Reviews of Match.com

MATCH.Com is a joke. The are the largest dating site, so one can assume that with a large population that it would be easy to find someone, right? WRONG!

This site is drowning in idle profiles. Women on dating sites are not there to seek a compatible partner, they are there to get their ego stroked..." Look at me, my inbox is full and I have tons of winks,I just dont know what do with myself" They can afford to pick and choice and be arrogant about it. WHY...because the men outnumber the women by a gazillion to one. Good luck trying to get noticed!

My profile was very well written, contained plenty of humor and atleast 5 pictures and still little responses. I noticed that leading up to my membership expiring, is where I got the most notice.

Truly pathetic.

What a terrible dating site and a total waste of money. A majority of the profiles are bogus and scams. It would be nice if match.com put some effort into screening members, especially the females. It's amazing how many women, regardless of age, state they are interested in men between 18-35. First sign of scam. Second, if they look too good to be true, they probably are. I've gotten to the point to where I can spot a scam profile just from the first photo. It's a shame match.com doesn't have that abiity, or interest to do so. So many of the profiles who respond, especially via IM, end up telling you some bull story about being in Nigeria for business, or were abandoned by their boyfriend and need a way to get back to the US. Third; many of the "real" members seem to be in some state of chaos, either in-and-out of a relationship, still hung up on a past relationship, or scarred by a past relationship. In other words, good luck trying to actually meet someone, and if you do, and things all went well, good luck if they are stable enough to actually follow through with the "words" or interest they express. So, the bottom line, be prepared to spend a lot of time, a lot of money, with the hopes of finding that needle in the haystack. Now I learn that yahoo.personals are transferring all their members over to match. What does that mean to you? Now you're going to have thousands more of bogus profiles and scammers trying to suck you into to something you didn't sign up for. Overall, match.com puts minimal effort into qualifying the profiles for their paying members. Just be cautious, beware, be smart.

Be careful about this site. I tried them out for about 2 months and got several winks and even met a couple of women that however did not work out for me. I think a lot of the winks are enticements to get you to sign up for longer terms and/or premium services. THE BIGGEST PROBLEM IS CHARGES TO YOUR CREDIT CARD AFTER YOU HAVE TERMINATED THEIR SERVICE. MY LATEST CC BILL (MAY 2010) HAD 4 CHARGES FROM MATCH.COM ON IT WHICH THE CC COMPANY CHARGED BACK OVER $132.00 AND I HAVEN'T BEEN A MEMBER FOR AT LEAST 6-8 MONTHS. THE CC COMPANY CLOSED THE CARD OUT AND ISSUED ME A NEW CARD AND NUMBER. SLEAZY TACTICS BUT THEY PROBABLY GET AWAY WITH IT WITH PEOPLE THAT DON'T CHECK THEIR BILL WHEN IT COMES IN.

Hi
I have emailed Match.com to ask them to stop sending me email so I should no longer be a member,
but emails still keep coming, in fact I am getting even more introductions than before.

Their conditions state that they can take another subscription in 6 months time UNLESS YOU CANCEL FIRST.

Ask yourself -
Is there a membership cancellation button on Match.com site?                                                        No
Is there a contact email on Match.com site?                                                                                           No
Do they ask you if you still wish to continue your membership                                                           No
Do they notify you that they are going to take another subscription                                                    No
What happens if you do not cancel your membership                                                                          They charge another subscription
What should you do to stop this                                                                                                                 Change your credit card number
What happens when you ask them to stop sending emails                                                                 Nothing
Would you find any Match.com complaints on Google                                                                           Many - many about payments taken. 
                                                                                                                                                                          
What does Consumer direct say?
With regards to the trader' failure to provide you with adequate notification of the renewal, you may be able to argue that this term is unfair under the Unfair Terms in Consumer Contracts Regulations 1999 (UTCCRs), which protect consumers against unfair terms in contracts that you enter into with trader. 

Load of other complaints

www.consumeraffairs.com/dating_services/match.html

http://www.complaintsboard.com/bycompany/matchcom-a1531.html

CH

first off..i wouldn't tell anyone to go to match.com..after 2 weeks of this site..i'm really ticked at the way they handle it !..let's dig deeper shall we ?...ok..why is it..when your not a paying person..you get all kinds of winks..or so called emails..but..soon after you sign up..thier profiles either show no longer there..or they haven't been on in 3 weeks ???..don't you think that's kinda odd ???..as stated on here..we send out all kinds of emails to these so called women from match.com..and we don't even get a '' thanks..but no thanks..i found someone ? ''..i'll tell you my thoughts on this..they are fake profiles to begin with !!...it's all about match taking your money....you visit thier site..do a search..they get you to fill out a profile..then they send you these '' so called matches ''..you go check these profiles out..and you say to yourself..hey..she's a nice looking woman..but..dang..i got to pay in order to email..or IM her..ok..you sign up..pay thier fee..just to log on..and discover this lady hasn't been on in over 3 weeks !!!..wth ??..sooo..you do more searches..find some ladies that may be a match..send them a email..all nice and stuff..then you never get a no thanks or anything !!!...oh..don't you just love it..when you get a match that might be 1000 miles from you ?..or not even what type of woman your looking for ???..geee..you would think after putting in your profile on what type of woman your looking for..and how close you want her to be to you..that they could send you matches that fit this..but nooooo..they want to send you matches they don't even come close to what your looking for !...now..lets dig alittle deeper on match..and i'm telling you this from the time i've been on this site so far..lets say your online at match..you do a search..you click on a profile..and it shows this lady has her IM me now on..you think to yourself..ok..i'll IM here..well..you do..then after not getting a response..you go back to the page you found her on..and all of a sudden..it show's her that she hasn't been online for over an hour !!..now..how can this be ??..you just seen her online !..personaly..i think match.com is nothing but a website that is scamming you for your money..i wonder how many of you have got a female to IM you..then give you some lame excuse that thier profile is fixing to be removed..< maybe because they aren't paying anymore >..hard to tell..they ask you to go to yahoo to talk there..well..you do..as your chatting with her,,you notice that her english isn't very good ??.either that..or she's just not a good speller ?!..either way..after a few chats..she tells you she's in another country..like.lets say itialy..then after a few times of chatting..she tells you that her wallet was stolen..and she needs some money to eat with..i dont know about you..but..this is a scammer from you know where !!..trust me on this men..do not fall for this !!!..and don't be surprised if the people on match.com is the ones behind these profiles..trying to get you hooked into paying for something that isn't even there to begin with !!..

Very interesting converstion here. With only a few exceptions everyone that posted here is intellligent, articulate, and demonstrates a healthy level of self awareness. I'm wondering were these people are at on Match.com, because I'm finding nothing but bubble heads over there.

One thing that I have found interesting in all of this is: for the women the two things that matter the most in online dating are how photogenic the guy is and how well he can write. Two things that in real life wouldn't even be in the top 500 things that a woman looks for in a man. But online it is the ONLY two things (apart from how tall he is and how old he is) that matter, because it's the only two things that can really be communicated through text and pictures.

Don't have a good, flattering picture? Your gone dude. You just got clicked past. Not a good writer? Forget about it. You've just been deleted.

And conversely, the things that in real life make or break a guy from a woman's point of view doesn't even get noted online. For example self-confidence: even though that is the characteristic that both males and females place high if not at the very top of the list of things they find attractive in potential mates there is no way you can learn that about a person by reading a profile and looking at a pic.

So my review is:

Men! Do not, I repeat, do not give these people any money! I can't speak for women, but for men this is pretty close to being an outright scam. Even considering the sleaziness of the site operators (e.g. fake profiles, fake emails, fake winks) the numbers are so ridiculously stacked against men that it is nothing but endless frustration. Even by Match's own published numbers %80 of the profiles are profiles of non-paying members. If you look at 10 profiles only 2 of them can be actually reached by email, and you don't know which 2 it is. If you email the others the email just dissappears, not returned, not marked undeliverable, just quietly deleted. Boom.

I briefly managed to beat the odds and make email contact with a female member who told me that she had gotten 68 emails during her first day on the site. To put that in comparison for the men: I have had my profile up for about 3 months and have only gotten around 120 VIEWS -- and 2 fake emails. And this particular young lady's profile was not even very attractive. If I were to rate profiles on a 1 - 10 scale I would rate her profile at about a 3 or 4. (I'm not rating her, just her profile.) And she got buried in emails. Men, these are odds we don't need.

If you are over 40 take note:

If your profile is good or bad it makes no difference. Any man over 40 (despite our real world experiences in dating) is search engined out. And the few women on match who are in their 40s are quite frankly scarey. I think that may be because the older generation still views the online world with suspicion.

A personal pet peeve of mine:

Women in their mid 30s that complain in their profiles about guys old enough to be their father hitting on them. This seems to be a popular fantasy among woman. Apparently it is their way of reassuring themselves that they are still the little hotties they used to be. Oh my! all these wealthy old creeps hitting on me! Gasp! ... Come on, Ladies! Reality check here: if you are in your 30s a man old enough to be your father would likely be nearing his 70s. Save the fantasies for the Romance novels.

So men, a word of advice:

Take that $100 dollars that you were considering spending on Match.com and go buy a well-aged Cognac and a fine Cuban cigar. Go out on your balcony at sunset, kick back, relax, light the cigar, take a nip from the Cognac, and reminisce about the beautiful women you have known in your past. The ones that for whatever reason chose to grace you with their presence -- it will be money better spent.

Steve is right in general that people are living in a fantasy, and if they were more realistic they would find a partner. A guy who is almost hitting 50 should not be hitting on 30 something women, unless he wants a Russian bride or someone only interested in his wallet. If you want a true partner be honest about yourself.

Also Steve there are certain realities out there that people must face, fair or unfair. I understand what you are saying about height, but the reality is most women want taller men, and most men desire attractive petite women, not large tall women. So a women who is 5 ft. is still desireable among most male types, so you can't compare that with men, its just not the same. Its also a reality that women value income and security over looks, while men value looks over a womens income. Those factors will never change among the mass population, its the main difference between men and women. When you see a wealthy not so attractive man with a young attractive women, it is merely a trade of money for beauty. But in the real world if one desires a REAL partner I agree what most have said on here, date close in age, interests, looks, ect. and you'll do better; be it online or elsewhere. If you have children don't force your children on your partner, you may not like your kids new spouse someday but you have to respect who they marry. Same goes for you, your children don't have to like your new partner nor does your partner have to like your kids, BUT they have to respect each other and act cordial. Your kids will grow up someday, and be gone but a partner is someone you live with for life, so you need to put your relationship FIRST if you expect to have a relationship at all. So many people practice self defeating behavior, and I've seen a lot of Match. If you have kids with a ex, fine but only do the pick ups and drop off, don't invite your ex to family gathering or any other functions. Put the ex in the past, otherwise you will unlikely keep a relationship, and why destroy your future over a past ex?? Amazing to me that so many do that who have children, move on or don't date because those are deal breakers for most.
Understand that when you look for a partner you also have to compromise and you'll never find a carbon copy of yourself, but don't expect someone to be a sitter for your kids, a pal for your ageing mother or your new cook or housecleaner. For women, don't expect your new man to solve your money and job problems or deliquent credit cards because too many women out there are looking to jump from one sinking ship to another. In other words, don't expect your new partner to solve your lifes problems, or put up with your past poor choices. I went out with a man once twice who paid child support to two different women, and complained he had little money left over, lol. Hello, you made the mistake of having other children when you already started a family, you could have gotten fixed ect. or not have slept around! This was a supposely a educated man, so be aware of those who want to whine about their past mistakes and haven't learned. Many not only on Match, but everywhere and you have to try and find out as much as possible before the coffee date, I learned that the hard way!

In short, Match is ok; just read between the lines, ask a lot of questions and if you end up wanting to date someone do a background check and go from there. Above all be realistic and don't life in a fantasy and you may just do ok!

I was on Match for several years in my mid 40s, but do not have experience on other sites to compare. Unlike what I've read here about E-Harmony, I did not have any trouble with Match when it came to credit card charges, and in the end, closing down my account. Though it was not a big problem, I think Match could have been a bit more responsive in dealing with obviously fake profiles and scams.

Though it led to a number of dates, and a girlfriend for a short time (still a good friend), overall, the experience fell pretty far short of what I had hoped. The 3 biggest problems were the large percentage of inactive profiles, a very low response rate (under 10%), and seemingly unrealistic expectations that many women seem to hold. I grew weary of reading a lengthy (and supposedly active) profile, writing a polite, thoughtful introduction, and getting nothing back but silence. I wasn't necessarily expecting even a written response, but is it asking too much to simply click the "No Thanks" button? Ignoring thoughtful, honest inquiries like that seems a bit rude to me. (And if you're wondering, yes, I always responded to inquiries sent my way.) Granted, I am not the most attractive guy, but I was contacting women around my own age at what I thought was a similar place on the "attractiveness scale". (Despite the postings here, this isn't Lake Woebegone -- we can't all be above average.) Though quite physically fit, I had relaxed my standards for fitness, realizing that many people probably have a tougher time achieving that than I do. I tried one experiment for few minutes, changing my height from 5-8 to 5-9. This quadrupled my number of matches, but misrepresentation is a line that I simply could not cross. I still don't quite get the large number of women who are barely over 5 feet tall and will only date guys over 6 feet tall. I think when you apply standards like that, you can't really criticize the guys who will only date slender young women. (Though I wasn't one of them.) I suppose guys may do this too, but I found it a bit off-putting when reading the large number of profiles that led off describing what a fantastic catch they are. If that were really true, then why has your profile been up here for years? I think that reflects some pretty unrealistic expectations, or self-delusion. Anyway, I think most singles could probably get something out of Match, but it is no panacea. You might have a bit more success if you are really active on the site, or if you overstate how "great" you are (but your conscience has to be OK with that).

Match.com is a great way to throw away money, in my experience. I was a member for 6 months, and met a grand total of two women in person from it. It's a buyer's market for women, as there were about five female profiles for every male in my local area. I sent dozens of initial emails, most of which never received a reply.
Those who replied often showed interest at first, then disappeared or made up some lame excuse when it was time to meet in person (ie, somebody better came along). A lot of the profiles gave me the impression that they were not seriously looking, or were already in a relationship and shopping around. Others had unrealistic expectations, and appeared to be looking for some fictional character from a romance novel who doesn't exist in the real world.

There are much better alternatives out there. After wasting a lot of time and money on paid sites like Match.com, I joined a few free dating sites and actually got a lot more responses on them right away (this made me wonder if match is even a legitimate site, if my emails were even delivered, if a lot of the profiles were fake, etc.). In the end I found a great person who turned into a long term relationship in the craigslist personals, of all places.

So, I'm sitting here in a public computer lab, and I happen to look over at this guy going through profiles on match.com. This dude is skinny and scrawny--in sort, very average-looking, very nerdy. Not surprisingly, he keeps bringing up profiles of the most attractive, scantily dressed women I've ever seen--all of them at least an 8 if not a 9 or a 10--and blowing up their pictures so that they take up the entire screen. He's not reading their profiles (duh), just looking at their pictures and scrutinizing them for flaws. (Is her nose too big? Are her breasts real?) It's the f'ing creepiest thing I've ever seen. Moreover, I feel like sparing him the inevitable heartbreak: these women are never going to email him back. And lastly, I'm relieved that I'm no longer on match.

This is why online dating fails for men and women alike. Online dating, and match.com in particular, are 95%--perhaps 100%--about looks first, and superficial criteria second. If you're not at least a 7 (make that an 8), don't bother to apply. If you're a guy and under 5'8", walk away and save yourself some money. If you have a "curvy" figure, run. Don't waste your time writing a witty profile--your picture/height/income is going to be the go-to thing anyway.

Perhaps you have a great personality. Perhaps you're twenty pounds overweight but carry it well. Perhaps you're 36 but look 28. Perhaps you're a short, chubby bald guy, but everyone loves you because you're so damn witty. Whatever. It's not going to come across in your profile. You'll be passed over.

Average-looking people are both the victims and the perpetrators of this nonsense. Most average-looking people (especially men, I'm afraid) have an inflated perception of their looks, or they believe that they're the exception--that the hot guy or girl will be so amazed by the charm of their email that they'll be willing to overlook all of those pesky physical flaws. Nope, not gonna happen. Not on match, anyway. At the same time, they'll pass over other average-looking people--people who might actually email them back--because they believe they're entitled to date a good-looking person. Thus, everyone ends up disappointed.

I walked away from match.com about a month ago. Since that time, I've joined many real-life activities and have had a lot of fun. On the whole, I think online dating is a crutch. It makes you feel like you're out there, being proactive about your dating life, when in reality your best opportunities are passing you by. And online dating turns you into a commodity. It's gross and creepy. I'm sad that I wasted two years of my life on online dating sites when many more interesting, charming people were available in real life, and for free.