Reviews of eHarmony

If there had been a minus star I would have submitted that for a rating. I have been subscribed with eharmony for several months now, and only one of your matches ever completed the questions, and after a couple of communications, there was nothing more from him. All of the rest did not even have the courtesy to answer the first set of questions. I never expected Mr. Perfect, Mr. Handsome, or Mr. Wonderful.......but you folks did a very poor job of providing possible matches. I would not recommend eharmony to anyone at this point. When my matches thinned out to no new matches, your suggestion was, basically, to lower my standards. Sorry. I don't intend to scrape the bottom of the barrel to get a date. I don't think that I am Ms Perfect or a beauty queen by any means.....but I am certainly not a "dog", so please don't try to place the blame for your mismatches on me. Thanks for the chance to let me vent. At least you did provide that for me.

Ok, so I've been reading some of these reviews and they are pretty bad actually. But, as of right now I really can't disagree with them. I joined eHarmony about 5 weeks ago because I was sick of meeting the same immature party girls out and about at restaurants, bars and clubs. So I thought hey, maybe the online dating sites will work better...Maybe the women on those sites will be better relationship material. I'm 5 weeks into a 3 month membership. So far I have been sent almost 300 matches. 247 of those I have closed out for one of the following reasons...either their physical appearance was HORRIBLE!!!!...seriously ladies...gym memberships are NOT a huge monthly expense....or there was never any response from the women that I was matched with. I think that there are A LOT of profiles on there that are either fake or that were filled out and then the women never actually paid for the service...so that means they can't communicate with me or see what I look like...or the women just didn't seem like my type at all...meaning they didn't have any of the same interests, hobbies or goals. So that means there are about 50 women that I haven't closed out yet...I'd say about 35 of those have never answered my first set of questions but they were cute enough that I didn't totally dismiss them for that....yet...lol...hopefully they will get off their cheap asses and actually pay the money to communicate with their matches. After talking to the 15 or so girls that I have made it to the "open communication" stage with...I'm interested in MAYBE 2 of them....I've been on one date and it was HORRIBLE...she was totally weird in person...no sense of humor or playfulness at all...just all business...like you could hear her clock ticking and she was interviewing a potential sperm donor...lol...AND...she was much older looking in person...not bad...just older...she had obviously posted some OLD pics on her profile. At this point I am VERY dissatisfied in the matches I have received...and I would NOT suggest this service to a friend. I have been reading what some of these women are writing about the men they are finding on eHarmony...and while it is pretty humorous...I am a totally normal guy...WAY above average compared to the descriptions they are giving....I'm 33...I have been married once...for 2 years...and that was 9 years ago...no kids...no baggage...never been to jail...never had a restraining order issued on me...lol...never been required to take medication to "regulate my mood" or been asked to wear a straight jacket...I have a good job...good friends...I'm close to my family....I'm still friends with some of my ex's...I'm well educated...in good shape(work out 6 days a week)...I'm tall...I still have all of my hair AND all of my teeth...lol...I don't do drugs...I rarely drink...and I have LOTS of hobbies, goals and ambition.....AND...I can cook and iron!!!...HA!!!...anyway...don't waste your money on these websites...

I signed up with eH in early March of 2006. Over the next 3 months I received a total of 48 matches. Out of these I found, just from observing the profiles, that most of these women were very dysfunctional. I communicated openly with maybe half a dozen of them. Others were dropped earlier in the process.
I found the process to be very mechanical at first, which I really appreciated. The questions and "must haves/can't stands" were very revealing in terms of past relationship disasters. I think one of the keys to eH is to ask the right questions the first chance you have. All but 2 matches were discarded very early in the process. I met one for dinner and a movie. She lived too far away and we really weren't that good of a match but it was a pleasant meeting. If I saw her again I'd give her a hug hello.
The last match that I communicated openly with turned out to be a very good match. We started communicating in early May 2006 and met for the first time on May 25,2006, I still have the receipts from that date. On May 16, 2009 I asked her to marry me and she accepted. No date yet as merging 2 lives at 46/49 is much more complicated than at 25/26.
In conclusion, I found a lot of garbage on eH but because of the stringent steps none of the garbage got anywhere near me. eH is not a pick up site. It is a place where you can have anonymity while searching for that right person. Understanding how to use it is very important. I would recommend them to anyone serious about finding the right person.

I've met several wonderful guys on eHarmony, and dated a man I met on match.com for over nine months. I've been reading the reviews about people who were deceived or had bad experiences with online dating. I'm writing this review in hopes of helping others weed out the bad apples.

Between eHarmony and match.com, I've been matched with five men with domestic violence actions in their past, and one pedophile. Surprisingly, the majority were on eHarmony. I work in family law. Here is how women and men can protect themselves prior to meeting: Many states have public, online court record searches. Google as follows - "(Insert name of state) State Courts" - and locate the "search case records" link. Enter the first and last name of your match. You will be able to find out the factual date of their divorce, or if they really are divorced, and also, a record of prior domestic violence and DUI or drug convictions. You can then make an informed decision as to whether you want to continue to pursue the relationship. It's up to you.

If you are talking with a person for a long time from a distance, and seriously considering this individual as a potential life partner, it is good sense to take care of yourself. If your state has no public records search, and you sense something odd, or have noticed a few inconsistencies in prior conversations, it might pay to spend the $19.95 for a basic background check, or the $39.95 for a more advanced check. There are several companies available on the internet who do searches or background checks. It's worth the money, if you forestall serious harm, such as one reviewer experienced below. With one of my matches, a few things he told me just didn't line up, so I paid for the complete background check. Am I glad I did! He had been lying in several areas, and was also actually living with a woman.

Of course, the same precautions apply in any dating situation, not just online. I've become more cautious but not discouraged; as I mentioned, there are many wonderful and sincere people on online dating sites. Follow your intuition. Happy and safe dating to all.

Why waste time setting up a free account to talk to nobody. Are people really just opening there wallet before they even confirm there are real people that want to talk to them? maybe have some sort of communication ability. Everyone needs to say no! to subscribing to them so they lighten up the communication restrictions. Don't just hand money over because Tammy in hoo flang doo likes camping too.

Do you get charged to test drive a car?

YOUR NOT GETTING MY MONEY eHARMONY! NEVER! HAHAHA

p.s. eat shyt, and suk it!

It seems like they really just match you by keyword. Someone that seeks "adventures" is more likely to end up with someone who likes to watch "adventures"on TV. The customer service is the worst. I complained about spam from their advertisers..and I mean many times a day from just one! They replied...oh, you don't want emails? I guess that we will stop emailing you your matches....just pure stupid responses. They have many advertisers on their site. Telling you to sign up for free advice. The "free" advice is to buy their advice book or buy their advice. Its just a trick to get your email and then your spam hell begins. And they want you to trust them to find your soulmate??!! Save your money.

The purpose of my review is to warn everybody - women and men who got hooked on commercials about on-line dating services. Since I got divorced, I have been looking. I am considered an attractive girl by most standards, and I keep in shape. Over the last few years I have tried three major industry leaders: match.com; e-harmony and perfectmatch.com, each of them for about 3 months, e-harmony for longer. I knew personally 3 women who met their significant others online in Chicago, New York and Dallas, respectively. (For two of them it worked fine, not for the third one though, the guy she met and married turned out to be a total disaster, something similar to Laurie's case.) Anyway, I was hopeful but unfortunately, all I got was disappointment, unpleasant emotions and waste of time and money. These services might work in the biggest cities because there is more choice but not in a place with a population less than a million. My major concern is the quality of people who choose online dating. They are typically men (don't know about women) with serious personality disorders, addictions, behavioral problems, other diagnoses, and/or complete lack of social skills. Most of them are aware of their conditions, so they create fake profiles online. I have met a few guys personally. Being always very cautious, nothing bad ever happened to me but nothing good either. A couple of men looked normal but there was no chemistry whatsoever. Two others I dated for about a month and a half each. Both were quite a sick experience, even though they were professionally successful which actually mislead me. They have been constantly on some Internet dating site for the last five years, and my guess is that matching dot coms are full of similar online dating zombies. I talked over the phone with a few other men who said they wanted to meet in person, and then just vanished ... married or fake was my guess. One of my favorite weirdos was a lawyer from a nearby city who kept disappearing and showing up again. We finally met. He was completely unattractive and looked and acted oddly. We spent 10 min. together over a coffee then he said, I am gonna go, jumped and ran away without even saying good-buy. Moreover, I met a few men with confirmed psychosocial problems through other real life activities. I decided to run a search, and surprise-surprise - found them all on match.com!
The quality of the services was another problem, they really do not send your communication to the potential match immediately, and try all shady tricks to get you to renew your membership. E-harmony are the worst.
Last, I read the results from a survey done a couple of years ago. The percentage of people who met and got married in real life without even actively looking, was much higher than the percentage of those who found somebody through online dating services. I will never try online dating again. Here is my advice: don't assume that everybody online is there with the sincere desire to meet a compatible match for a relationship and marriage. Save your money and get out to do something else with it. Your chances are better.

I have been on eharmony for almost 3 months now with 3 more to go, this is the first time i ever tried any online dating service. I live in a rural area and it is hard to meet anyone where i live, not that i would want to anyway! The commercials seemed very convincing so i subscribed for 6 months. I answered all the questions truthfully, long process however! They must have given me around 200 total matches up to this point, i had to expand my search to 120 miles though i didn't want to but what i can say so far is i don't know what 29 "dimensions" they go by because the women they matched me up with have nothing in common with me. In fact most of the women they matched me up with were the very same types that i was trying to avoid in my hometown area to begin with! I rated intelligence very high every question i was asked about it, here almost every match the women described the type of guy they were looking for and it was the complete opposite of me, the few communications i did try to initiate i never get responses, many closed on me before i even knew i was matched with them, the few i did get to open communication that i did get along with they wouldn't want to talk on the phone or meet for a date even though i gave it time.

I am a very attractive guy who posted several photos of myself, i work in a respectful career as an electrician, i didn't think i would have the problems i am currently having with the site. I will not renew my subscription with eharmony, i actually had better luck meeting women in person! I'm sure eharmony works for some people but i think for some people you are better off trying another dating site where you have more control over who you have contact with. Another thing people need to take into account is that even online you are competing against other people you don't know about who are communicating with the same match you are. I heard Chemistry and Gofish are pretty good, heck they can't give me anyone less compatible then eharmonys "experts" did!

I received over 500 matches during two free eHarmony holiday weekends-so I was never out any money. I dated 5 of those matches: 2 for less than a month each; 1 for three months who was married- although he posted in his profile that he was divorced;1 for 6 months who continued pursuing relationships on eHarmony after we moved in together; and 1 for a year who was addicted to alcohol and pot- I was very clear in my "can't stands" that I didn't want to be with a substance abuser. All three said they were Christians, all three said they lived with integrity. eHarmony is the only online dating site I have ever used, so perhaps the same kind of men troll the other sites as well. I will not use eHarmony again, nor any other site.

The ratings on this site seem very bad, but I know 3 different people that got married from eharmony. They were very fortunate.

Laurie, my heart goes out to you. I am so sorry for your experience. As a recovering depression survivor, and I can tell you that God heals everything you mentioned. I will say prayers for you. If you want any encouragement you can e-mail treadguider@yahoo.com and I will give the best Christian advice I can.