Reviews of eHarmony

I just wanted to throw my opinion in the mix.

Let me tell you a little about my 'eharmony' experience.

After paying for two months of eharmony I ended up feeling cheated and wondering why I didn't find "the love of my life" like advertised. I didn't even get to go on a single date!

I received and responded to over 95% of over 100 matches. This includes responding to matches of widely different ages, heights, and with extremely different and often incompatible goals, not to mention men all across this great country.

So, why is it that I get email from men in locations up to 700 miles away from me and even Hawaii? I thought they had millions of members so why weren't there more matches that live closer to me?

Out of all these matches I did receive I only closed three due to total lack of compatibility or chemistry. I responded to all the matches they sent me that were 10+ years older than me and who seemed more boring than my grandfather. I responded to guys younger than me who overwhelmingly wanted to meet someone younger, settle down and have kids. (I am past that age and don't have any desire to raise a family again.)

And another thing I disliked about their site is the emphasis they place on youth and attractiveness. Don't they understand that there are those of us over 30 who want to date as well? The amount of men on their site that want someone young, and very attractive is astounding! These are the same men who are lucky to be average looking. Talk about being unrealistic.

All I'm looking for is someone average looking who I find interesting and emotionally available.

So where are these people? I didn't find them on eharmony that is for sure. Eharmony gets the married players and weirdo’s just like the other sites.

All in all eharmony is overpriced, full of outdated/ nonpaying profiles, and poorly lacking in customer service.

Eharmony doesn't live up to the hype. No way, no how. Don't waste your time with eharmony.

If you want a place to further comment feel free to visit:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/without_eharmony/ and share your input. (Its free and therapeutic too.)

I just wanted to throw my opinion in the mix.

Let me tell you a little about my 'eharmony' experience.

After paying for two months of eharmony I ended up feeling cheated and wondering why I didn't find "the love of my life" like advertised. I didn't even get to go on a single date!

I received and responded to over 95% of over 100 matches. This includes responding to matches of widely different ages, heights, and with extremely different and often incompatible goals, not to mention men all across this great country.

So, why is it that I get email from men in locations up to 700 miles away from me and even Hawaii? I thought they had millions of members so why weren't there more matches that live closer to me?

Out of all these matches I did receive I only closed three due to total lack of compatibility or chemistry. I responded to all the matches they sent me that were 10+ years older than me and who seemed more boring than my grandfather. I responded to guys younger than me who overwhelmingly wanted to meet someone younger, settle down and have kids. (I am past that age and don't have any desire to raise a family again.)

And another thing I disliked about their site is the emphasis they place on youth and attractiveness. Don't they understand that there are those of us over 30 who want to date as well? The amount of men on their site that want someone young, and very attractive is astounding! These are the same men who are lucky to be average looking. Talk about being unrealistic.

All I'm looking for is someone average looking who I find interesting and emotionally available.

So where are these people? I didn't find them on eharmony that is for sure. Eharmony gets the married players and weirdo’s just like the other sites.

All in all eharmony is overpriced, full of outdated/ nonpaying profiles, and poorly lacking in customer service.

Eharmony doesn't live up to the hype. No way, no how. Don't waste your time with eharmony.

If you want a place to further comment feel free to visit:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/without_eharmony/ and share your input. (Its free and therapeutic too.)

I just wanted to throw my opinion in the mix.

Let me tell you a little about my 'eharmony' experience.

After paying for two months of eharmony I ended up feeling cheated and wondering why I didn't find "the love of my life" like advertised. I didn't even get to go on a single date!

I received and responded to over 95% of over 100 matches. This includes responding to matches of widely different ages, heights, and with extremely different and often incompatible goals, not to mention men all across this great country.

So, why is it that I get email from men in locations up to 700 miles away from me and even Hawaii? I thought they had millions of members so why weren't there more matches that live closer to me?

Out of all these matches I did receive I only closed three due to total lack of compatibility or chemistry. I responded to all the matches they sent me that were 10+ years older than me and who seemed more boring than my grandfather. I responded to guys younger than me who overwhelmingly wanted to meet someone younger, settle down and have kids. (I am past that age and don't have any desire to raise a family again.)

And another thing I disliked about their site is the emphasis they place on youth and attractiveness. Don't they understand that there are those of us over 30 who want to date as well? The amount of men on their site that want someone young, and very attractive is astounding! These are the same men who are lucky to be average looking. Talk about being unrealistic.

All I'm looking for is someone average looking who I find interesting and emotionally available.

So where are these people? I didn't find them on eharmony that is for sure. Eharmony gets the married players and weirdo’s just like the other sites.

All in all eharmony is overpriced, full of outdated/ nonpaying profiles, and poorly lacking in customer service.

Eharmony doesn't live up to the hype. No way, no how. Don't waste your time with eharmony.

If you want a place to further comment feel free to visit:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/without_eharmony/ and share your input. (Its free and therapeutic too.)

One of my so-called matches was a man I knew to be abusive to women and who brutalized his wife. I realized e-harmony screens no one. He portrayed himself as a saint. I would not recommend this site to anyone or would I join for any reason.

I tried eHarmony a while back, and what really attracted me to them was that they seemed to emphasize marriage, as opposed to other sites that were just into casual dating. However, after I joined, I really didn't like the fact that I couldn't distinguish non-paying members from paying members. The whole experience was frustrating!

I saw an ad for a new website for paying members only. The website is MyFutureSpouse.com. They're focused on marriage just like eHarmony. I really liked what I saw and would like to join, however I don't know if they have lots of members yet, since they're new. If eHarmony would just allow paying members only, then I think most of the frustrations paying members experience will disappear.

I tried eHarmony a while back, and what really attracted me to them was that they seemed to emphasize marriage, as opposed to other sites that were just into casual dating. However, after I joined, I really didn't like the fact that I couldn't distinguish non-paying members from paying members. The whole experience was frustrating!

I saw an ad for a new website for paying members only. The website is MyFutureSpouse.com. They're focused on marriage just like eHarmony. I really liked what I saw and would like to join, however I don't know if they have lots of members yet, since they're new. If eHarmony would just allow paying members only, then I think most of the frustrations paying members experience will disappear.

I tried to cancel my membership with e-Harmony. I called and they assured me my membership was cancelled, and within days, I had ANOTHER $50.00 charge on my account. I called to get it straightened out, but they argued and argued with me and refused to refund my money. I finally had to call my credit company and dispute the charges.

while on e-Harmony, I never got any matches. Once i cancelled, I got lots and lots of matches. I assume that after you cancel, they send you a lot of appealing matches to get you to renew your membership. I'd rather have the matches WHILE I'm a member, while it's still possible to communicate with them!!

e-Harmony is a rip-off - don't go there!!

I joined Eharmony in November and right away I was being contacted by 3 men. I was pretty excited, but the men seem very lonely and was professing their love. I just thought they wanted a girl friend for the holidays. Then the day after Christmas, I thought I met the man of my dreams. He started off a little like the previous men, but a little slower. After a while, I figured out he was one of the scammers that the internet warns you about from Africa. I was in contact with 10 men, 8 of those men where scammers. I did not send any money, but it is sad to think you are safe with eharmony and then I got this many scammers. They all start off confessing their love to you, then try to get you to quit eharmony and focus on them, then they try and get money from you. Money for a laptop that was fried by the electricity, money to pay off the workers, money for a plane ticket, or money for illness or medical treatment. I think eharmony should take the extra money and verify that the members are valid members.

I will agree with Jenna on one thing; dating services are the absolute pits. I have known several people who got involved with them, and regretted it deeply.

But that said...Lady, don't you think its time you woke up to reality? You don't want a man with hair loss, but you're looking in the 40-55 range. Do you know how many men in that category have suffered hair loss? More than half of them! Hair is your prime concern, yet you call men shallow?

You remind me of some of the other women who have posted here, moaning and groaning they can't find a man who is at least six feet tall and makes more than 100,000 dollars a year.

A lot of you people are in for a lonely life, and deservedly so.

First of all... there are some really bitter men on here reviewing eHarmony. I've had over 200 matches just within my state since I joined a few months ago. I'm not communicating with two men.

At first I noticed that most of the matches were closing right away... I also noticed the first few matches I choose to communicate with did not respond. Probably because their accounts were closed.

But this is what I did next. I started closing all my matches (I get about six a day)unless I really liked their profile I just closed it and put every reason under the sun for closing it. Talk about response! From those matches closed about two or three will "ask" to be reopened. And I go from there.

Ladies you have to work it the same way men do... *Close most if not all your matches and use a different reason besides "other" for closing. *Never initiate communication. If the match is an open account, let them contact you. That will save you a lot of time. *Don't take any of this personally... they are after all, just men. *If you've read these reviews online you'll hear a lot of moaning and whining about how the women don't look good enough, or they are sluts, or they are too fat, blah blah blah. Just accept the fact that a lot of angry, self loathing men, bitter men are on eHarmony. *The same complaints men have mentioned here I could make about the men on eHarmony. They are fat, short, have kids, look 10 years older, etc. etc.

Final piece of advice, cancel your subscription once you've paid. That way they can't autorenew!