Reviews of Match.com

After several disastrous relationships with men from online including a marriage that was with a controller abuser, liar, etc. i decided to post a profile (hidden) just to scan the men who are on these sites so I WOULD be SURE NOT to date them in the rural area I live. Match.com should be called Hookup.com. For the small percentage of success stories, it is not worth the risk to fish in a sea of addicts, narcissists, the morally twisted, controller abusers, and players. Beware: match.com has gone in and "turned on" my profile without my permission because as other posters here have indicated the organization is driven by sheer greed and zero ethical considerations.

Here's the ugly truth about online dating, but not all of is bad for everyone. Cruz the profiles of women. Now tell me how many women are willing to date someone under 5'-10. Maybe 10%, and I don't mean just gals 5'5 and over. Even the smallest of women, at 5' tall. The next 40% won't entertain anyone under 6' tall. Random numbers, but you get my drift. If under 5'-10 tall and over 40, it doesn't matter how perfect your profile is, how great your picture looks, you won't be searched for, and you won't be found. Cougar fever in in vogue. Thanks Demi. When you write those 100 or so emails to average women, you are lucky to get a 2% response rate. Write hot looking women, and it may go down to .005%, even if they're within a couple years of your age.

In the real world, these things don't matter nearly as much, and personality counts. But in the online dating, these "stats" are EVERYTHING. Women get barraged with emails, and they will always pick the tallest, youngest, and thirdly, good looking. To give perspective, I am 5'-8 in height, over 40, all my hair, am told I'm good looking and appear about 33, and am in phenomenal physical shape. None of this matters. I have tested this with profiles before. Same pics, false stats, same text. Its all true. The twenty-something guys will say how great it is, well, for them it is. If your stats are good, you will have some success. Outside of that, it will be nothing but frustration. I can meet women like crazy face to face, but not on dating websites, my stats eliminate me before I even get a foot in the door. If you have the stats, after that, women will peruse every aspect of every thing you write, and eliminate you on that basis.

These stats put up a wall, ladies treat it as "the man store". That is a mistake, but they are unable to control the impulse. They will not evaluate men on how well a match they might be for them, but how they stack up against other men. Women don't realize it, but they are setting themselves up for failure. No man will ever be good enough in this type of scenario.

For women there is body size, picture, that's it. If you don't photograph well, or are heavy, you will get few responses. Look good, you'll get mail constantly, and annoyingly so.

So basically what I am saying is that dating websites are great, but only for the young, tall & pretty.

just checked match.com e-mail.
A 62 year old woman who thinks she is "hot" is looking for a match..age 30-46.
62 years old and advertising for a male that makes $100K+ who is is 30-46 years old. (30)+ years younger than her. Cougars here we come.
Are these women on planet EARTH??
Whoaa..she thinks she is "so hot" some young man is gonna be her lover.
This is the problem with match.com.
Then there is the women who say.."can you handle me?"
Are you kidding?? some grandma wants a "puppy" as the cougars call them and they think that is a reasonable request!!

Well after reading several of the reviews on here, I thought it would be the right thing to write a review for guys in their 20's. Heck, maybe even girls searching for guys in their 20's will find this useful as well.

I think the site should be looked at as another avenue to meet people. I'm a positive person in general, so I'm not sure why you wouldn't give something like this a try. It's not like I suddenly stop trying to meet people other ways... you don't turn into a hermit when you sign up for this. It's just another way to increase your odds. Speaking of odds, it's going to be a numbers game. You're not going to hear back from everyone, just accept it. Keep searching and keep emailing. (PS. guys... don't wink. It's lame. Do you wink at a girl in the bar or on the street? If you do, you're seen as creepy). I probably have a 50% return email rate, but that's because I try to be original and not talk about the same crap every other lame guy talks about. If you've ever taken a business class, I have a question for you. Do you sell your product by marketing it just like someone else's product? Hi, here's a chevy malibu... it's just like a toyota camry and a ford taurus. No. You differentiate your product, or in this case, yourself. Stop talking about sports teams and saying "you seem interesting, I just wanted to say hi". Same goes for the girls. You know how many profiles I've read that say things like "love to travel", "like to go out but can stay in for movies", "I'm a great cook", etc. I'm not joking, literally 70% of the profiles say these exact things. So go out and be a little different. Show that you're not a sheep. Maybe that's just what I like...

Anyway, after that side bar, I think the site is worth it. It's similar to the real world in that you cannot trust every single person on there, but most of the people are on there for the right reasons. Don't take it personally if you don't get a return email. You can't expect every person to like you, your style, your personality, etc.

Finally, the point to make is that it's just another means of meeting the "one". Why would you not take every opportunity available to meet someone special? You don't have to stop looking or trying other ways, this just adds another means. And honestly, do you think you're better off talking to some drunk chick at a bar and getting to know her better than this? Good luck with that. Good luck with the site if you decide to use it. It's not a scam.

It's my first time using internet dating. Because my two high school classmates got married to someone they met on match.com so I thought I'd give it a try. But to me, it seems like, the whole on-line dating thing is almost like a different world. It has its own unspoken "rules," like what to say and what not to do on a first date and all that, which is different from the traditional way of dating where you go out with someone whom you've already known for a while and already have a basis of trust.

I've been on it for more than half a year - accidentally - because I didn't know that match.com would automatically renew my membership! I was "renewed" twice involuntarily!!!!! My goodness! They didn't even send out emails or notices or anything! I felt like it's more about making money for them. It is a pretty good business idea.

I have to say there are a lot of weirdos up there and you just have to be very careful, selective and smart. Guys are not always honest. They might be dating multiple "girlfriends" at the same time. They might be control-freaks. They might be too desparate to get married (trust me, this is not good, either). The bad side about internet dating is that it makes dating seem like fast food - you go on a couple of dates, and you move on to the next one very quickly. But you actually don't know the people you're dating at all....

I think the internet is a good way to meet lots of different people quickly. But it doesn't mean that it's easy to meet "the one." It creates the chance of getting into more wrong relationships, too. When you look back, you don't really need those wrong relationships. You could have spent the time to be with your friends or families more.

The safer mentality is to just see it as another venue to meet people and don't tie the knot too quickly and always keep a perspective.

I found Match.com alot of work, with out much results.
The women I dated were ok,but it takes alot of time just to
get a date. Not worth it. Also if you have been on before do not
bother doing it again. I used it a over a year ago and then was dating
someone (not from match) and tried again. I see that I am now in the back of the Discount rack. My advice, try it once and then drop it.

I've read several of the responses on this site about Match.com and I have to add my experiences to the mix.
I have met several very nice men, one (55)...I dated for almost a year before he decided not to commit and seek greener pastures. I'm 46 but look much younger so I receive a wide variety of responses, men 29 to 60, but it is UP TO ME to narrow that range down...I'm polite and I try to respond to each response even if it is a "no thank you"... I'm a professional, I'm not looking for a "sugar daddy" or a "boy toy". Geographically, that must be narrowed down too.
Beware of scammers...they are everywhere!
I've met my share of "disgruntled" men and ones that post dishonest profiles and dishonest pictures but I'm sure there are women that do that too. I've emailed with potential dates that turned out they were only looking for a "side dish" and that is disappointing but it happens.

If you are truly looking to meet people it is a "numbers game". In one month I have been viewed over 1600 times, and I think that is views and re-views so that seems like a lot...but it's not. Of those views maybe 100 were within range... 50 "winked"...35 were appealling to me and 25 were willing to meet for coffee, lunch or dinner. Of those 25, I've had about 12 fun dates but still haven't met my 1. I think it is a good venue to meet men that I normally would not come into contact with and I'm not desperate, unfriendly, or "flaky".
I'm a psychologist, and I do have an agenda for a potential mate (everyone does whether you know it or not) but it is a "short list", it consists of honesty, drive, faithfulness, and a good sense of humor. I have found this many times over, but I also have to have the "chemistry", the zing, the spark, the zazazu...whatever you want to call it and that is why I'm still looking...
If you take Match.com for what it is...just another avenue you can take to meet new people of the opposite sex...it works fine (with a lil work on your part). If you want to be matched by personality, join eharmony...if you want a broader base, use a free site... Match doesn't really MATCH you with anyone, it merely "suggests" potentials according to key words in your profiles. The more you put in, the more you get out.
Now a few tips...
PICS ARE IMPORTANT. I agree with the poster that said leave the sunglasses, hats, etc off...I want to see you. First impression is sight! No pic? I will ask for one. I post a recent pic, u see me...I want to see u. Same goes for women, it's not being shallow if a man asks for your headshot pic.
SPELLING IS IMPORTANT. Since we are reading your words, your manner of speech comes across in your spelling and your grammer...if there are a lot of misspelled words you come across as illiterate and lazy, there's a dictionary on your pc afterall.
I generally join for a month at a time (sporadically) and then I cancel my subscription before each month is up and so far, I have not been re-charged.
Online dating is NOT for everyone, be smart, be careful and here's hoping we find our match.

I wish there was a way to post reviews of all the women I have dated from Match.com! (over 100 women from 37 to 54 years old)

I could safe you guys a lot of trouble and money taking out these BS artists.

I have meet a few decent women and have had some fun but some of them are just nightmares. Beware of the ones that have been on there perpetually for years! OR the ones that are on everyday. That has to say something about a women.

I am Kewld8r@aol.com and if anyone has a questions about any of the women in LA and surrounding ares feel free to write and if I know them I will give you an very honest review and my take on them.

Match.com does not live up to it's name: Even though I specified Ohio - within 25-50 miles away from me - age 70- 78 - I have gotten " matches " from men as young as 47 - I'm 75 .

Why would I consider a match who lives in Alaska - Canada - Hawaii ?

Match.com is just a LURE to obtain Money.

I do NOT recommend.

Beverlee Tague

I've met two women on match.com, both of whom I dated for about six months. I'm now in for a third go around.

Match.com is a lot of work; you have to sort through a lot of profiles and send a lot of emails. I get perhaps a 15% response rate, and less than 1/2 those end up in dates. Many of the women are skittish or flaky. That's not Match.com's fault, it's just the way dating is.

With persistence, I've met a lot of very nice, compatible women and I really had quite a bit of choice in who I selected when I went exclusive. I would have never met these women if I hadn't signed up for Match.com.

Match.com has a good search feature and lots of potential matches in my area.

Hint: use a temporary "virtual credit card number" and then you don't have to worry about being rebilled unexpectedly.