Reviews of eHarmony

Pardon me if this is redundant, but I didn't want to go through 1000+ posts to relate my -dreadful- experience with eHarmony. Thank goodness, I'm only out $60 (one month). And, yes, I did get "the phone call" toward the end of my subscription re: "need to be on two to three months if you expect to be successful." No, thanks! One month was plenty!

I'd always wondered why it was that so many of my matches simply "sat" and never did anything, i.e., never tried to connect, never "closed" me, etc. Also, I wondered why the majority of the 10-15 women I contacted never responded. I rather assumed it was because (a) I was wrong when I assumed that, due to the expense of the site, people would be more committed to the process, and/or (b) eH had turned into a gigantic party game for the well-heeled!

Little did I know the "big secret!" By chance, they happened to match me up with a local attorney I already knew. No picture, but "single," "57," "attorney" living in an exclusive lakeside community (of less than 600 population), was a dead giveaway. SO, I called and asked her about it! She HAD been a member of eHarmony, but had terminated her membership nearly a year before! SO - answers that question about the "no-shows, no-activity(s)!" They're "recycling" people - and a lot of those "matches" simply aren't around any longer to respond to you! Guess we "seeking someones" get what we deserve, huh? Seems like out-and-out "fraud" to me...

I, like others here, signed up for a year's worth of eHarmony service. And, like others here, have nothing good to say about this site at all. So far I have gone out on three "dates." None of the people I was matched with really had anything in common with me, but we actually got to the meetup stage, so I figured what the hell, this is what I was paying for, after all.

The first date, I treated the girl to dinner. She wasn't fat, she wasn't skinny, she was just average in weight. She was weird. Took her to a nice place and she ordered a side salad and a water and took about three bites of the salad. Oooook. The rest of the night we spent chatting. I should say *I* spent chatting, as she just mainly sat there and responded here and there but wasn't much of a conversationalist. As the night wore on, however, she was getting decidedly horny. I'm not one to get busy with someone on the first date, and the preceding hours had left me with an overall negatice impression, that I didn't play to her advances. We planned on going out again, but I phoned her and said we'd probably be better off not doing that.

Second date was with a woman just six years older than me (I'm 34). We mat for coffee and chatted and such and it was decent, though nothing remarkable. At the end of it I asked if she'd like to get together again, and she said sure, but just "as friends" because somehow I "made her feel really old." I have no idea how I did this. Maybe it's because I like all sorts of music, movies, and books, and enjoy all sorts of things related to pop culture, and when it came to her discussing what she liked to read it was "Harlequin romance novels." All right, well it was nice of her to offer the friends thing, but it was another strike, and so we parted ways.

Third date, another older woman. Complete history buff and other sorts of things that didn't really equate totally with what I was looking for but, again, go out and see what happens because this is I what I paid for. We had a nice dinner, which I happily paid for again - and this gal actually ordered something and ate heartily - and then we went to her home and she wanted to watch Apollo 13, which she said she had already seen about 90 times. We chatted a bit more while the movie was playing, but again, nothing there at all made me want to do it again. We parted amicably.

So three dates, all of which with people who really didn't match up with my likes/dislikes/whatnot. Terrific. The other time has been sent either being closed out after getting halfway through the jumping through eHarmony hoops process, or at the beginning before anything occurred, or my closing other people out because they didn't interest me, or were miles and miles away even though I specified a 30 mile range. Then there were the drought periods which were magically fixed when I sent in feedback telling them how lousy their service was and how the pickings were slim. But even then, nothing came of any of it.

So I'm out a couple hundred bucks for nada. I've already cancelled my subscription, which finally expires in September. Congrats on making more cash through bullshit, guys. All I wanted was one good date. Just one.

I suspected dubious intentions when 90% of my matches were not interested in physical activities ei bike riding,walks,and athletic activities. I made it very apparent physical activity was very important. I would usually close supposed matches with values are different, I closed the last completely incompatible match with we are talking now, I IMMEDIATLY WAS SENT A RATING QUESTIONARE. Eharmony should be Eripoff.

They should rename this site eHomely. Seriously, what is the point of sending me 100 matches that I am not even remotely attracted to. For example, I am 5'11", 185 lb, and am considered OK-looking. So why do they think that the perfect match for me is a 4'11" Pacific-Islander who live 450 miles away from me. Also, I'm 44 and looking for a woman of child-bearing age; so they send me a 49 year-old. Total waste of money!

If you're looking at this 'before' you pay anything to eharmony, count yourself extremely fortunate. If you've already paid, get out now. Right now!!

Eharmony is a scam. Their whole focus is to get you interested, torture you with carrots that never pan out, and keep you investing your money (at an extremely high monthly rate relative to other dating sites)... and in the end, you'll be very fortunate to meet anyone, much less the mate of your dreams.

The free dating sites are far superior to eharmony.

1 star is infinitely more then they deserve.

They screwed me out of two months worth of subscription. Before the expiry of my pricey year long subscription, I emailed them using their form to not auto-renew my account as I was unhappy with their service. At the end of the year, they debited my account for a month subscription. Again using their form, as they supply no real email address, I asked them to immediately refund me for the month and remove me from the auto renew list. They then debited me for another month. They recently added a 1-800 number to their help section so I phoned and they say they never received any emails from me and therefore they can't refund my money. They also said that their phone number has always been available in their terms of service. Of course it has never been particularly accessible anywhere on their website. I am soo pissed off.

From a technical stand point, their site has been rife with issues, from their photo upload being on the fritz, to a non-functioning email form.

The number and quality of matches has been dismal. They make you go through a lengthy questionnaire process that seems to have no bearing on the matches they present you with.

Stay away from eHarmony. You’re better off joining a book club.

My rating would also be negative. I've been on the site for 4 months and have not been in communication with anyone. Forget dates-I'd just like to strikeout before it gets to that point, but have had no luck at all. Also, once you cancel your automatic renewal, they no longer care about your opinion. In the early stages before I cancelled (auto renew), when I questioned about lack of matches, it was always my fault I needed to do this or that. I took their advice sometimes, but no luck. My biggest complaint is that with any system anybody creates, it's not going to be perfect, so you have to adjust your system to better serve all your clients. Their loyalty is to their system-not their clients. If you ask about the 29 dimensions, you get the runaround. I simply want to know how many of the 29 have to match for them to be considered a match? I have spent $250.00 for a year-long membership and have not even received $0.01 worth of service. Since I cancelled, they no longer care about me even communicating with anyone. I was really upset to find that some of my matches were ones who could not even communicate with me, even if I wrote to them, because they weren't paying members.

True to form.after .I sent an email the other day stating that I wished to terminate my membership..I received a solicitation from eharmony asking me to reconsider THEN additional note saying that perhaps if I posted more photos that would meann I was "invested" in the process and I'd get more matches. HAHAHAHA. How typical...placing the "blame" on me! What a ripoff. I had one phone call from a "match" who sadly is a psychiatrist..who spent one hour talking non-stop... I even put the phone down and continued reading a book then picked up the phone a few minutes later and he was still talking...not even pausing for a moment. I would love to know eharmony's actual process of matching. How exactly is it done????

So, I thought I'd email just to balance things out a bit. I joined eharmony in mid-February and actually met someone I've been dating, around the beginning of May.

When I first signed up, they sent me many matches. Then throughout March, the pickings were very slim. I was getting a ton of rejections and hardly any new matches coming in. I started to feel like an absolute troll. If I had read this site at that time, I would have been right with you in writing that eharmony sucks. But then I decided to take action. Since the guys did not seem to be taking any initiative in contacting me, I started communicating by sending out initial questions to about 20 guys, anyone that seemed remotely nice and normal. I figured, if they weren't exactly what I was looking for, at least they'd be blind-date dating practice.

I ended up going out with 4 guys. Oh and there were some "gems," let me assure you. Like what's with the guys making a date with you at the beginning of the week for Saturday at 7 for example, then not calling until 2 hours before the date, and then saying "What are you up to?" Then the normal women says, "I thought we were going to a movie?" And the guy says, "Oh, ok, well I didn't have other plans anyway." Yeah, that's a way to make a lady feel special, guys. So, guys, even though you don't smoke, beat women, drink heavily, and have a job, doesn't mean you're still not a rude weirdo. Please take a hard look at yourself before complaining that the women don't like you!

Anyway, I've been seeing the guy I met from eharmony for about 2 months now. I don't think either of us saw fireworks on that first date. We just respected one another, saw lots of common interests, liked each other, and have grown to like each other more and more.

Good luck all and I do feel for those who are not getting money back from eharmony, that WOULD suck. My subscription is up soon, I hope they don't recharge me automatically. If they do, I'll be back here bitching about it!

If I could give eharmony a -10 I would. 29 levels of compatability..give me a freaking break. What planet of compatibility are these qualities derived from? Based on the matches I've encountered and subsequently closed..I cannot imagine why or how these matches were conjured up. I've encountered far too many unstable people on this site. (not that eharmony has the monopoly on this!!). Basic politeness seems to have flown out the window. Common courtesy is not even there. I have terminated my membership (yipee) and will NOT make this same mistake again. I am fed up with ego-centric immature men! (again I am sure that there is a fair share of immature women but I've been communicating with the male variety!).