Reviews of eHarmony

While I did not find love on this site, you cannot really blame eharmony. My only gripe with eharmony is that they will match you with people who no longer subscribe to the service and that makes no sense to me. The problem with any dating service lies on its members not the actual service.

Waste of time and money. Their "matching" process is lacking any real substance or differentiation. I get the same matches as on match.com so I don't see any unique aspect to their matching process. Most matches they can offer up are miles and miles away and appear to be a match to help eharmony reach a quota of sorts. Most are not based on the criteria I established in my profile and are what they call "flexible" matches. I'm sure there have been many with good luck, but of the many people I know who have tried it, the experiences have all been less than desirable and far from the hype of the advertising promises.

Honesty Not Required

If you are legally separated, don't be honest about it. That's the best advice I can give you about eHarmony.com. This site does not tell you up front that anyone who is not divorced will not be able to participate in the matching process, even if legally separated and completely independent. Let me quote their e-mail to me...

"Please let me inform you that Dr. Warren created eHarmony for single individuals looking to find long-term relationships leading to marriage. Prior to the launch of our service, many people were polled in regards to what they desire in a matching service. The vast majority of potential users indicated that they wanted their matches to be divorced, widowed, or never married at all.

As America’s #1 Trusted Relationship Service, members trust that their matches are free of relationship commitments and able to pursue a serious romantic involvement We hope you truly understand our stance on this. We really do look forward to welcoming you to our community once your divorce has become final, also you will need to provide us with the following information:

-The county and state of your divorce proceedings
-The name of the judge
-The date your divorce was finalized."

Wow, if you LIE and say you are single, you get to date and keep on lying about your status. If you tell the TRUTH, and say you are legally separated, they don't let you date, even though you are "free of relationship commitments and able to pursue a serious romantic involvement." They completely neglect that a divorce at this point is a matter of filing papers and paying a fee, and that there might be other considerations (such as respecting your former partner, or children and their feelings) that weigh in to these matters. OUCH, so as you can see, telling the truth can only hurt you!

Beware of automatic renewal. I joined eHarmony a year ago for six months. Before my subscription was going to expire, they sent an e-mail saying renew for a special rate. So I renewed for six more months. Apparently when you sign up, in the agreement is that your subscription automatically renews. So I don't know why a year later, that slipped my mind but it did. So this morning I get an e-mail saying I was automatically renewed. I didn't want to renew. I assumed I would get an e-mail like the first time telling me to renew or my subscription was about to expire. But nothing until it was renewed. So I called up to say I don't want to renew and want a refund. They said, once it's renewed, there's no refunds. It was in the agreement when you signed up. End of story. I have never had this type of experience with a legitimate company. To me that is very poor customer relations. So I lost all respect for this company.

I wasted alot of time answering all those questions. After completing the questionaire I was told that my income was too low to be accepted by e-harmony.
I tried a second time, this time I gave the opposite answer to the questions e.g. "how important is your match's physical appearance to you?" I clicked "not at all", (in reality a girls physical appearance is very important to me, heck I would date a dead girl, if she looked good enough.) This time was a success, I kept getting plenty of matches in emails, but I was not allowed to communicate with them because I had not paid them a fee that was too high for me to afford.

I read the things written by all these people slamming eHarmony, and have to chuckle because the reasons are so shallow. "I can't see a picture first," "I have to answer all these questions about myself," "It makes me list the three things that are most important to me," "It's set up by right-wing Christians, so it has to suck."

All you people with gripes like that should stick to singles bars and clubs, or the "picture gallery" sites like Match.com and Yahoo. YOu all need to develop some depth because you're unable to be honest with yourselves about yourselves. You're obviously either looking for a short-term "thang," or are too shallow and/or immature for a real relationship. Good luck, because you're going to need it.

eHarmony is one of the biggest “rip-offs” out there. Although they heavily advertise and claim numerous sucesses the service is indeed poor at best. Non-paying member listings that have been on the site for years that can never communicate with you. You continually receive these non-communicating matches so they can fulfill there advertised committments. You can be matched with non-paying members who can never respond to you so you just assume that they are not at all interested. There is no way to tell from a listing who is a paid member and who is not. You also need to be aware of the “auto-renew” and the continuous monthly charges that can appear on your credit card without your approval or authourization. In reading one of the other reviews I guess I know now where my subscription to a golf magazine came from. I don’t even golf… So they use your personnal information for other purposes. I would not recommend eHarmony to anyone… It is a huge waste of time and money.

I'm a Canadian who just moved to California for a career. I decided to turn to sites like eharmony in order to start meeting people outside of my circle. After filling out the lengthy survey form and hitting the accept button, I immediately started receiving a slew of emails containing my supposable matches based on the outcome of that survey. After days of contemplating, I considered a 1 month membership with eharmony. I figured, I'd probably spend at least that much going on weekly dates just to realize there was no chemistry from the get go. Now, after reading so many negative reviews about the site, I have retracted my curiosity and I suppose I will now turn to the conventional means of meeting people. I'd rather waste my time having drinks with a complete stranger and it turning into something, than waste my time on a site forking over well earned cash just to be disappointed. Thanks everyone for your well stated opinions, this is one less eharmony customer.

If minus a million stars was possible that is all eHarm-on-me deserves.

I've been on that site at least three times and going on two years. Either the site attracts a lot of shallow, self-absorbed men or the system is corrupt and makes people think something better is always out there. I just hate the q & A bullshit, and even worse the "close" feature where you can jsut slam the door on an unsuspecting match at the drop of a hat. It's really sad. I wonder if the couples in their ads aren't paid actors.

I met my former boyfriend on match.com and have better luck on just about any site. Any other site I have been able to acheive at least one date. All the time I have spent on eHarmony and can't get a date to save my life. Its really tiresome to have to go through the rounds of guided communication with some loser jerk with nothing going for him who thinks he can do better.

You never know if the people you are matched with are real members or shills. Most of the matches never respond to communiation, as if they jsut wandered around, used the free weekend time, or just wanted the personality profile. PS the personality profile was about the only decent thing I got out of e-har-money.

All I can say is after my subsciption runs out in August, bye bye eHarmony and goodbye loser eHarmony men! Save your money.

I wish I had read these reviews before attempting to join. Since you can't see your matches picture before you join, I was truly amazed at the way people misrepresent themselves. Being 350 to 400 pounds is not a little overweight and trying to eat healthy. Even though everyone has some kind of body issue, come on, don't out and out lie and think you can get away with it. You will be eventually found out either by your picture or in person. Like it or not appearance is important to everyone because you have to have some kind of attraction to make a relationship. If you're willing to lie about your appearance what else would you be willing to lie about. That's pretty scary. I'm trying to cancel my membership and would never recommend eHarmony to anyone. It's just an appealing scam.