Reviews of eHarmony

Don't waste your money! I am being matched with people who live two hours away from me, and many are "FLEXIBLE" matches, meaning LESS compatible. I am a 53 yo woman with a Masters Degree, an excellent job, and a home owner. The one guy I responded to wanted to immediately start phoning me the same day that I first corresponded to him, and not through eHarmony. When I asked to please take it more slowly and use the email, and also questioned his job as listed in his profile, he "closed" me. Anybody can create a profile that is totally false. PROCEED WITH CAUTION, if you are going to do this.

Negative star!!! I have tried eharmony for a couple of times over the last few years, yes that's right, years. Optimist, what can I say. I have had some success in going out with a few fellas but nothing has really worked out. I agree with a lot of the negative responses posted previously. And eharmony has been a waste of money; this will be the last time. Each time the responses have been getting worse, either they don't respond, don't have a picture, or communication starts then they stop, I assume there is a huge vortex sucking down all the men I communicate with... be careful... I have yet to have someone who didn't post a picture send one with my request. Oh, and I love the ones they send me who haven't finished filling out the questions. I once sent a request for communication to every one in my inbox (about 20) and didn't receive a single response... My conclusion, these are fakes. Now you might say whats wrong with me. I am 40, but a good looking, well educated, well employed, well traveled, put together woman.. who also happens to be a size 4. So what gives?? Eharmony just sucks, it's time is over!!!

eHarmony was a total waste of money and time...

When my 3 months was up they tried to lure me back in with a $9 a month deal for 6 more months, as opposed to $29.95 a month.

When I first signed up I got e-mail alerts from eHarmony and then one day they ended. I called customer service numerous times and they were never able to figure out why I was not able to receive e-mails from them. When I changed credit card companies eHarmony figured out how to e-mail me to get paid.

(In order to get eHarmony's phone number I had to Google it, they don't provide it to you!)

Oh yeah, expect eHarmony to be down on occasion and don't expect their customer service department to acknowledge the problem or credit your account.

I have a good job and was tired of meeting women who did not want to settle down, so I thought eHarmony would match me up with a professional woman who had a good job, compatible likes and dislikes. Well was I in for a surprise! Most of the matches had no jobs, didn't like to exercise, didn't believe in God... I could go on and on. I was fed up with their "flexible" matches at the end. (I don't even want to address the numerous women I started to communicate with and never got a response.)

I guess I'll save my time/money and just keep going out and hoping to meet the "one".

My advice to anyone who is thinking about using eHarmony, DON'T!

I wish I could have given them a "Zero" or negative rating.

The most expensive...the most researched...the most effective way to meet your mate. NOT!!!
Too much money, too much pre qualifying; too much filtering. you still get the same result:

Dumb People who are into the same things, looking for other dumb people who don't seem so dumb. One of the qualifiers ought to be a basic reading/writing test!!!

There are FREE SITES out there, where you can see the same dumb people!
Why spend the money?

They have omitted one very important question from the profiles: "Do you have children?".

Anyone who, like me, finds this question important, don't bother going through the long registration process because you'll just spend your time closing matches.

I've belonged to other sites before and they ask "Do you have children?" as well as "Do you want children?" - it's very very very important to me because I don't want to meet someone with children.

(Ideally, dating sites would ask, if someone selects that they do already have children, it should give options of what are the ages of the children, because grown-up children would be OK for someone who doesn't want to bring up children.)

I would have put a negative star if it were available. Eharmony sucks. Fat, old, ugly. I tried to turn off eharmony and delete my profile and the ***hole on the other end said.. and I quote... "we aren't trying to rip you off like THEY say"..."its just a GLITCH in the system". BS BS BS BS. Too many other blogs about the same thing. I wonder if Good Morning America or one of the other news shows checked it out it would be stopped. I also asked not to be renewed in March, and they still billed me! I had to wait 35 minutes for an operator to tell me it was my fault until I convinced her that after reading the blogs I called to MAKE SURE IT WAS TURNED OFF and the operator at that time VERIFIED IT! Of course, no record of it. I gave her the name, date, and time until I finally got a refund. Site sucks. Process sucks. No, i'm not some bitter jerk I'm a well-educated handsome athletic man looking for a good looking well educated hard working woman. I found several, but like the others on here, got no reply and when I closed it wasn't closed on the other end. Someone else that no longer wanted to be on there but couldn't get their profile removed. Plentyoffish.com is WAY better... and... no... I am NOT affilitated but have had success at least meeting people in the right CATEGORY.

This isn’t a dig on e-harmony specifically but just good advice for anyone using any dating pay site. BEFORE you sign up for E-harmony or Match or whatever, pick a credit card that you don’t use very often. The other way to do this is to apply for a new credit card just for this purpose. Most people can qualify for a typical Visa or Mastercard and you only need to put about $35.00 on it. Sign up to the pay site using your credit card and use the site however you want. Wait about 2 weeks then BLOCK YOUR CREDIT CARD ACCOUNT. Either put a hold on the card account or just block future billing from the dating site. The credit card companies are usually happy to do this and it only takes one simple phone call to put it into effect. Typically, the credit card company can put a 90 day freeze on all charges to the account and it doesn’t cost you a thing. Just remember, if you need to use the card for something else, you won’t be able to if you put a hold on the account. That’s why I have cards that I don’t use often and don’t rely on them for necessities. When the dating site tries to renew your membership, they can’t so you will automatically be canceled and removed from the site. It works like a charm and there is no way the site can make any additional BS charges on your card. Don’t get stuck extending your membership indefinitely and constant renewal charges for the site after you’re done with it.

I was on e-harmony for one month. I had a lot of technical and customer service related issues with the site so I canceled it. Then I began to receive magazines trough them. Apparently they will sell your information to a magazine company called blue-dolphin if you do not opt out of it when you sign up. Which I know for a fact I did. That didn’t stop them from selling my information through. I have called e-harmony about this 3 times this week and they keep giving me the same e-mail to get in contact with blue-dolphin. I have e-mailed blue-dolphin 3 times now to no avail. When I called e-harmony the last time to try to get more contact information for blue-dolphin the costumer service associate honestly wanted me to believe that they only have one e-mail address to contact blue-dolphin. As I pointed out no two corporations can rely on communicate through one e-mail address. E-harmony illegally sold my information.

My complaint is in trying to end my membership on eharmony. I am computer illiterate enough to not understand how to turn off the automatic renew switch. I was obviously automatically renewed and charged money even when I had informed eharmony by email that I did not want their service, did not want to renew and wanted a refund for the renewal charge they had taken. I was not past my renewal date. I informed them on the day of the proposed renewal. They had already charged me for a renewal, they will not refund my money and I suspect come the next renewal date I will continue to be renewed over and over and over again, against my wishes. They are taking advantage of the fact that I cannot figure out how to turn of the renewal mechanism. They do not seem to care that even though I continue to contact them they are not interested in my wishes as a customer but only in continuing to force me to pay for a service I do not want. There does not seem to be a way to stop them.

This review is mostly in response to all of the other negative reviews. I'm still new to eHarmony (1.5 months), but I've had a good experience so far. I've been on 3 dates and all of the guys I've chatted with have been nice guys.

If you don't want to be matched with girls/guys 200 miles away then narrow your location. I chose 50 miles and have not been matched with anyone outside that area. Furthermore, if you are a vegetarian and you get matched with a carnivore hunter, don't get mad...don't date them!!! It's really that simple. As I remember, there were no questions about vegetarianism during the initial questionnaire...that is something you'd have to weed out yourself. Furthermore, eHarmony is designed to match you with people who answered questions similarly to you...they do not match you based on your looks! If you dont' like the way one of your matches looks (and you're superficial, by the way) then don't date them. eHarmony is online dating after all. What do you expect? Furthermore, many of you described yourselves as athletic, beautiful, successful, funny, blah blah blah and are upset with the types of people you have been matched with. If you are that fricken great, then why are you even using eHarmony? How about you stop complaining about the website...it's not magical or God, it is what it is.