Reviews of eHarmony

i have not found anyone who seems serious on meeting on this site. there really are not many matches that are found for a person. wouldnt recommend it to anyone..seems like a waste of money to me. wonder if there are any dating sites worth while online.

I joined eHarmony last month and was forwarded several matches and most of them were nowhere near who I would approach by myself. I did luck out and started emails to a few women that started out great. Well I did meet 3 of them face to face and they seem to want to "start the engine" but I call or email them a few days later and no response. I mean this is plain rude as far as I'm concerned. But after reading most of these posts I see that this is the norm. I have noticed that now I'm getting matches that are in the next state or even country in my case. I have closed about 88 out of 116 matches. 3 matches out of 116 total. Man I can do better in a dive bare for that matter, but then with my luck I'd would most likely run into the closed matches.

I notice many of the positive reviews for eHarmony are from newcomers. It sounds good on paper, and they flood you with "matches." But you will soon find out the truth. They are not doing what they claim to do. I believe it is the single biggest rip-off of my life. For starters, many, maybe most, of my matches were not REMOTELY compatible with me. Second, you are very limited as to contact. I would say close to 95% do not respond AT ALL, not even closing the match or putting you on hold. Just leave you hanging. And there is no mechanism to find out if you are being blown off, or they are being coy, or what. You're just stuck.

Contacting their customer service is hilarious. They give canned answers, some that have abslutely nothing to do with your questions. I have had the experience of forwarding a ridiculous response, only to have an almost identical answer sent to me. But no matter what, they always end with: 90 people a day get married! We're the number one service out there! We use scientific methods!

Its crap; eHarmony does one thing, and ONLY one thing well: advertise.

Don't waste your money.

I joined eharmony about a month ago. Initially several matches came in, one I was interested in and he never responded so I closed the match. Several matches I closed as they were not remotely close to what I was looking for. I have found one match I am actually going out on a first date with this Saturday evening. It is a little anxiety-provoking considering I have never been on a blind date in my life. He seems great through the emails, his photos, funny and intelligent in his writing. So, we'll see. However, I am kind of upset that the matches just stopped coming over a week ago. Nothing. I was wondering if they were waiting until my one month membership expires in a few days in order to get me to extend before they send any more matches. If that's the case, I would be quite disappointed. I will be sure and post how my date goes this Saturday. Wish me luck!

My first experience was with a guy eH fixed me up with...we had loads in common; I was thrilled! After 3 weeks of emailing each other with great success we decided it was time to speak on the phone. This guy who was so articulate on emails, was so severely intoxicated on the phone I couldn't even understand him! He was so out of it he passed out. I was shocked! What kind of people are out there? He should have selected the "drinks a fifth of hard liquor daily" but unfortunately, he chose "drinks a few times a year". He was a mess.

Some other guys sent to me via eH, weren't signed up in the first place but we had a lot in common. Some of the guys weren't similar to me at all and I found nothing in common with them. I not looking for a guy with children living at home or who had trouble finishing high school. I am an attractive, average sized woman, with advanced degrees and who wants a man with culture, an education and an extroverted personality. A few have come my way but live 150+ miles away which makes regular dating a bit difficult, although I haven't lost hope. If you know of this guy...send him my way!

I joined eH less than 24 hours ago. Signed up for one year subscription, without hesitation. The ads are slick and professional, I presume they are asking for the money they are asking for to attract professional people, who actually work, have a life-plan and are more interested in an actual real relationship than some spam-infested envirnoment such as match or yahoo. The cost is steep, the matches that I have received have been minimual (fewer than 24 hours) but I am very optimistic about the whole thing. Two people that I know have met there spouse online. Do I believe that I will meet my future partner? I believe I have as good a chance in this environment as I do in any other social setting--as long as I am honest about who I am, why I am here and what my intentions are once we speak. If I lie about any aspect of who, why or what, then, as I have heard before "garbage in--garbage out"--pretty simple math. I choose to believe in people; with that said, people that are forming an opinion--in this space about something they are not "part of" (i.e. have not will not join) have no relevance to my thoughts or opinions about anything. They are part of the overall problem--"give me everything and I SHOULD NOT be expected to be responsible on any level for anything--I was born and therefore IT IS ALL MINE!!! DON'T YOU KNOW WHO I AM?!?" So, I tend to overlook any comments that are spoken from a point of stupidity. They do not matter. So far, eH has fulfilled there commitment that they made to me, deliver quality people, that there maybe a chance of something happening. What is the difference in going to bar, a church or another online dating service? Once you speak with someone in the eH environment, you have an opportunity to at least have an idea of who you are speaking with, that is huge in my opinion. I am excited and, once again, optimistic about the whole thing, but then again, I have a pretty optimistic view of life anyway. btw, I'm not bad looking, not out of proportion with height/weight, if you are a paying member we may actually get to meet up one day!! Who knows, it could happen! Love and Light to All.

EHarmony is like any other dating service but if you set your parameters high, will send your way more professionally employed men than any other service. The snag is, all these men are being pursued by other cute, younger women and it is definitely going to the candy shop for a lot of these men. My three dates so far have had 6-8 responses every single day! As for me, I only get one match every 5-6 days and one time I did not get a single match for 3 weeks!

I have been told that I am very attractive and have a great personality and I not only hold two degrees but own my own business. Dating services attract immature men who do not want to settle down and this goes the same for EHarmony. Do not let these men fool you that just because that they are a subscriber, their intentions are honorable i.e., looking for a serious partner.

One "almost-a-date", asked me what I am wearing even before he met me and that I look "hot". The other wanted to know whether I do premarital sex. One date wanted to sleep with me on the first date. One asked me out for Saturday night, a second date, and then I never heard back from him again. Yet another was very attracted to me, asked me out again, and then chickened out saying that he is not ready and is in his "comfort zone".

So ladies, unless you REALLY have to because of your dating situation, do not go online searching for your mate as even professional men can be "losers"--great to be friends with but lousy lovers and mates!

I absolutely love eHarmony. It is the most intentional service that I have ever used in the line of dating web sites. Most of the other sites are good for meeting people. But any man that is willing to fill the profile that is requested on the site is worth getting to know. So far I have had about 23 matches in the two months that I have been on.

All of the men are professional, educated and seem like nice guys. I do not communication with anyone that is not willing to post their pictures. That is not a good sign. Some closed our match because they were already pursuing another relationship and I always wish them well. One guy posted a picture of himself with no shirt on "Ewwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!" Anyway I do believe that unfortunately you have to assume that people are telling the truth about themselves.

I used to worry when I would not get matches for long stretches. But then I really got it!!! Not everyone is for me, nor am I for everyone. So right now I am dating a wonderful man who is a few years my junior and is quite the gentleman. It was worth every penny to meet him and the other guys that I dated. He may or may not be the one but I am having a good time. I highly recommend it. It is not for insecure, impatient and immature people. You must be able to take rejection, disappointment and your time.

If you don't mind letting an automatic system (based on a 'personality test' which you take on a one time basis) match you with someone based on some unspecified factors, and don't mind paying $60/mo minimum (reg. fee for 1 mo) to receive only a handful of matches who may or may not be participating/paying members--then I suppose eharmony might be worth the risk. Personally, I think their system is a bit overrated and overpriced.

However, you do take a risk with any of the internet matchmaking sites. But I think it would be unfair to entirely blame eharmony or any site for bad dates, as some are prone to do. They don't conduct scientific psychological tests, investigation/background/credit checks; nor do they recruit from the local model agency. It's unfair to blame these sites for your misery if youre already unhappy with yourself, unhappy about being single, and generally unhappy about life. Eharmony is not going to suddenly improve your life.

That said, as long as you have patience, perseverence,and come without a lot of high or unrealistic expectations,you can have a positive experiece--even with eharmony.

If you want to try eHarmony, don't let any of these people talk you out of it, or into it. Do what YOU want. They are a business, and they do want to take your money, but they do provide a service, so that's reasonable. And you will get matches, and some of them may not be people that you see yourself with, and some of them will be. Whoever is picking these matches can't possibly know exactly what you want or need because they don't know you. But they can give you options, which is their job and the rest is up to you. I have used several online dating services and I can say that eHarmony has done something for ME that the other ones haven't-for the most part they have matched me with people that I have been at least interested in getting to know. I have had a lot of matches and communicated with quite a few guys, and while it hasn't exactly worked out how I wanted, most of them have been good, interesting and intelligent people. Anyone can put a profile on match.com and not fill out half the information and get matches, but a person who takes the time to fill out the eHarmony questionnaire (and believe me, it takes a long time) is at least serious about meeting someone they are compatible with, or they wouldn't bother. You have to do the work of deciding if you want to communicate with someone, or not, but I really believe you will get better choices from eHarmony. But that has to be up to you.