Reviews of eHarmony

This site is a joke!!! 85% of the 80+ matches I've been sent so far are inactive members. How do I know this? A person cannot close a match unless they are an active member. I close matches that I'm not interested in, and an active member would also close the match because there is no reason not to- once a person hits "close match," there is no further communication allowed. Um, only 13 of my matches have actually closed on their end! So it's "great," I'm not interested in a very large percentage in the first place, and even if I were, they aren't active anyway. Pointless.

Well---I received lots of very undesirable matches, but at least they did send matches. After extensive emails and phone conversations, one waited until the day before we were to meet in person, then ended communication because a picture I sent made him fear that I was heavier than I'd said I was. He said that he wanted "a Greyhound." My BMI is 21, I'm very athletic, and have worn the same size clothes all of my adult life. I never did figure that one out. Things with the next guy were going along well. Lots of fun emails and plans to meet face to face. I ended communication when he admitted to having done time (years) in prison for resisting arrest and striking an officer Hmmm... At least he admitted to it. Some guys got right to bedroom talk, which was obviously the main thing that they were looking for. A couple are regulars on several other dating sites and have been for a long time. Guys looking to hook up for fun and sex, not a relationship. I know one socially. He drinks too much, and every time I see him, he's with a different woman. A definite player. So---I can't really recommend the site to anyone based on my experience. I've learned to love my single life.

E-Harmony....well I think the idea of matching on compatibility is a great idea, however my matches were either married, convicts or did not respond. When I called their contact center. I was informed that it could take up to 3 months to be matched with someone and I should allow at least 2 weeks for someone to answer my e-mails. What is the sense of spending good money to wait for someone to answer my e-mails? If someone likes you they respond right away, or am I mistaken. I am ashamed that I spent my hard earned money on a site that has heavily advertised about matching and turned out to be a waste. Guess I was not E-Harmony material. Watch their commercials everyone looks perfect.

I found eharmony to be a good experience. It gives you more information about a person which allows you to "weed out" the people that do not interest you. I liked the slower progression of getting to know the person. I was fortunate to meet a kind, charming, honest man who has similar interests to mine. We enjoy each others company and plan to spend the future together. Thank you eharmony!

The worst mistake I have made in a long time. Matches were not good and it took 3 months before I was finally taken off the site. To date they are still charging me monthly fees and I have sent at least 25 to 30 emails to them. Their response? Nothing. Only one response after several months saying they had removed my profile and 3 days later? You guessed it. They TOOK ANOTHER PAYMENT!!!! Would not recommend anyone go on this site

Having read a number of reviews of e-harmony (most of them negative), I am going to buck the trend and give it 3-stars.

I have also used Match, so I can compare. "Strange" people inhabit Match as well as e-harmony. The same awful dates that people go on from e-harmony matches also exist on Match (I have been on a few "awful" dates based on introductions from each site).

Yes, people are deceptive with their photos and their profiles. That situation is never going to change. Yes, e-harmony's 29-dimensions of compatibility is pretty much nonsense, in my opinion. But, "chemistry" between two people is pretty elusive anyway.

I give e-harmony 3-stars because I did meet several nice women in my 3 months on the site. That's better than I would have done going to bars or nightclubs.

If you use internet dating you need to be adept at weeding people out via e-mails and phone calls. It is amazing what you can glean from a 10-minute phone call with someone.

I didn't meet the love of my life on e-harmony. Maybe if I stuck with it for a year, I might have. But for 60 bucks for 3-months, it did give me some hope and some enjoyable dates. I got my money's worth.

I AGREE - DON'T EVEN THINK OF WASTING YOUR MONEY ON EHARMONY.

I first joined for three months in January. By the end of that three month membership, I was receiving little to no matches. I am in the age group of 45-55, so I understand that the database for this age group in a city of a million people might be limited, but not that limited.
In the end, I was receiving only flexible matches - either people who were so far away, it just wasn't possible to maintain any sort of "relationship" (without taking an airplane as one person posted here), or I was receiving matches too old for me. 60 years old and I'm 48.

Anyway, I gave it a break, and when some time had passed, I received a promotional offer from them for a renewal. I contacted them and talked to a representative and asked him straight up, how many matches do you have for me at this time (they still had my previous profile on system). He told me he had 200 new matches available for me. I thought great and joined again.

So in 14 days - I have had 10 days of absolutely NO MATCHES!! Thats 10 days out of 14 and nothing. the remaining 4 days were mostly "flexible" matches who were so far out in left field it wasn't funny. i called and asked where my 200 matches were. They refused to answer my question and refused to refund my money or cancel my membership.

I think this company should be charged with fraud for presenting their services as something they are not. I reported them to the Better Business Bureau, Consumer Complaints and my local news station.

Gets really old- consumers getting ripped off by these crooks in business!
STAY AWAY FROM EHARMONY!!!!!!

I URGE YOU NOT TO EVEN THINK ABOUT SIGNING UP ON EHARMONY.

The idea of eharmony doing all the work and matching you up with potential mates is just a joke. Does physical attraction not play a role in whether there is a connection or not? Just because a 300 lb girl has the personality that an attractive guy has been looking for...do you seriously think that those two will be together?

And there have been cases where some of the matches haven't been active for months (maybe they found mate, etc) but yet EH try to match them up.

EH is a joke and quite frankly, a complete waste of money. You're better off using free sites like POF.

I don't blame eHarmony, it's the people you find there. I am looking for Christian men and they are superficial as anything. As a site it is good, but you can't change human nature. I suspect that they are looking for someone younger and prettier and maybe ethnically different from what I am. But I am sure it works for some, if you put the effort into the marketing of yourself, the problem then is what do you do when you meet and you are really just average after all the manipulation of your profile etc. And when he is even worse than average himself. i'd say if you won't miss the money and you can keep the subscription for awhile and just have it run like a background program and not get too invested in it , go for it. Otherwise it is hard to see a guy and get excited and he closes your match when you try to initaite contact. Life is hard and don't be fooled by the cute commercials it is still the dating scene you know and love/hate. It may just speed it along and if you're lucky you find someone but if not you've just wasted your money, time and heart.

Ok so heres my two cents on E-harmony having been there and done that. heres a simple breakdown as to why I love it and why I hate it.
A useful service BUT not without FLAW

Love it:
more private than match.com, it is just trust me.
singles within your area are at least on some level matched to you.
communication is effortless you reply, I reply, Get it?
It shows that at least you have enough money to do something for yourself and on your own.
profiles with pictures and lots of vivid information
more questions than I could ask in a thousand lifetimes even if you cant write you can still pick from a very long list.
DIVERSITY- find matches you would never ask out in public.
Matches delivered almost everyday with the option to find new ones!

Hate it:
Nothing in life is FREE why why believe it here.
Inactive profiles why waste your time and mine if you intend to do nothing!
Matches outside of my area which was set at 120 miles. i mean come on i dont want to buy a plane ticket for a first date.
lack of pictures, if you hide your pics, what else are you hiding?-> if you think every mans out to get you then the internet in general is not for you, go read a book.
allowing diversions on profiles, no I dont want to go to your facebook, myspace, or alternate email because your a cheapskate and dont want to pay for service like the rest of us.

Now that you have just skimmed this, E-harmony is what you make of it you put good faith and intentions in, you get good faith and intentions out!