Reviews of eHarmony

This my second time on E-disHaromy. All of you are correct. I was sooo stupid to go back again. You can call them all you want but it is just B.S. I had a girl friend ....She was to young and had babies this was not a problem with me. I loved them. She was not from dis- Harmony. I will tell you all that there is a mate for you, I don't like it but we just have to trust in our Lord! Hey I'm a very good looking man. I have never been used like E-Harmony has used me. Some day E-Harmony will be sued. Any one who paid will be in a class action suit some day. Please tell all stay away from Dis- Harmony.

First off, everyone reading this needs to understand that the author is giving you this information as entertainment only; and that you are responsible for your own actions, and that my experiences described below are my own personal experiences and I do not claim to know what the typical results are for anything that I will now type about.

Sorry about that, but after paying for online dating memberships I don’t have enough money left over to get sued! ZING!!!
Now that I should be a little safer with the legal crowd, here we go!!!

My personal experience on e-harmony was very disappointing; and frankly a bit of a waste of money in my case. I will not say that the site can not work, and I will say that it may have done a very good job for other people, but given what I have experienced over the course of a six month membership I would only recommend the site as a supplemental approach to meet women that either are not on other dating sites, or not online; albeit a relatively expensive one when compared to other sites.

The hard facts:
I bought a six month membership after trying the service on and off for a few months, I came to this decision because the site made several comments to me along the same lines as this one: “finding the right person for you can take time, but with more members than ever registering with eHarmony every day, we believe your special someone is out there. We urge you to be patient, consider all your matches, and stay positive. When you finally find the right person, it's so worth it!”
- E-harmony Customer Care, in an e-mail to me the day my six month membership expired.

I had a total of 339 matches over the course of my memberships. Of those I had met 2 in person (For the purposes of staying factual with this argument I will consider meeting someone in person a success.) meaning I had a success rate at e-harmony of 169.5 to 1; or 0.5%.

I also had memberships on other websites during the same six month time frame, (I will not give the name of the websites so that people do not argue or think to themselves that this is an advertisement for those sites.) on which I took the information that I TYPED in to e-harmony in the “introductory information” portion of my profile and combined that information into one cohesive description of myself. So any difference in the two profiles would be the wording I used to stitch the portions I decided to use together, and the lack of e-harmony’s matching system and questionnaire. Arguably, that left e-harmony with a clear information advantage on the subject of my personality over the other sites. On the most successful other site I can not tell you how many matches they gave me, as I shopped around myself, but I can tell you that from the time that I put my profile together as I mentioned above and the time my six month membership on e-harmony expired I had e-mailed 34 women, and met 3. I don’t think I even have to do the math for you to see an advantage; but I figure that it helps to drive my point home. This would come to a success rate of 11.3 to 1; or 8.8%. Oh, I forgot to mention that this site which I had the most success on is a free site; meaning, it costs nothing to put up a profile, e-mail, or use any of the services that I used to get these results.

What I did not like:
The biggest complaint I have with e-harmony is the fact that you do not know how many people that you are matched with are paying members, and as of the time I am writing this e-harmony does not allow people who do not have a paid membership to contact a paying member outside of what they call an icebreaker; so I do not even know how many of those seemingly lovely women that I was matched with actually wanted to communicate with me; but were not able to do so because they were not willing to pay the price for the membership. In all fairness to e-harmony, there is every possibility that every person that I was matched with did have a membership and simply did not wish to communicate with me for their own reasons, as I have no physical proof that they all did not have memberships, and a number of women did in fact contact me through the site, but than either closed communication with me, or I did with them (In affect telling you they are not interested, which on e-harmony means you can only send them a farewell message from a list that they wrote.); but if this is the case, than it is quite clear that it is not the site for me personally!

In conclusion; I would only renew my membership to e-harmony if they were to change two things:
First, I would want some kind of message on the top of the profile of anyone that is matched with me that clearly states in the same font as the “introductory information” that this person is not a paying member. Second, allow non paying members to use every feature on the site to contact any paying member that contacted them first is able to use.

I did eHarmony for a while (about 4 months) and got a few messages and winks but I wonder if they are real or if some are eHarmony people??? I think 50% are fake! Does anyone have anything to say about this?

Real rating: 0 stars

The chief problem with eHarmony is that stupid, arrogant, superficial females that think the only important quality in a man is his height populate it. eHarmony supports these loser females’ biased attitudes by listing members’ heights. At the same time, eHarmony does not show body type. I don’t know if the site still has an explanation for this, but at one time eHarmony had this stupid post on its FAQ saying that body type should not be an important quality in selecting a partner. At the same time, eHarmony included a FAQ post saying that they include height because women find this important. In other words, men should be happy to be with a fat women (oh, I mean Big Beautify Women), but women are perfectly reasonable in only being interested in men who are at least six inches taller or 5’9”, whichever is taller. Personally, I don’t have any sympathy for loser women with these attitudes or any desire to be with one of them. They can stay on eHarmony and whine about the lack of good men.

eharmony is turning out to be a joke for me as well. I am pretty attractive and though the matches they send me are not bad looking, out of all of them this week, only ONE initiated contact with me. I tried contacting 2 and neither responded. Also, even though I am only 5'3, I said I didn't want anyone under 5'9 and get the 5'6ers daily.
I joined match and had over 100 views, 20 emails and 30 winks in 12 hours!!!! Thank God, because my self esteem was suffering at eharmony.

I just signed up for this site. I got three lousy matches and two of the men were GD BUTT UGLY and the other one was way out of my age range. If I had wanted to date my father I would have for godsakes. I feel like an idiot! So I narrowed it down to finding locals and the warning from EH was that it would LIMIT my matches. So I would have to frigging MOVE TRAVEL OR BIKE to another state or continent to find someone compatible? UH NOOOOOOOOOO! Well HELLO you mean to tell me there are NO MATCHES in my state except for two ugly trolls and my dad? WTF!

Seriously - try myspace. Its free and you can do your own corresponding. EH is a bogus bunch of BS. only three matches ???? What a waste of 112$

Screw eHarmony.com! i cant even use the sh*t site because they discriminate against gay and lesbians... so for the hell of it i decided to take the compatibility test anyways..it took wayyy too long to finish.. i finally finished it.. then a few days later i get an e-mail saying i had no matches! theres 2 hrs i'll never get back lol. f*ck you neil clark warren, your site is sh*t !

eHarmony sucks... just another money making web site... did not have matches for 3 weeks at all... no way to search for matches... GO MATCH.com… There is no way to describe your self in your own words. Nothing but disappointment all the way…

More like minus 5 stars!... If you are on the market of finding a new mate, please stay away from eharmony.com; They are the worst and their matches provided are sent on a automated basis, they are not individually reviewed and matched like they falsely advertise on their TV commercials.
I had the worst experience with them after I was lured into a membership when I saw the "free communication weekend" add; I did not plan on joining but with that free communication weekend all you get is an account and you get to answer a questionnaire that your "matches" send you, for any further communication you will need to join, their membership is the most expensive I have ever seen and they try to get you to sign up for 3 or more months of their bad service, the more months the cheaper it is, please do not fall for it; DO NOT join for more than one month if you must!, they have a "NO REFUND" policy, so no matter how unsuccessful or how unsatisfied you are with their services, they will not let you cancel, no matter how much you complain and how right you are. They are obviously doing this because if they had a satisfaction guarantee they would be out of business. They are a VERY disorganized company, all their funds must be for the TV commercials and not to provide with a good staff in their company. I really hope they go out of business and I wish they would stop running their misleading commercials.
I was lured become a paid member with a "match" that was conveniently exactly what I was looking for, after I joined I never heard from the match again and I never got another compatible match again, this was all very suspicious and convenient for eharmony.com; to this day I still wonder if that one "match" was made up by them, all the other matches provided where not what I wrote I was looking for, but we might share the same religion or a couple of the same answers in their multiple selection questionnaire; some of the matches where even fake profiles with bogus names and answers like: wwwwwiiiii loooossslllls...etc on their about yourself questions.
I can't believe a serious matching company would not scan their members for things like that and more so would even pass those bogus profiles on to another serious member.
I think is really wrong to take advantage of people wanting to find a soul mate. This company will not do that for you. The worst thing is the number of possible "matches" they send you, my email was constantly flooded with "new matches" that where not my match and their elimination process is a very lengthy 4 step process, you can't just look at a profile and click a "not interested" button, they proceed to ask you why you are not interested and they want you to rate that person's profile and then send that "match" an explination from their multiple selection on why you are not interested, then you can finally get that profile out of your "new matches" list, if you have 30 people as your new matches you can spend a good and valuable 2 hours of your time just eliminating all of them (and more than likely you will end up eliminating them all)... I think this someone else matching you is not a very good idea for the way eharmony.com does business; maybe if they put more effort into each individual signing up they would have a more reliable service but they just don't.
My complaint emails to them where answered with an "I am sorry you are dissatisfied with our service" smile at the other side, since there are no refunds, they simply do not care.
Please don't lose your money and end up being disappointed, frustrated and upset like I did. DO NOT USE THEIR SERVICES.

Eharmony matches its paid members with anyone who has completed its questionnaire, despite the fact that these people have not subscribed to the service and CANNOT reply to you. It's an unethical scam.