Reviews of eHarmony

Bigotted website. They don't allow gay folks. They were court ordered to correct this by March 2009. They are starting a second website for gays. So let's see, if you're bisexual, you'll need two account on two different websites. And seperate is not equal. Stupid CEO

I signed up at match, yahoo and eharmony about 1 month ago.
Eharmony beats them all hands down. It all depends on your background which will determine which one you will have more success on. Yahoo and Match is more for everyday folk and more liberal kinds of people who are up for anything it seems. I have got a few responses on yahoo and maybe got 1 nice girl on match. However I am blown away by eharmony. I am a conservative christian 'nice' guy I suppose. I have had to stop my automatic matches being sent to me becasue I am getting overwhelmed with responding to emails all night. Out of 100 girls on eharmony I might find 5-10 attractive , and these girls generally all respond to me.
I definetely see some potential with Eharmony. It is obvious that there is a guy shortage on eharmony (65% women I have heard)
If you are a conservative guy with a decent job - then you would be mad not to join eharmony over the others......

Hi there! I'm really disappointed to hear all of these awful stories that you folks have gone thru w/ eHarmony. I have to tell you though, it has worked for a lot of people, myself included! Ken & I were matched July 16th, 2007. I was just looking to get back into the dating scene, and really had no intention of getting married anytime soon, if ever. He is the most amazing guy I've ever met in my life & we were married in the US Virgin Islands on leap year day, 2/29/08 :D I'd had over 1200 matches (my criteria was set to anywhere in the world/adventurous Sagittarius that I am) between March-July. It had been the end of his 2nd 3 month membership w/in a year, and he'd had under 20 matches! It was based on his citeria that they hooked us up on the 'flexible matching'. There is someone out there for each of us, and the more people you come in contact with/'weed through', the closer it puts you to finding the one! Best of luck!

I would give 2.5 stars , but 3 will have to do.

My 2nd round with Eharmony , not sure what to think other than....

I think the women I've been matched with are higher quality than the other services I have tried , by quality I mean women in search of thier other half.

I have not had the problems many of you have had , the matches are sporadic and you will have a hard time if you do not loosen your prefernces.

My thought at first was I live in a city of 3/4 million people , with several smaller cities , well over a million all told so I thought I would get a lot of matches in my general area.

boy was I wrong !

Heather from Utah , Mary from Quebec , Joann from Rhode Island.. I'm sure you are all swell gals but I'm from California for the love of God!!!

Finally after a few months I started getting matches in my area but most of the gals did not go past the second set of questions from me , which makes you wonder why.... again , am I ugly ? Do I not make 200k a year ? Do I look like I have B.O. ???

I'm a nice , honest and caring guy , I have a huge circle of friends - many of which are female , I know i'm not a troll so tell me what the hell is going on Eharmony!!

I did have good experience with their customer service , the guy was very friendly/understanding but like with Match , do not expect a miracle.

The matching is hit and miss , sorry gals but I am not the tiniest bit interested in a woman older than myself , I have no kids , you would think that be a one up on my part but that only seemd to make it worse , what was I supposed to lie and say I have several children from several women ? Does that make me more of a 'desirable mate'?

It's not cheap , but then no type of dating or metting is cheap. You have choices , hopefully meet someone thru a friend , maybe at church , maybe maybe maybe!!

This is the third time I have joined E-Harmony and it will be the last. I do agree that this is begining to sound like a scam. I received several matches at first. Then all of a sudden I haven't received any in almost one month. I called them and asked what was going on and why wasn't I getting any matches. I was told the same thing that they tell everyone. I even asked for a refund and was told no. They gave me an extra month instead.

Some of the matches that I did get were either too old or they lived over 300 miles away. When I did complain about that I was told it was because of the way I set my profile up. That wasn't true, I have it set up correctly.

I also asked E-Harmony how many members do they have and how many have gotten married or engaged. They never answered me back on that question.

Never again will I join e-harmony

I tried eharmony a year ago. I filled out the profile questionaire. I am a pretty open minded woman, and consider some of my desires to be a little out of the norm. In my real life, I meet some very creative, outgoing people and it's not like there's a problem with meeting someone. I am a performer so I have no problem talking or being in front of others.

The first try - most of the matches closed the match for the reason of "Other" which says absolutely nothing to me. I didn't know if the guys thought I was fat, or if they just didn't like what I said. This should not be an option if you're going to close a match. I'd rather see "I'm not physically attracted based on the picture" or something to the like. That would probably inspire me to take a better pic and put it up on the site. I mean, actually HELP me do my own market research and make the appropriate changes. It just feeds into insecurity...and since I don't have very much insecurity in the first place...it was really unnecessary.

Of the ones that didn't close for a myriad of generic reasons, only two actually paid for the service and could actually respond to questions. Of those two, one closed as he found another relationship. The other was matched with me using what's called "flexible matching", which means they relax some of the criteria to get someone to match with me. Basically, I was so hard to match that they had to break their own rules to match me with SOMEBODY - so as not to risk losing me due to wasting my money.

I later found out, after going through the tedious back and forth process of filling in multiple choice questions and essay questions that they had "matched" me with what would turn out later to be an alcoholic, sex-addict with a boot fetish who was still married (but claimed to be separated). He was overweight but wanted a model who had a love of leather thigh high boots. He obsessed about it over our conversations. And, since he was the only one to respond, I thought "eharmony must see something here" so I gave it a shot.

Great, I could have found this on adult friend finder...and maybe even someone more fit and healthy.

We had a date. It degenerated to his sexual needs...which centered around his fetishes, not around how he wants to connect with someone else. He was very selfish sounding and I thought to myself "Is this what eharmony thinks I am? Selfish?"

But upon further examination, I realized it was because of this "flexible matching". They let in someone I would have avoided on my own. And given the fact that one is spending $50 a month to join, I made sure to keep in touch with ANY connection that responded. Bad choice.

I could have done better on craigslist.

I joined again last month, but have decided not to pay until I get at least 20 matches to start with. And I see the catch. The folks that don't pay get matched with others that don't pay. You can't see any pics, you can't really respond or send questions. So you're just sitting there thinking "should I pay now?" And when you do, be prepared to receive a ton of "closed" communications based on folks who don't actually want your "type" .

Basically, eharmony is a tad bit better than the bar scene, but not much. Folks are still just as shallow there, and judge books by covers regardless of the personality "matching" . So don't believe the hype.

You'll still have to weed out the bad seeds!

chemistry.com
If you want to waste 6 months of your time and money. Join chemistry. You will be sent inactive members all day long. And when you call the company you get the run around. Then you get members who are 20 years older then you are! Give me a break......

I have been a member twice of eharmony. The first time for 6 months. During that time I got a burst of matches then nothing. And the quality was poor and nearly a third never posted pix. Then I let my account lapse. After I did I then got an email notifying me that someone was interested in communicating with me even though nearly 100% of the women I tried to open contact with close me out. So I waited nearly a year then too a 6 month special offer again. The same thing happed. Small bursts of matches followed by long periods of nothing. No communications really responsed and certain noone initiated anything with me. So I let it lapse again. Withing a month I get another email saying someone wants to start communication with me. This sure seems like a scam to me. Baiting back into take a special offer only to throw me just matches then wait til I cancel then toss me another bone of communication request. I think I will wait another year or more or perhpas try another service.

JJ in Seattle: I'm so sorry for what you had to go through, and all others who have had a bad experience as well. To elaborate on my overall experience with eHarmony, first of all, a good 80% of the matches I rec'd (1500 over a ca. 9 month time period) were inactive people, meaning, they could not respond to my ice breakers, photo requests nor to my Fasttrack communication request. And that's what we paid for? Inactive profiles? GRRRRRR! The real annoying thing with these matches, is the fact that you have no clue if they are current paid subscribers. The only way you can verify anything, is by not viewing your matches and eventually the ones who do view your profile, will change the status from "Communicate" to the "1234 stage" status. After over a week, I still had only 1 or 2 view my profile. Those matches would then close me out if uninterested.

I've tried eharmony twice. Once two years ago for a couple months and last Dec to now. The first time I met someone I only dated for a couple weeks. She told me she had been separated from her ex for months. Turned out she was still seeing the guy while seeing me and confessed she was only doing the online thing to make him jealous. Very dangerous for me. This last time I received a lot more matches, over 500 in just a few months. Regrettably, only a handful were ones that I even wanted to communicate with. I met someone after six weeks, started dating, we liked each others company and seemed to click rather well. A dream come true, right? Wrong. After 3 months of dating she moved in with me and her problems started to show (can't manage life, BPD disorder, told me she was separated from ex husband for a year when if fact it was less than two months and at that time attempted suicide and was committed for a short period) the list went on as time went by. The relationship ended last month with her assaulting me and she now has three DV charges to face. And to top it all off a half hour after she was arrested and on the way to jail she made the allegation that I raped her to try to get out of going to jail. What a nightmare. I guess they see this thing a lot and knew she was lying. I guess I joined thinking I would be matched with someone "normal".