Reviews of eHarmony

I'd say NO stars actually, for eHarmony. Free trial? 3 days into a 7 day "FREE TRIAL" I get hit up with a $50 a month bill to "COMMUNICATE" with a local match. If she's local I'm sure I'll meet her somewhere sooner or later. eHarmony SUCKS!

I received very few matches until I cancelled my subscription. I then received more matches in the 1-2 months after I cancelled than the whole 10 months I was with EHarmony. I have also found out that they still show my profile and I have had zero luck in have my profile removed. Now I know why some on my matches didn't respond, they most likely were not active anymore.

I don't appreciate eHarmony's practice of debiting my credit card the minute I signed up for a 7-day "free" trial period. IF I decided to stay, I said I would pay the 3-month rate. After "matching" me with men I could have met at Wal-Mart, I called customer service on Day 5 to cancel my "free" trial and told them I did not want the 3-month package. The young man said there was no problem and they would credit my Visa within 1 to 3 months! I think they should wait until the 7-day trial period is over before they charge my Visa anything. They were too quick to run that through but somehow can't manage to refund my money for 60-90 days.

I gotta tell ya, this ereview site is a lot more entertaining than most of these date sites. I filled out the eHarmony questionaire just to see what all the fuss is about (endless commercials on tv). And I think their entire schtick is geared towards grabbing your money not finding you a compatible date. First of all, you can't determine compatibility from multiple choice questions. That's absurd, especially since most people answer as their ideal selves and not their true selves. Who cares if you and she like to "eat"? It does not a relationship make. So finally, someone responds to my "questions" but I have to sign up and pay through the nose to read her answers or see her photo. Ah, it's not gonna happen. I received a bunch of "matches" with whom I apparently had many things in common: for instance, we'd both be "problem solvers" and we both "value our family". This is beginning to sound like psychic cold reading. The service claims to have 4000 marriages. But there are 8 million people on it. That means 1 in 2000 people on eHarmony has gotten married. Great odds! Go to a bar instead, I'm sure the chances of hooking up are at least 1 in 200! Ten times better! I will not be signing up for eHarmoney because they've showed me nothing. I've never had to lay out hundreds of dollars before just to see someone's photo. The cutsie commercials on TV are all real sweet. That old grehaired guy reminds me of the Nabob Coffee man. Remember him? In fact, I thought it was the same guy.

I'm getting married in six days to a man I met on eHarmony.com. According to the other reviews here, I must be extremely lucky, but for me eHarmony worked like all the advertising suggested. He was in the first group of seven matches I received and he's the only one I met. Both of us are physically fit and very athletic. We are also educated, have careers, and aren’t crazy. I was matched with some people I wasn’t attracted to, but that’ll happen with any on-line dating service. My fiancé and I have so much in common, but complement each others differences. Everyone close to us believes that we are perfect for each other. We've been dating for more than 2 years and it's been great. We have had a few challenges along the way, but who doesn't? I feel lucky every day that he is in my life.

It was my experience with eHarmony that once I stopped responding to their new matches and didn't visit the site for several months I received an inactivation e-mail stating that the site was taking me out of the data base. This way I wouldn't continue to be matched with others. My fiancé had the same situation occur.

I understand that many people just take the profile test then never sign up, and that was my intention too. But then I became curious and thought I'd join for the trial. Then I saw his picture and he started communication and it just took off. We went out a few times before there was chemistry, but we both didn't close the door right away because it wasn't love at first site. Once we started to get to know each other then the chemistry happened. All of that said, I understand why they put people in the data base that haven't signed up. I can only speak from my experience, but it worked perfectly for me.

Right now I’m creating a slide show for our wedding. Maybe I’m a lucky 1 in 1,000, but I owe it to eHarmony for that. On a side note, his mom also has met her boyfriend on eHarmony. It took her about five months before being matched with this man, but once they met their relationship has really taken off. I wouldn't be surprized if I'll be making another slide show for a wedding in the next year or so.

I filled out a profile on eharmony to try and locate my ex-boyfriend - to see if he was already getting out there dating. So, I fill out the profile, a few days later I am matched with someone who shared the same name and some other similarities. Well, of course I can't look at the picture unless I buy a subscription. So I do that. I figure out it's not the ex and I cancel. The ex calls some kind of contact he has at eharmony and they gave all my information to him... communication w/ matches, when I set profile up, when I cancelled, etc. It's really nice that they value your privacy - RIGHT! It's safe to say the ex hates me because he thinks I lied about looking for him on there.

This is in response to Patty, from USA:

It should be obvious why he was allowed. Like many other people that use dating services, he lied. Unless you're a glutton for punishment, I wouldn't worry about what he does or waste the energy trying to make his life miserable. He'll do enough of that on his own.

I would have to say E-Harmony is probably the worst matching service ever. I've used it once a couple of years ago under a free trial membership. All of the matches I got either never showed their photos or were completely the opposite of what I was looking for in regards to physical appearance. Its also a breeding ground for cheaters for the obvious reasons that Patty has pointed out. Unlike many of the other online dating services, you can't go on there & do searches by location, physical attributes, age, etc., which is why I feel E-Harmony is more popular among unscrupulous people. As I've pointed out in a review I had written on here the other day about match.com, we can't lay all of the blame on the dating services themselves. Its the large number of a$$clowns using them that turn good online dating sites bad. Like I've learned studying theology, you can take man out of a sinful environment, but you can't take the sin out of man. Its kind of the same way with these online dating services: You can make a lot of changes to an online dating service to make it better; but you can't change the people that are using/abusing them.

Ha! Am I glad I found this site! I should have guessed it was a bunch of crap. You know what they say, "if it sounds too good to be true it probably is!"

However, I am still looking for a way to contact Eharmony without getting an account. You see, my husband signed himself up and is active in their community. We are separated, so when I found this out, I went to the site and filled out pages and pages of questions too! I must have answered them honestly, because they rejected me because I had indicated that I was married or separated and not allowed to participate. So, my question is: why was my husband allowed? I have emailed them via their contact button and they cannot help me because my email is invalid and I need an account email to get any response. I have come to the conclusion that they really don't care if there are wolves in sheeps clothing among their clientel. All those obese women I have read about on here can have my husband. I left him for good reasons. But, being the "bitter" woman that I am, I just wanted to bust his chops for telling big lies to get himeself dates.

My daughter found his profile from his computer and sent it to me. Even she noted that it was full of, as she puts it, "dead lies". Alas, I will keep searching for a way to contact them. If anyone knows, post here. I'd appreciate it!

My experience with eharmony was great. I looked at a lot of different dating sites before choosing this one. What I liked about eharmony was that the process allowed you to get an idea of what the person was like before getting to the stage of direct communication. I was on the site for 1 1/2 months when I met the man that I am now in a serious relationship with. His experience on eharmony was also positive, although he was on it for three years before we met. I have two critisms of eharmony. The first being that it will atomatically renew you're membership, unless you disable this feature. The second is that even after your membership has expired you are still kept in the "dating pool." One tip I have to offer is to look for coupon codes before signing up, I was able to find one that gave me six months for the price of three. Overall though I think it's a great service, I never would have met my boyfriend if it hadn't been for eharmony.

I'm a 48-year-old widower. I used EH April '05 and had a relationship that was fun but not a match. Met someone a month later and we were together over a year. Her complaint was EH's method matched our personalities too much alike and didn't compliment each other.

Got back on this week and have several matches. I'm communicating with a few, closed some out based upon answers, as it should be and bet by this weekend or early next week will be meeting one or more in person. About half initiated the communication with me.

Not a religious fanatic and didn't place any emphasis on meeting someone who was deeply religious. Don't work for EH or even know anyone who does.

No problems at all.