Reviews of eHarmony

Well after reading the reviews here, I would have to agree with most everyone.
I"ve been a member on and off for several years, with about two years since my last paying membership. I just rejoined with a three month special and I am about two weeks into this months subscription.
Nothing has changed, very few matches and the bulk of them are out of state. I must agree that I've had the same things happen to be from getting part way through the guided introductions and then the communications stop for no reason.
I started out with the distance for my dates to include my entire state of New Mexico and now have the entire Western and South Western states of the US included in my range of dates and I've only gotten twenty introductions and went I do check for more matches I get none! Out of these twenty or so introductions, only five people have review my communications and only one has just now emailed me back.
My age is 59 and I've opened my dating range from 40 to 58 and I wonder why so few matches?? I agree with people as I do believe that I am be matched with non paying members who are not going to write me back !
******** I BELIEVE EHAROMEY IS A RIP OFF******
IN THE THREE YEARS I'VE NEVER GOTTEN A DATE FROM THESE PEOPLE

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I've just completed the free communication period. I was getting about 10 matches a day. I clearly put that I wasn't interested in men with children. That's all they kept sending me. I put that I didn't care where the man lived. Eharmony is trying to tell me that NO MAN exists between the age of 38 and 48 without children. That aside, I noticed a pattern. I believe Eharmony is behind this:

1) From the time someone sends a communication on Eharmony, the mail notification to my account was drastically delayed. How delayed...anywhere from 10 hours to a day. If I soley used mail notification, it would take a day or more to get through one step on guided communication. That's exactly what Eharmony is banking on. A person gets all hyped up over a communication, only to have it take more than 5 days to get to the "open communication". They might feel pressured to subscribe to keep communicating. Not me...no pressure at all.

2) The very few men that I did start communicating with (only 4), I became suspicious at the same pattern. When I got to stage 3 in communication, it stopped. The guy didn't respond. Just one more step away from "open communication" and nothing. Suspicious....

I'm curious if anyone has every made it through the entire guided communication during these long promotional weekends? Made it through, talked, and met? I think not...if so, Eharmony would be out of some serious cash :))

So eharmony can be a little frustrating at times. But it is dating. You are not just going online to pick someone out and thats that. Some peolpe seem to think it should be like amazon for people. well, i was on for 7 or 8 months. I had some communications and some dates. But nothing special, i too did get frustrated about the types of matches and all. But you have to keep in mind that you are still just dealing with peolpe. online or not people are people. To make a long story short i finnally met the girl of my dreams. I have never been happier in my life. We are moving in together next month and this looks like the start of a happily ever after. So don't give up. Eharmony doesn't garentee love but it helps you meet other people looking for love. It does work it just takes time. Like i said i was a member for 7 - 8 months before i found her. she was on for 1 day. be patient and good luck.

This is the most unrealistic and rude dating system I can imagine. I was a member a few years ago, and they did not match me in terms of location, education or age. Most of the men were 10 to 15 years older. Their matching is based on interests, values, etc., but they are overlooking factors that statistically point to a greater success in marriage, such as a similar background, and let's face it, looks can't always be overlooked, either. This week, I responded to their "free" trial offer, and after completing the questionnaire, there was yet another bait and switch--I could not see the men's photos unless I paid, which is kind of creepy since I assume the paying members at least could see me. Again, they are sending me members 10, 15, even 20 years older! Also creepy. No offense to older people, but I am just not interested in someone old enough to be my father. Maybe a golddigger would, but there is nothing in it for me, sorry. And I don't look old, either. Their excuse has always been that they couldn't find anyone else compatible for me. I didn't have that trouble on other dating sites. Now I am being rejected by 60 and 65 year-olds after THEY approached me because they don't like the way I answered their questions that I was nice enough to answer. Then I get a "request for communication," but they don't communicate. I guess these lazy guys expect me to do all the work. A real nice site if you don't mind being rejected by people you don't know and weren't interested in anyway. I'm saving my money this time. A big raspberry to eHarmony.

Thanks! The truth usually comes out on the Internet.

I was tempted but very suspicious it was more about marketing than anything else. I did fill out the questionaire and now regret it.
I can tell the reveiwers on here are smart and articulate from the way they write.
From reading the reviews it is clear - this is another corporate marketing ploy to get as much money than anything else with a religous twist.
I suspect the "founder" is a deeply religous Christian with an agenda to promote that as well.

It is clearly a rip off.

Michael

e harmony is a total waste of money. Despite the very lengthy personality profiling survey, they matched me with people who in no way suited my stated preferences. there help page is never accessible and basically, they are the worst dating site I have ever used as well as the most expensive.

I used e-harmony for six months and found the experience very disappointing. At one point, I had more than sixty matches for my profile but got fewer than ten responses. Of those, I only dated two. Neither turned into any relationship at all. When I finally got too frustrated and closed my account, I still got junk mail for quite some time afterward. As near as I can tell, they don't remove your profile even after you cancel. That leaves me to believe that many if not most of the matches they send you are no longer members and cannot respond to you. My overall experience with them is very negative indeed. The glitzy ads seem to be mostly a lot of hoopla. The fees are very expensive in comparison to the poor results. I cannot recommend them to anyone seeking a partner.

AB

E-Harmony is nothing but a cruel hoax.

E-Harmony has been blitzing the current college football bowl season with ads for a free "Get Acquainted" offer that expires this Sunday, 1/3/10. I had explored E-H during a similar period about a year ago. I thought that I would give it another try.

So I did their questionnaire and got the same responses that I got the earlier time -- "We are unable to match you". I know the Denver Metroplex isn't exactly NYC, Chicago, or LA in terms of population, but there are indeed available older singles here. They must not be members of E-Harmony. At least I didn't fork over any dough to E-H, so I came out ahead.

Early in '09 I visited a site similar to this, and someone there made the comment that the main purpose of E-H is to match up Evangelical Christians. I believe it. I am not Evangelical by ANY stretch of the imagination, and my response was the very same on both of the occasions that I tried the "Free Meet" offer. Probably my result would have been different if I had been a knee-jerk Evangelical.

So my final word of advice is to forget E-Harmony totally. It is nothing but a scam. To meet someone, just do it the old-fashioned way. Take an evening class, join a book club, or do volunteer work. The only money you will be out is for class tuition or books, or coffee with you co-volunteer. You won't be plunking your money into the pockets of the creator of E-Harmony. And that is a MIGHTY big plus.

Hi there! I joined eHarmony for three months, and ended up being very disappointed. I was concerned that I would not receive many matches because I am an older Woman. I was flooded with matches however, most of them were out of state, and most of the Men that I was interested in, didn't want to deal with a long distance relationship. One of my matches had been in prison........no thank you! Another match turned out to be a disaster as he looked nothing like his picture (if you are going to post a picture it is only fair that you post a current picture)! In addition, I hadn't even met him, and he kept asking me very intimate and sexual questions. He wanted to know all about my shaving habits and he made no bones about telling me what Men like and don't like. I did meet him for a quick visit, I had to see what this guy was all about. Question after question, it was obvious that he didn't like my answers. The funny part was, that in his profile the one thing he hated the most was someone who would lie to him yet, he had no problem telling me some really big lies. Anyway, I no longer belong to eHarmony, I figure that if I am meant to meet someone, it will happen. You would think that after spending that kind of money, eHarmony would at least filter out the people that have been in prison, and those who are only looking for sex rather than a loving relationship! Don't waste your money!

I had a positive experience on eharmony. I live in well populated area, which I think helps with the being matched, I had lots of matches. I went on more dates using eharmony than I did when I was a match.com member. I was often overwhelmed by how many people there were on match, so I wouldn't take the time to read and find guys who were interesting to me. It was easier to focus on 5-7 matches a day with eharmony. I think the 3 month membership is the right amount, because after about 2 months, it would get tiring. Yes, it appears expensive to sign up, but do a google search for promotional codes and you will find deals out there (usually 3 months for the price of one) and once you've been a member, they will send you coupons to sign up again. I'm happy to say that about half way through my 3rd three-month membership, I received communication from a guy who I've been dating for almost 8 months. We get along really well and have tones of fun together, he makes me laugh harder than anyone else.
One of my biggest pet peeves with eharmony was that they don't take height into consideration, I had selected it was very important to me to have someone taller than me. I am nearly 5'8" and was often matched with guys shorter than me. Or who were just a tad taller than me online, which turned out to be shorter than me in person.
I think it is important to keep an open mind with any online dating program.