Reviews of eHarmony

I am fit. I hit the gym daily, and my lifestyle is a healthy one. They kept sending me fat women. I told them I was not interested in that. My other complaint was that it took several stages before I could see what the ladies looked like. And then "BAM", they were obese.
FINALLY, they sent me a slim,attractive woman. It worked, and we dated for over 2 years. We nearly got married. So, Eharmony can work.

I had never done the online dating thing and during one weekend my friends had convinced me otherwise. So I went online. Eharmony was the only site that is based on peer reviewed research so I decided to try it. I kept an open mind and went for it. My second match is the same guy I am dating now. I have never been this happy and would recommend people to keep an open mind when trying this. Even though my boyfriend was my second match I was looking at others too while communicating with him. Once we realized we were only wanting to date each other we decided to close our accounts. I believe Eharmony works for SOME not ALL. Nothing is fool proof so keep an open mind.

Wow, lots of eHarmony bashing going on here. I went on this site looking for info for a friend who's trying internet dating. I recommended eHarmony to her - it's how I met my husband. We have been married more than 3 years and have two beautiful children. eHarmony was expensive, and sometimes a pain in the neck, but I met a number of nice men during the 3 months I used it, and wound up finding the love of my life. We never would have had an opportunity to meet without eHarmony. I had used match.com for a long time before and found that the guys I met on eHarmony had a lot more in common with me and were much less interested in just meeting someone for a booty call. Also, I'm really not sure why people would say eHarmony is racist because they won't match you with someone from another race. You can choose in your preferences what races you are interested in. I'm white, and was sent matches of all colors. The service isn't perfect (nothing is, right?) but it may open a door that wouldn't have opened otherwise. Sure did for me!

I agree that eharmony is a sham. I enrolled and I sent questions to over 36 so called matches. Not one replied. I am an attractive 70 year old widow who keeps informed on what is going on, I travel, I speak good english and so far they have not sent me any one who matches me.
Save your money, this is nothing but a large scam on lonely people who are looking for companionship.
I have met more people by going to the store and being friendly and smiling.

it's so sad that eharmony does not try to find out how other people rate them. They are a joke and yes, they are a rip off, and yes, i agree that everyone they sent to me was someone NOT in my interest. I workout and keep myself well groomed which i stated in my application. Guess who they kept sending me? I was so angry. And they kept sending men that were much much older than I was interested in. eharmony is a rip off and only want the money and by the time you find that out, you're out of bucks! Further more, they will not send you someone outside of your race which i think is cruel and racist. And they do send members who are not active nor have been sometimes in years. How stupid is that? Those commercials on TV are fixed and a hoax. i hope someone just finds a way to get eharmony off of the internet for ever..

Learned my lesson in Maryland!

Sorry to see I’m not the only sucker! This is my take.

- e-harm doesn’t identify paying vs. non-paying and/or closed accounts. I finally figured that one out! It’s when you request communication and get no response match after match. I guess that’s when the email goes out to the closed account in order to lure the user back with the “Someone is interest in you…….” message! I didn’t know I was joining a marketing complain!

- After the initial influx of matches, I was only getting 1 to 2 matches every 2 or 3 days. Of these matches, they are 30+ miles away, outside my specifications. I live in a Baltimore suburb and the matches were mostly in Washington and Northern Virginia, to far for our traffic conditions, unless you want to fight traffic for 1+ hour each way. On top of that, the matches were weak (i.e. no picture, profiles contain minimal info, single line answers and most categories were skipped). I guess these weak matches are the non-paying matches getting suckered into the free weekend and write a quick profile for quick access. Once again, I didn’t know I was joining a marketing complain!

- e-harm Guided Communication Process – in my opinion the question/answer process in another method to keep you as a paying customer. The long it takes you to met someone the better for e-harm! Marketing again!

- I thought the male gene pool of this world had the bad wrap for exaggerating or basically lying in the dating scene, but from this experience with e-harm WOW! I had a couple dates that left me thinking “Am I this naïve!” and/or “How did I get suckered into this?”. Basically their profiles were fiction and/or a dream. I guess this one I can’t total blame on e-harm, it seems to the norm for the e-dating world! OK ladies, I did get on my soap box for this one!

- Per additional investigate, via the web, it looks like the ratio of men to women is significantly in the women’s favor. Another e-dating issue.

- In my profile I was pretty clear and ‘HONEST’ of who I am and what I’m interested in, but the e-harm matches seem to be quite the opposite. Come on e-harm we have to have a few things in common from the get go! I think this is an e-harm issue, their match pool is thin, so they have to send you something, so you don’t quit.
Basically, I chalked this up to a learning experience that cost me some cash. They have a pretty good marketing scheme and with good intentions, but then the bean counters take over and turn this into a money grubbing enterprise (the bottom line vs. a quality product). I’ve read several blogs and my complaints aren’t unique to my experience. Hind sight is 20/20, I should have done some research prior to diving into the deep end. Secondly, I’ve worked in the tech industry for 20+ years and some of the technical issues (keeping closed matches active, not identify paying vs. non-paying, incomplete profiles, …..) can easily be solved, but the bean counters use these techniques to drum up more business, at my time & expense. Hey e-harm, quit treating us as if we are stupid, we get enough of that from our politicians!

I’m sure there are some success stories and from reading the reviews on this site it looks like the women have more success, (i.e. back to that male/female ratio), but as a busy professional and the short comings of e-harm business practices (some of us can interpret these practices to be shady at best!) I WOULDN'T recommend this site!

If you choose to give it a try, my advice is to “Manage Your Expectations”, the gist of e-harm is a money making enterprise where the user ends up being a pawn in their marketing campaign for more users!

When I closed my account, I didn’t realize it’s a two step process (closed the account and turn off matching). After the account was closed, I was still getting matches via email! The number of matches was higher than before I closed the account and multiple requests for communication! Gee, all of a sudden multiple requests for communication. Now that’s just plain wrong! BTW, it’s been over a week and the matches are still coming in!

I agree with just about everyone on here. eHarmony is not worth the $60 per month or even the discounted rate for signing up for 3 or 6 months. I've been on here before and this is my second time. I'm not too happy that they match you with very few people and most of them aren't even members any more. They should only send matches who are active members. Who wants to be matched with someone who USED to be a member a year ago? Really? What are the chances of them coming back on...slim to none. I do have to say that they've done a good job of matches within my mileage range however I live in a large city. You mean to tell me that within a 120 mile radius of Dallas, DALLAS! That only 1 person matches me? And that 1 person has no photo, completed about 1/5 of their profile and is a "flexible match?" C'mon, for $60 a month I expect better service. What the heck am I paying for? The few people I do start communicating with end up stopping at random stages just before open communication. That's weird. It's also irritating when someone leaves the communication open but doesn't respond even if they ARE active members. How hard is it to click close match and select a reason? I'd much rather have that than to be ignored. I'm a grown man, I can handle the rejection. It doesn't hurt my feelings besides its courtesy to let the other person know you're not interested instead of leaving them hanging and wondering. But I guess that issue happens even outside of internet dating. Bottom line is I wouldn't recommend eHarmony to anyone and to those who've had success on here, congrats! Maybe you got lucky or maybe it was meant to be but either way at least the program is working for someone.

Eharmony has been a complete waste of time. The few matches I actually met were either married or looked nothing like their picture. It seemed that most the matches that were sent to me were not active members or people who signed up during free communication weekends.

If I could chose 0 star for this review I would. Please save your money and not join eHarmony. It's a money making business. I regret joining it. I wasted a lot of $ :(...I let destiny lead to the man of my dream after I stopped joining this site :) lol

EHarmony was quite difficult to get used to. I ran into issues where my matches were not what I requested. How many times in real life are we confronted with problems that we requested? I met my husband there last summer. I am grateful for the "glitches" on eHarmony. Because of those glitches, I found the person I was meant to be with. Everything detail about him was at the bottom of what I thought was best for me. We have now been married for 7 months and I could not be happier. While it seems that eHarmony does not work with your requests, this could be the best thing yet!