Reviews of eHarmony

Yes, if there were a rating with negative stars, I would use it. Eharmony should really shorten its name simply to Eharm. The clowns that are out there to waste your time leave the last laugh on you...and don't forget that you paid admission. There are better ways to use your time. Join a club. Your money will be better invested. Eharm is all about generating revenue, not helping you. Somehow Eharm seemed more elusive than other online dating sites. I do NOT recommend joining.

Before you join Eharmony, visit the Elaboratory section on the site for free. There you can take the marriage predictor test that will generate your statistical chances of getting married by your age, location, and activities. You can take the quiz repeatedly, if you want to test the weight of each variable. For example, you can see what your chances are if you were trying to find someone online, vs. not trying that way. Actually, no matter what method you try to meet someone, according to this quiz, your results will always be the same. What I learned is that no matter what I do, according to this quiz, I have less than a 5% chance of getting married. A male my same age has 7% chance. I am in my early 50's, so things look depressing. I have a great job, am very attractive and am very fit. None of that is taken into account with the statistics. So all this work and effort to find someone online, not to mention expense, is it worth it? Do you really have the same chances if you did nothing at all to meet someone? There really are some authentic guys out there. But there are probably more slippery characters online at Eharmony, as well with any venue. You may pay more at Eharmony, but you don't get a higher quality. There is no such thing as quality control. Be careful with Eharmony's automatic renewal process. Read the fine print!!! When you try to quit, all your membership info is still available for renewal. And if you don't join, but do complete all the introductory information, you can be sent out as a match to someone else. But until you pay to join, the receiver has no way of telling that you are not yet a full member. So it may appear that you receive plenty of matches, but many are not active ones. I received my best matches at the beginning; it was more than I could handle. So I closed most of them with the thought that I would pursue one match at a time. I even stopped new matches from coming while pursuing one match at a time. This was a futile strategy. Soon after a match did not work out,and I went to find new matches, I stopped receiving new matches altogether. What happened to those masses at the beginning? Apparently there is not a limitless pool.I was an active member for one month. Having just cancelled my membership, I am now waiting out the remaining 2 months of prepaid 3 month membership. Supposedly, the automatic renewal should not go into effect. However, whether I will receive any matches of any hope is a big question. I am very dubious about the membership and regret spending so much money to join. I wish I had discovered and read these reviews first! However, you may be among the lucky few where this works out fine.

>Reviewed By >Alyssa >Albany NY >Sex >Female >Rating >* >Date >June 06, 2007 > >Visit eHarmony Watch out! This service is no better than >any other. But unlike Match.com, you don't know when your >matches are online, or how active they have been online >recently. This means that you can be dating someone who >feigns loyalty, but is actually still very much on the >prowl. So many men are simply fishing. More is never >enough. One man I dated for more than a month told me he >was no longer active online, because he was so content to >have found me. That I believed that he was serious was my >poor judgement. He only wanted to bed me. Later I learned >that I also have female friends on Eharmony; we have >learned alot by comparing notes. We were able to fish out >more lies and misrepresentations. Dater beware!!

I find stories like this to be so terribly sad when I find it so hard to meet anyone. I am a kind, caring, decent guy, who just happens to be shy and reserved. I am a pretty average person. I have no idea why I can't stand out to anyone. But I would never treat anyone who I found I cared about and who cared about me like this guy treated you.

I tried eHarmony out for three months once upon a time.

I found my old review on here. http://www.edatereview.com/0003802permalink.aspx

Watch out! This service is no better than any other. But unlike Match.com, you don't know when your matches are online, or how active they have been online recently. This means that you can be dating someone who feigns loyalty, but is actually still very much on the prowl. So many men are simply fishing. More is never enough. One man I dated for more than a month told me he was no longer active online, because he was so content to have found me. That I believed that he was serious was my poor judgement. He only wanted to bed me. Later I learned that I also have female friends on Eharmony; we have learned alot by comparing notes. We were able to fish out more lies and misrepresentations. Dater beware!!

I'd rather not give it a rating AT ALL! After cringing at the amount of money I was spending, as I hit "enter," the nausea finally went away. I then decided, "What's $60 if I meet the love of my life? You can't put a price on love!" Boy was I wrong! Not only can you put a price on it, but eHarmony went a step further with an irresistable advertisement for our $60! Watching the happiness-induced commercials, I'd decided to give eHarmony a try. I mean, certainly, I'm marketable, right? Attractive, 30 year old with Masters degree, never married, no kids or mental problems, with a great job and happy, well-rounded disposition on life. Sounded like a nice start. Hmmm... I have 2 main complaints. 1) For $60, I think we all deserve some sort of criminal check before people are accepted and matched! 2) Where are the important questions...like how "long ago was your divorce?" and "how long after the divorce did you join?" I hit it off with my first match...that is until I realized he was literally trying to BE an eHarmony commercial. No lie! He was even stealing lines from them! He was one of those people who'd been married (after a 3 day courtship) for 10-11 years (ages 20-31, to be exact), never really experienced life and didn't know how to be alone. And how could he? He'd always been a husband. So, here we were, 4 months after his divorce (to my later surprise). To my even BIGGER surprise, he'd joined eHarmony only 3 weeks after his divorce. He was very obviously telling me what he thought I wanted to hear and what he thought he needed to say in order to convince me to marry him-- QUICKLY. He was startled by the fact that I wasn't "in love," too, after date 4. And even more startled when I didn't fall for the, "Don't be afraid of what's happening between us. I see it in your eyes and I hear it in your voice" soap opera line. (I literally looked around for Ashton Kutcher to crawl from under my kitchen sink. Surely, my best friend was having me punked!) On the flipside of the insecure men looking for completion, there remains the other half who are just looking for fun. They close the match without even talking to you with lame excuses like, "Pursuing another relationship" (okay, so put your matching on hold); "I don't feel the chemistry is there" (how do you know? You haven't even talked to me!); and "other" or "I'd rather not say" (well, screw you too!) This wonderful money making business called eHarmony IS NOT the alternative to other dating sites. It's the same as other sites with better (and I dare say, clever) advertising. What good are 29 dimensions if they don't hit the important characteristics (are you married, how long ago was your divorce?). Or if people simply lie and give "pleasing answers" throughout the questionnaire? To the (maybe) 10% of people who have success on eHarmony (have you noticed that there are never new couples on the commercial?)--congrats! To the rest of us, we need to pink slip this online dating option and delve into face-to-face mingling again--for FREE!

So lets start out by saying it wasn't what I was expecting from all the happy, bouncy, huggy, people on the commercials. I decided to sign up for 1 month to try it out. After the initial sticker shock of $59, I was briefly excited to get started and fill out my information. Out of the 30 days I was a customer I did receive many "matches." Being that I am 29, I am not looking to date a 40-year old with 3 kids, but eHarmony thought that was a "perfect match" according to what I filled out. Then during the Memorial Day weekend I was unable to log in all of a sudden. My password was not accepted, even though it was correct. Good luck searching for the phone number to contact a human being at eHarmony because the site will never give it to you...anywhere. After searching on google, I finally found it on some site like this where a person was bashing them and posted the number. After days of paying for the service and not being able to log in I finally get ahold of a human and she fixes it. Here it is a little over a week and it is broke again. Happy that I am paying for nothing, other than those happy, huggy, fake actors on the commercials!

The EHARMONY CUSTOMER SERVICE number is 800-263-6133

I found eharmony one of the worst experience I have endured. During profile setting, I was asked at which point would my picture be revealed to my match, and I have selected after the first question exchange. I would receive multiple matches daily, and many of them would be a perfect fit to my own personal profile. Everything seems great until after the 1st question, in which my picture is revealed. Then all the communication started closing on me, with lame excuses like age difference or must have/dont have doesn't match. I mean for crist sake, we have the identical must have/dont have! As a recent graduate from the best university in the country with 80K+ salary, who worked out 3 times a week (all things I didn't mention in the profile), this result just completely baffles me. These girls are that good looking and they would still be so judgmental... Maybe these girls are meant to be alone. They should be at least honest in their profile, money and hot look is required.

I found e-harmony totally unrelational, and totally uncommunicative when I had a problem with their business ethics. No one could answer my questions. No one personally got back to me. E-mails were coming all the time, but they were the canned kind and no real-life people ever got involved.

I had 2 main problems.

As a senior, I got VERY few matches. The first three I don't believe even ever existed. With the next ones, only one person responded back, and then just to say the distance was too great. SO were the others really real? I never got a chance to 'communicate' with any match.

E-harmony doesn't seem to be interested that I'm not in a readily available market for matches, yet they charge just the same. A 40 year old male friend gets many, many inquiries, and back and forth communication. I sent a suggestion for the correction (that they say they want to make) and can't get a resonse.

The other problem was when I tried to disconnect from them charging my credit card for extra months after the three initial ones were up. I couldn't find a way through the maze to cancel. The trail would go stale. I also could not find a phone number readily available ANYWHERE to call and get help. As a senior I'm not that computer savey. I finally found a number on the credit card bill. But when I called they refused to help me either except always to try to talk me into spending more money. I had to finally send a letter (no one would give me a direct number) to the head cs gal in the same building as their customer service, and she finally wrote back a boxed letter that said sorry, but they were not going to do anything about the extra charges, and especially not the last one which re-posted on the same day the 'contract' actually expired for that month--that it had to be the day before in order to cancel. [even though I had been trying to cancel for over a month through e-mail to them, etc.]

After that I did receive e-mails galore regarding my 'cancellation' incident, but nothing I wrote back was ever acknowledged. On the contrary in fact. Their supposed want to hear constructive criticisms just isn't ture. Comments get nowhere. They don't care. Isn't that ironical that a service that promotes caring, relationship, and communication does none of the above for its customers?

So I have written the the California Attorney General's Office regarding the poor and misleading communication given on the site regarding credit card charges and cancellations. I hope others will do that also.

I first learned about eharmony when it began in or around 2000 after reading a book ("Finding the Love of your Life") from Neil Clark Warren, a Christian psychologist, who used to attend my chuch and was a former dean of a seminary in my area. In the beginning, I thought it was primarily a Christian website; or at least most of the people who participated and knew about it in its early stages were Christians because of Warren's connection to the Evangelical community. It's evolved into something else now. More commercialized and slick, for one...and no, I'm not directly blaming Warren for the 'negatives' there (no site is perfect).

Anyways, for those of us looking for a committed Christian partner, there's still such matches on eharmony. But I would also recommend looking into other sites such as christian cafe or relationships.com. They're overall less expensive, and offer more flexibility and matches or features that truly reflect your beliefs and values.

I feel that I am safe from being gang raped by divorced porn stars with strap-on fetishes in this website. Those that are into the strap-on thing with eHarmony are usually into the smaller sizes at least. I don't know if that's their preference, as I have heard of some of them saying that a lot of the eHarmony guys were wimpy as* MOFO's, with nicknames like Deedle Nick and such. As I have been using eHarmony for nearly three months and have yet to be gang raped by nympho porn stars with strap-ons, I feel that I MUST give the website a 5-star rating, but I'm not going to bend over to give it to them, if you know what I mean. Sorry if this offends any strap-on nympho porn stars that read this, as I know that you gals really have to push and shove your way around to be a success in your careers.