Reviews of eHarmony

If any of you men are wondering what type of matches you'll find on eHarmony, just read the rant from 'Becky in NY', three or four reviews below this one. That's the type of woman you'll be matched with. Someone angry at the world and pissed that they didn't find a love in their twenties and/or looking to have children at 40+. Someone who holds men in contempt. Either that, or you'll find women with no photos, that own five dogs or are completely off the wall with religion. The worst part about eHarmony is the inability to search yourself and the cost is just prohibitive. I wonder if they read these reviews?

I went into e-harmony with an open mind. Tried match and yahoo last year and figured it was worth a shot. Kind of liked the idea of the personality matching concept.

In actuality, it was worse than the others. First, you cannot search for matches. Some little elf does that for you. Granted, the anonymity is nice, as John Q Public and the whole internet cannot see you. But at the same time, you are spoon fed an odd assortment of matches. Many men will be out of your geographic area. And the ones that are close have no photo. Very frustrating.

Like many women, I prefer the safety of online dating. Just not this site.

Eharmony is a waste of money. A scam. A racket. And they charge you for months you never agreed to buy. If eharmony was any good, why would they have to scam people into paying for additional months? I have tried to cancel, and the charged me anyway, and there is no one there that has any interest in listening to anything.

Customer Service at eharmony is full of automatons.

I was also very disappointed in the service itself.

Eharmony is a waste of time and money.

Are these men who are pissed about getting matches with women 40+ for real? Do they honestly think intelligent women are desperate to get married these days? Have they not heard the studies showing that women are staying single by choice well into their 40s? They no longer need men for money since they have careers and many choose to have children on their own (well into their 40s - it's not unusual these days).

I am over 40 and never cared for the men who wanted women 10+ years younger. They tend to be domineering and trying to recapture something they feel they have lost.

I signed up for eharmony not because I never meet men who are attracted to me (because I do) but because I thought it might be a way to meet some quality men. And I have. The whole process is not stimulating enough for me to pay to continue once my current paid time is done though. Women have to weed through a ton of freaks. It becomes too draining.

This has to be one of the worse dating sites out there. This is nothing more than a warning to potential eharmony users, whatever you do DO NOT GIVE THEM A CREDIT CARD. I have been trying for three months to cancel my subscription and still haven't been successful. eHarmony is a scam, once you have given them a credit card they will continue to charge it month after month with no end in sight. I have gone into my account several times to shut off the automatic renewal button and I can go into it the next day and it will be switched back again. The email address that they give you is an undeliverable address and if you call the phone number listed they will pass you around and around and keep you on hold until you hang up. I'm sure that there are reputable dating sites out there but eHarmony is not one!!!

eharmony is pathetic. It's a waste of money. You wonder why only a few matches are provided out of millions. Support says "We do not limit the number of matches you can receive in a 24 hour period but it is typical to receive anywhere from 0 to 10 matches per day. Our system searches for new matches each evening and will bring you as many matches as possible but it is important to keep in mind that we currently have more then 12 million registered users on our site and it is difficult to search the entire database all at once." Come on...technically that's ridiculous. eharmony has to have the capability to search the entire database and narrow it down to that which matches a persons criteria.

I get plenty of matches but they all seem to be animal right nuts!!! I mean, how many 'horse trainers' can there be in this world? I hunt, fish and pretty much leave my dog outside when I want to go somewhere. I'm getting matches from 40 yo+ women that want to have children, their 'dog(s)' are the thing they can't live without, geez. Give me a break. Just list the people on the website and let me pick from a list. eHarmony sucks. Period.

these negative reviews totally crack me up...are you negative reviewers all retarded people from east butt-fark or something? it's obvious your reviews indicate more about your own deficiencies than legitimate criticisms about a freakin' website...

for starters, it's a service. it's mildly entertaining, that's it. do you go to vegas and complain about losing? no...then why complain about a website? are you all so childish and immature and hopeless that you're actually betting on a website to 'solve your problems'? hate to tell you this, but it's YOUR responsibility to take care of yourself...if you can't do that, wtf do you have to offer someone else?

the other problem is with people who are 'average' looking...with the strong media push, psychologically we're used to seeing attractive people in photos. that's the problem. everyone's handicapped already. we're used to looking at very attractive celebrities and models of both sexes in pictures, and your perception of 'average' looking gets reset...does that make sense? it's like living in nyc...the women here are really good looking, but there are so many of them...imagine the 10 best looking girls from your high school class all came to live in new york...all of the sudden, 'average' for new york just got a new curve...same thing with photos on eharmony...i know i'm a good looking guy so i don't have a problem with my photos but the reality is if you're just an average looking person you will basically be perceived as 'unattractive' in the general media...and don't think me vain - i'm using my looks as a way to get my point across...and besides, it's a strategic thing, nothing personal...

i read a few reviews online by 'professional' writers who described themselves as 'average' looking...and they complained about not getting matches or communications...the reality is 'average' looking is NOT going to get you anything at all...and also realize, guys, that a lot of 'average' women consider themselves to be 'cute' or 'attractive'...

i'm know i'm kind of rambling metaphysically...but my point is the negative criticism is by people who mostly don't understand the 'big picture' and how eharmony should be used...you really think that, if you're someone who DOESN'T really have anything to offer, by paying a few hundred dollars you'll meet someone who will help get you get your life together or be the person of your dreams?

statistics - eharmony member two weeks...about 100 matches made...about a quarter without photos...maybe twenty photos were attractive...and because i opened myself up geographically more than half were not in nyc...in various stages of communication with about a dozen...been on a date with one already...cute girl and we did in fact have a lot in common but the chemistry wasn't there on my end...i felt she was too immature...but you can't necessarily see that in a profile and i totally understand our pairing by eharmony...

in summary i think eharmony's been great for me...i think their system works for good people who are serious are meeting other good people...it's obviously not for losers...and realistically that's what most of the people with negative criticims here are - losers...sorry to have to tell you that...i know in this PC day and age of 'blame everyone else' and lack of personal responsibility you probably aren't used to hearing that you're really a loser, but truth hurts, doesn't it???

I signed up to eHarmony having been swayed by their commercials only to find that after all the work filling out the surveys it only found 14 matches for me and 13 of them were between 150 and 400 miles away. This left me somewhat frustrated as I'd spent $60 to sign up and clearly specified in my profile I was looking for someone within 30 miles--I am not looking for a long distance relationship! Once my arguably useless month finished I was done but eHarmony automatically signed me up for a second month without my consent. I have since spent a week attempting to get in touch with them to resolve this and their customer service e-mail address does not work, I call their 1-800 # during regular business hours and get a machine saying I should call back during regular business hours, and have sent two letters via their web forms indicating if they do not get in touch with me I will report them to the Better Business Bureau, contact my bank to inform them I had money taken directly from my account without my permission, then contact my lawyer. Even after having to go to these extremes eHarmony has in now way, shape, or form, thought it necessary to respond to my attempted communication in any manner. This company clearly lures singles in, reneges on its claims, and demonstrates a complete lack of professional business ethics.

Do not waste your money on this sham.

EHarmony is a fraud! the matches are not actual matches beyond non-smoker/non-drinker during my 30 day experience.

The difficulty I had with them was their renewal of my subscription without my permission and the subsequent refusal to return my $$. When I called them on 2/18, I was informed that they would refund the money to my bank. Today, 2/28, I was informed that they never made that statement. After Googling eHarmony, I wish I had checked further before signing on with them because this is a common problem.

The lack of responsive matches left me feeling used and abused by a site that promised the opposite.