Reviews of Match.com

I found this site through a Google search because I was looking for match.com success stories (other than those posted by match.com which always seem to be positive).

I've spent about an hour reading and to be honest I've had confirmed pretty much what I thought. You see, there are some of us (apparently the minority) who are the real deal and are looking for a life partner. I was married 22 years and crazy about her and she with me. We were childhood sweathearts. It ended sadly. She drank... a lot. I waited 4 yrs to date again. Match.com was a place I tried. This was in 2006. It was a little flakey then but I did finally meet someone after 20 dates or so. She was pretty, petitie, 7 years younger than me (I don't look or act my age, yes it really is true, and no I don't care if you believe it or not). She threw herself at me on the first date and I let my loneliness get the best of me. My fault...period. My problem is I have a conscience and it bothered me a lot. She was shallow, selfish, self-absorbed, talked all the time about herself and a hypocrite. She had a 'history' with men as we say that she revealed a little at a time... unintentionally. The worst of it is she didn't think she did. (Denial). I went along with it (my bad, my fault) and tried to turn the relationship positive.

So why the life history? Match.com facilitates people meeting. That's all they advertise. That's what they do. It's a business and they want to make money. They do herd you into the cyber portal, shove the blinders on you and make you go where they want which ultimately is to your credit card. But you agree to it so stop your whining.

I just finished my 4th, 3 day trial (they give you a freebe once in a while if you wait long enough) in the last 6 months or so. Online dating is definately more flakey now than in 2006 or 2007. People have become more computer literate. It's a cyber meat market. It's filled with shallow characters, predators, fools and idiots all of whom are in denial about themselves. (The age group for the phenomenon doesn't seem to matter.) My personal experiences and my unscientific reading here and on other blogs confirms it's the 80/20 rule. About 80% of the males/females in online dating are as*holes. Yep, they pretty much fit the sterotypical molds. BTW, these are the ones the gripe the most about how bad it is.

Truth is, Match.com is the forum and the people on the site are match.com. So, everytime you've been a jerk, an arrogant twit, a selfish self-absorbed party-animal looking for a one night stand, everytime you've clicked clicked clicked looking for something better you just KNOW is one more CLICK away you've become part of the problem you're complaining about.

It is about the numbers and that is it's major flaw. Email sux completely as a relationship communication tool. Give it up. Online dating is CRACK. Bar hopping is CRACK too.. sometimes litterally. It promises to serve but all it does is enslave and the problem is everyone of us who has not shown the time, care, concern and respect for each other and done the best we could to acknowledge another's attempt to find solice, companionship and love, well we've exacerbated the problem.

Shallow people are just shallow. You can't fix stupid. American's have had it too good too long. Everybody wants Brad Pitt or Jennifer Aniston. We think we're "together" and "cool" but on the inside we look as if we've just licked the inside of a toilet bowl.

The good news is it's not going to get better. Spend your money on being somewhere that you can meet a guy or gal face to face and hold a conversation. A bar if that's your thing but at least you get to talk in person..(or scream over the loud music).

Girls, OPEN UP for craps sake! Let a guy approach you in the produce section. It's okay to say no but don't be a biotch!

Guys, shave, bathe, brush your teeth and try to talk without mumbling.. just for once.

Problem with this site is there is a lack of civility and there is a definite "meat market" mentality (especially for the guys) where being a cute, honest guy isn't quite good enough for the women and their crazy fantasies of Prince Charming just happening to be on match.com and (naturally of course!) fallen head over heels for you..just YOU awwww wow isn't that just precious?

I also believe that "chemistry" is this generation's version of "It's not me it's you!" meaningless phrase women use when they don't want to blame it on a superficial reason.

As for responding to email, look I'll side with the ladies on certain parts here: the creepy 50 year olds emailing 25 year old girls, that IS wrong and NO girls shouldn't have to respond to that and should ignore. The tool who talks about "HOW HOTTTT YOU ARE BABY!!" should also be ignored as well.

THAT being said however, ladies, when a guy who falls withing YOUR age/height/race specifications writes a customized email to you I think the least you can do is write a 1 line response of "You seem like a nice guy, don't think you're right for me, wish you all the best." I don't think copying and pasting this is all that time consuming.

I know, I know! You're a total babe who gets 50, 80, 100 emails a day. But look: take out the creeps, take out the tools, take out the spammers and include only the guys who have written genuine emails to you that are withing your specifications, I would would probably reduce the amount quite significant for even the most popular girl.

And if you're really THAT busy that copying and pasting a 1 line "thanks, but no thanks" response is too much for your super busy life...why on earth are you paying money to subscribe to a dating site where you'd have to meet other people, go on dates and work to build a relationship. All that times time, a 1 line response does not.

If I still don't have you convinced try remembering the last time you were sitting teary eyed next to the phone over a guy you were crazy about and PROMISED he'd call you... OK then, that's how many guys feel when they take the time to read your profile, write a message to you and get not even the dignity of a reply.

I entered a relationship with a guy who literally turned out to be a con artist. Based on what he said to me about other "relationships" I'm fairly certain he is some kind of serial dater with a pretty abusive pattern of behavior. Does anyone know if there are sites where you can get information or even post warnings about specific people like this?

I'm not really sure what stars to give this site. In fact I'm not really sure how Match.com actually works. I'm 31, Asian, fairly good looking, I speak fluent English. Additionally, I've posted several pictures on my profile, some full body shots, some head shots, none of them with other people next to me. My info is pretty average, I like to travel, etc...

I am getting almost NO hits. AND I'm supposedly one of their "spotlighted" members.

I wink at people. They check me out (I can see that they do from the 'who has viewed my profile' tab), but nobody winks back. A few might email me back but its all trickling in rather slowly...

WHAT IS IT? Another person on these reviews said its all about the stats...is it that I'm too old? I have no kids, I've never been married, I went to college, I have a job, I'm not fat...WTF?

Someone...please tell me...is it that Match.com sucks, or is there something wrong with my damn profile?

For anyone out there who is a member, my handle on match is there is lexijenny...any type of feedback would be deeply appreciated!

Thanks

This site sucks. Or maybe it's the men on it. I am a beautiful, thoughtful, and caring full figured woman. And once I post pictures of myself, the winking, emails, and all interest stops. Match doesn't do anything to soften the blow of a guy not returning your email or looking and probably gagging at the pictures posted. I am so much more than what I appear to be on the outside, if you men would just give me a chance.

I deleted my profile from Match because I was so disappointed and humiliated. At least at Eharmony, they soften the blow.

I am in my late 30's, and that I started internet dating about 5 months ago. Anyway, I'd say that there are really two parts to this review: The first part is how Match itself is run, and the second part is the experience with the people on the site.

The first part of this review: I'm disappointed in how Match itself is run.

The most important thing for me is that things to work as advertised, and in that regard, I'm left wondering. When I send an email to someone, I want to be sure that it landed in their inbox, and that they can read it. (I didn't say so much that they will read it, but that they are *able* to read it if they so choose.) And then if they respond, I get the response. Anyway, I've sent emails that were never read. I chalked it up to lack of interest, but now I'm hearing stories of emails not making it to their destinations. Unless this sort of thing happens very rarely, that is just unacceptable. Or emails are making it to people who cannot respond back (because they aren't paying members). That hurts those who are paying members too. Anyway, I've gotten in the habit of putting my email address in my match emails. (Wait--are we sure that non-paying members can even read their emails? Match, get it right!)

It would also be nice if Match stopped making you categorize your political views on your profile. (And you can't even decline to answer too! Isn't it in about every etiquette book not to talk politics anywhere near the first date?) There's nothing to be gained from answering that one.

The second part of this review: the people on the site and my experiences with them. It's hard for me to say so far. I've communicated with about 5 women, and I only ended up meeting in person 2 of those 5. Both seemed nice enough, but no second dates with either. Anyway, I've noticed about Internet dating is that it is much harder to get a second date than it would be for someone you've met 'the old-fashioned way'. It tends to be instant chemistry or right on to the next one. I'm not sure how well that serves anyone, because no one is really themselves on the first date. Also, flaking seems to be far more accepted in the online world. That's not Match's fault per se, but these aspects of Internet dating don't really sit right with me.

Anyway, hope this review helps.

My experience with match.com has been the biggest joke I've ever heard. The first guy told me how he ran 5 miles every day and won all kinds of awards and trophies. I was surprised when I met him to see his big belly and when I asked about his trophies, he told me that he donated them to Salvation Army. Then I suggested that he write his memoirs about all of his experience. He couldn't do that because he forgot his experiences. If nothing else, he was certainly creative.

The second fellow lived near me. He asked around until he found out my last name and my phone number. He boldly sent me an email addressing me by my last name and I saw his name on my caller ID. We went out to dinner once. It was one time too many in my book. Luckily, he was just pushy and out place and not threatening or it could have been a real problem.

The 3rd fellow was a charm. He contacted me because he admired the fact that I exercised 5 times a week. He also said that he exercised as much but he sure didn't have much muscle tone...as a matter of fact he admitted that he hadn't exercised in 6 months.And about the interest he said we shared in photography, He purchased a camera once and took a picture of a bird. I went out with him one time. He told me that he really enjoyed meeting me. I didn't reply. He then sent me an email stating that he felt that he couldn't have a romantic relationship with me. I believe that might have been because he wanted to know if my allergies were contageous.

I wouldn't recommend match.com to anyone. I think that it's a good way for people who are lonely to really get hurt. I also think it's great to be able to post these reviews and see that others have had like exeperience.

I am sorry that some of you had a bad experience , yes we have to be careful but after 2 days that i had signed up i had millions haha of e-mails and winks but i decided to look for someone instead of been found so i saw these guy not perfect but i was willing to pass the imperfection at that point of my life and 6 months after our first date we still together . from the day we winked at each other we knew these was it. I have no complains about the website i believe they should revise their clients once in awhile but other than that i am thankful.

0 STAR

Match.com is a joke.
Please block "Scottboy407" or John Scott cell phone number 267-235-9663 begin_of_the_skype_highlighting              267-235-9663      end_of_the_skype_highlighting from Match.com because he is a psychotic person with full-blown sociopath disorder.
He asked me to send him my picture so he can save it into his cellphone, before we meet on a date.
I refused and he screamed at me calling me 'rude foreign bitch'. Then he asked me to go out on a date after calling me a bitch? I refused and he told me 'to blow myself' He is super super creepy!

I contacted Match.com 3x and they close my account.
I hope they will be sued when that psychotic sociopath cop hurts one of the female user of Match.com

Ok...so I've only been on a few days, but after seeing the last comment, had to make on of my own.
Perhaps there are many Cougars on there, though I'm not one of them, all I've gotten for two days are younger handsome men looking for women from 40 to 65. NOT what I'm looking for.

I've also found that the suggested matches have little in common with me and are almost always too old or too young.

I just got a wink from one person who's tag line said he wanted a Male and profile indicated he'd like to cuddle with that special "lady". A bit confused to say the least. Had another one...and the tip off on these loosers is that they cannot spell....that was moving to my state and wanted to make friends, but would really like to speed things up by talking via Google chat. When I said I wasn't interested, he e-mailed back again to contact him via cat and he and his daughter could not wait to come to...and get this....it was not just the wrong state, it was an entirely different country.

There are freaks everywhere, so I'm going to give this a few days and ask for my money back on the next freak that contacts me. (I've saved copies of everything, which I highly suggest doing.)

Oh, yeah...had two contacts from normal people.