Reviews of eHarmony

Well, I have also been scammed myself.

I got the feeling the person who wrote before me works for Eharmony by the way he/she defended the company.

If he/she doesn't work for the company, which I seriously doubt, I hope one day he/she will be in a situation like I was myself, and he/she can ask himself/herself if he/she has a brain.

First of all to the idiot who got scammed out of money: this is your own fault!! Never, ever send money! People who ask for money are scammers. Every dating site has warnings about it. Don't be naive enough to believe them. God gave you a brain for a reason. And to everyone who says this site is a joke don't know what they are talking about. I have been a member for just over a month and have already met several women in person. I am seriously considering a committed relationship with one. EH DOES work. You just have to know how to use it.

Do not subscribe to this site.. it is moneysucker site as when you first subcribe, you dont have the choice to select as one time payer by credit card. They made you register your credit card payment with the mandatory auto-renewal option. Thereafter if you not really careful, they auto renew your subscription without giving you any prior notice. When you call and inquire, they will tell you that there is no refund.
The terms and conditions stated in the website are very ambiguous. There is a 3 days cancellation policy which stated that upon agreement executed, there is a 3 days grace period refund but they never explicitly tell you that this does not apply to renewal agreement.
So i think this is business scam. They know once you try, you may find out that the site sucks, then if you choose to cancel, they can still con you for another month of subscription fee. This is not ethical at all.
Majoritry of business terms and conditions have the refund policy for renewal customer. This company does not have and they try to play with the "unspoken" clause.
DO NOT ENROLL, I TRY IT FOR THE TRIAL OFFER AND THEY DO NOT HAVE ENOUGH MEMBERS TO FEED THE BUSINESS, SO WHEN PEOPLE LEAVE AFTER TRIAL PERIOD; THEY TRY TO EARN EXTRA CASH FROM THIS RENEWAL HIDDEN GAME!! I FORCED TO PAY EXTRA 30 BUCKS TO SUPPORT THIER BIZ, SO I URGE EVERYONE DONT WASTE YOUR MONEY THERE...

I have real questions and really have reserve about EH. I have been a member twice before, just to look and see out of curiosity and the thought of, just maybe. It does not have the response you are looking for or really want. I cannot tell you what it is missing or what it needs, I know it do know it does not have that something that helps people connect and communicate. I was a member 6 months ago for a month and cancelled. It was just something to do and big deal. I realized it was not healthy to play a teenagers game with my feelings. I have been receiving matches everyday since then and I just deleted them and was not interested. EH sent me a special offer at a cheap price so I logged on and saw I had 209 interested hits. I became curious and signed up and laughed at myself for doing so after I realized that they were all closed matches from many months back that EH had continued to send to other women, and I was not a member at the time. That is really creative of EH................ I have taught my children for years, that is a lie and a lie never works. Greed is always doomed to fail.

Eharmony is useless. So, is match.com. It is infested with scammers.

I have been scammed out of close to $9000. The girl operated from Nigeria, but have calls re-routed to the UK, giving the impression she is from the UK.

The girl I met, she called herself "Kate Dante". Do a google search on "love scam". You will see how many people have been scammed. My story is on www.internet-love-scams.org.

As incredibly as it may seem, I was watching a scam movie while I was scammed. It shows no-one is spared.

Not only do I lose my money on useless subscription, my time, emotion upheaval, I also lost faith in myself, that as educated as I am, I can be conned by a low-life scumbag from Africa.

I am still in the healing phase. But, I know in my heart, that, one day the scammer will pay for all the suffering she caused to me and others.

She is actually part of a cartel. She will tell you she goes to church, believe in God and steal you money in the name of God.

I give eharmony 1 star but even that is being generous.

Let me count the ways in which eharmony blows. I'll start with getting non-member matches, getting matches that are fake members, getting mostly christian only matches or much older matches or matches that that have extremely different values, and don't forget getting overcharged. These are just a few of the ways they suck.

When you sign up for eharmony it is free so of course they attract people who sign up and then don't pay to join. And this is great for eharmony because they can say they have a very large member base. But these non-paying members are just wasting space. It looks like you get all these really desirable matches but sadly you cannot contact them because they haven't paid. You also cannot tell when they joined either so the posting can be months, and or years old.

The same goes for those fake members on eharmony who string you along with emails, or phone calls but who never want to meet or go any further. Seems suspiciously like fake members to me or like a lot of men/women who cannot commit even to a face to face meeting. And that seems odd for a dating service that boasts such high numbers of 'successful' or end result happily married couples.

And third would be the overwhelmingly christian and or members that want to get married and start families. I was amazed at the amount of 40 and older males that still want to start families. For women that age chances are very slim for starting a family. But the men, despite the odds, are still looking.

And to think eharmony has such a narrow focus on Christian members when the population of the United States is so diverse. They exclude or don't 'market to' gay, lesbian, non-Christian, and those that have been divorced. This borders on discrimination in my book but is referred to cleverly as anything but.

And forth would be their exorbitant prices for what amounts to as psychologically tricking us into paying for marriage. And who can put a price on marriage, right?

Don't waste your money on eharmony. And if you want to share your opinions further please visit the

yahoo group without_eharmony.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/without_eharmony/

good luck and happy dating

I must be totally honest, I completed the questions without subscribing to see my matches free! And after receiving several good matches, I still didn't subscribe but wanted to cummunicate with the matches. I wanted to subscribe, but never got around to it. eHarmony even reminded me and i still didn't, but checked everyday for my new matches. I said that to say, if other people are doing the same thing (trying to see what's out there for free) I can see why the people that pay will have limited matches. Most of the time you don't receive a reply to your communication request is because that person has not subscribed. It is a service that you have to pay for and some people just don't pay. And on another note, you can't hold eHarmony accountable for how people complete the questions, just like people lie when you meet them in a bar or anywhere else, they will on the site too. Like someone said in one of the other comments, a lot of people are not looking for serious love like this site is trying to promote. They want a dating site, not a relationship with marriage as a goal site, and that's the problem, not Eharmony. I checked this site to see what was being said about eHarmony now that i'm ready to pay and was suprised to see so many people upset at the company and not at the people that complete the questions. i have to say i was proud to see that so many seem to want something serious.

I'm giving it 3 stars since I'm on the fence today - somedays wanting to jump and run out across the pasture with grasshoppers, cow turds and rattlesnakes - all being preferable to another day loggin on to EH - and then - there comes that week when there have been some stellar matches and comminications.

Plusses for me - There've been a couple of really wacked-out matches - where, like another poster here -says a profile might hit your match list where all they want is sex, sex, and more sex in every possible place EH gave them the option of filling in and I've gotten totally po'd and actually, depressed - as to Why...Why did they send me this? I contacted them by email - complained about said poster and... a few days later get a canned response "explaining that they take their members seriously and although they cannot tell me - due to confidentiality reasons - what the outcome of their "investigation" was - blah, blah" I then find this "member's profile is no longer available" I have also cross ref'd an EH match and found them on Match with a totally different story and maybe saying they were only separated instead of single/divorced. Ive let EH know this as well and thse people disappear from my list.

So - when you get a jerk - write EH - and they are gone.

That being said - there are sometimes those that slip through the cracks. But isn't that the same in real-life meeting under conventional, if there are such things any more, where he or she ends up not being who they say they are (or you want them to be?) -

I just spent two weeks in correspondence - whirlwind really - with a very interlligent, verbal, gifted, and not too bad looking - although about 2000 miles further than I'd requested - man, that after copious exchanges of open communication and then, regular emails - we moved right into the phone conversations this weekend. It was nice - and several hours were invested - and then....it got a little weird. Suddenly way too much reference to their having attained a certain spiritual nirvanah and was next in line to become the annointed one.
and on Monday morning rewind, I truly started re-thinking some of the comments and some of the gut-feelings surfacing. Maybe, just apprehension and nervousness since this was a new match, and the first person I'd gotten to really know by voice. I'd not actually gotten to the place I met anyone in person. Not because those matches are not there - I'm not ready. And many are local and are waiting for my comfort in meeting. but this guy - seemed maybe easier since he was so far away - to...risk getting to know.

So monday, an exchange of a couple of emails - and my honesty in that we had really talked a lot over the weekend and I'd like to give it a day or two and he said he totally understood and felt the same.

Day or two then another phone conversation - and I started paying attention to some things that were red flags for me - and saw a whole parking lot full - He began pushing for a trip to meet me - like within a week! And I said I wanted to exchange a lot more time over emails and phone calls before that.
Seemed to understand. I wanted to be sure knew how to close this off and...be diplomatic at the same time.

Then - I suddenly knew that I was not going to ever feel comfortable with him and composed a very nice, diplomatic email stating I had given a lot of thought and I realized I was not ready for the "next step" whatever that would be. Kept it all about me - my problems, issues. Nothing ever said about him. Thanked him for the time, and all of the fun conversation - blah, blah - and he returned with....understanding email and thanked me as well. Til a day went by - and he roared back with just knowing I'd found out about his gender dysphoria issues and that is why I'd closed the relationship....OMG. It got worse than that.

Thank god I did not disclose more than my email.

So - on a bad day - EH depresses me. On a good day - I feel like this gives me a little more control over who I let into my world. But there are no guarantees.

But I do agree - the wacks slip through - if you are not vanilla down the middle EH somehow penalizes you - and I do believe - that because I checked SPIRITUAL, NOT RELIGIOUS - I get more than my fair share of the odds/left overs/and far aways. Maybe it wouldn't have mattered.

Thanks for the heads-up on Match and Yahoo to btw -
Is there any perfect site?

I decided to try out this service after seeing an ad on British television, which appears to be part of a new ad campaign eHarmony seems to be doing, but have found out that it is a complete waste of time. The site should be renamed eChristians because this dating system is a reflection on the deep-religiousness of its founder. If you are not religious or spiritual in any way and if you do not believe in marriage you will be just losing your time, as you will be practically ejected.

A brief account of my experience:
After completing a very long questionnaire that took me an hour to complete, I was completely taken aback at the message I got that stated something to the effect that I was not going to be shown any matches because the system considered that I was married (!). Then I realised they were referring to the fact I had ticked the "Separated" box instead of the "Divorced" box on the first page. The fisrt comment is: why make me take the whole questionnaire if you were not going to admit my profile in the first place. In any case it turns out I am in fact officially divorced, and had only chose "Separated" as an automated reaction to this question, thinking it was the least important question in the questionnaire. So I contacted them and they promptly replied that I should send them the date and place of my divorce and the name of the judge (?). Next time I know always to choose "Single" as the option for these silly sites. As I had nothing to lose, I sent them this information, except the name of the judge, which was infomration I did not have handy, and to my surprise they told my they had "reset" my questionnaire so I had to take it again. That meant another hour of answering the same questions. But because I believed that at the end of the process I would find a whole list of interesting women, I duly completed the test for a second time. But imagine my surprise to be told at the end that there were zero matches! I then expanded my search to include most of the world, including the United States, but still no matches!

This just confirms that this is a deeply religious site for people who deeply believe in marriage. If I had chosen a religious option instead of "Not religious and not spiritual" then I am sure I would have found some matches. As I say, a total waste of time. I cannot say a waste of money because they didn't ask me for money at any stage, but truly a waste of time because this is a site for radical christians and mormons, not for normal people.

I would advice people against going for this service. It is a scam - that is topped off with an auto renewal in their system. I paid $140 for six months. I didn't want to renew, but apparently I got charged $140 for another six months. There was no warning, no heads up ahead of time that my account was going to be charged. And no, they do not refund it, even if you call right away.

There are several similar complaints about them all over the internet.

thanks
tc