Reviews of eHarmony

whale, i mean well, or do i mean whale? thanks, freud. you've done it again.

i've been plugging along on eharm for 3 months now. i've been on 1 date. she lied about her marital status, stating that she was divorced when she's really separated (hi vicki!). eharm won't let a separated woman join-cause she's still married! i got her bounced off.

there have been many matches-60+, but obviously their questionnaire doesn't ask about what type of woman you're looking for. it couldn't, possibly. or i don't recall. i'm very much into being outdoors and am committed to fitness. most of the women i've been matched with are overweight, very overweight or quite sedentary homebodies. and when you add god and or dog as things they can't live without, well...

i've had a few initiate conversation, then things get stuck after the initial questions or must have/can't stands. instead of closing me out, they simply don't answer and leave me hang.

now, i've lived all over the us and my expectations are low in cincinnati..it's far from the fit/cutie capital. my bad for thinking things would be different on eharm. in my 40s, i still look pretty good naked, and won't settle for someone who wouldn't.

whale, i mean well, or do i mean whale? thanks, freud. you've done it again.

i've been plugging along on eharm for 3 months now. i've been on 1 date. she lied about her marital status, stating that she was divorced when she's really separated (hi vicki!). eharm won't let a separated woman join-cause she's still married! i got her bounced off.

there have been many matches-60+, but obviously their questionnaire doesn't ask about what type of woman you're looking for. it couldn't, possibly. or i don't recall. i'm very much into being outdoors and am committed to fitness. most of the women i've been matched with are overweight, very overweight or quite sedentary homebodies. and when you add god and or dog as things they can't live without, well...

i've had a few initiate conversation, then things get stuck after the initial questions or must have/can't stands. instead of closing me out, they simply don't answer and leave me hang.

now, i've lived all over the us and my expectations are low in cincinnati..it's far from the fit/cutie capital. my bad for thinking things would be different on eharm. in my 40s, i still look pretty good naked, and won't settle for someone who wouldn't.

eharmony should be named emoney thats all thay do is suck money out of people i even went on the illinios state web site to look up dr. neil clark warren they never heard of him i bet hes not even a real doctor he probly just plays one on tv

I've been on eHarmony three months now and have received 362 matches. That's a pile, and allow me to whine that even with that many, I still get frustrated in those times when a couple of days go by and I don't get any new ones. On the other hand, I live in NW Washington State and they send me matches from Colorado, Utah, California, New Mexico and Texas on a regular basis. I mean, I suppose if God spoke up and said 'hey, this chick in Houston is your actual soulmate, you should check her out' then I probably would, but in real life how motivated am I to date someone a thousand miles away? Not very. I don't happen to have an airplane. Then again I just had a gal in the San Francisco area 'initiate communication' this week so I guess not everyone feels that way. And really, it's more fun to get some matches from outside my area than get no matches at all. I did realize in the first month or so that I'd have to be willing to cast a wider net than I first imagined, and now I'm more than willing to drive a couple of hundred miles for a promising woman - screw gas prices. I've heard the complaints about getting matched with non-members who can't respond but I'm not convinced this is a significant problem. A small percentage of matches have half-completed profiles and no photos but it's maybe one out of 20 or so.

Success-wise, I'm mid-40s, shorter (5'8") but reasonably attractive, have a decent job, and I haven't been terribly disappointed so far. I've only had one date but overall I've been impressed with the quality of women on the site. They're not all models by any stretch, but in the age range I'm interested in (~38 to ~48) the vast majority appear to be sincere. I've initiated conversation with ten women and had three respond favorably, two close me and the rest ignore me. About ten have initiated with me, I've responded favorably to two and closed the rest (hate to leave 'em hanging). Not great out of 350+ matches, but it's better than I'd do without eHarmony. And it's enough to give me hope that I might actually meet Miss Right out there one of these days. Definitely can be brutal on the self-esteem when you get a string of rejections, in fact it's easy to get gun-shy on initiating with anyone at times. I have no doubt that online dating is a real bummer of an experience for a lot of people.

I try not to hold it against women when they reject me because we all want what we want, and I'm no exception. I'm leery of matches that don't post photos, because I dread having to close a match where the relationship has progressed to some degree, only to find the physical attractiveness just isn't there. That's awkward as hell. I know it seems shallow to put a lot of value on looks, but I was married for a lot of years to a woman that didn't appeal to me sexually, and it sucked to have that deficiency in our relationship and it made for a crappy marriage. Anyway, I haven't tried any other dating sites but eHarmony has been okay for me. I didn't have any great expectations going in, so that helps. I'm surprised how many people whimper about the cost. ~$30 a month?? BFD - how many times do blow thirty bucks on something else that you already know is worthless? Well, good luck everyone.

I've used EH on and off over the last 2 - 3 years and have mixed results. Sometimes, I get lucky and get a few dates and sometimes, I get nothing.

I'm giving it 1 star primarily because of 2 reasons.

1. EH plants fake profiles. Why do I think this? At one time, I had a profile but wasn't a paying member. Then I received a request for communication from a match so I take a look at her profile. She seems nice and so I sign up and I reply. After that, nothing! OK, so I think time to move one since it's only the first message. A few months later, I receive a pop up window from EH asking me to rate that same match to see what I think about the compatibility! So that got me thinking...why did she initiate communication before I join and then not reply after and then I get this survey...smells fishy. EH has these fake profiles that send communications to non-paying members to entice them to join. That's my theory!

2. This happened recently when I decided to cancel my membership. EH has an auto renew system and there's no way to disable this feature. At the end of the your subscription, they won't even send you an email reminder about your subscription ending. Regardless, I call them to cancel and get a refund but customer support tells me, "Sorry, your membership will renew for another month and then be cancelled after that." I tell him that's BS since I don't need it for another month. Reply, "Other dating sites have the same policy and you had many chances to review the expiration date and cancel" I can't believe they can provide such terrible customer service. Even magazine subscriptions are easier to cancel and have better customer service. It's simply astounding that EH makes customers auto renew AND make it so difficult to cancel and get a refund. Someone needs to call them out!

If you want to join or are already a member, be sure to mark the expiration date of your membership on calendar and cancel the day BEFORE.

What's up with online dating sites? I'll admit, they do provide dating opportunities but their marketing, customer service, and tactics all seem to be extremely underhanded and unethical. Be warned.

Talk about one of the biggest rip offs. Eharmony costs more than just about any other pay site. Why? For a test that's supposed to match you. Do people know that is a very old psychological test that most likely costs only a few dollars at best. That guy smiles on his TV ads while scamming his way to the bank with your stolen money. And those horrible actors that are on those ads. Please spare me. It's best to stay with the free dating sites such as Plentyoffish. At least it wont cost you anything if you don't find what you're looking for. Plus, I've found after being on pay and free sites, there aren't any differences in the 'quality' of people you'll find.

I've been on eHarmony three months now and have received 362 matches. That's a pile, and allow me to whine that even with that many, I still get frustrated in those times when a couple of days go by and I don't get any new ones. On the other hand, I live in NW Washington State and they send me matches from Colorado, Utah, California, New Mexico and Texas on a regular basis. I mean, I suppose if God spoke up and said 'hey, this chick in Houston is your actual soulmate, you should check her out' then I probably would, but in real life how motivated am I to date someone a thousand miles away? Not very. I don't happen to have an airplane. Then again I just had a gal in the San Francisco area 'initiate communication' this week so I guess not everyone feels that way. And really, it's more fun to get some matches from outside my area than get no matches at all. Personally I realized in the first month or so that I'd have to be willing to cast a wider net than I first imagined, and now I'm more than willing to drive a couple of hundred miles for a promising woman - screw gas prices. Success-wise, I'm mid-40s, shorter (5'8") but reasonably attractive, have a decent job, and I haven't been terribly disappointed so far. I've only had one date but overall I've been impressed with the quality of women on the site. They're not all models by any stretch, but in the age range I'm interested in (~38 to ~48) the vast majority appear to be sincere. I've initiated conversation with ten women and had three respond favorably, two close me and the rest ignore me. About ten have initiated with me, I've responded favorably to two and closed the rest (hate to leave 'em hanging). Not great out of 350+ matches, but it's better than I'd do without eHarmony. It's at least a hell of a lot more efficient than what I'd have to do to meet that many single women offline. And it's enough to give me hope that I might actually meet Miss Right out there one of these days. Definitely can be brutal on the self-esteem when you get a string of rejections, in fact it's easy to get gun-shy on initiating with anyone at times. I have no doubt that online dating is a real bummer of an experience for a lot of people.

I try not to hold it against women when they reject me because we all want what we want, and I'm no exception. I'm leery of matches that don't post photos, because I dread having to close a match where the relationship has progressed to some degree, only to find the physical attractiveness just isn't there. That's awkward as hell. I know it seems shallow to put a lot of value on looks, but I was married for a lot of years to a woman that didn't appeal to me sexually, and it sucked to have that deficiency in our relationship and it made for a crappy marriage. Anyway, I haven't tried any other dating sites but eHarmony has been okay for me. I didn't have any great expectations going in, so that helps. I'm surprised how many people whimper about the cost. ~$30 a month?? BFD - how many times do blow thirty bucks on something else that you already know is worthless? Well, good luck everyone.

I've been on eHarmony three months now and have received 355 matches. That's a pile, and allow me to whine that even with that many, I still get frustrated in those times when a couple of days go by and I don't get any new ones. On the other hand, I live in NW Washington State and they send me matches from Colorado, Utah, California, New Mexico and Texas on a regular basis. I mean, I suppose if God spoke up and said 'hey, this chick in Houston is your actual soulmate, you should check her out' then I probably would, but in real life how motivated am I to date someone a thousand miles away? Not very. I don't happen to have an airplane. Then again I just had a gal in the San Francisco area 'initiate communication' this week so I guess not everyone feels that way. And really, it's more fun to get some matches from outside my area than get no matches at all. Personally I realized in the first month or so that I'd have to be willing to cast a wider net than I first imagined, and now I'm more than willing to drive a couple of hundred miles for a promising woman - screw gas prices.

Success-wise, I'm mid-40s, shorter (5'8") but reasonably attractive, have a decent job, and I haven't been terribly disappointed so far. I've only had one date but overall I've been impressed with the quality of women on the site. They're not all models by any stretch, but in the age range I'm interested in (~38 to ~48) the vast majority appear to be sincere. I've initiated conversation with ten women and had three respond favorably, two close me and the rest ignore me. About ten have initiated with me, I've responded favorably to two and closed the rest (hate to leave 'em hanging). Not great out of 350+ matches, but it's better than I'd do without eHarmony. And it's enough to give me hope that I might actually meet Miss Right out there one of these days. Definitely can be brutal on the self-esteem when you get a string of rejections, in fact it's easy to get gun-shy on initiating with anyone at times. I have no doubt that online dating is a real bummer of an experience for a lot of people.

I try not to hold it against women when they reject me, because we all want what we want, and I'm no exception. I'm leery of matches that don't post photos, because I dread having to close a match where the relationship has progressed to some degree, only to find the physical attractiveness just isn't there. That's awkward as hell. I know it seems shallow to put a lot of value on looks, but I was married for a lot of years to a woman that didn't appeal to me sexually, and it sucked to have that deficiency in our relationship and it made for a crappy marriage. Anyway, I haven't tried any other dating sites but eHarmony has been okay for me. I didn't have any great expectations going in, that probably helps. And I'm surprised how many people whimper about the cost. ~$30 a month?? BFD - how many times do blow thirty bucks on something else that you already know is worthless?

Well, good luck everyone.

I've been on eHarmony three months now and have received 355 matches. That's a pile, and allow me to whine that even with that many, I still get frustrated in those times when a couple of days go by and I don't get any new ones. On the other hand, I live in NW Washington State and they send me matches from Colorado, Utah, California, New Mexico and Texas on a regular basis. I mean, I suppose if God spoke up and said 'hey, this chick in Houston is your actual soulmate, you should check her out' then I probably would, but in real life how motivated am I to date someone a thousand miles away? Not very. I don't happen to have an airplane. Then again I just had a gal in the San Francisco area 'initiate communication' this week so I guess not everyone feels that way. And really, it's more fun to get some matches from outside my area than get no matches at all. Personally I realized in the first month or so that I'd have to be willing to cast a wider net than I first imagined, and now I'm more than willing to drive a couple of hundred miles for a promising woman - screw gas prices.

Success-wise, I'm mid-40s, shorter (5'8") but reasonably attractive, have a decent job, and I haven't been terribly disappointed so far. I've only had one date but overall I've been impressed with the quality of women on the site. They're not all models by any stretch, but in the age range I'm interested in (~38 to ~48) the vast majority appear to be sincere. I've initiated conversation with ten women and had three respond favorably, two close me and the rest ignore me. About ten have initiated with me, I've responded favorably to two and closed the rest (hate to leave 'em hanging). Not great out of 350+ matches, but it's better than I'd do without eHarmony. And it's enough to give me hope that I might actually meet Miss Right out there one of these days. Definitely can be brutal on the self-esteem when you get a string of rejections, in fact it's easy to get gun-shy on initiating with anyone at times. I have no doubt that online dating is a real bummer of an experience for a lot of people.

I try not to hold it against women when they reject me because we all want what we want, and I'm no exception. I'm leery of matches that don't post photos, because I dread having to close a match where the relationship has progressed to some degree, only to find the physical attractiveness just isn't there. That's awkward as hell. I know it seems shallow to put a lot of value on looks, but I was married for a lot of years to a woman that didn't appeal to me sexually, and it sucked to have that deficiency in our relationship and it made for a crappy marriage.

Anyway, I haven't tried any other dating sites but eHarmony has been okay for me. I didn't have any great expectations going in, so that helps. I'm surprised how many people whimper about the cost. ~$30 a month?? BFD - how many times do blow thirty bucks on something else that you already know is worthless?

Well, good luck everyone.

I have to say that my experience with e-harmony has been wonderful so far. First, I trust the discretion of the site and actually posted my pictures. The feedback has been amazing. I get an average of 3-5 matches a day and a lot of them request communication as soon as the match is delivered. Honestly, I have requested them to stop sending me new matches at least 3 times in the last 6 months, in order to focus in the interesting matches that I was pursuing. A lot of the matches just close my profile too… That is life! But I communicate with an average of 10% of the matches, and most of them seem to be really nice people. Obviously a lot of screening needs to be done before talking on the phone or meeting someone for a coffee or dinner, but I would probably have at least one date per week if I wanted. During this time, I met more than 6 guys for dinner – didn’t find chemistry with all of them, but didn’t loose my time either. I had a good time with all of them. They were exactly what they said and the conversation was fun (even when I did not get interested in a second date). In these 6 months I have been in e-harmony, I met someon with whom had a great relationship of 3 months (time in which my profile remaining inactivated). It means that the numbers actually correspond to only 3 months or active profile. I recommend e-harmony to my friends…