Reviews of eHarmony

I've been using eHarmony for 3 months. My account will be cancelled in a few weeks. I decided to cancel my account because I felt that there are double standards as to how they treat their customers.

Initially I was receiving a lot of matches which was find but most of them seemed really not like me at all. I then decided that perhaps I should put more information about me and made a few changes. Of course I thought it was because of what I had written in my about me.

I then attempted to put a photo of my tattoo. It's on my lower back and rather large and I didn't want to have the situation where someone would be so petty as to not want to be matched with someone with body art. The photo was not approved and when I questioned it they said that I had to be present in the photo. So I accepted that as truth and kept going through my matches. A week or two later I started noticing a lot of my matches had photos of locations they've been or their dogs and they were not present. I assumed that the rule had changed so again I added a photo of my tattoo. Again it is not approved. I then email customer service and ask and I am referred to a link but no real answer. I write back asking why my photo is not approved and others have photos without their faces in them that are live on their site. I do not receive a response.

Again I try to upload the photo but this time I used my handy dandy photoshop and pasted in my face in the photo. I figured I had followed the rules and they would have to approve it. Again they do not. I email to ask why and then I get a response to my previous email telling me that the last section in about me is where I should indicate that I have a tattoo.

By now I am feeling discriminated against because of a personal preference and they haven't responded to the fact that they have other users with photos that do not include their faces. I emailed this to them and again no response.

So I then decide to do what they said and put the information down in the last box of other details you would like to add. I mention that I have a tattoo and that although others have photos that do not have them in it I am not allowed. I offered my email addy but then I notice that eharmony actually goes in to edit your profiles.

I feel that they basically stole my money and won't respond. I am cancelling my account but since I clicked on the cancel account of course I am not getting any responses and conveniently I am not getting any emails about my matches.

I really feel that this web site discriminates based on personal preferences. I follow rules but when I see that they are picking and choosing who to apply the rules to I take personal offense to that and feel that it's not good business practices to treat people like this.

I am participating in the free weekend trial offer and nothing has changed since the last time I paid for their rip'off!

I have 10 guys waiting to read my questions since friday and I am sure they will answer me by tomorrow midnight when the free trial period ends. I cannot get more matches because I have reached the max (but it is not my fault they do not answer!!!). What a joke! Oh, and the only one who actually answered, was cancelled right in my face by the system!!!!!!

Doug from Salt Lake, if you really exist and you ever read this, I DID NOT hit CLOSE MATCH. I really wanted to know you.

Thanks for nothing eharmony.

hello ,everyone. I am confused of what I experenced recently. it was ok when I first joined eharmony three months ago. although I had many same problems which I saw somebody talked here . but still see a hope to find my love on it . just from 10 days ago. this website seems out of their service . I have never logged on it since then. they still notify me that I have matches via email ,and they also keep charge my renew fee on time. if anybody has the same problem as me ? if this eharmony website itself has problems?

If you are an older female eharmony will let you complete the profile and then block you from ever seeing it. You will see a displayed message you do not fall within their matching requirments and they cannot provide any service to you. This happened to me and to another female friend in my same age group. We are both professionals with interesting lives, friends, loving families and enjoy various hobbies. I completed the profile and was stunned at the displayed message telling me I did not fit within their matching profiles. I asked a friend go on line and complete the profile and the same exact thing happened to her. Seemed just too coincidental.

If eharmony does not want to include mature professional business women in thier profile then they should state that in some sort of introduction rather than allow us to waste our precious time completing a profile they will keep and and not allow us to reveiw in any way. After all, they now have a lot of information about us they are keeping. This was an extremely uncomfortable experience and I would like to warn those of you who might be considering using the eharmony services you may be rejected due to your gender and age. When I received the rejection I was devastated but after researching on the internet have found these rejections by eharmony are very common.

THIS COMPANY IS NOT GOOD! IT IS DIFFICULT TO GET HOLD OF ANYBODY AND THEY DO NOT RESPOND TO YOUR E-MAILS VERY QUICKLY AND SOMETIMES NOT AT ALL
THEY SENT AN ADVERTISEMENT TO ME FOR A DISCOUNTED PRICE...WHEN I TRIED TO USE IT ...THERE WAS NO PROMOTIONAL CODE ATTACHED...ONCE FINALLY GETTING A PHONE NUMBER...THEY SAY THEY CANNOT GET IT TO "ACCEPT" AND I WOULD HAVE TO PAY ALMOST DOUBLE WHAT THE ADVERTISMENT QUOTED....I TALKED TO A REPRESENTATIVE WHO WAS VERY SLOW AND TO NO AVAIL...... I WILL CONTINUE MY ATTEMT TO LET PEOPLE KNOW THIS COMPANY CANNOT DO AS THEY ADVERTISE.......

I'm suspicious that the listings on eHarmony are even real people. I gave up on it a long time ago. But left my negative opinions about the "service" in my profile. Basically saying don't waste your money. Yet I still get requests for communication every now and then. So, who in their right mind would contact me? I'm not a paying member so haven't responded to them.

Post-divorce I was miserable and took a break from dating. After a while, I joined eharmony, match and yahoo. Of the three, only eharmony sent me a good number of matches --- especially at first. (Was this because the other sites have 3x more men than women on them? Or because they cater to younger aged people?)

Anyway, I started dating and met some nice women. It was better than staying home! Most were one date only as these are, after all, blind dates. A few I dated three or four times. If they were only interested in a companion/friend or free meal I looked elsewhere.

About four months in I met someone I liked. We had that elusive chemistry. It lasted about four months. Luckliy, I met someone right after that. This relationship was even better and lasted about seven months. So, I can't complain too much.

But it's not perfect. Meeting someone "special" is a lot of work. And eharmony is not cheap. Moreover, people who have quit are still listed as matches! Distance is sometimes an issue, too. Matches on the site are nice in person (usually) but seem somewhat picky --- too many do not respond at all --- maybe they are single for a reason.

Now, I'm looking for more dates and another relationship. It's hard. I receive fewer matches now than when I was new to eharmony. Many women seem very busy (with their lives, other dates?). Many women on site have young children and this makes dating difficult, if not impossible. After much recent computer work I received 5 phone numbers. One match did not like me --- I wasn't surpised given how she sounded on the phone. Another set a date and cancelled on some pretext --- no class. A third wants to meet but is so busy she is unavailable for nearly a month! I met a fourth who is waffling --- so it's not worth the time or money to meet her. The fifth seems ok and I suspect we will go on our first date. These five numbers were the result of about 75 matches over four months or so. It's work.

eharmony is not bad. Meeting people is tough (especially when one is no longer in their 20s or 30s) and blind dates are tough. It's a numbers game. The biggest issue is not related to eharmony but to the fact that internet daters are internet dates for several reasons. One is they are very busy. So dates and relationships are not necessarily their first priority as it was when they were younger. The women with children are lonely but quite rightly put their kids first. Too many are discouraged. There are reaons why these people (myself included, I guess) are internet dating rather than meeting people through friends or whatever. For me, it's much work but worth it. And eharmony, for men at least, is probably the best service out there.

I think this site can and has done harm to some that tried to sign up.
3 years ago I lost my hubby and soul mate after 16 years of marriage. Took me 3 to find the right one. He died of a brain aneurysm. He was 55

After a year and a half, friends and family talked me in to trying a dating site I am 57. Done been there and did bars,etc.

I really had no interest in dating, but thought it would be ok to have a
pal to talk to. I went on e-harmony thinking this was a safe one.

Filled out question after question and low and behold, it came back that I was not compatable to anyone. I am a very strong and happy person but this crushed me, made me feel sick about myself. Now I know better to let something like this get to me, and a few years back I would have just laughed it off, Don't know who started this site but whoever their CEO is, they might want to revamp their policies.

I would have much rather given my money to a site and not finding a match, than to not spend a cent to a dating site that made me feel worthless!

After 8 more months I tried another cheaper site and after a couple of months have made 2 very nice male friends in my area. Yes I went through the scammers etc.

Please don't support this web site! Just my 2 cents!

It cracks me up to hear folks say eharmony is too expensive! If one spends $5 a day for a coffee drink, or perhaps far much more out at a restaurant and bar, why wouldn't one spend money for a dating service that might match them with a life long partner?

I'm not a Christian and I have given eharmony a shot at least once a year for the three month subscription.

They certainly don't discriminate against the non-believers.

I have closed over 800 profiles in the last three years and I been matched with many men who appeared very professional and communicated well. I have met some great guys and some not so emotionally healthy guys. I'd say the luck I have with eharmony is about the same luck I have in person.

Eharmony is just another singles bar, but more safe and slower.

The truth is that no match on paper can truly measure that chemistry we feel in person. It is that non-verbal, face-to-face communication that will either pass or not pass the test of chemistry. I have met the full gamut of men and no matter how well matched we seem, there is just something else in control of the attraction. I know within minutes of meeting whether or not I am attracted to a guy.

And there have been just as many guys not into me as there were those I was not into. But ya gotta just keep trying and have fun while you do.

Unfortunetly it just comes down to old school physical attraction-- and looks aren't necessarily the tool used to measure this. Personality is huge. One thing is for sure: You have got to be at a physically and emotionally healthy point in your life. If you aren't happy and healthy and confident in yourself it will certainly come through in your profile.

Eharmony is certainly worth the money and patience for the posibility of finding a life partner. Why would you settle for anything less than love?

I gave them 1 star only because there is no option for 0.I keep getting spam from them saying,"this week only view your matches for free".Which is bullshit since they send me that same dumb message every week.
Oh I how long for the day when EHarmony is gone for good.