Reviews of eHarmony

I joined eharmony on Aug 9. The few matches I received were not anywhere what I expected, far away, not at all what I would consider. I don't know about this patented technique but I beleive eharmony is a scam. They will not refund the remainder of my subscription.

When I called to cancel my account it was recommended due to large call volume to call back between 11pm and 7am PT, however I chose to wait on hold for about 45 minutes.

As bad as I thought match was, it's an order of magnitude better, because there I can at least weed out the weirdos.

I would not recommend eharmony to anyone

I joined eharmony because of all the commercials. It sounded great but soon after I joined I received matches who looked out of my age range, who lived too far away or men I had no interest at all in meeting. After a week, I would receive maybe one or two matches and again no one I would be interested in. I've been on it now for two months and haven't received anymore matches except for the first two weeks. I believe this is one of the biggest rip offs and I wish someone would shut them down. They are spending thousands of dollars in advertisment and ignoring what people need from a dating site. I wouldn't recommend this site to anyone.

I signed on to the eharmony site this afternoon and it gave me a personality test to fill out.

Well so then I spent an hour or so filling out the long and tedious questionaire. I have answered many questionaires through my life and my impression going through this one was that they didn't have a clue what or why they were asking the questions. Some of the choices I could have rated either "best" or "worst" depending on interpretation of them. That should not happen in a well thought out process.

Finally I got to the end of the tedious process, and then they want me to sign up to get listed???! Huh????

Why didn't they post that at the beginning of the thing.

Even then, they don't list a price, until I press a button to sign up. I clicked their FAQ and apparently many people have been complaining to them about their high prices. So I clicked them off and came back to here.

My suggestion is to read the ratings here, and then don't bother with eharmony.

There are free sites on the web that are much better than they are.

I joined eharmony mainly because the commercials - although cheesy - sucked me in. At first I was overwhelmed with matches - as quickly as I received matches the reality started! Out of 200 matches I received one in my town and one with in 50 miles. Then the matches started the ego crushing "closed" procedures! Various reasons - too far, taking a break, etc. I had one match that actually made it to open communication and he closed it! So you go through all the question asking, answering etc only to have him close it for "Rather not say".

I was totally disappointed with eharmony and now shake my head when I see their commercials of people telling us how happy they are finding their match. I think it may happen, however, few and far between. I do believe that if eharmony was to take a poll of all the people that have joined and the actual matches that were made to the point of meeting and lasting longer than six months - well we all know eharmony would never do that as it would be extremely unfavorable to entice future members.

Save your money people, go about what you love to do and eventually the "right" person will come into the picture - naturally . Good luck to all!!

i signed up with eharmony in January 2006. after how many months nothing? i am fed up. i can't get any money back. a woman who works there said, 'thats human nature'. i am 65 years old and nothing. i am fed up. i think they try. the reason i chose eharmony is because dr. warren is Christian, therefore he has ethical principles. i admire that. but after all this time, i feel like "i have two words for eharmony"(you can guess what i mean). i had a really good 'intuition'' about one woman, AND NO REPLY. SHE DIDN'T EVEN SAY "NO". that hurts. how much heartbreak can i take? like i said when i had a bunch of referrals, "i don't want 31 shots(i.e. get rejected thirty one times; i've had enough)". but i think they try. i won't make any bad jokes about them(and how i can!)

An open correspondence to Dr. Warren:

Dr. Warren, I telephoned you five years ago when you started this site to tell you that I had been planning a similar site for several years and wanted to work with you. You politely told me to call back when I really had something. I have not made the call even though our website, Person2Know.com is up and running.

I was glad to see you were having success with the idea that people could use psychological tools to shorten the discovery time, and even avoid those who need treatment, when seeking that most important relationship.

I still believe that you are on the right track... but haven't found all the answers... at least not for all those who are looking for someone on your site. There is still more, much more, research needed, and I hope that you are putting some of those millions that you are making into that research.

Last year's article in USA Today says that you are distancing yourself from Dr. James Dobson so that you will not turn off those who are not Christians. I think that this is a really big mistake, and that you are now going to open the flood-gates to people you cannot help, and who will detract from the good thing that you had going.

I am sure that you are still friends with Dr. Dobson. He is one of the really bright, shiny stars in the constellation of Helping Professionals. And it was your appearances on his program that propelled eHarmony into its first steps toward success. Where else could you have purchased such a wide audience of trusting people at that stage of your walk?

Now you have millions... silk suits... new kinds of friends... and a lot of angry people who are not finding a "soulmate". You may want to return from whence you came before it's too late to get through that gate.

Kindest Regards,

Will

I tried it before and got lots of matches, none remotely close to my personality. I spoke to a few guys through the website and on the phone. I'm sure they were nice but were not the ideal matches I had expected. After 6 disappointing months I let my subscription lapse. While I could not respond, they sent me constant matches so I decided to perhaps try one more time. As soon as I paid my money, I am lucky to get one match a month. When you list what is important to you, I listed heighth because I am a tall woman. They send me matches that are 5'5". I have noticed that the "soulmates" on their commercials all look like brother and sister. I guess there is no single man on the planet with my nose!!!!! Don't waste your money. Instead of giving you hope, it leaves you feeling like a battered spouse.

>I did read that highly intelligent people and those who >restrict the race of their matches receive far fewer - >maybe open up your options a little and you'll get more.

Men who are intelligent can put up with less intellegent women as long she is pretty. Women who are intelligent find it impossbile to put up with less intelligent men even if they are handsome. This is evolution, fact of life. Short term flings any combination can happen, I'm talking about long term relationship wise.

Some race or skin color are more attractive than others, so opening up the option is not an option as if you don't find purple attractive, why would you want to date someone who is purple?

Too many good women will never be able to have natural children b/c men on these internet sites are all looking for 25 - 30 year olds, even if they themselves are 50.

Yesturday's paper says that men > 40 have genes that can mutate and give children psychological diseases..., so if you are a man over 50, you better bet on a woman over 40 as the ones below 40 will only think of you as old geezards.

Everyone should stop shooting for the moon and be realistic about what you can offer and what you are looking for. Otherwise it's all a big waste of time.

I am pretty surprised by all the bad reviews on this website since my experience on eharmony was so positive. I really liked that they only gave me a few matches at a time because it gave me time to read through the profiles I was sent and actually think about whether the person might be interesting or not. Most of the guys I was matched with weren't my type physically or had dissimilar interests. Of course, the system matches you based on your personality and goals, so maybe if I met someone who was really into dungeons and dragons or motorcycles, I might become interested in those things too because I liked their personality. I guess this is the website to use if you want to meet someone that you would get along with well and are willing to be a little more flexible on things like appearance.

I, of course, have a happy ending in that the first person I met in person is really, really well matched. We're constantly shocked at how much we have in common and how perfect we are for each other - and we NEVER would have crossed paths socially otherwise.

I did read that highly intelligent people and those who restrict the race of their matches receive far fewer - maybe open up your options a little and you'll get more.

It also totally makes sense to not let people who aren't paying for the service communicate with members. It is a business, not some altruistic venture.

I have been reading some of these reviews, and to a certain extent, I agree. I had no problem finding people with whom I could communicate with, I had a few dates, some phone calls...sometimes I was the closer, sometimes I was the closee (that's life in the dating game) My biggest concern with this sight, is the fact that they turned me "off". Let me explain, I was getting between six and eight matches a day for about three and a half months, when suddenly the well went dry. No more compatable matches within 60 miles...so I expanded the search distance, now mind you, both parties need to be willing to do this farther search. Still nothing, I opened it up to "Anywhere in the World" still nothing. As an experiment, I changed my home city to my home town in California. They still had no matches for me!!! I am having a lot of trouble believing that in the entire tri-county area, that includes Santa Barbara, Ventura, Camrillo, Oxnard and several other towns in between (well over 400,000 people), THERE WAS NOT ONE COMPATABLE PERSON FOR ME. To my way of thinking, this means that they stop sending matches, possibly as a way to get you to resubscribe, even though you are a paying member. Any way, good luck to all!