Reviews of eHarmony

This is to Dennis from Boston, MA - why are you still in any remote way still even thinking about eharmony, so much as to leave a review for the site, if you are so happy?

My experience was dismal. I am a 42 year old, Harvard educated neurosurgeon, widowed, am attractive with twin daughters aged 18 years. I communicated with each and every match that requested communication with me. I only have two complaints: first - why does eharmony match you with matches who are no longer are members - just not fair; and second - why do people misrepresent themselves? I am just looking for an intelligent, witty, compassionate, honest, kind man period. I met over 15 men and not one of presented themselves honestly.

Needless to say, I am going to stick to meeting men in other venues!

I read most of the reviews posted here about eharmony. I feel sad that so many were not able to experience what I have. Just as the "Ad" says, I met the love of my life on eharmony. My first wife (a wonderful woman) of 33 years passed away after a long illness. Several months following that I simply decided I was not made to stay single at age 57. I went on eharmony. I met several solid Christian women of very high quality. However, after a lot of dialogue and a few dates, none of them seemed to fit, even though I knew they were a true personality match with me. Then I met my present wife. She too is a solid Christian woman of the very highest quality, but she was very special in a way that the others were not. We were married a little over 3 years ago and everyday with her is more wonderful than any day before. I truly am married to my very best friend. Maybe the people that were not successful do not have what I have, which is the Lord Jesus Christ. With every match I had on eharmony, I prayed to Lord that "if this is the one, then open the door, if not, then shut the door." When He shut the door, it was very obvious, but with my present and most wonderful wife, the door never shut. It only opened more and more. I now know without question, after more than 3 years of marriage, that God brought the two of us together. "Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths" (Proverbs 3:5&6). This is so very true and it is exactly what He did for me. I am happy in my marriage far beyond any of the dreams of my whole life. Give your life to Christ, who died for your sins on the Cross, was buried, and 3 days later was raised from the dead by the power of God. Believe in this, ask Jesus to forgive you of your sins, acknowledge that He is Lord, and He will change your life and grant you eternal life with Him in Heaven. There is no other way to Heaven but by way of Jesus Christ.

If you don't care who you are dating then you are at the right place with Eharmony! Their idea of "screening" people is a lot of questions left up to the individual to answer as they "believe" about themselves. I met "Prince Charming" who claimed to be a "Knight looking for his Princess"... He also claimed to be a Christian man looking for a Christian woman to share his life with, that he is 48 years old, owning his own real estate company, having been an Evangelical Minister in the past, I should have seen where it was going when he made the statement that "he takes it when he wants it" about sex, ect... You can probably see where this is going. But in case you cannot... when things weren't adding up within a couple of months... very bad temper, swearing and hanging up (like a child) the phone when conversation didn't go the way he wanted it to... no fruit of the Spirit whatsoever!... I decided to do an online Zabasearch... He is actually 58 years old, I called the number listed for him only to speak with his exwife who he still lives with in a trailer in Paradise, Ca... not on his own as he claimed in Chico, CA.

let's call this site what it is - FEE-harmony
I don't mind paying and I paid the membership fee...
then I paid for confirm ID....
then I paid for this....
then I paid for that...
and then I kept getting fee-Harmony emails offering me more things to pay for, lol
the odd part was, after the FIRST day of "one more offfer for one more fee" I sent an email and asked the "all inclusive" price - and the response I got was also illiterate, grammatical errors, probably written by someone with a 6th grade "edumacation"
in that same fee-Harmony email, I was told "to give it time and that the service was successfully matching +200 MARRIAGES per month" ROFL!!!
I've contacted this state's Attorney General's office regarding their membership fees and the local laws here that state that a full price must be listed with all of the services listed for that price.
I have the time - I'll enjoy this aspect of my membership with fee-Harmony....

Being in a large market (LA), I expected to get quite a few matches delivered to my profile... and I wasn't let down. I was on for roughly 6 months and was force-fed around 5 - 10 matches daily. So many that when I came home after work, practically all I did for the first hour or so was clear out the majority of them. I did end up contacting 40 or so, and went on dates with about 25, so not as good as my ratio from in-person type dating (bars, friend introductions, etc), but still not bad for an online gig.

What gives it a 2/5 is the fact that these girls were quite possibly the best photo-choppers around... and they pulled some pretty psycho stuff.

Case in point, a seemingly lovely girl from the westside named Elise (name changed, obviously) seemed to have everything in order. She described herself as fit and the pictures seemed to back that up, she was a lover of the outdoors, had a dog, a stable job as an aerobics instructor, her own place and car(!). This worked for me because I was sick of dating deadbeat out of shape gold diggers from the westside that I'd meet through my work. All of the emails and phone calls were great, we really meshed well it seemed. Then came the in-person meetup at an outdoor cafe in Santa Monica (3rd st).

It was an October evening and a bit chilly, so she was wearing a long jacket... beware the long jacket, a friend once said. "Par for the course, I suppose" I said to myself. Her face was exactly as photographed, and we had some decent conversation. She avoided the talk about going to the gym, though, which struck me as odd from someone claiming in their profile to be an aerobics instructor... Coffee over, I figured "what the hell" and suggested we hit up a watering hole to see what she was hiding under that puffy trench-coat lookin thing.

It is then and there that the gravity of the situation finally caught up. She wouldn't let me take her coat, oh well right? No big deal I thought. I was still curious as to what I was possibly... er... getting into later that evening, if you catch my drift. The first few rounds of drinks went well, conversation went great, and I was thinking "hmm, she seems normal, what's the catch?"

The place started to get a bit crowded and warm.
It finally got so hot that she had to remove the jacket and when she did, it was game over. She must have weighed 165lbs, all of it from the waist down. At five-foot nothing, that's some heavy duty equipment. I politely terminated the evening with a handshake and a well wish, and was on my way within 15 minutes.

I emailed her that I had fun but didn't think our lifestyles were compatible (I'm a physical fitness coach and asst. mgr at a health club, she obviously hadn't seen the inside of a gym since the Clinton administration), and then removed her profile from my list.

It was there that she started getting weird. Late night / early morning calls (I had to change my number), strange notes left under my windshield wiper at night, increasingly profane "anonymous" emails saying that I lead people on and that I'm a liar, culminating eventually in profanities being keyed into the drivers side door of my Navigator while I was working late one night. Thank goodness she didn't know where I lived!

Anyways, that was one of the 4 or 5 stalker-esque instances that happened as a direct result of meeting someone from that site. I had tried match.com and others before and nothing like that had EVER happened. eHarmony must attract the psychos? That wasn't the only time, however, that I met someone who's pictures didn't quite mesh with reality.

So 2/5. +1 star for volume of matches, +1 star for amount of dates as a direct result, -3 stars for quality of dates / actual vs. photoshopped appearance in profile pictures.

It makes me sad to see that so many people have such strong opinions against eHarmony. Let's be honest; there is NO easy way to find love. Whether you try online, out in a bar, a blind date, chances are it's going to take time and many many experiences, some of which won't be that great.

Having met someone off of eHarmony, I of course, give it a great rating. This came after over a year of terrible, scary, matches. I cancelled my subscription many times, figuring that this wasn't working for me. But I always ended up back on there....I found the profile portion to be incredibly daunting to fill out. There were just so many questions. But with each one asked, I learned things about myself that I had never realized. And I realized things that I wanted in a partner that i hadn't even considered. Do I think that dating sites need to "screen" people, no. When you are out socially in a bar, restaurant, whatever, you take the chance when meeting a person. The same thing comes from a dating site. It's trial and error.

I would never say that eHarmony is going to work for everyone, but at the same token, I would never discourage anyone from trying it. I can work for some! And for that, I'll always be grateful.

After over 1800 matches since June 08, there were two woman I decided to contact. One turned out to come with a 'full set of baggage' (sheesh, do your personal work, THEN get back into dating...) - That was a sad waste.
However I'm now involved with an absolutly incredible woman. We both came to the table knowing what we wanted, hung in there and eventually found it.
You can't believe ALL the stuff you see on TV, I mean c'mon..it's called advertising and marketing for a reason. But since meeting this woman I have run into a number of other folks who met thru e-Harmony and we were all happy with our results. Your results may differ...we're humans... The other services are the freaking wild west compared to e-Harmony, and I feel the EH 'process' is well thought out, and about as good as you can get. Can they make improvements on their website... absolutely....
There are numerous ways to fine tune the matches that get sent. Go back into the 'works' and tweek them until they are working for you... choice is nice.......
I will concur that the reason 'other' should be eliminated. maybe even add a comment option.
Good luck out there...

It's all true about E-Harmony. This is my second time joining (silly me-I fell for the 'sale' and figured, I'd try again). It's the same CRAP. There are so many things wrong w/this site, I don't know where to begin. The concept is good but that's where it ends. The customer service is awful. I send them complaints and get letters back with grammatical and spelling errors which are 90% excerpts from form answers (examples below)! Who do they have working there? Does Dr. Clark realize that the incompetency of his staff is seriously damaging his company's reputation? You waste more time clicking back and forth on that site due to the un-user friendly way they are set up then you do looking at compatible matches. By the time you're finished getting deleting all the ones you're not interested in, you don't even want to see your matches anymore. You just want to close it up and go on with your day. My biggest gripe has to be that they do not give you the option to chose whether or not you want to limit your matches to only those w/pics. Why? Because they say that it would limit opportunities to be matched with highly compatible people if you do not take the time to review ALL the matches. Who's choice is that, ours or theirs? So what happens? You get a window full of matches (in my case 51) and for each one you have to actually click into the prospective match's page to see that there's no pic, then go all the way down and click 3 or 4 more times to close the match selecting the "because there are no pics posted" option. I had to do this yesterday about 25 times b/c once there's no pic, I don't care what the profile says. Can you imagine how much time that took? At the very least, couldn't they do what match does and on the introductory page, show whether or not there's a pic and then give you the option to close FROM THAT PAGE by maybe clicking a box to the left of the match's name? This way you can do them all it once? It seems like they're set up to make their side easier w/their whole computer generated system - but it makes our lives miserable. I sent them a complaint and this was an exerpt from the response:

"We appreciate YOU'VE SEND us your suggestions"

"Furthermore, WE DOES not "force" our members to post a photo"

"I understand that it is time consuming to close the matches one by one, however this is to encourage you to review all the matches before closing them." BUT WHAT IF I DON'T WANT TO REVIEW THE MATCHES WITHOUT PICS? ONCE I MAKE THAT DECISION, YOUR 'ENCOURAGEMENT' MEANS NOTHING.

I can't say much about the behavior of the matches as I realize that eHarmony is not responsible if they don't get back to me or they are not interested. I can say that I've subscribed twice also and have not had even one date or at the very least, one communication session-email or otherwise and it's not due to my profile or pic - trust me. They've added the 'fast track' and the 'secure phone conversation' features, which is good but it doesn't make up for all the other ways in which they truly fail the customer. I highly recommend to others not to waste their time or money joining this site. I'd give them no stars but didn't have that option.

I waited approxmately 2 months before posting a review regarding this dating/matching site.

After reading hundreds of reviews on this site, I most certainly agree with others.

I joined E harmony on a free 1 month trial with no success, about 1 year ago. This past fall they had another offer which consisted of 3-months for $50.

I must say that I am quite disappointed. I too received many closed messages with simply *other chosen as the reason. Not fair, I did not use this choice when I closed matches on this site.

The very few matches that I recieved with photos were not responding therefore highly possible that they were 'dead' accounts, how nice. I feel that I have been used and exploited. Did I hear class action?

G

DO NOT JOIN THIS DATING SITE.
Last weekend I got suckered in to a "Free Weekend" with "Free Comunication" to try it out. I wasted time filling out all the rediculous forms all so that they could get a "free" posting out of me. I never had any intentions of joining. I wanted to try it. They would not let you communicate or even view the guys that were responding to my ad. I have reported eHarmony to the appropriate authorities. They are false and deceptive practices and should be put out of business. I have no way of telling these poor guys about how horrible eHarmony is and that I am interested in them. I will not pay what eHarMONEY wants me to pay as their false leads are nothing but lies. Who are these guys with no photo? Everyday I get multiple mailings from eHarmony begging me to join. I had to put a block on my computer. I cannot emphasize this enough...DO NOT JOIN eharmony! They just want $$$$$$$ and do not care about whether or not you meet anyone. You do not have access to other members...you are completely dependent on a computer generated data base of matches for you. How STUPID Neil Clark Warren. How rich are you now? I hope you get a class action lawsuit filed against you and lose it all! How convenient that you do not have any place on your website for complaints or any communication other than a premade form strictly for "success" stories...again all made up lies!

A very dissatified eHarmony trial customer