Reviews of Match.com

Kate: if a man keeps himself in shape, its not unreasonable for him to seek a women with that same value. One of the reasons why active men in their 40's (like me) chase after 20-30 year old's (I don't) is because they want someone who still cares about the way they look; its hard to find single women in their 40's that stay active so that they have control of their weight. I think if women cared more about what it takes to stay attractive to a man (and vice-versa of course) then you would not see so many men chasing after younger women. Its time for women to start being concerned about what a man needs to stay attracted to his mate. It seems a lot of women put his needs secondary to other things that she needs to do; which should not be done.

This is in repsonse to Kate in Vancouver. Hey sorry your so bitter that a men your age want younger women. One stupid action doesn't justify another stupid action, but I guess it is an eye for eye with you because you have been burned too.

I can keep this short and sweet, being "threatened" about keeping up with the times is not the issue. Saying that people have unrealistic expectations was simply stating the facts. No, I don't feel threatened because I have gotten dates with many attractive women, and I am very attractive. That is not the issue. There are some people, both men and women on this site that must be expecting, a human genetic experiment in perfect symmetry.

So you are right, times are changing, but no it is not too bad. I stay in shape, take care of my looks, and I want someone who does the same. But I don't expect someone to be perfect just take them out and see what they are like. And just because THIS country is creating ridiculous standards, doesn't mean there aren't plenty of people like me, who still live in the real world, and will find love the old fashioned way.

Good luck with keeping up with the 20 year olds.

I am a 40 yo asian woman with a reasonably attractive face and fantastic body, cool personality (really- not wild, not mousy just a cool open minded wholesome normal girl), post-doc education and six figure income who has no kids or substance abuse problem. I would say match isn't that great but it's better than any of the other one I tried namely eharmony. And even on match, I don't get that many great men. 9/10 men who write either look awful, don't have as much education, have too many children or too much extra weight. I wonder is it b/c of my age, my ethnicity, or what. Now I have a free membership on chemistry.com which is a offshoot of match. it doesn't hurt.

This resonse is for Mr. Happy

Mr Happy said the following..... "This is EXACTLY what is wrong with America today. Television, women’s tabloids, and a false image of the perfect male………coupled with inflated egos and delusions of grandeur have fueled a search for the perfect male because the females are already so perfect, obviously. I guess no one on here has been in a real relationship. Because ego-maniacs don’t have long lasting relationships, because they can never be satisfied".

To him I say....welcome to the real world Mr. Happy. Try being a woman in her forties on any dating site (match.com included), trying to attract a man her age only to find out that countless middle aged men chase twenty something girls with skinny waists and belly tops.

Welcome to the present. How does it feel to have to live up to expectations and standards -- a world where women are looking for younger men, more fit men, more accomplished men, more attractive men, and more confident men. Haven't you men been chasing an illusion too for hundreds of years? You're calling women "Egomaniacs"? It's hilarious that you're complaining and feel threatend because it's "your turn" to MEASURE UP to illusions set up by the media? HA! What a joke! Welcome to the feelings of insecurity women have experienced for hundreds of years.

Media standards are beginning to affect both genders. This fact plays a huge role in the choices "both" men and women make on dating sites and in the real world. Times are a changin'! Too bad.

I just recently joined match and I have to say my impression about the site is not so good. In about the 10 days I been a paying member, I recieved 6 winks, zero emails but my profile has been view 114 times by 90 women. I also sent emails to 30 women and only received one response. I replied to her and never recieved a reply back. I don't want to bash women on here because I truly have no idea what is going on inside their heads. Perhaps I am truly not attractive. Perhaps the women I have contacted are no paying members. I do agree that our (men and women) expectations have been poisoned by the media. Although I think I am better average, I am truly average. I have an average job, I have average amount of friends and I live an average life. I would love to be that man who could entertain you, be that dreamy attractive guy, be the comedian who could make you laugh, be sensitive enough to make you cry in happiness but I am not all these things. I am just an average guy with average skills in these areas. It seems I guess being average is no longer good enough for both men and women. I do admit I am pretty annoyed when I send an email I do not get a reply. If you are not interested just reply back saying you aren't interested. I don't know but I feel like Match rob me of my money. They don't put out user stats broken down by male and female. I would love to know who is doing the emailing? I have a feeling it is mostly men because if women were doing most of the emailing you would see Match.com promote that on TV.

The Bottom Line Up Front Is That Match.com Is A Waste... Save your money or spend it on yourself...period. This site is worthless to the average or above average, single male in the 30-40 age range. This is my impression after only a week of being a member. I only got conned once and this was it. I knew better, but I just wanted to experiment a little and see what the results were. A little background is in order though.

Society has ruthlessly preyed upon a generation of folks from start to finish. The Me Generation was continually bombarded by the theme that if you don't have money / power / beauty, you are a "looser." A lot of these folks have now come of age and are 30-somethings. Women have internalized and taken this viewpoint to the extreme. They cling to some sort of fantasy that Leonardo DiCaprio, Matthew M., or Brad Pitt or someone just like them is going to come sweep them off their feet. They feel they "deserve" it, they are "special," and "won't settle." OK, no problem. Your comeuppance is not long in coming. 40 is just around the corner. Women are just as shallow as men, maybe even more so. Guys were affected to this to some degree, but are a little more accomodating when it comes to perfection, especially now that we are 30-somethings. The guys I am talking about are regular, physically fit guys. Not overweight blobs with acne scars, bikers, ex-cons, etc., which populate these sites in the extreme. The screening criteria could be a little better. The modern media has not helped us with all of the hoopla about internet stalkers, predators, etc. These days, every chick thinks someone is waiting in the bushes outside to attack them. Thus, even sincere, genuine interest in getting to know someone better is regarded with suspicion. I guess you won. I quit. Oh, I may throw a little game every now and again at the store or the bar, but I'll be damned if I ever sell my pride for the paid membership to an "exclusive site" such as this. They all say they want nice guys, but they always wind up taking in the loosers and dealing with the drama. What the hell, go upside her head once more for me, man.

I gave the match.com site a fair shake. A week is all it took for me to formulate the following conclusions about the site. I was completely genuine in my description and photos. Physically fit, decent looking, high 5 figure income, diverse interests. The real fucking deal. Of course, everyone is biased about themselves, but I've got game well beyond initial pick up lines. The hard part is getting your foot in the door. Just for fun, I checked myself against the competition. There were some muscle bound freaks and a few pretty boys on there, but most of the male profiles were LAME in the extreme. I came away with the impression that I shouldn't have any problems establishing contact with some nice women. In all seriousness, my intent was to establish contact and build upon that. Immediate sex wasn't the objective. Although no guy, including myself, would probably ever turn down an opportunity, that wasn't my intent Although I winked at the uber-hotties, I harbored no illusions of a response of any type. I figured they were just filler to attract guys. They are probably in the EMPLOY of the site itself. Ever thought of that one? I wrote genuine emails to those who were probably 6's to 8's on the average guy's scale. Some of the chicks were a little "thick" as they say, but were nice looking overall. The emails were apparently read, but there were no responses. I got 2 winks. You don't even want to know what they looked like. See #3.

To the women who have, or will date online.

You must understand that you do have an advantage over the men on these sites. The advantage is in the numbers of who you have to pick. You see, on these personals sites the men outnumber the women 2 to 1 at the least. Then you have to count in the fact that about half of the profiles are inactive. When it comes down to it the men only have about 5 or 6 compatible women they can email.

Now, a few years ago I had set up some profiles of women, just so I could read the emails and see what the guys had to say. And YES, I'll agree that most of the emails women get are Capital LAME. These emails and such aren't stopping you from winking and sending emails to other guys you may like.

Online dating is tough because you're not talking to the person face to face. You have no Idea as to what they're like. There are women I would normally have no troube getting a date with, but online they would turn the other way.

Dear Women of Match.com

Who knows why I am on here anymore. The unrealistic expectations people have. This is a website for dreamers. Most of the women on here are ridiculous. I, along with many other males, have good jobs, are good looking, and probably all have characteristics that would appeal to women who are on the search for a good man, however, that is in the real world.

Women, who are the pure of heart, they search for honesty, for security, for a good income earner, someone who will provide for a family one day, someone who can give them adventure, someone to share laughs with, to make love with….wait………….…actually, women on match.com are just as shallow as men!

Looks, Looks, Looks. How many actually read the profile. How many take a look at the profile and then the photos and say, he is decent, he might be a catch. Zilch. No, that would be settling. You have settled for your last boyfriend/husband/lover and he just wasn’t perfect enough.

What I have discovered is most people on here are looking for their A) Matthew Mcconaughey (or insert any other “hunk”) or B) Their Court Jester to buy them a meal and entertain them for the night before they email the next guy for the next free meal and good laugh. I am sure the perfect man would be Mr. Mcconaughey, Bill Gates, and Dave Chappelle all rolled into one. You could have the good looking, rich, guy, that is intelligent and is funny as can be. Because those perfect people really do exist out there and you so are so good looking and ambitious that you are going to get you one of those.

This is EXACTLY what is wrong with America today. Television, women’s tabloids, and a false image of the perfect male………coupled with inflated egos and delusions of grandeur have fueled a search for the perfect male because the females are already so perfect, obviously. I guess no one on here has been in a real relationship. Because ego-maniacs don’t have long lasting relationships, because they can never be satisfied.

I joined thinking people out here were looking to date, because, like me, they worked 60 hours a week, and they just don’t have the time to get out like they used to. Boy, I was wrong, dead wrong. Instead, we have consumerism at its lowest. People browse, they nit-pick, until they have eliminated almost all possible choices. Then they find their stud, that closest thing to their false image of the alpha male and they get screwed or blown off and cry and say what an a-hole he was. Boo-Hoo.

This will all be over soon, as my membership will run out. No worries, It is my fault for thinking that a real person would use this. Most real people just live their lives and let love happen however it happens. Kudos to the girls that I have seen that have just cancelled their memberships and gotten off here.

It is like getting on heroin. You get hooked, you feel good browsing through these photos of beautiful women, who ALL have a sense of humor, love to travel, who love the arts, and who love sports, blah, blah, blah………What I am finding is really all they love is themselves and are not capable of making a rational decision in forming a relationship because they are so consumed with what THEY want, want THEY expect, and that they won’t give the “average” guy a chance. When I say average guy, I am saying someone who works for a living, someone who has a good set of values, some type of humor, and some idea of what their idea of a good time is.

Love has no face, no name, it can’t be bought, it can’t be sold, and it cannot be found. It just happens. This site can’t sell you the train ticket to find your mate. I don’t even think it can put you on the right course.

I have already met some great women, beautiful, talented, and guess what. I didn’t find them on here. What I did find on here for the few dates I went on were ego-maniacs.

According to the reviews posted here by men, the women on "Match" have great advantage. But my experience hasn't been stellar. I've never had a "sea" of messages, but I ALWAYS respond to anyone who contacts me by e-mail. Being on "Match" isn't easy and it would be horribly rude to ignore someone who takes the time to write a message.

I am most often contacted by men who have nothing in common with me. They like my photos, but I guess it never occurs to them that there's a reason why I look the way I do. I am a very active person and I say so in great detail in my profile---which they obviously don't read. I've never been contacted by a guy who likes a vigorous hike.

As far as talking on the phone is concerned, that has never worked for me. It's a waste of time, and I'd rather just meet. The guys I've spoken to on the phone have been absolutely certain that we were going to be a perfect match---after two conversations! What is that about? That's scary and a jinx for sure!

I've initiated contact with a few guys and met six different men for coffee. In each instance, I drove to the area where they live and not only paid my own tab, but paid for theirs as well. I don't want anyone to feel like they've been taken.

I post recent photos, including full body pics. I'm not gorgeous, but I have nothing to hide. I am honest in my profile and I don't use a long list of adjectives to describe myself. No one is all of those things. Besides, if you really are compassionate, handsome, healthy, stable, honest, understanding, dependable, funny, active, handy, hard-working, loyal, secure, and a good listener -- then how is it that you're divorced?

Don't tell us you're handsome......post your great photo and let it stand. Don't tell me you're funny......say something funny in your profile and let the reader decide. . . . and pleeeeeze don't post three photos of your motorcycle and one of you wearing sunglasses and a beanie.

Let me tell everyone a quick story. A few months ago I actually went on a date with a woman from Match.com. We talked on the phone a few times, then met for dinner. Trying to be a gentleman, I picked up the $50 dinner tab. She seemed appreciative, made nice conversation, hugged me at the end of the night and seemed interested in getting together again.

Guess what happened? Yep, she blew me off, wouldn't return phone calls and had no intention of seeing me again. Well, I've had enough of this crap, so I e-mailed her and basically "billed" her for dinner. I asked her to refund me $25 for her half of the dinner. A true gentleman offers to pay for dinner, but a true lady would insist on splitting it if she knew this was going to be the first and LAST date. Funny thing is, I was really just trying to make a point by billing her, but she actually followed through and sent me a $25 money order. Good to know she actually has a conscience.

I, like many others on here, have no idea what it is women are hoping to find on Match.com. They certainly don't seem interested in meeting "a nice guy I can talk to." What a load of crap. I don't go onto Match.com expecting to date a supermodel. A nice, decent, reasonably attractive woman is fine with me. Why do women have such a difficult time being honest about what they want? Maybe we should assume that they're on Match.com with totally unrealistic expectations precisely because they can't function in the normal dating world. No one in every-day life is good enough, so they take the never-ending search for perfection to the Web. I don't know how else to explain it. I've dated two women on Match.com who have been active for at least two years straight and have active profiles as we speak. Maybe I should check in with them as see if Brad Pitt has arrived yet.

Anyway, fellas, don't take this crap. Send them a freaking bill if they take you for a dinner ride. I did it and I've never been more proud of myself.