Reviews of eHarmony

1* is generous.
I realize that many people do not pay to be a member... they just put their profiles up for free. This is the reason a match does not answer since it would cost them money.

This is the last day of over a week of a free trial.

Since it has been free for such a long time, wouldn't you have thought that one of the couple of dozen gents who I had contacted, would have responded -
Even if it was to say-thanks but no thanks.

I have heard from NO one! And I wrote a couple of times to each person... even direct email!
Something is wrong somewhere.

Lots of my time was invested ...
I am not inclined to spend any more time on this service... and certainly not pay any money!

I am grateful to all of your blogs... good to know that I am not the only one with such distaste for the authenticty of this service.

How can I rate this with zero? That would best describe my experience with E-Harmony. I was disappointed in the site after I took time to complete the questionaire and it came back "unable to find a match." I was depressed and feeling totally rejected, but wondered if my age was a factor - over 50. Anyone else "unfit" to date on this site?

It's a scam and their ads are misleading. Of the thousands who apply for membership, how many success stories do you see advertised on TV?... a half dozen, if that. They send you the opposite of what you request. If you say you don't have/want children, they match you up with someone who says, "My children are the most important thing in my life and come with the package." If you say you are "spiritual but not religious" they match you up with someone who attends a church of their preferred denomination and "must have" the same. If you say you are not athletic they match you up with someone who "must have" someone who works out at the gym alongside them. If you say you like to travel they match you up with someone who doesn't like the same... and the list goes on.

I am totally disgusted with the site and it's misleading and lack of information prior to paying for subscriptions. There was never any mention of only getting 7 matches every 24 hours sent to you. Never any mention that the matches were absolutely the worst matches in all detail. Never any mention that trying to turn off the renewal and canceling of your account would be so difficult. Site does not work well with Firefox.
The women they sent me look like my old mother. They were so inappropriate to the long and lengthy personality profile they make you fill out. Never any mention that 90% of the matches were not even active members anymore.
The site is nothing more than false advertising at it's sneakiest.
My recommendation is forget these sites. It just stimulates wrongful and unethical practices.

They advertise free and it is not. They are con-artists taking money from people.
They should be put in jail.
I paid once and never got a fair deal and now they are worse.
Look at all the complaints they have.

Several years ago I filled in the lengthy, time consuming form to sign up with e-Harmony only to be told I had no matches. None. I have enough self esteem to know it was not me.

I later found out e Harmony was sponsored by a Christian faith-based organization and considered their methods "scientific". I have no problem with a faith-based dating site- I just wish they had been upfront about it as I am not Christian.

Well, a few years have gone by and I am single again and they seemed to have revamped their format. They have been heavily promoting their free communications week and I took the bait- once again answering a lengthy (yet subjective) questionnaire. I could post a photo, but as a non-subscriber, I could not view any photos. I understand this is a business and they don't want to give the store away, but I have no reason to give e-harmony any money as the gentleman in Baltimore (a little farther away than I would like) who just sent me a note will never get my response - I can't respond, or "communicate" unless I subscribe.

Once again, my valuable time, wasted.

I got drawn in for a 2nd time and regret it. I was very disappointed in the quality and quantity of "matches". I don't want to travel 100+ miles to date someone. I consider myself an attractive woman....but oh what they sent me. If you want to slide into a great depression and start having low self-image, internet dating is the thing to do!!! Otherwise, be patient...pray for God's intervention...His timing is the best timing. I don't know if I will find a soul mate this side of heaven, I pray I do, but being single is much better than playing the eharmony game.

Wow! I have not joined e-harmony, but was strongly considering the idea. However, reading these reviews has definitley made me think twice. Internet dating is not really my type of 'thing' but I don't go to bars and although amusing & flattering, I'm not really fond of pick-up lines in grocery stores or someone sneaking a smile in my direction, while standing in line at the movie with someone else. It just seems hard to meet people you find interesting and attractive, without going up to random strangers and asking "Are you single? Emotionally stable? Have passion for life? " ,etc...
That little voice inside me kept saying "Don't do this!", so I believe I'm going to listen to it. I guess I'll just let fate run it's course... Life is good - I'd just like to have a nice conversation with a man over dinner and a glass of wine, sometimes. You know what I mean?!

Thanks for the valuable input and good luck to everyone!

My daughter enrolled in eHarmony after seeing the commercials on tv. They stated, meet your soul mate, find the one you want to marry and spend the rest of your life with. For whoever started eHarmony, it was a good idea but I'm afraid it was now just turned into another money maker. Now everyone goes on just to find a "nice" girl to have sex with. Period!!! None are interested in marriage. None obviously take their Christianity seriously, as I do believe their is scripture relating to fornication. OOPS!-Nobody says that word any more. I was really excited for my daughter, hoping she would find her "soul mate" through this venue, but no such luck.
Unhappy grandma.

I read all the negative reviews and I agree with most of the comments. I think there are more women on the site than men as my ex-girlfriend is on there too and I get a lot more matches than she does. She does get matches from guys far away which she doesn't like. I never had that issue. She gets matched with a lot of wacky guys as I did with women. However, I have met a lot of really great gals. In fact the woman I am with now (since November) I met on eharmony. I don't like the fact that you can't browse the profiles as you can on match.com. I also hate the back and forth questions. They are stupid. They remind me of job interview questions. I also don't like the process of sending an email - only with the chance of being rejected. I would much rather have a no response than a rejection!

Bottom line is none of these sites are perfect. When my ex went on to Match, she was bombarded with over 200 guys asking to meet her. When you are fresh meat on there the guys want to meet you before anyone else does. She went 3 months on there and had a ton of dates and nada. Loser city. I actually met 2 really nice women on match. One smoked (tried but couldn't date a smoker!) and the other was too high maintenance (was married to a gastro Dr. and had lived a life of luxury which I could not offer her) so I liked Match better all in all. All things consider - match.com is a better site. But if you are patient and keep looking you can find a great partner. Soul Mate? Probably not. Let's be honest - there is a reason why a lot of these people are single - and I am including myself in that group!