Reviews of eHarmony

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Reviewed By SweetVelvetLips Mountains

Sex Female

Rating *

Date July 08, 2007

Visit eHarmony I frankly don't understand the purpose of this site. I mean they make a big stink about matching based on personality here and thats great but with personality comes the chemistry of being attracted to someone. It really doesn't matter if the personality is there between two people if there is no physical attraction. I guess for really ugly people this might be the way to go. Really use that personality to their advantage. If your a person who has high demands of a mate on a sexual, emotional, and personality level, I'm guessing Eharmony isn't for you. I think what it comes down to is if your looking for an overall good match in a mate, this isn't the site to do it on.

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Only a little shallow there. Hope you meet your male model. I am getting the vibe somehow that even if you do you won't be a very happy person. :(

Some time ago I wrote a scathing review of eHarmony. I haven't changed my mind and I agree with the vast, vast majority of the negative comments that appear here, so there's no need to repeat. It seems that Match and Yahoo get their share of negative reviews as well.

Since I cannot find information on Singlesnet.com anywhere on this site, may I suggest here that you check it out?

Compared to Match and Yahoo, it's beyond primitive. There is no real filter, no useable "help", and, because of the way it's set up, the profiles are sketchy, but it has two advantages over every other site I've fooled around with:

1 - One does not have to be a paying member to initiate e-mail correspondence with a paying member.

2 - If a paying member initiates contact with a non-paying member, logically, that non-paying member can respond via e-mail.

The bottom line is that you can throw up a quick profile and communicate with an admittedly small pool of members for free. Beats getting ripped off by eHarmony any day.

No, I don't work for Singlesnet; I'm just making the suggestion that you check it out and make your own judgement.

Rating: NEGATIVE

Anyone else get completely lied to by Eharm and they refuse to refund you the 7 day trial of $59.99 when you canceled on the 6th day of the 7 day free trial? They have done nothing but lie to me and I have had it. They only have one person in charge of Customer Relations and you can only communicate with her through snail mail...She will not talk to you on the phone. My bank is with-holding the credit card payment. They have flat out lied and I have the e-mail cancellation to prove it. I have also met 2 complete psychos through this site. Anyone else? I am contacting an attorney I know about a class action lawsuit...This company is WAY too shady. Email me if interested, or post on here. Thanks.

eHarmony: ZERO STARS

Glad I just caught on to this. I've been looking for a site where I can have a word about this. Regardless of anyone who defends eHarmony, ....IMPOSSIBLE! (the person below must be employed be them), the facts remain. Most people on this review site are clearly saying the same things, and those things are NEGATIVE. Thank goodness I am not alone!

eHarmony is ripping people off. They do not fulfill their promise. They don't send enough matches, not even enough wrong matches to at least give a paid member a chance to make connections. The facts cannot be challenged. eharmony makes all the choices for you and leaves you without any control. Then they disappear, and don't become accountable for their lack of service.

I got totally taken -- not because I didn't meet my "soul mate", but because eHarmony didn't provide the "promised" opportunity (I paid for) so I 'could' meet my soulmate. The review below is totally misinformed in terms of its comments about what was said here by many people. None of the people who wrote negative comments are saying anything different from one another. Nobody is "whining" because they didn't find a mate. Nobody had unrealistic expectations. Some people are just trying to get some 'just cause' for having been cheated out of their money -- and rightfully so!

ZERO stars to eHarmony! And tsk tsk to anyone who tries to defend eHarmony without fully reading or understanding the concerns written here by 90% of the reviewers who wrote in -- who by the way, all sound like people just like me, who had perfectly "realistic", modest and honest intentions before they lost their money.

My goodness, I’ve never heard so much whining in my life. I cannot believe there are so many people out there that ‘just fell off the turnip truck’ by fully buying into the eHarmony advertisements. EHarmony can no more conjure up your perfect mate than any other site. It does provide a venue to meet others, and the rest is up to you.

I took the test, being skeptical, as I am a scientist and am often bemused by the use of the word ‘scientific’ in such contexts. I had just come out of a terrible relationship and wanted to date without leaving the house, or showering for that matter. I was sent four matches initially, with which I initiated contact (if you’re sitting around waiting for others to contact you, you’re wasting time and money). It was comforting, that given my professional position, that my profile and picture were not open for the perusal of just anyone – it was limited to those matches deemed ‘compatible’.

I valued the ‘courting’ stages, as this did help screen out people with whom it was obvious I would be completely incompatible (eg. someone who was very religious). By the time I got to the OC stage, I felt like I knew enough about the person to carry on a comfortable online conversation. Email is such an odd way to communicate with perfect strangers in the first place – there is no ability to express tone or body language. Nothing can compare to meeting people in person, though. In the 3 months I belonged to eHarmony, I was sent over 100 matches. Some closed me out, others I closed because of typical reasons (eg. distance). I tried to be as honest and open as possible in all my communications and keep my expectations reasonable.

I dated three men, each having some aspect of their personality that was incredibly compatible with me. I nearly didn’t contact the first one because I didn’t find his picture attractive, although I decided that if I was going to get the most out of this experience I needed to give it my all. We had a good first date with an easy flow of communication. He was nice, although I didn’t feel any immediate chemistry and we decided to go out again. I met another man who was wonderful, a professor (like me), an ex-Peace Corps volunteer (like me). We had so much in common, but ultimately, there were a few deal-breakers noticeable on the first date, so we did not go out again. The third man I met, I spoke to for hours on the phone. We had such incredible chemistry, he was lively, funny, and charming. We met for lunch which did not go well at all. I know myself too well to ignore my ‘creep detector’ going off continuously. Eventually, he revealed that he had been arrested for domestic violence in an incident involving his ex-wife. Yikes. Needless to say, that was the end of that.

Let’s be reasonable people. A written questionnaire cannot screen out the crazies, liars, or rageaholics. This test and many others are only as good as the intentions of those taking it. The number of matches sent your way is limited to the number of members in your area. I come from a small-ish city, and adjusted my expectations accordingly. And even though the advertisements seem to imply that getting a ‘soul mate’ is a done deal, do you REALLY think it will happen for everyone? Come on, do you believe EVERY advertisement on TV? You may be an attractive, successful person, although if you have expectations that significantly limit your dating pool, then that is your problem, not the fault dating site (which I may point out here is a business, designed to make money).

I’ll say it again: eHarmony does not conjure up people to meet your exact criteria. They give you the raw material, and the rest is up to you.

At least most dating sites sell a product. Whether or not that product is HOPE, at least you see your potential matches on the dating site and you get to make your own mistakes!! eHarmnoy is one big scam and soon enough, even if you're fit, attractive, successful and reasonably normal, you'll sure begin to feel like a frustrated loser once you start trying to get your money back.

The site gives you no control over who to choose, they make all the mistakes for you (no one is really compatible), they lie to you (their 29 levels of compatibility are a scam), they don't show you the number of members that are on the site(how convenient), they justify their service when you complain, they deflect the problem by asking you to make changes to your settings. It's you right? NO. It's them. Trust me, these changes will make no difference!

In general, eHarmony pretends to provide a service before you sign up, and then they have nothing when you do. So they take your money, and YOU? Well, you just got scammed. Live and learn. HELL...eharmony doesn't even sell HOPE!

This is by far the worst dating site out there. You are given NO control over who your matches might be -- and they have very few members.

No matter how much you "relax" your settings to receive matches, I feel that there are NOT enough members on the site, so it's all a waste of time. If you make your settings specific to your needs, they send matches that have nothing to do with your specific choices. They control who they send or not send(eHarmony has your money by then, and you can't prove a thing!), and the only matches they might send are paid members (I think that these are "few"). When you complain to them for stealing your money, they send you email emmediately, but you can tell that it's made up of "justifications" and maybe suggestions to try, but none of these work, and all of these, they send to EVERY OTHER MEMBER who is bound to complain as well.

In general, eHarmony is a SCAM! Do not waste your money!

eHarmony is the worstn dating site I have ever used. I requested a 60 mile radius but because there weren't many in my area about 75% of the matches weren't even in my state let alone 60 miles. Then, at least 90% of the matches contain either no photo, personatity profile or neither. You know absolutely NOTHING about the person and they expect you to spend 15 minutes asking that person questions to answers you don't even care about the answers to? Also, many of the matches I got weren't even in my age group and I'm not talking 3 or 4 years difference, I'm talking 20 years or more. I'm glad I only signed up for one month of Eharmony. It stinks!

Ah Elliot..the compassionate rabbi from Laredo Texas who had the chutzpah to tell me that I wasn't sincere...!!! Keep in mind that my dad was hospitalized with a seizure related to a stroke the day before we were to meet in NYC. I had the presence of mind to call Elliot from a phone booth outside the emergency room the day before and express my regrets. This rabbi closed communication with me when he returned to Texas. Sooo...I did the only logical thing I called him last night. This so-called man of g-d informed me that he didn think I was sincere because I had to cancel. I said that was most un-rabbi-like. He then stated that he is "a man first". (No...I said to myself..you're a first class jerk). So much for those 29 levels of compatibility!!!!!! I also wonder why the options we can choose for the FINAL MESSAGE all sound like whining/groveling/pleading!!! I cannot stand the choices such as "oh..if you only got to know me I'm sure you'd change your mind". What is up with that and what ever happened to self-respect? I've written the eharmony "team" many times about this and they always assure me that they're working on revising the options.

eharmony is a BIG FAT rip off!!! The guy who started it ought to be ashamed to call himself a "christian". First of all, they are only obligated to provide you with one match per month, a "minor" detail they conveniently position in VERY SMALL print somewhere in the terms and conditions. Second of all, their so called "best value" of $20.95 per month(automatically deducted from your account)is one of the highest rates offered for any dating site. Thirdly, trying to contact someone in their customer service department is like trying to find a needle in a hay stack. You could probably find Bin laden quicker than you could one of their representatives. In my humble opinion, I would tell anyone trying to find "love on line", DON'T WASTE YOUR HARD EARNED MONEY ON eharmony. Go to the grocery store. It's cheaper.