Reviews of eHarmony

This website deserves no stars whatsoever. This site sucks. I spent 2 days filling out their stupid personality profile, and then, when i had finished, they " were very sorry", but they could not predict any good matches for me. I hate eharmony.

The only reason I'm giving e-Harmony 2 stars is because it's really no better or worse than any other dating site... just more expensive. And if you're willing and able to spend your hard earned money on what's nothing more than a hope and a prayer, then that's ON YOU. I wouldn't tell anyone not to spend their money on e-Harmony just like I wouldn't tell them to play the lottery. Because trying to find the "perfect" mate on e-Harmony... or on ANY dating site for that matter... IS like playing the lottery hoping to win with ONE ticket... and that one ticket is YOU.

Furthermore, the entire internet meeting-dating thing is built for failure. Too many people with too many delusions that tell too many lies with the nerve to have too many expectations to receive more than they're willing or "able" to give. People keep looking for stereotypical "perfection" on personal sites... when they SHOULD be looking for someone that's just as screwed up as they are. Because who else than someone who can empathize with YOUR idiosyncrasies can understand you better OR find it easier to love YOU "unconditionally"?! LOL!

There's an old song by Lou Rawls with the lyric, "What's the matter with the world, has the world gone mad? Nothing's wrong with the world... it's the people that's IN IT." Women who are 5'4" and under only wanting men who are 6'0" and over... Average men who ALWAYS been average wanting exceptional, well-rounded women... etc., etc. It's ALL BS... and the biggest lies are those that people tell THEMSELVES.

And so goes e-Harmony and every other internet dating site out there. Of course they're getting rich... because they feed off of the insecurities of people who are out of touch with THEIR OWN reality. You'd be better off trying to meet someone of substance at an event of common interest "in person". Of course, there's no guarantees doing that either... but at least you'll feel "human" because you'll have BE human while you're doing it.

I've been with eHarmony for over a year--659 "matches" so far, and NONE of 'em have matched me yet. eHarmony continues to urge that I post a photo--you get more responses with a photo or two posted. Well, before I posted my photos I was at least getting some responses, "you sound interesting, please send photo," requests from a few men. Unfortunately, men are visual creatures and can only imagine themselves with movie stars on their arms (much younger movie stars, I might add). Once I posted my photos, I never got another response-Haha. My next photo will have to be me with a bag over my head, I guess.
Now that I've read the reviews on this site, I guess that I'll chalk the whole eHarmony thing up to experience and move on. Their 'levels of compatability' are so much hooey--I think that they just throw any new customers at everyone who is still open. Their ads with their "doctor" spokesman sure had me going for a while, though!

I am a member currently and wish that I had gone with my earlier instinct and not signed up. I did this a few years ago and got so few matches and out of those few matches they were pretty far away. Right now, I get the closed matches also, it's not eharmony, the fact is we are meeting real people there and they behave the same as they would behave anywhere else. Eharmony is not some special environment where people suddenly develop a different nature. So you take your chances and I am already tired off it. I will be very amazed if I get even a date out of this I am enrolled for 3 months and so far I am not happy at all with the matches who are often not good matches actually either. Honestly I am human too, the pictures can be off putting. I guess they don't like mine either :). Shame that we have to waste good money like this sometimes. I won't be renewing and they'd better act right.

I just moved to a new state, to a very small town where I don't know anyone yet, but it seems guys are either too old, too young or too married. The only guys I've had hitting on me are like 23, I'm going to be 34 in a few months. A friend of mine had success using a dating site, she met someone in a different state and they ended up getting married after he got a job to be closer to where she lived. So I thought I'd give it a try.

I basically wanted a guy who was in good shape, (I'm not talking about an Adonis, just someone in good enough shape to do active stuff with... like taking long walks, going swimming at the lake, going to the gym... so on)

I'm looking for a guy who preferably has never been married (though I'm ok with divorced if it's a nice guy), someone who doesn't have kids, someone financially and emotionally stable with no criminal background, who is between 31-38 years old. What did I get with e-harmony?

Guys who would be considered morbidly obese with more hair on their backs than on their heads, with 3 kids, and who happens to be 45 years old... though I did get matched with a 19 year old once. It was a bit expensive, and I didn't find anyone I'd actually consider going on one date with after 6 months of looking.

Okay, so maybe this is a review more for the guys on Eharmony than Eharmony itself. On the advice of a good friend, I created a profile and took a special deal for Eharmony for 3 months. I am a full figured woman and don't make any apologies for it. But I cannot believe how shallow the man on Eharmony were. I never like posting pictures of myself because once I do, the matching stops, the "winking" stops, everything just comes to a standstill. The matches "close" their match with a reason of "other." Guys, do you ever look beyond the outside? I have so much more to offer. And photos can be deceiving. Not everyone is born with a body like Barbie.

I gues my review of Eharmony is that IT IS like every othe dating site out there, although they tout they are not. I fill out the lengthy questions and they send me matches. I've never gone any farther than the "can't stands and must haves."

Yes I have tried the sites for full figured women, but why should I have to limit myself. So bad on you Eharmony. All you're doing is making it a little harder for the women to be humiliated.

So this is a response to the review on April 17th, 2010. I'm glad you found someone incredible. However, if you read the reviews there are many people who's been on eHarmony for 1 year or more. I've personally tried eHarmony for 6 months.

It looks like you got lucky and I'm happy for you. As long as you see eHarmony as yet another way to meet people I think your assesment is fair.

However, I'd like to point you to a study done by National Geographic:
http://images.google.com/images?hl=en&q=national%20geographic%20singles%20map&um=1&ie=UTF-8&sa=N&tab=wi

If you happen to be in a city where the number of guys far outweigh the number of single girls - the reality is eHarmony doesn't really help the guy. (and vice versa) There is an amplification effect on the internet where the inequiality in gender further amplifies on dating sites. The gender in disfavor ends up being suckered. The gender in demand gets a incredible deal. It's simply a law of supply and demand in action on speed. Ofcourse there are exceptions such as your case.

I'm not against eHarmony, I and many many others just didn't have a positive experience with it. It has nothing to do with having an open mind or length of the membership. Clearly people have an open mind if they are willing to try eharmony and there are many people who tried it for months and years without success.

It comes down to law of supply and demand. Chances are if you're in favor you won't need eHarmony in the first place. If your gender is not in favor (in your state), eHarmony does very little to help.

I only wanted one month and you doubled billed me, I had cancelled the same day I signed up. I did not request tohave my account renewed you actually wanted to know "WHY I WANTED TO CANCEL". Now I am being charged an extra month without my permission. Plus there is no phone # on website for complaints. SO IN WOULD APPRECIATE IT IF YOU WOULD REVERSE THAT EXTRA CHARGE YOU KINDLY THOUGHT TO ADD ON......

WORST SIGHT THERE IS ON THE NET AND THE MOST EXPINSIVE. IF YOUR NOT SATISFIED YOU DON'T GET YOUR MONEY BACK.

WHAT A BUNCH OF BULL CRAP IT IS. I DID NOT LIKE IT AT ALL. THEY KEPT SENDING ME MATCHES THAT LIVED VERY FAR AWAY WHEN I HAD DOWN 60 MILES FROM ME. AND MOST WERE NOT REAL MATCHES.

Their 29 dimension of compatibility matching is overrated and flawed. So I’ve ended up dating two girls from this site. Both were nice people but we just weren’t compatible in every way imaginable. While we tried to make it work for a few months, in the end – it was futile. No one was at fault; we just had fundamentally different views and expectations. They should call it 29 dimensions of separation :)

Another drawback of eHarmony was that you have to wait for eHarmony to find you a potential partner. This happens very sporadically. In my case I had 24 to 28 matches a month. This seems like a decent number of matches on the surface but for me 80% of the matches were either 1) in a different country or 2) inactive profile. So realistically I was looking at 4 to 5 matches a month. Out of those 4 to 5 matches, I was interested in the matches roughly 30% of the time. So I had maybe 1 or 2 interesting matches. When you factor in the girl’s response rate (they’re getting bombarded I’m sure) – you get the picture.

So I got very little value for $60/month in terms of introductions. If I did find someone potentially interesting we were incompatible in every way imaginable. I’ve had much better success just going out and meeting people.