Reviews of eHarmony

I agree with PBS from Colorado as I have had similar experience with E-harmony.

After spending more than $300 on E-harmony.com while I was on and off for 3 years, I recently decided to give it up for good. I am extremely disappointed. First of all, 95% of the matches were dead, i.e. their profiles were on but their membership was obviously not paid, so they could not respond to any messages. Second, the majority of matches who were sent to me were totally not what I was looking for. I met in person two nice guys who could be great friends but there was no potential for chemistry and romance whatsoever. I was matched with a few men who looked interesting but they immediately closed me probably because of my age. I am 42, very attractive by most standards, have a great education and a good job but I realize that most men, or maybe e-Harmony users look for younger women. The question is why were they matched with me at all if this was the case? Then the service is massively advertised as based on Christian values. I do not know what kind of women are using it but my impression is that the predominant part of men subscribers are products of an ultra-conservative Christian fundamentalist upbringing. They are immature, insecure, have no realistic idea about women, they learn and rehearse standardazied questions and answers, and are not even clear about the difference between nice and rude. A few profiles I read and several men I e-mailed with/talked to made me feel like I was communicating with nine graders from an all boy catholic school. They believe that going through the rigorous matching scale of Dr. Warren and learning a few stereotypic communication tools from Men's Health magazine is all they need for dating. The scary part is that I am talking about professionally employed and educated men at age 40+. I even dated one of these I met through E-harmony for two months. It was my second most horrible dating experience ever. I am glad I figured him out relatively quickly. Now I am in a process of figuring out where to find mature and intelligent men. Definitely not on E-harmony.com which I do not recommend to anyone.

After seeing so many commericals for eharmony, I decided to try the website and see my matches. Unfortunately, you can not see the pictures nor have a way to make contact with your matches. I read some of the profiles and it is a short summary like a resume and some caught my eye and I googled for a promo code and found one for 20 percent off. I decided to do the 6 month membership and paid around $25 dollars a month.

Anyways I finally got to see the members pictures and actually did open communication which is a good idea, you can ask them a set of questions or you chose from a list or you can do fasttrack meaning you can contact them directly through an e-mail.

Here is what I really do not like about eharmony, 99 percent of the members you match with do not respond or sometimes their match system is a little off. I only had 218 matches in the 4 months and only one of them responded and I had to extend my radius to every single state in the US. I am 26 years old and an Asian male by the way if ya'll are wondering. Sometimes they do flexible matching and usually it sucks because sometimes they match me with a 31 year old or someone I am not looking for. Anyways with the lack of matches and well less than one percent actually responded and gotton through the fastrack, this website is really discouraging and well a big waste of money.

I was so discouraged after 4 months, I decided to try match.com and had at least 3 people respond to me in a week after sending 30 e-mails to 30 different girls. match.com is more flexible in the sense you can look for girls around your area or venture out to out of state. You can check to see how active the people have been to like not been on the website for 3 weeks or been active for 24 hours. I definetely like the daily 5 and their match system is 100 times better than eharmony. They actually go and find what you are looking for or some decent matches at least.

After my membership is up at eharmony which is in February, I plan to delete my membership profile. I already cancelled my membership and hopefully they will not bill be again. But yeah I am so discouraged at eharmony. Match has been way better to me.

E Harmony introduced me to a couple of very dear friends but was definitely not a good partner matching tool. I'm attractive and active in the outdoors, and also tall. I began receiving a volume of matches of men who were obese and significantly shorter in stature. A conversation with a customer service agent was rather telling. "We don't focus on the outside, just the inside."

When I explained that recreational compatibility is rather significant, especially for second marriages when children are grown or with people who have chosen not to have children, a well-rehearsed set of answers ensued.

Apparently Dr. Warren knows women better than we know ourselves (or knows men better as well?). He must know that someone who is sedentary in attitude and interest is perfectly matched to go skiing with someone who has a different energy level and who has only played 3 computer games in her life.

I guess that's the Christian way of marital success. Just take anything that comes and hope God will do the rest.

I'm saving a lot of money using other services, including the traditional introductions from friends. Maybe the pendulum will swing back to a direction of normalcy in human relationships, because this method just doesn't seem to work....unless Dr. Warren has found someone with whom you're standing at the altar this weekend.

It's interesting to be reading some of these reviews I had to post one myself. I joined e-harmony on Sept. 1, 08. So it's been 4 months now. I can tell you I have only been on 1 date that was ok but we didn't go out again. I think when I first joined I thought I would be spending $ like crazy going out with a different girl every week. The process alone of guided communication makes that difficult. So I thought , ok, I'll just lower my expectations and see what happens. My big concern with the site (that I read from these reviews) is that they still post profiles of people who cancelled! That just isn't right! No wonder when I try to communicate with 10 girls maybe 1 will respond. Some will close (that's ok by the way cause it works both ways and at least they let you know where they stand) But others (and here's the problem) don't respond at all. They leave you in limbo. Granted, maybe they're dating someone else or on vacation or whatever. But if these people left e-harmony then they should not be sent to you as a match. After you whittle down your initial matches and communicate with some, close some, some close you and by chance you are left with no matches, you have to wait for e-harmony to send you more. This takes time. I have to say my sister did find someone who seems really great! She found him on the 2nd or 3rd try. I think sometimes I get frustrated and down but have to remember that giving up is not a good thing and that special girl could be right around the corner. I believe the personality profile is probably alot of hype but at least they base a match on something. I think it's a good starting point. I'm not about to give up on this site cause I believe that you probably get a higher quality person (generally) through this site cause people here are more serious about finding something real. I have not joined any other sites. I'm going to give this a try. I think you can get crazy people on any site (even this one) as I read from a review here from a guy out on the west coast. (keying his car and all) But that's the chance you take when you meet anyone you don't know well. I feel sorry for that guy and we all hope not to meet that one (insanely special) person. As far as this site wanting your money. Well, it is more expensive than other sites but you don't have to get the rely id or the premium personality profile. I'll hang in there with it knowing that finding someone who really fits you is just a matter of meeting the right person. And let's face it. Some people get lucky.

I am glad I read some of these reviews and haven't spent a lot of money on eharmony. I admit, I have some strong limitations in my matching, but have been matched with 11 men in 6 weeks, viewed by 5 so at least half of them are still active! Three do not have their photos posted. Not sure if everyone realizes it, but you actually have to chose to have your photo posted--I missed that and didn't figure it out until after 6 matches. That's when I decided the matches who did view me and didn't respond to my questions were shallow. I am average looking, but they "ain't all that" themselves. I would be willing to communicate to learn more about them, if they responded. There really isn't a guide on how to use eharmony and make sure you have everything "turned on". I think if you or they aren't paying you can't see pictures either...sooooo...can be a very confusing situation. Complaints are on the site as well about not knowing when someone is not paying or inactive.

Got a great match today and in his profile he wrote "No longer a member!!! NEVER found a match, after trying for 5 years." That was really discouraging, but at least he's nice enough to say he's not a member.

I sent questions to the first 8 matches, 2 I decided to let them start the communication--nothing yet, no views, etc. My first match and I did communicate on a free weekend, he responded to my questions the same day, I happened to log on and see he had, so I responded to his. Twenty-four hours later got an email from EH saying he had responded--that was for the first round of questions, so obviously, a free weekend is a killer if you don't log in and pay attention. It never went beyond that--though I could view his pic.

A gal at work had great success with the site a year ago, but from what I know about her, she probably didn't have much criteria so it was probably easy for her. They lived within 15 miles of each other, now live together, and are getting married later next year.

Been trying to figure out how to keep them from renewing when the time comes. Apparently you're supposed to be able to check a box to stop the auto renew process, but I can't find that either. Going to put in an old credit card number that doesn't work just in case.

no offense..but it sounds like the people who are unhappy with eharmony are the ones that did NOT find someone, which is not a good reason for a poor rating. I thought the matching process was long and therefore thorough. Many people I have talked to either met someone online or have friends/family getting married from someone they met on eharmony..just like the adds, including me!

p.s. to the guy who dated the girl who wouldnt take her coat off...could you be anymore shallow?

My experience with eharmony has been mostly positive. I joined in July of '07, and have had 1200 matches since then. And that is in spite of putting my account on hold for 9 months while I was dating someone I met on there. I am 44, in good shape and have not had too much trouble attracting women over the years. Having said that, I agree that there are too many inactive profiles on there, and their customer service could use some work. And even though they claim to consider physical appearance when matching people, I find that hard to believe. I have been matched with women who are everything from model quality drop dead gorgeous, to morbidly obese, and everything in between. But dating is a numbers game, and I just look at eharmony as another tool in my quest to find a mate. One more thing- I have been getting far fewer matches this time around (Fall '08) than '07, but I wonder if that might have something to do with the economy......

This is to Dennis from Boston, MA - why are you still in any remote way still even thinking about eharmony, so much as to leave a review for the site, if you are so happy?

My experience was dismal. I am a 42 year old, Harvard educated neurosurgeon, widowed, am attractive with twin daughters aged 18 years. I communicated with each and every match that requested communication with me. I only have two complaints: first - why does eharmony match you with matches who are no longer are members - just not fair; and second - why do people misrepresent themselves? I am just looking for an intelligent, witty, compassionate, honest, kind man period. I met over 15 men and not one of presented themselves honestly.

Needless to say, I am going to stick to meeting men in other venues!

I read most of the reviews posted here about eharmony. I feel sad that so many were not able to experience what I have. Just as the "Ad" says, I met the love of my life on eharmony. My first wife (a wonderful woman) of 33 years passed away after a long illness. Several months following that I simply decided I was not made to stay single at age 57. I went on eharmony. I met several solid Christian women of very high quality. However, after a lot of dialogue and a few dates, none of them seemed to fit, even though I knew they were a true personality match with me. Then I met my present wife. She too is a solid Christian woman of the very highest quality, but she was very special in a way that the others were not. We were married a little over 3 years ago and everyday with her is more wonderful than any day before. I truly am married to my very best friend. Maybe the people that were not successful do not have what I have, which is the Lord Jesus Christ. With every match I had on eharmony, I prayed to Lord that "if this is the one, then open the door, if not, then shut the door." When He shut the door, it was very obvious, but with my present and most wonderful wife, the door never shut. It only opened more and more. I now know without question, after more than 3 years of marriage, that God brought the two of us together. "Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths" (Proverbs 3:5&6). This is so very true and it is exactly what He did for me. I am happy in my marriage far beyond any of the dreams of my whole life. Give your life to Christ, who died for your sins on the Cross, was buried, and 3 days later was raised from the dead by the power of God. Believe in this, ask Jesus to forgive you of your sins, acknowledge that He is Lord, and He will change your life and grant you eternal life with Him in Heaven. There is no other way to Heaven but by way of Jesus Christ.

If you don't care who you are dating then you are at the right place with Eharmony! Their idea of "screening" people is a lot of questions left up to the individual to answer as they "believe" about themselves. I met "Prince Charming" who claimed to be a "Knight looking for his Princess"... He also claimed to be a Christian man looking for a Christian woman to share his life with, that he is 48 years old, owning his own real estate company, having been an Evangelical Minister in the past, I should have seen where it was going when he made the statement that "he takes it when he wants it" about sex, ect... You can probably see where this is going. But in case you cannot... when things weren't adding up within a couple of months... very bad temper, swearing and hanging up (like a child) the phone when conversation didn't go the way he wanted it to... no fruit of the Spirit whatsoever!... I decided to do an online Zabasearch... He is actually 58 years old, I called the number listed for him only to speak with his exwife who he still lives with in a trailer in Paradise, Ca... not on his own as he claimed in Chico, CA.