Reviews of eHarmony

E-Harmony stinks! The questions they ask are indeed logical and important. But I answered them all in in a flash, they said I could not be matched!!!

I am definately a normal, normal average every day person, probably above average in many respects... I work, love animals, fit, nice person etc. etc. etc. but in a split second, the web site stated I was unmatchable!

How can this be???

I find it rather insulting and hurtful! Don't waste your time!

NO STARS! NONE! I'm not going to repeat what's already been said. I have a tale of one very hurtful outcome to eHARMony's pernicious hidden habit of continuing to make matches with inactive members. I was having the typical experience of too few matches when one day a match appeared that stopped me dead in my tracks. It was a man I was once engaged to. I thought he was in a serious new relationship. Had they split up? Getting my hopes up, I emailed him. He told me that not only had he not been a EH member for nine months, but that he was engaged! I will never forgive eHARM for this embarrassing and cruel screw job.

I fell for the ad- matching you with a 29 demensional personality test. I thought it would be a great way to meet men who were not just interested in my looks. The first misleading thing is that a majority of your matches are no longer members and you cannot communicate with them- so these are not matches. In my opinion the matching based on the "proven" test is a complete lie. I will factor out all the obese men and give you the example to prove my opinion. I was matched with a mentally retarded man. No joke, you could tell by his photo, and discussion of living in a group home. I have a doctorate and a well paying job, how is this a match? I inquired about the legality of dating a retarded adult and how I was suited for him. Eharmony said the let any adult join and would not answer about what made this a match. So, do not join the system is just a marketing come on- no truth to it at all. Learn from my mistake, if you have to pay before seeing photos that is you clue something is wrong. And women, I read the data on eharmony and the demographics are 70% women and 30% men, not good. Avoid it! I still get matches and have been off the site for months, so others are being misled. Avoid this site.

If I get sent one more match with some old geezer on his motorcycle, I'm cancelling. What is it with men and their freaking motorcycles? Do they think it makes them look hip and sexy? When I see a motorcycle in the picture, I close it out without even reading the profile.

I gave e-harmony a try, this was the first on-line dating site that I had tried since my divorce. I paid $110 for a three month membership for them to match me with my EX husband! True story...I do not recommend this dating web site...please don't waste your money.

I joined eHarmony for 8 months: watch out. I decided that all it means is that you have some similarities in terms of temperament so it's easy to talk to the Matches. It does not mean that they're ready, healthy, honest, or good people. The advertisements are very misleading. And you should know that not all people that show up as "Matches" are actually available. My friend Diane started to register with eHarmony back in 2003. She decided she wasn't ready yet so she didn't finish the questionnaire. Then in 2007 I helped her finish it, she gave her credit card info + submitted it. Immediately there were 3 men who had requested contact with her. I squinted at the screen thinking this can't be true since she'd just joined seconds before. Then I saw that their requests were dated 2003. So her name had been sent to them before she had even joined and those poor guys were thinking that she was not interested in them or couldn't be bothered to respond. This is unethical if you ask me. I dated 4 men before I quit. The last one told me that I was everything that he wanted; was why he'd joined eHarmony, but that he couldn't handle it. The guy before shared with me on the second date that he had been a minister and in the last year of his marriage had regularly driven 3 hours to the big city every month for a year to spend time with hookers. Another problem with the system is that it sets you up with a false sense of intimacy; you've already shared so much with them that you feel like you're somewhat close so you don't take the necessary time to really get to know them. A friend of mine moved out of state to marry her Match only to find out that he'd lied about things, he went into rages, and he believed that women's liberation was a communist plot to destroy the family. They are now divorced. Beware. I think it's B.S.

I have been on eharmony for less that 4 months, and they are dangerous beyond being money-grabbing. This site is highly suspect not only for the reason listed in the previous posts. But, my experience suggests they don't screen their members, and have no filter to prevent one member signing up under several aliases. FAIR WARNING. I have closed the matches, but still get more of the same--downloaded profile??? Clues include profile content does not match Open communication conversation; several matches having identical life stories (i.e. dead wife; embarking on a lucrative new business venture: gold, oil, diamonds, etc). Be careful and alert ladies. I suspect there is some untoward exploitative activity--especially given the prevailing stereotypes of women who pursue online dating as an option.

Is there anyone else who would like to file a CLASS ACTION LAWSUIT. (Any lawyers reading this?) This is highway robbery. I would give eharmony negative 5 stars. This is the worst dating site that is out there and I don't believe for one second that they have the most engagements or marriages. Here my story: I went on one date fairly quickly with a guy who wanted Fast Track communication instead of Guided Communication. In person he was nothing like his pics or his profile, he ordered ribs which he picked up and ate with his hands (OK) but proceeded to drop the bones onto the table! Then when the waitress came to get his dish he just sat there, so I said "Are you going to pick up the bones for her?" and he still just sat there. She swept them up with her bare hand, dropped them in the dish herself and left. Nasty! Since then I have done one complete "Guided Communication" which ended up being closed shortly after and we never even talked on the phone. All the rest have not gotten past the "First Questions" stage. CAN YOU SPELL RIP-OFF? I want my damn money back. I signed up for a year and so far, for the 3 months that I have been signed up, I have not had anyone so much as answer the first questions. I have around a half-dozen "waiting for answers" on my match list, and most of these I don't see myself so much as kissing. YUK! You don't get to pick any of your own matches. I hate this site. I will be speaking with my credit card.

I chose 4 stars because I met someone. I'd say 3 stars for overall service/format. I read a few reviews. And I agree with the scam of sending out dead accounts as matches. That's just wrong. I also agree with a few reviews that stated that dating is what you make it. When it comes to the advertising, you all should get a grip and realize....love is not magic and Walt Disney. Take the advertising as you'd take advertising for ANY product. Ads are RARELY as what the product truly is. Compatible personality test, etc, etc. Don't you get it??? It's a marketing thing. This Warren guy put together a good team of experts and found a way to advertise his site. That's all. And for anyone who bought more personality tests, etc....please...get a grip. The basics is enough.

The best part of eharmony I think is the slow pace. Yes, it can be tedious, but dating is tedious if you really want to find someone special.

I think as on the on line dating as in real life, people are too quick to cut people off, based on trivial things.

Funny thing is, I never got involved with jerks or even talked at length with jerks. I attracted on line, what I pretty much attract in real life. So, the plus with the online is that I was able to cast a much larger net. You get to look through much more possibilities than in real life.

I feel badly for people who had bad experiences, but, I would recommend on line dating if one truly knows what one wants and is willing to work at it.

Oh, another aspect I do not like, is that you can still view closed matches. Well, I like that I can view closed matches, but I don't like that closed matches can view me. (That's a joke...that wouldn't be fair.)I think closed matches should remain closed and you should not be able to look back at them. I found it awkward to try and update my profile while chatting at length with someone, because it is announced that you updated your profile. It's none of my matches' business when I update my profile. If they happen to look at my profile and notice it's updated, then that's fine. Also, I think you should be able to block profiles. Well, come to think about it, I guess there has to be something done about the closed matches. Checking up on closed matches can be helpful if you feel like you're being jerked around. There has to be a better system.

I did have the experience of some jokester/jerk getting through with different pics and names, but with the same profile. THAT was annoying. I was able to make the connection by going through my closed matches.

I joined 3 months at a time. I didn't want to pay for a full year, if I met him within 3 months. I met my guy, in about 9 months.

Not sure where this relationship will go, but for now I'm happy and have closed my eharm account and turned off my matching so my dead account would not be sent to unsuspecting men.

Oh, and custumer service for me was very good.

Most of the reviewers seem to complain about the lack of good matches and the lack of response from those matches. I have no complaints. There did seem to be some science to the matches -- some were no match and I closed them pretty quickly. As far as the lack of response people here complain about, you have to understand the numbers involved. My profile did not have a photo and I received over 700 matches within 3 months. The sheer numbers preclude me from responding to everyone. eHarmony says you are 9x more likely to get a match with a photo, and I cannot imagine handling more. Maybe I would get less.

I have no complaints about eHarmony. I feel it is the best site out there.