Reviews of Match.com

I have to agree with a lot of the people on here. I think you have all nailed it. In today's modern world of dating there are drawbacks wherever you go. Dating online had a stigma to it once and now it doesn't as everyone's doing it. That's the problem. No one is taking it seriously anymore. It's like being a kid in a candy store and many think the next best thing will be around the corner. I think places like Match.com and Yahoo Personals are trying to market this in a way that will only lure serious people to the site to sign up and pay that overpriced $40 a month. The reason I say that's overpriced is because you're not getting what you paid for. It doesn't matter how good looking and put together one is, that doesn't mean they're going to find 'the one'. The big problem with these sites is not everyone is a member, so half the people you're emailing haven't shelved out the $40 and can't even read your email. That leaves 2 or 3 okay people left who are alright with meeting you because no one else has bothered to respond or write to them. There's little to no activity, but enough to garner this 2 stars.

Well now, where to start, THIS IS A WASTE OF TIME AND MONEY, to put it succinctly, i have been a member of match previously, and after my latest relationship (not met through match) ended i got back on there to try and get dating again, needless to say that was in March 2009 here we are in May 2010, and i have not had one date in that time, and had very sporadic email replies back from potential dates, and i am no quasi modo, i'm of average attractiveness, intelligent, witty and generally a good person to be with as i have been told.

But i can email and wink till i am blue in the face, and i do put thought into the mails i send but i never get any replies, lucky if i get a view, so i dont know if its me thats doing something wrong but i had fairly the same experience the last time i was a member of the site, except the last time i had a date with a complete psycho, so thats the type of memory i have of this site, waste of time and money, now i have a close friend who is also a member of this site and she has been since August 2009 who is a woman, and has been having a damn site better experience than i am, she gets loads of emails and has loads of dates, so i guess it really is easier for women.

I am ending a three month subscription to Match.com in a couple of weeks. My experience has been much the same as has been mentioned by many other customers who have reviewed the site here. I very diligently sent out well thought out emails only to get a very small percentage of responses (Roughly 100 emails, about 20 responses). Of those 20 or so responses, more than half fizzled out after another round of emails. Another few said they wanted to meet, yet didn't respond to the final email to set a date. That left 5 women that I actually had dates with. In each case, they seemed disinterested right from the start.

Right about now, you may be thinking that I am unappealing, and that is the reason for my failures in Match.com. While I have neither George Clooney's appearance or spending power, I am by no means a frog. I'm in my early forties, married once, am a fantastic single father, extremely romantic, well educated, six figure executive who is very thoughtful and engaging. I am just over 6 feet tall, and in very good shape. I chose Match.com to explore the dating world after divorce, as I have no interest in the bar scene as a method of finding a future partner. I thought it would be a nice, effective way to meet some wonderful women.

I believe that those who have indicated that women on Match.com seem to have a "perhaps the next one will be better" thought process going on. I'm not sure if anyone has mentioned it, but I would attribute that possibly to television shows like the Bachelorette. Perhaps many women on match.com feel more or less like the Bachelorette, being courted by dozens of men, and having the power to pick out the very best of all of them. Each and every day, she thinks that there is someone better than this out there, and I will find him. So, expectations and standards are set unreasonably high. Most emails get ignored, nearly all dates end with no follow up.

But, that's just one guy's take.

I gave match 2 stars because I know two women who met their husbands and got married from the site. But for me, the site has not been an effective way of meeting men I have things in common with. I have only been on for three weeks, but I can tell, it's going to be a waste of time. So, I haven't spent too much time perusing profiles. I agree with many of the comments about people seemingly having so many choices online and therefore playing games and being particularly selective. However, my reason for leaving a comment is just to point out that the reason so many of the people on here and on match are still single is evident in the comments left here. 42 year old men looking for real love with women under 30, and then complaining that these very women are too picky. Well, newsflash..... you are being just as selective and picky by only wanting to date women under 30, even though you are in your forties. When I was in my twenties i would never have even looked at a guy in his forties. And I would be offended if one attempted to ask me out. I'm now 32, and would definitely date someone 42 now, but still consider that a big age gap. But atleast I can relate to someone that age now. I woudn't recommend any 42 year old, male or female, to look for someone in their twenties, unless you look like Tom Cruise, and have alot of money. And someone suggested that average men should only aim for average looking women...etc. But that's not necessarily accurate advice. Some very attractive women prefer their men a little less attractive than they are. The reason why so many people are single, is because modern day media has made people believe that if you don't look like paris hilton, angelina jolie, brad pitt, or henry caville from the tudors, then you're "not good enough." And if we look deep enough, we will see we are all guilty of this to some extent. And that's why match doesn't work. People aren't looking for life partners, they're looking for a fantasy to validate themselves. My mother used to always say to me " some people pick and pick and pick until they pick sh*t."

First of all let me say that Match is reflective of people you would meet anywhere, so don't buy that crap that its only online dating that has the weirdo's and superficial people. I have met the same men through church, work, wine clubs, ect. and most importantly you have to sift through them. Men are the same regardless of income or education, and I have found nothing has changed from being single in my 30's to my 40's, so this review is going to be mostly for women.
If you are 30 or over most men are divorced with children, as well as women. But if you are a woman that wants not only to get married but to have another or more children, 9 times out of 10 the men do not. Or if you happen to not have children, the vast majority will say no way. They are afraid if it ends in divorce they will be paying two women. Also, the men TODAY want a pretty, slim wife who not only can cook but who will bring a decent income to the table. They will accept one child but too much baggage...forget it. Oh but that doesn't apply to them. That senerio is across the board, and why second marriages do not do well statistically.

My advice to women, is first keep your property separate if you decide to get married and have assets, because sadly I have seen many women lose everything in the end because they let love blind them. I kept a house separate and kept it rented and ended up paying it off so that was the best thing I ever did before I got married. Also, if you are a women with her clock ticking, you and I know you don't have many years....or you want to have a second child...my advice would be to do it at all costs. Your boyfriend, new husband doesn't agree.. too bad, he has his children already....you have a right to your wants and needs. I say this because I have also seen many women who never had kids or lost their assets to men they ended up getting divorced from anyways. So women you are going to end up with these men 9 times out of 10, but use good judgement and good psychology and don't necessarily show your hand. If you find someone you can click with then go for it....if these men didn't want more children they could have easily gotten fixed. So myself I have the children I want, the solid finances, but that was a goal I promised to keep....and if I had let the men in my life take that away from me I would only have myself to blame. So be realistic, and empower yourself.
And yes if anyone is wondering I am with someone longterm now, and am thankful that I didn't let others derail me because in the end you are responsible for your own happiness. So be savy, and be strong in your finances and you can pretty much get what you want.

You just need to understand that many men are unrealistic and selfish, and today its difficult to find the ones that want to take care of you and truly love you. Its about them, and what you bring to the table. And if they have children from other women, forget it...often you will be put last...especially if you don't have children together. Another good point, if you end up with a man and have no common children together its much easier for him to abandon the relationship, or put you last. How many times have you seen this....his ex comes first..she's still in the family functions...his children...his grandchildren. And if you're lucky to find someone to put your first, then your in the vast minority. So again if you happen to want kids...make it happen. If not, my advice would be to try and find someone that doesn't, but that is rare. Once again this is the major problem women run into, and the smart ones tell them what they want to hear and work to accomplish their goals whatever they may be.
Understand these basics, and you'll be sucessful...be niave and you'll continue to be disappointed. Good luck everyone.

I probably know more about match than anyone on here, so I think that any guy considering match should read this. From what I've found, the match experience basically echoes what the dating is like off-line. If there are plenty of available hotties (say in Miami), there will be plenty of them on-line in that area. I had great experiences in Atlanta and San Diego, had alot of fun with some hotties, but the experience has been awful in North Carolina. Basically, the majority of single women in the whole state on-line meet the stereotypes- unattractive, have kids, divorced, etc. The other type, which is a very small club, consists of women that are actually for me- I share many things in common with them, they are attractive, educated, etc. I've found that even these women largely have issues. They will e-mail me complimenting me on my pictures and profile, and then cut off contact for absolutely no reason. It's not like they found someone, either, because they are all still on-line six months later! Not only does that suck, but there aren't 10-15 other allegedly desireable women to fall back on like in other cities, so you have to be patient and wait quite awhile ( often more than a month) for the next one to come along and hope that she is somehow normal with minimal issues, unlike the others. In the end, it really doesn't matter if you are single in your 30's and a catch in NC, because the chances of finding someone in a pool of undateables is slim to none, especially if you are at all picky.

If you are in your 30's, single, and actually have standards, I would most definitely not recommend moving to NC, and most definitely not join match.com.

In general, when it comes to fake profiles anywhere, to spot a fake profile, I'd look for the following: If there is no local description on the left ( right below the pictures) for local favorite places (insert name of local place of tavern) or other parts, the profile is probably a fake, or the woman does not actually live where she claims. If the "about my date" section (in the middle of the profile at the bottom) is not filled out at all, the profile is probably a fake. Third, may seem obvious, but some get tripped up with this. Be very wary of profile pictures which only show head shots of women, ESPECIALLY when they claim slim/slender or athletic and toned. Chances are the woman is definitely hiding something, and a waste of your time.

Guys, it goes both ways. I am a cute, very young-looking (yes, I am often told so in real life) 5'4" 48-year old divorced professional woman. Do you know how many of the attractive men my exact age stipulate women 5'5" or over who make more than $50,000 and are younger than they are? ( I am a lecturer at a university). Also, while in real life men of all ages notice me, on here only men age 53 and over do! Sorry, but I'm not going to date someone who looks like a grandpa.

This great catch is giving up on Match and getting out in real life more, so great guys out there, I hope you will do the same.

I wrote a review a few weeks ago. I give it somewhere between 1 and 2 stars. I'll say a little more.

The site would work better, IMO if they did the following:

(a) All members were paying--that way you wouldn't be wondering if the person reading your email could respond.

(b) Profiles were screened more for "obvious" fakes and scams--they is a lot of 'low-hanging fruit' that would be easy to pick off.

(c) Pictures were formatted a little better. So many profiles have all these tiny pictures where you have to squint to see a single thing. I'll pay an extra couple bucks a month if it would mean that they could format the pictures better.

(d) They'd limit people to the number of "first" emails they could send out a week (to cut on the spamming). I realize that a lot of people disagree with me on this, but look at it this way: It doesn't serve anyone for so many women getting 20--50 emails a day. The good guys (such as you) get lost in the pile of the 'cut-and-paste' mass-mailing dudes she has to wade through. The only way so many women could be getting so many emails is that there are dudes sending out that many emails themselves in a day. Cutting down the number of "first" emails someone could send in a week would go a long way to limit the emails that land in someone's inbox to 'serious' inquiries only.*

*I get that match now has the VIP email, where you can send one such email a week, but it looks so cheesy. Lands in your inbox with a garish green stamp. Ewww.

First off, if "lexijenny" reads this, you're quite attractive, I'd totally go on a date with you, but you live in Korea. I don't know if you're looking for American men, but being in Korea automatically puts up a warning sign. Nothing personal. I'm sure you can read between the lines there.

Now about Match. I really don't know why anyone would pay for Match when you can go to OKC for free. It's basically the same thing (I think OKC's interface is actually better).

Before I knew about OKC, I used Match. One day (while a non-subscriber) I received an e-mail, and I was bored and lonely so I paid to reply. The profile turned out to be spam. When I wrote Match to refund me for signing up to reply to spam, they completely ignored me and didn't respond. Class act, Match.com. Never paying again.

I was on Match for nearly a year. I received several thousand e-mails. For quantitative purposes, I'd say the service was more than adequate.

Yet, the price is a consideration. A free site offers the same service; the same number of hits, and actually screened the matches as well if not better.

My personality profile focussed on my music and my picture was one of me singing with a band. This has a certain effect on women I guess. The enormity of the response baffled me. I am older (57) and am no longer looking for groupies, but the women all wanted to play that role.

If you are looking for an evening of fun; sitting by yourself with a rum and coke, Match.com will provide you with a lot of laughs, especially if you have no expectations of success. You'll get more than enough sad letters, it's true, but now and then you'll also get some real possibilities.

I'd say, get out more often! Go to places where you might meet women, and not just bars where you have to scream over the music to be heard. Go do the things you enjoy doing and you'll meet people who like to do the things you like. GET AWAY FROM YOUR COMPUTER AND TV! I recently met a woman at the library who knocked me out of my socks.

Above all, DON'T PAY FOR THE SERVICE. It's not worth it