Reviews of Match.com

Even though I wrote a review not that long ago, the situation has not really changed, other than one snooty response from someone who didn't understand my tongue-in-cheek statement when I e-mailed her. So yay, I actually received a legitimate response...but not the kind I had in mind. Again, this goes back to what I said before, how some make themselves look so warm and appealing, yet if they read you the wrong way, it's game over. In my case, I received a cold reply for no good reason. I said nothing offensive or sarcastic or condescending. I have never been the chauvinistic type that tries to take advantage of women. It was all gracious and friendly, but some just seem don't get humor. Still, I guess women think it's less crushing on the guy to NOT respond than to use the "no thanks" option. Sure, guys will take a "no thanks" personally, and as well as they should! All the women there seem to have some b.s. elitist, high expectation mentality.

I agree with Marcus. We're in the 21st century, so I am expecting women to take the lead in the first step, just as long as they're not those con artists. I know there has to be some interested parties out there, so please tell us! Don't be shy and don't expect guys to take the initiatives ALL the time! But no one does that unless they're gold diggers/femme fatales or some impostor trying to get us to join their porn site.

There are plenty of good looking women on there, but I wonder why they would need to use Match.com? They look like they can have ANYBODY they want without it. Ego boost? Yes, I agree with what most guys have been saying here. They got us by the balls and relish this control by turning down more men than they know what to do with. I have the feeling also that many of them use the service because they are actively involved with other members on there already, so if that's the case, I wish they would turn off their profiles so I don't waste my time going after empty leads!

They seem to be interested in A, B, and C, and ignore D, E, F, G, etc. They couldn't care less about anyone else, right? The only way the women will get to know us if they started a correspondence. They base too much on what they see in the profile or initial e-mail to get a rapport going. It's like not being able to get the job you want because you don't have the experience, but the only way to gain the experience is to get the job, right?

It's really time consuming writing a personalized e-mail to each person. I comment on their profile specifics without generalizations or stupid pick-up lines, so they know I'm not using some generic form letter! But with each passing day, I have to check off more and more of my favorites, mutual/reverse matches into the blocking section. As I work my way down the food chain, the people are less and less attractive. I start matching them more and more, but they match me less and less. And pretty soon I might have to contend with some ugly, obese single mom of two.

But fuhgeddaboutit! I am no longer interested in involving time and resources for women who couldn't give a hoot about me no matter how friendly or considerate I am. If they want some macho, well-to-do GQ-looking model with deep pockets, a nice house, and an expensive sports cars who will take care of their every needs, good luck. I think too many women expect everything to be like "Sex and the City" where they'll get to go through a series of mini-relationships with white collar WASPs. That practically eliminates like 99% of the male population. My original two star review, since I was giving it the benefit of the doubt, is now ZERO stars.

Match may very well be the largest dating website and does have ample bitches to choose from, with the opportune word being "bitches." Tons of new girls do join regularly and I am sure you probably could get some dates, ass, friendship, whatever you're looking for. But it all depends on your geographical situation, if you live somewhere in bumblefuckville where these women don't have much of a choice and the social scene sucks you probably could line up some ass out of your counterpart's desperation. If you are older (35+) and are just about out of the game you probably could as well with women around your own age who are budding to pick someone w/ husband material. Yet, if you are 23, have reasonable physical standards, and live in a highly populated area (NY), you will probably have the hardest time of all. I am in great shape, good looking, and wildly successful for my age, yet match.com is no match at all for my type. All the decent looking women on here seem to have a lazi fare sort of attitude, where you "wink" at them and they do not respond. I don't know if they are joining this website as a joke or if they just want to see the sort of response they get from men as an ego boost. Plus, women in this area are incredibly stuck up and have some sort of chip on their shoulder thinking that living in NYC they are better than everyone else. They are unavoidable here and that is precisely the reason when my lease runs out I am moving back to NJ. Getting pussy has never been a problem for me, except when I graduated from college and started working in a place where NO good-looking women are ever. I signed up for this because I'd like to meet a woman on a sober basis instead of out at a bar so I tried this.

Here is my success rate, after "winking" at 300 women in NY and the greater tristate area I was winked back at 12 times. That's it, folks. I sent emails to those said 12 women and got six responses. I got one phone number off a decent looking chick, who in fact was masking her semi-fatness, which I noticed in her facebook profile where she had tons of pictures of herself and not just the ones from the chin up as she did on match. I got two AIM addresses, both of these women did not respond to my IMs.

All in all, match is a complete waste of time and money. I did not hook up with a single girl on there. In retrospect, I wish I had just taken my money and gone to adultfriendfinder.com, found some girl with a fucked up past and insecurities, that joined cause she wants to get banged out, and had sex with her even taking part in whatever bizarre sexual acts she wanted me to perform on her. That would be preferable to match.com.

Fellas, don't waste your time. Even if you are good-looking everything you do on this website will be second-guessed and judged. Like the responses that I got from the few emails I sent, ie, "what is a good-looking guy like you doing on this?."

Overall, online dating sucks donkey balls. Don't waste your time or money, I guess just stick to meeting shitty girls at bars, and meeting some in situations you would not expect, those seem to work out better than anything you do on this frustrating ass website.

To John from South Jersey, I suggest you and others read Bob from New Hampshire's post. That, unlike John's obvious employee driven plug (after awhile, its easy to spot the Match.com employee's posts) is the reality for men on Match.

To reiterate, I first joined back in 2003 and while the pickings were somewhat slim, at least I had my share of dates and several relationships. Jump forward to 2006-2007 and we encounter what I would term the reign of the psycho babes. The majority of the men reading these posts know what I am referring to.

Additionally, as has been alluded to previously, Match's business practices are deceptive. You have no way of knowing if the profiles you view are paying members or just women who signed on for free. Talk about deceptive business practices.

As I will always say the best place to live in America is New Jersey.....because there is nothing like a jersey girl....and if you're lucky enough to live in south jersey like i do and can tap into the southeastern Pennsylvanian pool as well - all the better......I've had great success on match meeting some fabulous women....maybe not the ONE for me...but I've had a lot of fun and met some terrific women ...but based on what I've read in these reviews it's a lot better dating here than in other parts of the country....there's something for everyone and i go on two to three dates a week with attractive slim/average women.....if you can't meet someone on match it's because you don't want too or you're playing out of your league!

I've been on match.com for a little over a year and met around 15 girls. It's definitely not an easy way to meet women. It's very time consuming. I'm 26, I make a decent amount of money, and consider myself pretty good looking. Even so, only around 5-10% of my emails get a response. The ones that do get a response, I usually have to spend weeks emailing back and forth before meeting or talking on the phone. Most of them stop responding before we get a chance to meet. So, on average I only end up meeting around one girl per month. Each meeting represents roughly a month's worth of work, and most of those don't go past one date. I've sent out well over 1000 emails. I've had one relationship that lasted about a month, and 2 girls I went out with for about 3 weeks.

I have met some decent women on the site, but do not sign up expecting to send out a few emails and find a relationship right away. This is not as easy as signing up for an online bank or buying something on ebay. We are dealing with fickle and unpredictable women here. Be grateful for any responses you get, and never stop trying to improve your profile with better pictures and text.

I just renewed for 3 more months. I have winked and winked and nothing. Not even a No Thanks. It is a waste of $$$$ Then I tried to email still nothing. I know I am attractive and have a lot to offer but I think alot of people men and women are looking for that fantasy partner and not facing reality.

When I started going to school in 1970, I was taught about the food pyramid from day one. It tells you about normal portions, and to eat more from the bottom food group (grains, nuts, fish, etc) then from the top food group like oils, meat, etc.

So why is it that women my age are so incredibly overweight??? Lose weight! Exercise!!! Holy cow, it's incredible. They mark 'average' when they are 40lbs overweight!!

Listen women, 120lbs is average for a women 5'5" tall. Anything over that and you need to go on a diet.

5'5" and 150lbs is OVERWEIGHT.

If not for your man and to look better, at least do it for your health.

Match.com and eharmony are a waste. I am a 30 year old corporate lawyer, fairly attractive, good background, and I do pretty well with the opposite sex. I tried these sites for something new and scored a total zero. Even if I lowered my standards to women that I would never ever date (just to get a response), I would get nothing. Meanwhile, I would ask women at the grocery store for dates and almost always get a positive reaction -and a date.

What is fascinating is what women on these sites expect. Listen, if your are a 35 year old unattractive underemployed mother of four, looking for a prince (because naturally, you are a PRINCESS), and you want a guy that is rich, tall (at least 6 foot 4)dark and handsome, when does reality hit finally hit you in the face? Apparently never. Its great when they say that this is "their type." Listen honey, that is every woman's type. Its like when a 40 year fat, unemployed guy that lives with his mom says his type is blonde, with small hips and big boobs. What a joke. These people will never get a date - and these sites attract 'em like a moth to a flame.

I'll stick with the grocery store.

Soooooo true. Look out below for the big heffer coming at you on match. The sad part, men get so desperate and lower their standards so far the even the 200 pounder size 20 is hot stuff. ALERT: those big dimply fat thighs don't do too much for most guys. They still have their "pick" though.

Hey Bob and M: Well, if your attracted to obese women who smoke, then the South (where I live) is the place for you!

I have decided that I will not support the obesity epidemic by dating women who are very overweight. I can see having these kind of women as friends but I know my libido will take a liking to them ( a nice way of saying that I could not, er, "perform".)

I wonder if we can start a national men's movement to make women aware of how unattractive they have become to men here, both in looks and attitude? Reading suggestion: The Rantings of a Single White Male by Thomas Ellis.