Reviews of eHarmony

Omg, Im glad I found this because I was completely horrified when I paid $120 for a 3-month subscription and spent an hour filling out the damn personality profile only to find ZERO matches? Really? Im a young, attractive, successful, fun girl. Not to mention Im a physician. I enjoy doing normal things, Im not part of any weird religion or cult, Im not a vegan, I dont smoke, no kids or baggage.....I mean, it shouldnt be that hard. So I expanded my age range and expanded it from the entire US to the entire WORLD and still had ZERO matches. The next day I did have one match, some 4'11" guy in India. I want a refund! Its actually pretty funny when you think about it.......

I feel guilty giving eharmony even one star but there is no option for zero. Just last week it was revealed that women in Edmonton AB, Canada lost almost $300,000 responding to men on internet dating sites. Yes I know right away you are going to say well they shouldn't have been so naive to have sent the money to men they hadn't met but in listening to the women's stories these are men that had joined these sites after all their "scientific matching" methods and they had been corresponding for quite some time. Turns out it's a scam out of Nigeria. Two site mentioned, eharmony and Plenty of Fish which just happen to be the two sites with the least favourable reviews.. I too considered spending money and joining but decided to do a little research first. All the problems spoke of in these reviews I have experienced (like free communications weekends???? right!) and now this comes out in our news. I think they are just preying on a very vulnerable group of individuals without any credibility to back up their "methods". Save your money or risk losing even more.

What is "flexible matching"
anyway? I thought eHarmony did "scientific" matching with these proven 29 dimensions of compatibility. Now they throw in "flexible matching" for those items in your profile that are not "must haves"
or that aren't most important to you. Just because they are not most
important doesn't mean they aren"t important at all. I put down as
an age range 5 years younger than me and 5 years older, thinking that
a 10 year span would be flexible and that it would be close enough that the men in that age group would have similar life experiences, be
near the same point in life as I, and have grown up in the same time
period etc. One match was 16 years older, nearer my father's age and
so closer to my father's generation. I also listed my occupation as
something in the medical field and the salary to match. One match was a doctor. Any match made "scientifically" would know that my
occupation is at the bottom of the totem pole from a doctor and so
we are at opposite ends to start with. No fear, he had closed me
for not having a picture before I ever even had a chance to read
any of my matches. Then I put the distance I was willing to look for
a match as 60 miles, 30 miles seeming too short and since they didn't
have a 50 mile selection, 60 miles seems like a reasonable distance that either of us can travel in about an hour. Two of my matches were from out of state, I didn't try looking up the locations on a map
but if it's 60 miles as the crow flies, then it's just barely 60 miles.
Also I listed that I like to take walks and to go hiking. Some of the
matches were very athletic, work out, go running etc. I am glad I didn't include that I also like to swim (on occasion) because then I
would have been matched with an Olympic swimmer! I said I was a
Christian and religious, so one match was a minister and another a
seminary student. I would probably consider all of these matches if
I could communicate with them freely and find out what they expect
in a mate and what they are really looking for and get to know them
but that's not possible if you don't pay for their subscription.
I am trying to be fair to eHarmony and realize they are a buisness and like all buisnesses they are there to make money. So I think they
need to be up front with thier ads, that it works for a small group of
people. They need to stick to the criteria that people request in their
profiles, even if that narrows the selection, but isn't that what this is
all about, narrowing the selection? I have been trying to think of what would make me agree to be a paying memeber and I think they
need to lower the price substantially. One site that was "pro eHarmony" said that the extreme high price was a guarantee that people were serious and that it was higher quality than the other dating sites. You don't need to pay a high price for quality. I also
think the "subscription" needs to be a month by month thing, not a
choice of 1, 3, 6 months or a year. Each month it should be up to you
if you want to buy another month of service. Maybe they could offer
a money back guarantee that if you stick with it for 6 months or more and aren't happy then they will refund your money, after all they have had the money for 6 months in their investments and didn't provide the service they said they would. It amounts to trust in the
site itself as well as the matches they send your way.
As for Brad and Tom and John and any others out there in the 60
miles, you are out there somewhere and I am there somewhere, if
we are meant to meet and get to know each other then there will be
a way.

I just wanted to thank you all. I tried eHarmony a few years ago and was horrified with my decision. I guess the horror wore off because I was seriously thinking of trying it again. Fortunately I found this website! I'm adding this site to my favorites so that if I'm ever tempted again, I'll know where to go.

Ok it's my turn. I don't usually do website reviews but after reading
1-50 (of 1622) reviews of eharmany I guess it's time to put in my
2 cents worth. Out of those 50 I think I only read about 5 that had
positive outcomes for themselves or a friend. That is only 10%, not
good odds when you have to pay out hard earned money in an atmosphere of an economic crisis. My own experience with eHarmony
is very recent and apparently going to be very short. It started a few
weeks ago since I had given up on my relationship with my long time
on again/ off again guy. I had seen and heard about eHarmony for
years and had the impression it was a wonderful site, everyone is
matched perfectly, scientifically, and that most end up finding their
life partner, soul mate, and get married. I even saw the founder on
Robert Schuller's "Hour of Power" a few years ago. How could I go
wrong? Especially since I am leary about internet dating to begin
with. So I decided to give eHarmony a try, after I got no
response at all from a Christian dating service, "Equally Yoked".

I started filling out my profile information and was giving my answers
a lot of thought but I was too tired to fill it all out at one time so I hit
the button that said "save and exit" to return at a later time when I
felt like I could answer better. The next day I was emailed reminders
to finish my profile and to post a photo. I also had matches already
based on the partial profile that I saved! How can that be? Also I am
new to digital photo. and I am usually behind the camera and not in
front so the most recent photo I have is about 2 years old (sorry for all of you who think you must see a photo immediately but sometimes there is a reason). I learned that eHarmony had a 4-day free period
coming up on Valentines weekend so I thought I would finish my profile
and see what happens. The first "match" was someone who closed
immediately because he was in another relationship, so why didn't
eHarmony know this? Other matches were too old, almost my father's
age, 12 inches taller than me or some other mismatch. Two or three
did request a photo, and one who I think could be a match intiated
contact with the "5 questions" and didn't ask for a photo. I emailed my answers to his 5 questions and sent my 5 questions and waited for his response. Then the free weekend was over. I got an email from eHarmony 2 days later, after the free weekend was over, that my match had sent his answers but in order to see his answers I must
become a paid subscriber. Over the week I had been trying to decide if I wanted to pay such a high price for a dating service when
I was already disappointed in their "service". I found promotional codes for discount subscriptions but then I saw they do an automatic
renewal at the end of your subscription, that's not right either. So
I started doing on line research of eHarmony and saw only glowing reports, this sounds too good to be true, I thought someone has to
have a bad experienc. Then I ran across these reviews. Thank goodness I did! I think it saved me a lot of money. Maybe with a lot of time and a lot of patience and a lot of trust that people will be honest with their profiles, eHarmony will work for 10% of the people,
but for the other 90% of us maybe we should start up our own dating
site with what we learned :). I have to give eHarmony 2 stars though
for the Personality Profile I got, most of it it I think is right on, but some of it is too general to be written for me personally, and I think on a different day if I felt in a different mood with different answers
then my profile would change. Not very scientific at all.

I have been an "on and off" member of eHarmony for several years. Why do I keep getting suckered back to the site? Because I keep buying into their hype and when I see those eEharmony commercials, I feel like I should give it another chance. For God's sake there has to be someone on their site with whom I would connect romantically, right? So after my membership expired a few months ago, I decided to explore their "see your matches for free" offer without becoming a paying member. I created my profile and posted my photo only to discover that the "see your matches for free" offer does not allow you to see photos of your matches! Ha! I have to pay money to see my matches. And they promised "free communication weekend" but why would I want to communicate with someone I've never seen in a photo? In my past experiences with eHarmony as a paid member, I was constantly matched with men who have children, even though I specifically complained to customer service that I indicated on my questionnaire that I would not consider dating a man who has children. They responded by telling me to be open minded. I also indicated that I only wanted to meet a Christian and they sent me a Muslim. Should I be "open minded" about that too, eHarmony? eHarmony will fling anybody your way, in my experience. I have a master's degree and asked to be matched with someone whose educational achievements meet my own and who lives within 30 miles of my location. They sent me a janitor who lived 250 miles away. And that's just the tip of the iceberg. Rarely they would send me someone who seemed interesting, I would request communication, and the person who either never respond or come back with "I'm already pursuing another relationship." The best "matches" always appear when you subscribe initially and just before your subscription is about to expire. In between those times, be prepared to receive no matches or a few crappy mismatches every so often. You join eHarmony because you are lonely and you end up feeling rejected, ripped off and lonelier than ever. Dr. Neil Clark Warren, a supposedly Christian man, is exploiting the single population for his own profit.

It has become evident to me that eHarmony is matching me with people that I have no real compatibility with. It has also become apparent that they are using profiles of people that have left their service, and are not members.

I know this for a fact because I happened across an individual whom I was matched with in real life outside of eHarmony. They were not members there. I had also closed my account and requested my profile to be removed from their system, only to find out almost two years later that my profile was still on there. I wonder how many people they 'matched' me with and those folks tried communicating with someone who was not a member.

I FIND THESE ACTIONS TO BE A BREACH OF TRUST, AND AM CONSIDERING A CLASS ACTION LAWSUIT. ANYONE INTERESTED IN JOINING CONTACT ME AT MMICHAEL8IT @ GMAIL.COM

I just cancelled my subscription. I really think I can do better on my own. I'm no longer paying big money to be introduced to men who are overweight, unnattractive and unemployed. E-Harmony markets itself as a site full of outgoing, attractive and interesting people. What a rip-off. Isn't there a site out there for professionals looking for love, who are normal and actually have their lives together? What a waste of my time and money! "29 dimensions of compatibility" my rear-end.

If I sound bitter it's because I am. For once I'd like for something to not end up being a scam. I'm sure there are people on here who have found love, but I think if you stay on any site long enough you'll meet someone. If I wandered the streets long enough I'd meet someone.
E-Harmony should be honest and admit that their matches are pretty random. They clearly don't screen their profiles. Why else would my last match (the one that made me decide to cancel my subscription) be from someone with no photo, who only filled out a few lines of his profile, and who's occupation is listed as "bum"?

Want to spend $59.95 to find out your matches from eharmony are not, nor ever have been, active?!
I wrote a profile just to "see what happened". Got several matches, nothing too interesting until recently. Looked like a perfect match, so I joined to communicate. Come to find out the "match" they sent me was not a member, probably never was, and I'm the bait to get him to join. I've been scanned. Anyone know how to get a full refund?? p.s. if "-5" were a rating, I would have chosen that.

Patience... I don't expect to find the "1" in two days. That being said, so far I have had about 40 matches [member 3 days] 4 of which I am interested in and 1 who matches my profile almost to the T. I have made the e-harmony requested steps and set the communication wheels in motion. I was matched to her today [02/17/09] so like fishing i'll give it time. To give up after two days may be a little impatient or shallow.