Reviews of Match.com

Phooey on the people that use photos off of porn sites to pass off as themselves! It sends off red flags that it's probably some crime ring overseas or worse. Although it wasn't really related, NBC's "Dateline" did a story of some poor guy who fell in love with a woman, whom he was hoping to marry, via email correspondence. She needed him to send money all the time to help her with a business she was running overseas. She sent him hot pictures of herself to show how much she cared for him. The only problem was the woman was really one of those (Nigerian?) con men that scam people ALL THE TIME. An astute viewer pointed out that the pictures were of a professional model who showed off a lot more than her face. A lot of dating websites have that problem!

A key problem with the service is that are just too many men-seeking-women using it. Match.com should put a cap on it so there is an equilibrium on the gender, or better yet, have MORE women so it increases your chances. The male-to-female ratio is detrimental to the success of actually hooking up! By preventing extra males from signing up (e.g., the competition!), it would probably make it a little easier for the rest of us.

I never got to meet with anyone after several months of trying. I never even got to correspondence stage! Getting constantly ignored after all the time I spent trying to break the ice was infuriating. I had some winks (from the con men or other trash) which I ignored. I had, I think, maybe a total of 80 views of my profile. None initiated an email. Aren't they serious to meet someone? It's surprising to see how many guys here have been snubbed. Or rejected because the person misread a greeting. Or don't trust your profile. Or if you fall short of their high horse expectations, even if you are a great person and make a respectable living.

The email updates you receive showing your latest matches never respond when you write them. You are given the false impression that based on your profile a) these people are aware of you, b) like what they see, and c) would find you a potential mate. Going 0/40 is worse than any batting slump. Then again, I've pretty much had the same luck with job sites. I constantly get emails of great job openings in my area related to my skills and résumé. When I apply to these jobs, I get no responses despite my qualifications. Are the "positions" filled that quickly or do they not exist? (I'm referring to both the job and the women!)

I lasted eight weeks, Martin R. of Virginia wrote it best:

I agree with nearly all of the detractors. I went in with nothing and came out with nothing after several months. Match took my money and didn't do anything. By far the BIGGEST problem is that either none of the women are actually on there or are so stuck up and picky they contradictory to their profile. They are not as open as forthcoming and compassionate as they say they are. I got so fed up at having to write (not just wink) personalized hellos and making specific references to their profiles and them not even having the courtesy to write or wink back.

Unfortunately that describes Minneapolis in general if you are not from here (which I am not).

0/5

Well, my subscription ends today and I’m thrilled that it does because I’m no longer obligated to trying to use a defunct service that I was bored with one month into the six month term.

I rarely use this word to describe something but felt it was very appropriate for this situation. Match.com is a ‘dud’ like a black cat fire cracker that when the wick is lit it fails to ignite when it reaches the explosives. And just like Match.com there is no bang for the buck, only disappointment.

With Match.com there are simply not enough positive results to warrant a current client or potential client into believing in a slanted system.

My experience on Match has been absolutely horrible. It's pretty sad that people have to lie to try and make themselves look better. The profiles are just a bunch of BS and most of the pictures are old. Most of the men who have emailed me are abusing the site and using it for a hook up game or lying about their age. My whole experience with the whole internet "dating" thing has been a nightmare to say the least. Definitely do background searches on these people. Most are not who they claim to be and only out to use you and scam you. Match has also allowed married people onto the site as well. I saw one of my married neighbors on there. Match needs to screen their members before allowing them to have a profile.

I'm sure there are some great success stories out there, as well as some from those not so fortunate as I was. I was contacted immediately by someone whose profile was glorious with handsome photos. Widow with one son at home, world traveler in the gold biz. Five weeks of online chat was leading to our meeting after his trip overseas. Upon his departing even sent roses so that I would 'think about him while he was away.' And of course during that trip he lost luggage and ultimately asked that I send a laptop to south africa so he could complete business and get home. There were many signals along the way that things did not add up - bad grammar, no phone calls and repetitious emails with long romantic messages, an error in communicating with too many women and not keeping track. His photos can be found on several scammer websites under 3 different names. These scammers are professionals, pick up photos from modeling sites, etc. and know all the right words to say. Buyer beware. The more reliable are locals within your specified radius, short chats and meeting sooner than later, or moving on. Match should perform due diligence in background checks.

One person, Seagal2610 was among my headaches. I'm always paraphrasing movies/TV/pop culture (think of the dialogue used on "Gilmore Girls" and you know what I mean) to express myself. However, she didn't "get" anything I said and misinterpreted my humor as being condescending towards her. She wrote something back to the effect of "get lost." For some reason, she took great offense to one sentence and literally ignored the rest of my letter, which I talked about her profile and compared it to my own, with a nutshell description of who I am to go along with it.

With that off my chest, I agree with nearly all of the detractors. I went in with nothing and came out with nothing after several months. Match took my money and didn't do anything. By far the BIGGEST problem is that either none of the women are actually on there or are so stuck up and picky they contradictory to their profile. They are not as open as forthcoming and compassionate as they say they are. I got so fed up at having to write (not just wink) personalized hellos and making specific references to their profiles and them not even having the courtesy to write or wink back.

Sure there were plenty of fake women winking at me; it didn't take a rocket scientist to figure it out. It's like their profiles were randomly generated by a software program to make it appear that you were an ideal candidate for someone out there. That way they keep you in the service. But the problem was what little information was provided in the profile was either so vague or farfetched or had information that didn't match any of my criteria, it sent up a lot of red flags. Also in the "nice try" categories were all these women who were just fronts to get you sign up for some adult related site in Russia or one of those countries that now seem to be the biggest source for this sort of thing.

I am not that particular about a woman's background, whether if it's her ethnicity or how highly educated she is, or how much she makes. As long as she has a nice personality, is funny, and can see the inner beauty of others, great. Maybe she can appreciate the geeky side of men, the type that has to go movies on opening day or ones that still collect Star Wars toys after thirty years. Yet so many of them expect too damned much -- a lot of it superficial! You could be the greatest guy in the world, but if you're not (for example) white, have a Ph.D, or earn X amount of dollars annually, you can't and won't be considered. That was an issue I had; plenty of women would match my preferences, yet I matched little or none of theirs. A lot of profiles were sloppy and lazily put together. Without them making certain specifications clear it made it appear you would match their criteria -- when in fact, you don't!

"It's okay to look." is one of Match's advertising slogans. They take actual members, make them look like supermodels and the class of Match. But once you look at these profiles, you realize there's nothing special about them; it's the same picky, picky, picky people who always ignore you.

By the time I quit, of course I got more winks than I had as a member to lure me back. But I didn't buy into that since I knew from all the reviews (long before I was even a member) this happened all the time.

In all fairness, I believe I should also add this link to the rating I posted below.

http://www.online-dating-review.toptenreviews.com/

It seems to give a pretty good side-by-side analysis of several dating sites.

I haven't really been a member for all that long, a month, so I'm certainly no expert on match.com's practices yet. What I can tell you is this: Like about 75% of the people on here stated - you do get winks from "fake" profiles. Especially when you are first starting out.

You'll probably get a wink from some amazing sounding person shortly after you've joined and before you have actually posted a photo. When you check out the profile, it'll say there is no matching profile. They've obviously got a subroutine in their programming that sends new users "winks" from non-existing profiles.

That is very dishonest, and most likely illegal. If they continue with it and enough people contact the Better Business Bureau, match.com will probably hit the skids like Napster did when they got in trouble.

Another bit of advice: Read every profile with "blurred glasses". In other words, don't believe everything you see in someone's profile. Doing things like noticing if they claim to be very religious but one of their turn-ons is erotica. And you shouldn't believe that most of the women out there are into camping. I know a CRNP who told me she has a profile on there. I checked it out. She put on there that she likes camping, her REAL idea of roughing it is having to drink domestic wine.

Be totally honest about what you're looking for, and be totally honest about yourself in your profile. Also, don't believe that just because you're being totally honest, everyone else is too.

If, on the first date, you notice big discrepancies,
1. Bring them up in the conversation.
2. Let them know that you don't appreciate it then let them know it's not working out and politely excuse yourself from the situation.

To everyone that's genuinely looking: good luck. Dating sites can work, but don't let them work you over.

I met alot of women with my three month subscription. I generally had a date or two every weekend. I give match three stars for that. The site was easy to use, and I had none of the trouble cancelling my membership that others had. However, the concept of internet dating is seriously flawed in so many ways. First of all, no matter how much you like their profiles, or how much you talk on the phone, your never going to know what that person is about tell you meet them. Alot of them have pictures that are not current, have anger management issues, are still married, and/or they turn cold when they meet you. One told me that I was the only one for her, and that she was seeing no one else, and like that. When I was at her house she left her e-mail open. Suffice it to say that was far from the truth.

Believe me, people have 20 other contacts lined up behind you, so when you meet them, and you think you have hit it off, don't be surprised if your e-mails and phone calls are not returned. They probably found a minor flaw they don't like and they are onto the next person. Happened to me like that all the time. Their are alot of reprehensible people like that who won't even give you the courtesy of saying something like "your a nice guy, it was good to meet you, but your not for me". They go silent. I say to myself if that is how they are, thank god I did not get involved

Also, the profiles are BS. I love how everyone is a social drinker only. I only believe the ones who say they dont drink at all, or the rare one that said, frequently. Also, alot of them say they want someone honest. Just by saying that they are asking to be lied to. What guy is going to read that, and not contact her because he thinks of himself as dishonest. And the cliches are enough to make you want to step in front of a bus. If I ever hear "I am not into drama" again, I'm gonna pour gasoline on myself and lite a match.

Also, when you see someone you like, your not already supposed to know how many kids she has, if she smokes, what she does for a living, if she's into drama (where's my gas can). Your supposed to go up to her and strike up a conversation. If she is single get her phone number. That's how it is supposed to work. Not anonymous e-mails, and silly winks. One thing I have learned with this was how to be more socialble with women. It can be very intimidating to introduce yourself to a woman, but with practice, anyone should be able to do it. If you get rejected, suck it up and move on.

So my opinion is that the last three months on match was a big waiste of time and money. I did make one platonic friend and she is great. Everyone else sucked. And don't get suckered into those free dating sites either like POF. The quality of the people on the pay sites are low. Can you imagine what you would find on one of those?

My experience on Match was a mixed bag of tricks, lol! I've met a lot of nice men, as well as a few jerks. My biggest piece of advice is take your time. Don't be in a hurry and really DATE. Don't hop into bed with someone just because they appear on paper to be the perfect mate and you have great chemistry. It's easy to get caught up in it, because if you don't think it's working out there are 15 other emails waiting for you to go out with them. Too much of a good thing. People also tend to see their dates as disposable because there are so many people on Match. Common courtesy has flown out the window for a lot of people. No matter how uncomfortable it is to tell someone you just aren't feeling it, you should always be honest. It's only fair and right.

And by the way ladies, watch out for Santorini398 in Indy, he's a total player! He has a girlfriend in a another city and is on two dating sites, eewww!!! What a jerk!!!