an inactive member or a careless person. Why doesn't eHarmony identify or delete inactive members? Revenue!

I hate to be negative, however, I have to agree with many of the negative comments posted on this site. I am an attractive, well educated, professionally employed, 45 yr old woman. I have found dating in my 40's to be a little more complicated than it was 20 yrs ago. It is not so easy to meet single men even though I live in a large metropolitan area. I finally decided to try the internet dating "thing". I first tried match.com. I found many of the men to be looking for just a little fun rather than a committed relationship. I also found way too many married men on this site. I then decided to try eharmony buying into their marketing campaign of "compatibility-based" matching. I also liked the idea that my photo wasn't posted like a billboard for everyone to "shop". My experience with eharmony was very similar to many that have posted on here. I only received a few matches at a time and many of them were not active members, thus no communication. Even though I live in a very large metropolitan area I received several matches from all over the country that were often thousands of miles away. There was no men that matched with me in all of the Houston metropolitan area???...only later to receive several matches from men that were from Houston and had been members for a while. That just doesn't make sense. I understand the concept of not matching solely on physical attraction, however I am 5'10" and received several matches with men that were 5'6"-5'8". I know it is probably just a "girl thing" but I would at least like to look "eye-to-eye" with my man. And, last but not least on my complaint list is that it was almost impossible to stop my membership. I would cancel my membership only to find that it was re-activated. Calling their customer service doesn't help much either. I am only posting this to offer my experience to those who are thinking about joining eharmony. I will say that I work with a woman who is getting married at the end of this month to a wonderful man that she met on eharmony so it can and does work. I just think anyone joining should be aware of the "downside" of this site. Just my own experience...

I first joined EH after being disappointed on Match.com. I found most of the men on Match were just looking to have fun and did not take it seriously. I was only on EH for a few days and hit it off with the first guy I met. He was totally my type and we instantly clicked. I decided to cancel all of my online memberships. (I even had my 1 mo membership with EH refunded since I canceled within a week.) We broke up after 10 weeks when I realized he didn't care as much about the relationship as I did. I renewed my membership soon after ,thinking I'd meet someone else just as fast. It's only been a week this time but am getting a little discouraged. Most of the matches aren't my type. Also, The "closing out" process feels a little "volatile". I usually say that I "met someone" when I close. However, I find some of the guys seem to get some sort of satisfaction from giving "I'd rather not say" as a reason for closing although we never had ANY communication! BTW-You ARE able to choose your settings as far as choosing what area you want your matches to be from.( In addition to other things.) I can tell other people writing these reviews aren't aware of that.

Eharmony is just like the song, "High School Never Ends" It will never work because the majority of people on there are only searching for a person that will boost there social status. They view you as a potential part of their collection of material things to use to look down on others to feel more powerful in the world. It's like a case of: My car is more expensive than yours so I'm more valuble to the world. I feel like the girls were only talking to be because I had a degree, and not because they liked my personality. I just don't get why people are like this because there have been countless times in history were going after status only results in failure.

Obviously there are plenty of complaints about eHarmony, and I'd have to agree with some of them. But I'd like to attempt to offer some encouraging words to all the skeptics...since I used to be one. I'm 30 years old. I tried eHarmony on several different occasions (during the past couple of years), usually for a few months at a time. I went on a good number of dates, but I rarely went out with the same person more than once. The women I did go out with were very nice, but it just "wasn't there" for one reason or another. I had sworn off of eHarmony altogether, but then I decided to give it one more try. And I'm really glad I did. I went on a date with this one girl and I knew almost instantly that she was the one for me. It's hard to say that without sounding like one of the cheesy eHarmony commercials, but it's the truth. I have never felt so comfortable so quickly around someone as I am with this woman. Now, I don't know how much credit I give the whole "29 dimensions" theory. But I do think there is some validity to eHarmony's matching process. I say that because I never went a date and thought afterwards, "How in the hell did I get matched up with her!?!" Granted, I had to go on a lot of dates until I found the right person, but I was matched up with a lot of decent people. I think the main thing is that you have to be extremely patient. The whole process, from creating the profile to answering your match's questions, can get to be a bit much sometimes. But I think too many people give up too quickly. I know I did. I've tried all the dating sites known to man. They all have their own crappy qualities. And eHarmony does have a few policies that I believe are total bullsh*t, but I think it's one of the best sites out there. So, if you're thinking about trying it out, just remember it might take some time (and money, of course). But it can and does work. Good luck!

My main negative critics to the site is the same as many others. Too expensive and not many matches after they give you like five per day at the beginning. I got several matches and after an experience I got just one week ago I just think the users of eHarmony, like in other sites- apparently Christian- are very far from being such, even though they say they are Christians. I signed again and I had a great match who I looked at her profile and it was so great, but it was even more great to see that she requested communication just before I even clicked "Back" at my Browser. Yes... it was great... until 5 days later. That same match who claimed to be a true Christian closed communication with me because she was pursing another relationship. So... then why the hell- sorry for the angry tone- does she contact me for? There must be a way the owners of the site that claim to have the safer way to avoid this. One a member communicates to other and they both agree on meeting, it is really disappointing to see that they are trying more than one person at the same time. I am glad this happened, though I was really sad and down that day I read the Closed message but... I'm glad... because it would have been much worse if she did that to me on real life. The users of eHarmony are not all great, and beware, I suggest you if you contact with someone and she or he does not reply in an appropriate time, consider closing it before you discard other members that may really be a good match waiting for the answers just to read a stupid "Closed" message after the wait. Thank God I did not get other great matches I could have discarded mistakenly for this wrong and false one.

I liked eHarmony. No I did not meet the man of my dreams, but I had some nice chats and meet a nice guy. There are not many people from Vermont on eHarm (or in Vermont for that matter) so I had to open my search for a larger area. I found Eharm's system of starting with simple questions fun and easy and much less intimidating then having to make the first move in essay form. I did leave the site after three months but that was because I was "over" the online thing.