Reviews of eHarmony

I am going to be as fair as I can.

There is only one real problem I have with this sight, and that is the honesty of the people when they do their profiles. I think the system would work great if people were more honest about their profile. The matches I get have very confident and self assured profiles, but the minute I start trying to generate deeper convos, the ladies just quit. I am not talking about nasty sex convos, amd just talking aobut just regular clean convo. When someone has "Jeasus is my savior" in their profile, you would think that clean convo would work. Or you run into the ones that are only on for the free period.

Overall, I think that the sight is a good idea gone wrong. I will be cutting my presence short. It is far easier to meet women on the street, and know what they are really allabout then the fake ones I have been metting online.

Here is another problem I notice. All it takes is a person that never gets any attention in life, then they go to a sight like this. Now they get attention, but now they have choices. This person that would have not been picky before, now turns into super snob. Now Joe at the gas station is not good enough. Even though that is the level they are really on....go figure.

I have been online since I was very young, and have met many friends and a couple of long term relationships online. I have never seen it this bad. The odds are really against something like this working, not because of the system, but because people are not any different, they are just online!

If there was less than 1 star I would give it. I signed up for eharmony 1 month ago, I got what I thought was 1 month of service. Instead I got charged for an additional month of service without my consent or knowledge. When I called to let them know I was no longer using their service and wanted nothing to do with their REALLY TERRIBLE matches, I was told that I could have a free month to think about it. I said no thanks, but I would like my account closed and my money refunded. The answer to that was, NO! I am asking anyone thinking of trying eharmony to think twice, you will always end up paying more than you signed up for, no matter what you do, and the matches are not just non-compatible they are just plain terrible.

This is too heart breaking hearing the sad stories of eharmony.

Success story... can you stand one more and some advice?

I joined eharmony Aug 2003.

I found the questionnaire gruelling but learned so much about myself including my right to have must haves and can't stands.

I don't make a great first impression because of shyness so found their questions great to ask using their format and then devised my own.

I received about three of four matches a week. Some closed on me before I even read their profile. I thought that was great that someone knew it would not work just based on what I wrote. It is better to know up front it will not work. I didn't feel bad that I was closed on. Afterall, why would I want to be with someone who did not want me?

Why did I close on many of the fellas I was matched with? Well, there were many reasons and all good I thought. 1. I was mobile and expected to move to where ever my man was so I looked at where they were living and whether I could really see myself living there. I was open to anywhere in US and Canada. There were very few places after researching on the web that I would not move. 2. Under "Five things I can't live without..." I had to close if they mentioned cats. I have an allergy to cats and would never expect anyone to give up these treasured members of their family for me. Also, if they said they could not live without their mom I thought it a little strange. 3. I closed files on anyone who did alot of sports all the time. Why? Because I am a klutz and am not super physically fit. I closed on some fabulous fellows who I know would not in the end be happy with me because I was not a good fit. I am not stunning, have average fitness and am an average gal. Some guys don't want someone to grow old with just someone their friends will envy them for having. 4. I closed when I knew some of our daily habits would not mesh such as I am an early bird, manage money carefully, like new and unusual foods, like to problem solve and believe in death do us part... 5. I closed on anyone who did not fill out the profile page. I needed something to work with.

I closed sometimes when the amount of matches I received were overwhelming. There seemed to be a flurry of them right after every advertising campaign. 30 in one day. Too much.

I was matched Oct 1, 2003 (I signed for a year expecting not to meet anyone for about a year) to someone in Nebraska who travelled in their job. We met face-to-face for the first time Jan 2004 and we were married Dec 2004. He had about 68 matches in all, had signed up for three months, and sent the exact same questions to everyone to help compare because there were somethings he was set on. I am thrilled that the one thing he was set on was me.

We are very happy.

But one thing to know is be serious about what you want but be flexible and open minded as there is more than one lid for every pot. The road will not be smooth but you will learn alot about someone's character during the bad times.

Be clear about who you are too. Be clear on what you are bringing to the table. If you are only bringing good looks and a pay cheque you better know that a woman/man of quality will not think that is good enough. Looks fade and we can all loose our jobs in these changing times. Many women don't expect you to still have all your hair and we expect to earn a living shoulder to shoulder with you.

Real abiding love stuff.... the forever stuff of legend.

Never give up as he or she is out there. Put as much work and thought into the mate you want for the rest of your life as you do in choosing a job, a car or a dog.

Be the person you would want to be matched to and you can't go wrong.

More than enough said.

:)

One main reason this gets 1 star: Lack of matches. I guess it depends on how you fill out your questionnaire, but I would get maybe 1-2 matches per week. Even though I used E-Harmony 2 or 3 years ago, I was pretty upset. And it was damn expensive. You get so few matches, then the ones you do get aren't your type for whatever reason. I had it for 3 months, I went on a date with a super hot female, but she was a snob. All in all, when I do online dating, I go to Match b/c you can select from a vast sea of women. Alot of men b*tch and complain about Match, but I've been able to get a good number of dates from it.

I give eharmony a one star because there is no option for zero stars.

eharmony is after you money and nothing else. Profit is their bottom line.

I subscribed on a Sunday, paid $110 from my debit card. On Tuesday - 2 days later - I emailed and called eharmony asking for a refund because I changed my mind.

I was told a refund was not possible because I have been a member since 2004 - 3 years earlier. In 2004 I had paid for one month and had no further communication or money transfered in those 3 years.

If you're not careful, eharmony is really EHARMFULL to your wallet.

I have to say I really like eHarmony.. I DID get a lot of really unattractive people as matches (superficial, I know, but there has to be some chemistry) and closed most of them. From several hundred matches, I went out with two women and am still VERY happily seeing one of them and I really think she's the one... We get along amazingly well, the chemistry and attraction are mind blowing and it's all really good... So for me, I think if you ARE going to do online dating, give eHarmony a chance...

Revenge is SO-O-O-O Sweet!! Everything you've heard about Eharmony is true-I know because I've been burned by them-twice. Things such as mismatches, holding back matches, not removing expired members, and the inability to cancell membership. Believe what other people say- they all can't be wrong.

When I first joined I was inundated with matches-but they were all NOT what I said I wanted! At all!Or out of my area by 100 Miles. Or a LOT older! ( decades +) I had over 90 matches, finally met two of them, and both had SERIOUS personality disorders. After the first month, they slowed to a trickle, and then NOTHING- for the next 4 1/2 months. Then, a week before my subscription expired, they flooded me with new matches so I would have to renew. And they tried every trick to get me to renew, with all of the same promotions you've read about. I was disappointed, but I did not get mad.

A year and a half later, I was gullible enough to sign up again. And the same thing happened- flooded with THE SAME PEOPLE that I was matched with the first time! I tried to connect , but lots had expired memberships, etc. And, just like the first time, after the first month-NOTHING! So, for the next 4 1/2 months, I let my account go dormant and figured I'd been used (again). Very disappointed. I did not get mad.

A week before my account was due to expire, I was again overwhelmed with a flood of new matches-over 70! I was pissed!!!But, I did not get mad. I GOT EVEN!!

I elected for "Fast Track" communication, where you bypass all the BS and e-Mail directly. In my initial message, I wrote "You're being scammed" followed by " to discover the TRUTH contact eDatereview.com" This way, at least they got the message and the opportunity to read this sites reviews. And sent it to ALL of my matches-over 145 of them!! (whew!) Oh, and did I get replies!! Almost all that did reply said word-for-word what all of the previous posts of this site contained!! I exposed eHarmony for the fraud and deception they really are! I wish everyone had the opportunity to see what was posted here so they could make an intellegent decision as to how to persue romance. I was also concerned that I would have to fight to cancell my membership, but I sooned learned that Karma does exist, and there was justice in the world.

I recieved a eMail from Customer relations at Eharmony which read:

Dear Steve Persuant to the rights and terms and conditions of the service agreements with eharmony, your membership has been terminated.

It's a good site... The foundation of the future of internet dating is built on some of Dr.Clark's ideals... mainly the long personality test. The thing that hurts eHarmony is the fact they won't let a member view all of his availible matches. the problem is this conflicts witht he way women use the internet. As the post on the cother columb said: Women want to use the net as a tool. This means they want efficency and no B.S.... and if it's not worth the time women won't do it.

If Dr.Clark was to make all profiles viewable on his eHarmony, that would hurt match.com like you wouldn't believe. People want to see how they compare with others, and women would like to have more tools to help them find the right match.

If you could create a crystal ball for women to use to find a match, you would become a billionaire. This crystal ball would be very handy to women. They would put it up in front of a man and see if he's a good match. They would be able to use this crystal ball as a tool to see where all the trouble spots in a relationship could occur. They could use this crystal ball to see if the guy is going to play them / use them for just sex. Dr.Clark has created the basics of this crystal ball, but in no way is it complete for it's full use, or is it being used in the right enviorment.

I first tried to fill out the profile for Eharmony a couple of years ago and they actually rejected me. I was kind of surprised and I thought nothing about doing it again until recently. I went ahead and filled out a new profile and it was accepted. I had the profile up for about a week and I decide to take the plunge and pay the sixty dollars. I have been doing it for a couple of weeks and I have met one person so far. It has been going all right so far. I have given this site a three because internet dating will never be very good. The problem I have encountered is that you do have people who are non paying members. Eharmony at least does have far less nonpaying members than yahoo and match because the questinonaire does at least weed out a lot of people who are not interested. The air heads who fill out a lunch time profile because they are bored at work will not attempt to do this for eharmony because it takes so long compared to match or yahoo. I have called eharmony and they have given me an extra month free so you can wheel and deal with them. I have done match and yahoo before. Match has been horrible and I never have met anyone even though I would respond to like 50 or 60 ads. Yahoo actually used to be all right but has gotten worse with time and has become equivalent to match. With Yahoo I would meet a few people, but Yahoo does not put any work in updating the site and a lot of the ads are really bad.

E-Harmony would be OK if the price were dropped to about a third of the current price and they stopped the TV advertising.

It's no wonder they need to charge so much. They spend millions on prime time TV ads featuring the goofy founder telling lies. The subscribers are paying for the ads not the service.

The service itself is built on the lie that matching someone on questionaire responses is a sign of compatibility. In some ways it may be, but first finding out what they look like, how much they weigh, and where they live would be nice. I found myself spending many hours writing to people who refused to post their photos for good reason.