Reviews of eHarmony

I have been a member on and off for over 3 years. In that time, I have received over 1,200 matches and have met only 4 of those! Of the 1,200, I would estimate that over 800 of the matches were closed profiles as when I tried to contact them, I would not hear a word from them, either closing me out or no communication, and left them on my active list for over 6 months.

I think the site is hitting on hard times as there is an now an abundance of advertising for all manner of products and pop-up ads everytime I log in, wherein 3 months ago there was no outside advertising done on the site.

You are not matched on compatability as a very good friend of mine joined at the same time, who is the complete polar opposite of me, and we were matched virtually with the same men over and over again.

If you still have any interest in joining, there is always an offer running where you can get three months for the price of 1 for $60 or so.

I joined eharmony in the past on one of those weekends that they had a free trial. Of course, I recieved an abundance of matches(right before the weekend was out) but didn't pursue it.

Three years later, I am still searching for someone whom I am compatible with. I don't have a problem meeting guys, I just have a problem meeting potential mates. So needless to say, I gave into a month's paid membership at eharmony. I received a total of SIX MATCHES. I had no idea I was a troll, until 2 matches closed me out after seeing my photos. One of whom had said in his profile that the most important thing he was looking for in a person was "physical beauty". I don't know that I would ever be attracted to someone as shallow...but he was sent as a match, so I tried to be "open-minded". One match accepted my Fast Track response but didn't respond to my emails after that and the other 3 didn't respond at all.

Now here is the best part. I was browsing through my friends' buddy list on Hi5 and WHOA!!! one of my matches is in my friend's profile as her friend. I recognized the picture as well as the name. You know I had to email him. He told me he was surprised that he was sent to me as a match because he had discontinued his membership a while back. Now of course, I start thinking...just how many of my SIX MATCHES were actually active members. Maybe only the 2 that closed me out.

Overall, my eharmony experience was a waste of hard earned money, precious time, and high expectations.

This is the worst site to get involed with. They sent me no one interesting - or even anyone I'd like to email in the six month's I was signed up then went ahead and billed me for two additional months (I was a fool not to check my statements closely enough) before I caught them. When I phoned to find out what was going on they said that I had AUTHORIZED them to do this. I had tried to figure out how to cancel my account but obviously didn't read the fine print closely enough. Don't get involved in this eharmony racket if you are looking to date. It's one of the biggest scams going.

I had a feeling eHarm_me was a scam when I signed up, but I figured I'd try it anyway thinking it couldn't be any worse than Match.com or Yazoo. I was wrong. Three months and several hundred useless closed-out "matches" later, it was crystal clear to me that the whole concept of compatibility matching by means of self-report measures is as intellectually bankrupt as astrology - and a whole lot more expensive and disappointing.

Think about it, when you take Dr. Warren's bogus "test" online, you can answer it any way you want. There is nothing to stop a person from being decpetive in the manner in which they portray themselves. Human nature being what it is, people will often portary themselves in an overly favorable manner on such tests. So what do you get when you try to "match" folks who are not portraying themselves accurately? Matches that aren't really matches.

Let's face it, Dr. Warren and his ilk are in the business of selling the pursuit of happiness, not happiness itself. If their electronic snakeoil had any efficacy, they'd put themselves out of business in a New York minute.

There is a special place in Hell for con artists like Dr. Warren who trade on the hopes of lonely people. Avoid eHarmony.com and its ilk at all costs.

I have found this comparatively expensive service to be unreliable. At times I cannot get on the site but receive a message that indicates they have so many new members that their system is overloaded...to try again later. Currently I have gone four days without receiving any matches at all. I even changed my distance preference to include any matches in the entire world. Still, I receive the message, "There are no matches at this time." Beyond these problems, when I have been matched I found very little compatibility with most of them. I have a post-graduate professsional job and have found myself matched with many unskilled people with which I have very little in common. I am led to the conclusion that their "compatibility system" is good primarily for promotional purposes, not for bringing people together.

I was a member of E-Harmony for about a year. I would go weeks without a reply to a request for communication. On occasion I would get to step 4, swap an email or two but then it was back to the great abyss. I did meet three ladies, two of them ditched me after eventually meeting. The third I still swap emails with but it is not going anywhere. The frustration I had is that several times I go to cancel my account and suddenly I get match after match. About a week til the account expires I get a request for communication and being curious I renew only to be smacked down to the abyss again after step 3. I finally ditched the service but have found it interesting that though I have canceled they still send me emails telling me that so and so is a new match... funny this stopped working three weeks after I subscribed and now that they have been terminated they are telling me that there are seven new matched daily when I would have been lucky to get five in a week? If you have been sucked in please know that if you wish to leave they will make it as difficult as possible for you.

I, too, think e-Harmony is a scam. I'm ashamed to admit that I actually tried it TWICE! I'm not certain what happens, but I think they show matches of persons who aren't signed up and who, therefore, can't respond.

Also, if you're still thinking of joining, be sure to uncheck the little box for automatic renewal at the end of the registration forms.

I'm not a member of eharmony and after reading all the negative reviews I don't think I want to experience it either! I'm curious though...if everyone is so unhappy with the service why continue to use it? and pay? If they keep charging your credit card just call your credit card company and cancel it!

I have been on eHarmony for about a month now. I havent been on a date yet, but might next weekend. I do seem to get a lot of matches but it seems excessive. Also, I didnt want anybody more than 50 miles out but Im getting some that are more than that!

I like it so far, so we will see. I was on Match.com and I did not like it, I felt like they just set you loose and the men I did go out on dates with there was no chemistry and I want that so I will give this place a chance.

I have tried eharmony in the past. In fact, I have never, ever actually talked to anybody from eharmony as a potential date or in customer service.

I am convinced that they are the biggest scam in online dating. I hear people in here getting lots of matches. I rarely got any and the ones that I got rarely responded. I was not overly restrictive either and lived in a major metropolitan area.

Save your money. There are cheaper and better sites. While other sites have their flaws, you would at least be able to find your own matches and initiate contact.

When cancelling eharmony, you must be very clear and assertive in your emails. You must also be very persistent. They will not make it easy for you. Document and save all correspondence.