Reviews of eHarmony

My experience with eharmony has been wonderful, which has actually been very surprising to me. I'm a mid-fifties semi-professional, and I'd think that in itself would make me hard to match. Maybe because I'm fit, active and post honest, recent pictures, and took time with my profile, I get tons of communication requests. I've requested communication twice, and all the rest of the time the man initiates.

I've been on and off eharmony for over a year and a half, with breaks in between if I was dating exclusively. My matches number around 800 closed, and I have 175 current matches, and over 45 that have been in open communication. Early on, I found you need to be careful, as in any kind of dating, about the emotional health of the men you will meet. Most of the men I've met on eharmony have been amazing guys I'd never have the opportunity to meet otherwise, as I am in an office all day, don't belong to a church, and am not into bars, either. I've dated two former pro athletes, met many truly intelligent and interesting men, had one serious relationship, and one marriage proposal (the proposal wasn't from the one right for me, but it was very nice). Eharmony has kept me busy meeting new people, having fun, talking on the phone, or on weekend dates solidly.

So it has worked for me. I just thought I'd interject a little positivity (if that's a word) into these reviews. I didn't expect much more from this service than the chance to meet new people, and it's definitely fulfilled that expectation and more.

I would rate this service as zilch! Don't do the year sign up!

the worst part for me however were the techinical problems. they claim to email you when they match you, but I stopped getting those emials. Also, I was in regular communication with three different individuals...open email communication. the pattern had been contact every other day. in one three day period, I stopped getting emails about matches and I did not get emails from any of those three matches.

I finally called customer service and was really blown off. "you must be acidentally deleting them. They must be going in your spam mail." While I acknowledge all three of them could have decided at the same time they didn't want to communicate any more, the fact that it happened at the same time the match emails stopped is suspicious. The technical problem has not yet, after 6 weeks, been addressed in any satisfactory way or resolved.

I suscribed in February on a $10.00 a month deal and had several matches immediately. I understand from one person I have actually had phone conversations with that there are probably many, many more women than men on the service. While I wouln't complain about the number of matches, I would complain about the number of matches that were even remotely compatible.

I wish one of the magazine shows would do an expose of this service. If thousands are having satisfactory results, how come they keep showing the same pictures of couples who met years ago?

Every time my subscription came up for renewal I was told I had a bunch of matches waiting. After about 25 to 30 matches did not respond to my request to communicate I began to think I was getting matched with fictitious people. It was a terrible waste of money. After a year I had met no one and never got beyond the second level of communication with the few who wrote back saying "The distance is too great" or "I've met someone already." There should be a "no star" rating!

After reading other reviews of EHarmony, I see that users have had a wide range of experiences. Why not throw in my own two cents! I had a 6-month subscription from January-July 2008. Before I signed up, I made a note in my appointment book to contact them in late June. It was clear to me that renewal was automatice unless I shut it down, which I did.
I joined after breaking up with my girlfriend. I tried it for two months before getting back together with her.
The EHarmony questionnaire was too much work for not enough reward.
My biggest frustration was the amount of time it took to organize a date. I had email exchanges with quite a few women who seemed very nice. A few of these progressed to phone conversations. But several weeks passed and I still had not physically "met" anybody.
About five years ago I was on Match.com. Match may have changed, but my memory is that things went a lot faster. I reviewed the profiles and decided who I wanted to contact. After a quick exchange of emails, a request for her cell phone number was usually granted. If the conversation went well, a date was planned. Although it didn't result in marriage, I met and dated some very attractive - looks and otherwise - women.
Most single people dislike blind dates because they don't like trusting the matchmaking to their fiends, relatives, co-workers. Why do we think people trying to make money doing it with computers will do a better job?

I really wanted to rate (rank)it a 'negative' however, there was not an option to do so.
I signed up for a month only, to do a review for a business I am starting that is ranking these websites and the overall success in what they 'claim' to achieve for you/us.
Simply put:
This site is so sophmoric and boiler plate and seems to be the OnLY dating sight that truely does perhaps make tons of 'money' because there is certainly and without a doubt, no money put into this sight's appeal, nor functionality, to really help you 'communicate' properly with the parties. The communication is boiler plate questions that are so dumb that you spend alot of time playing 'games' with grammer school like tests of questions that this site has emposed. There is nothing personal and within the limits of allowing you to weed out the 'not so attractive' responders.....quickly enough to move foreward. Getting someones photos is a huge deal and only to be dissapointed at the finds...(lol)I was actually thinking at one time.....are all these men the ugly ducklings of the entire world? How did they find this site and how do they know that this is 'their' private misfit place? Wow! Amazing! 5 stars for keeping them in one place! So in a way.....girls...thank god for this sight!!!!!
There was NOT ONE person I would meet nor matched to me and my preferences. I am a very attractive bright , fun and funny woman who is very very datable and honestly, dont need to 'be' on these sights, so I did it for research and got a lot of information from experiencing this site. If anyone wants to find really cool people they MUST be able to 'do their own search' (which Eharmoney DOES NOT LET YOU DO!) and have a 2 way personal EASY communication.

Wish I had read these reviews before joining e-harmony. My experience was similar to all these others. Many matches at first. Not many with pictures. No responses. I complained, asked for a refund, and threatened to file a complaint with my State Attorny General's office of Consumer Protection. I received a reply today. They were sorry I was unhappy but basically admitted that many people probably are not members anymore. They are changing my 3 month subscription to one month and are crediting my charge card for half of the amount I was originally charged. They are also terminating my account. They don't like people like me. I'm going to follow through with that complaint. Maybe more people need to do this.

Eharmony is a colossal waste of money. They send you matches who aren't members and cannot write to you or respond to you. Also, my home page would tell me that no one has viewed my profile, not even anonymously, but there would be several "Closed" messages. How do you close a message without viewing a profile? And this business about chemistry is garbage. They basically send you every single person in your age range and within 60 miles of your location. I kept getting matched with guys whose best life skill is "keeping physically fit" and who spend most of their leisure time "working out." I wrote Eharmony on more than one occasion making it clear that I don't have a "model" body (this is not about confidence, it is about reality), and that I don't want to be matched with guys who expect one. Of course, I never heard back and I kept getting the same useless match ups. I noticed today, you can no longer write to Eharmony, even if you are a member. There is no longer any contact information on the website. I think I'm not the only one who's been complaining. Save your money.

Wonder why you don't get any response to the matches? It is because eharmony matches you with people in their data base that are no longer subscibers to the service. I have not subsribed to them for over a year and I have 10 matches on my page. All who tried to contact me and got no response because I no longer have the service. I have reported them to Consumer Affairs and I think everyone dissatisfied with their false advertising should do the same thing.

Don't waste your money. Although this is advertised as a site that matches based on personality, unless you are young, thin, and beautiful, you'll never get a "real" match. Most men are still apparently only interested in the outside and never even take the time to try to get to know you...I've been a "member" for a year (just finally canceled) and never got one "live" match. What a waste of time and money. I too would have rated this a zero if that were an option.

I've used eHarmony twice during the past 5 years. The first time I was with eH, I met someone who was a good match and we married within a year. She was actually my first literal match sent, but that I know is just a matter of chance. We have divorced after about 4 years together, but remain good friends, for which I am grateful. As most reviewers here have figured out, the compatibility system is smoke and mirrors. You will receive matches based on region and locality more than any other factor. You will receive more matches if you are in their database as Christian (as compared to other choices such as Agnostic or Athiest). You should expect that the majority of your matches will be inactive and unpaid members, who have no way to contact you -- unless, in one of the text fields you enter a timely message and type out your email address in some disguised manner, so that there is the chance that even invalid members who do view your profile can contact you. I have had this work several times and actually had pretty keen people emailing me, from my list of otherwise non-member matches. Example of such a phrase: "The Dems have just met in Denver and chosen Obama, and my email address is blahblah @ oohay with service provider spelled backwards." ... Such as me, dellforum001 @ liamg . moc ... It's frivolous to purchase a one-month subscription -- there won't be enough time to be able to communicate to enough people -- only jump in when you can get a package of not more than $23 per month. Lately they have packages for as little as $10 per month also. You can search for eH coupons, there are always many versions of coupons out there. I strongly suggest making a new profile and turning on matching, then just don't go back to the website (as in DO NOT LOG IN at all) for two or three weeks. They will send you loads of matches in the attempt to entice you to log in (and pay to join). By about the third week when you log in again for the second time, you will have a slew of matches to start with, and hopefully will have garnered a deal for between $20-$23 per month. They will send you better and better priced deals the longer you wait to go back and log in for that second time. Like anything else, it will be what you make of it. Try to make the initial questionnaire a 'middle of the road' psychological profile, and by all means I can't stress enough to list yourself as Christian as it is of course the dominate representation in the USA. Be creative and don't just hit radio buttons when you reply to people. Include their name when replying, even if it is a radio button response of 240 characters or less. You want to engender the feeling that you are engaged in the process and interested. For those individuals who are active members with whom are matched, take the time to read their whole profile and learn something about them. You won't come across as interesting if you ask questions such as what is their favorite movie, etc. It's what you make of it, like anything else in life. I had a great experience the first time and plan on having a great experience this time, too. One thing I like about eHarmony compared to other sites is that its pace actually gets people to focus on communicating. Of course eH knows this and its a part of their gag by design. One other match sites, I find that women are just bombarded with so many emails everyday that it's probably hard for them to decide how to go about good communication with any one person among the thousands. eHarmony avoids that by only sending you a few matches per day.