Reviews of eHarmony

I have been on eHarmony on and off for over five years now. Yes, I am still single, but at least I have some great stories about the pathetically absurd dates I've been on with eHarmony matches.

I am truly baffled by the eHarmony matching process. I have no idea what their criteria is for a "compatable" match, but they are very good at tricking you into believing there is a man on their site who could be your "soulmate" so you better not blow it by letting your membership lapse!! About half of my matches live across the country even though I live in a very metropolitan area. Really eHarmony? There isn't one guy out of the 3 million people living in LA that you consider a compatable match for me?

What I also find disturbing is the number of matches who seem to be empty fillers. eHarmony tells me I have all these matches, but the matches never even look at my profile, let alone try and contact me. I don't think there is an actual person on the other end of these matches. A very good male friend of mine found out his profile was "active" four years after he left eHarmony. I believe they are using his profile as one of the empty fillers.

As for my dates, let's see -- there was the guy who started talking about sex and sexual positions within 5 minutes of our one and only date. Oh, and the guy who couldn't seem to form a complete sentence the entire evening (I've actually had a few of those). My personal favorite is the guy who copied one of my profile pictures, photo-shopped it to make me appear topless, then reposted the picture on Facebook -- before our first date!!

I have to say though that the worst experience was the guy I did date for almost two years who turned out to be a complete con artist. He professed his love for me and declarations of being together for the rest of our lives, then finessed me out of my life savings. I'm looking at bankruptcy next month. I informed eHarmony and they promised to remove him from the site, but guess what?? They matched me with him a second time this past week!!!

Bottom line -- if you're looking for something REAL and LASTING just keep moving past eHarmony.

eHarmony is great at sending you 'matches' as your membership is close to expiring. But if you have 3 months still to go, you'll receive 1 or 2 'matches' a week. Plus, I'm not musically inclined, didn't state anything relevant about music on my profile, yet, I continuously get matched with musical guys. What dimensions of compatability are they using to match me up with these guys? The only matching capability they have is to match up my credit card with their bank account. Someone is getting rich, and someone is getting frustrated. This site is a joke, they automatically renew you even though I changed my credit card info but they managed to continue to renew me. Using a credit card without authorization is FRAUD. Until someone sue's their asses off, they continue with this practice!

Save your money, time and aggravation and try something else. EHarmony doesn't work!!!!!!!

All you need to know about this site is that you will be like a begger waiting for your master (eharmony) to give whatever they want to you. Case closed. (There is nothing more I need to say, but I have to write 200 characters, so these are just fillers)

I was just going on to the e harmony site to join up and happened to look down..thank god...and saw this site here. Thanks big time guys for the advice. It is hard enough meeting people as it is...this would only SCREW MY HEAD AROUND MORE !!! Thanks again...:)

The service they provide is valuable. But their Customer Service is atrocious. There is no way to reach them...they bury any contact information in their website. And they autorenewed me for an INCREASED fee without advance notification. UPon receiving notice that they had, and I had met someone so was planning to cancel, I immediately wrote back--same day. And they insisted they would still charge me for the next 30 days. I have replied to that and 3 days later nothing but these automatic emails from Customer service where they put a Sales Message in them instead of addressing the issue. Then I found a cusotomer service phone number and got a message saying the call volume was high so please call back again. They are the worst customer service experience I have had in recent memory.

This was the worse decision I have ever made. The girls from this website must be just made up profiles. I have been a member since October 2009 and have gone out on only two dates so far. The first one was a head case and the second one could not have been more of a mismatch. I find this surprising as this company brags about their "Matching" as if it was magic. Other than that nothing else. I can tell you I am a good looking guy and I am in good physical shape too. I joined Plenty of Fish and in a matter of two days I had 5 dates lined up with beautiful girls. Call me crazy but a website that is completely free gives me way better results than an expensive one. I have to wonder as the true nature of the information I get from Eharmony. Please stay away from this site. You will be doing yourself a big favor.

It's like dating with training wheels ... expensive training wheels. The whole facilitated communication thing is a joke. You can't even talk to a person until you jump through a number of pre-arranged hoops. That's great if you're worried about stalkers and don't want to crawl out of your plastic bubble, but for people who live in the real world, it's a pain in the ass. Plus there's no freedom in deciding your matches. You can't take a chance on someone who eHarmony doesn't dictate is a good match for you.

I don't even know where to start with what is wrong with this site. As a person with a psychology background, I can tell you that there wasn't much psychology put into this site.

Their "29 dimensions" of compatibility are nothing more than a generic personality questionnaire that can be found anywhere on the internet an on other dating sites.

After reading their personality profile of me, it was very generic and at least a third of it was completely inaccurate. That's right, 33% of their "29 dimensions" couldn't hit the broad side of a barn. About 50% of it had some accurate information, but it was hit and miss and some of the items they said didn't mesh with the items that were true. That leaves us with about 17% that was accurate.

The first time I signed up, they told me that they weren't able to match me. This of course was during their "communication free" weekend. They claimed that this happens 20% of the time.

Now, I've grudgingly taken statistics and research methods in psychology and I can tell you that a 20% failure rate is not okay on any level. Any statistician will tell you the exact same thing.

There is no empirical evidence of how successful they are and they were unwilling to provide any statistical data to prove that they were successful. They didn't have any information on how long these relationships lasted and it appeared that they only used information that was provided to them upon closing of their site, which doesn't show that their site works, just that their site was able to do what every other free dating site is able to do.

The people in their commercials have been proven to be actors and are often "pretty people". I have yet to see an average looking person in their commercial saying that they met through eHarmony and that it was the best thing in the world.

Their system doesn't take into account superficiality which is something that's necessary when trying to match people.

One of their claims that makes me laugh is the claim that "You will have higher success of using the site if you contact each one of your matches." Well of course you're going to have a higher rate of success of getting a date if you contact every single person you're matched with. You'll have a higher rate of success if you asked every person that walked by your house out on a date too.

Their service is over priced and the questionnaires they use can be found on free sites.

Their "highly trained professional staff" appears to be nothing more than young grad students or people who have just graduated with a degree. Few of the people that they have working for them have any experience in dating or human behaviour for that matter.

Save your money, use a free site.

I think this site is another way to cause feelings of insecurity and a sense of rejection. The creator no doubt is making a boat load of money because the lures you in with the hope of finding someone that is perfectly matched with you. I took the compatibility test and I was matched with many men. However, they would close communication with me before they even begun to communicate. At first I felt very rejected. I thought what is wrong with me. Then I finally got a man to reply and he basically said it was my race, he did not date Black women. A few others stated the same thing. I am thinking to myself, if this is such a good match, don't you think race is a major factor on both sides.

One star is a star too many for this dating site. Totally disappointed and a waste of money. Like many others, I signed up and waited. Because thats all the let you do. You don't have the option to browse through profiles. You can only view those they send you. And as mentioned in other reviews here, the matches are usually in another state and don't fit your description of the perfect mate, not even close. I called and complained within 1 week of membership and was told that I am inpatient. Meanwhile, on another dating site, my mailbox is being hit with emails left and right. I would check e-harmony maybe once a week only to see that people had not viewed my profile nor did I have any matches. Pass on the their 29 dimensions to love.....what a crock of crap!