Reviews of eHarmony

eHarmony. Their site should be called DisHarmony or something more appropriate. Around 2003 while home on medical leave I decided to try this site and see if it was - as advertised - "a step above the other dating sites".

What baloney. What a scam. It dating site is a scam of some sort and definitely run by a very ideological religious group. I spent hours (and I do mean hours) filling in their online forms. The site itself and the form - kept bombing and I kept losing data. I have 29 years systems experience - and keyboard experience (my whole life) - so it was not me.

After a lot of tea and frustration I finally got this lengthy questionnaire completed, and successfully submitted. I got a response back that the "questionnaire was incomplete" and had to be redone and resubmitted. yurg

I decided to plow into the form one last time. Hours and hours later I completed the form - this time trying to second guess what the psychology was behind their questions. I was drawing the conclusion that they were culling out - those who did not fit into, some profile...most especially, I concluded that this did have something to do with - one having to have, strong and very religious, convictions. (that is anyone applying to join their site)

A few days passed after this supposed "successful" submission of their maze like form - and I finally received a REJECTION!!! I was not suitable for their dating site - no explanation given. A year or two ago I saw an evening new "magazine" show (say 20/20 or 60 Minutes) which did a "special" on eHarmony. The female interviewer (can't remember which one it was) - also - waded into their questionnaire and completed it - saying also how long, involved and complex that questionnaire was. SHE TOO, WAS REJECTED by eHarmony - no reason given. When she attempted to ask the founder - on the show - about this rejection - he was vague and gave no answer.

Subsequent to this show I looked up the founding organization and it's founder... and their ties. Just as I suspected - an ideological religious group. So therein lies an answer for many people. Besides which - in thirty some years of trying newspaper, magazine, and online dating - I have yet to meet one person that I could even form a friendship with. And I am just an average, neither ugly nor gorgeous, regular middle-class woman.

THE RELY IDASKS FOR INFORMATION ABOUT MY CREDIT HISTORY Which Quite Frankly is non of their damn Business !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Very nosy on their part. They don not prvide a secvure line for communication. How outrageous.

Is it possible to give this site less than 1 star? One of my friends recommended I try this, and they sent matches based on what, I don't know. Their charges are rediculous, and be very careful, because they will charge you even when you aren't using the site. When you want to delete something, it takes forever, and the people I was matched with I frequently had nothing in common with.
Save your money!!

I wish I could give this horrible site 0 stars, much like the rest of these reviewers!

I joined eHarmony back when they were running their "free communication weekend", thinking "Why not, maybe something will happen in 3 days". On Sunday night, I start communicating with somebody and get up to the 3rd stage of communication. The free weekend ran out before I could read the latest answers from my match, so I subscribed, because I felt, based on his profile, he and I would hit it off and something would come out of it. So the next day, I see the match had closed communication! Why would he suddenly do that after the 3rd stage? I feel ripped off and scammed!

Another thing eHarmony does...they suggest changing your criteria on your matches! For example, they suggested I change how much my match drinks from "not at all" to at least "a few times a week" so that I would get more matches. So I have to be looking for a drunk in order to be matched with somebody? Please! As somebody who doesn't drink at all, I want my match to be the same way.

They also suggest I look for somebody over 100 miles away...that's just way too far!

So for anyone even considering this website...don't believe the hype or the commercials! It's a huge scam, in my opinion, and I wouldn't be surprised if Consumer Affairs shut them down within the next few years. I'm surprised they already haven't!

Let me say that eharmony has some redeeming qualities but they are few..The main problem with eharmony is they will send you matches that are no longer members and they entice you to rejoin the site with matches who are not members. You ask how I Know.I got a match from Eharm. I sent an email no response then I found her on Match.com..Emailed her and ask her if she was a member. She said she had not been a member in a long time.

So don't be snookered by Eharm...I have questioned them about this many times but obviously no response... I would like to file a class action suit against eharmony to prevent them from sending matches who are no longer member...Remember their ads (they will match you with someone compatible in the 29 areas important to a relationship) if you have a interest please contact me at evoltsal@hotmail.com Jim

Actually this site is horrible. They match you with someone or many at the same time so it is not better than walking into a store and striking up a conversation with someone you feel compatible with. The key thing they are missing is the fact that we are human beings and must be attracted to someone by their appearance. Many of their members do not have a photo and I shot them down in a second. I suggest to anyone not to waste on penny on this site.

The problem with this site is that you may get the matches but the matches may not be paying members and can't respond or communicate with you, so the limitations they put on non paying members ruins the whole thing. I know, I'm a non paying member and all kinds of matches are trying to communicate with me and when I try to respond it goes to the registration page so at the other end they think no one replies

Waste of my money and I feel sad that I even tried. I certainly feel worse for the experience. They have hardly had any matches for me and of course don't suppose their fault but everyone I have tried to communicate with (who actually matched) hasn't answered. They sent me people 3 or 4 states away and I indicated that I would only want someone within a reasonable distance from me. I don't mind moving but won't move 3 states from my home. I guess what bothers me most is that I actually tried to communicate and tell them the problem and they send me a form type letter..no real communication and I think I paid enough to get that. They are a waste of money.

I don't think I would even give this site 1 star as well. I don't care if the 5% of you found it to be great, I have been on that site for 4 months now at $50 a pop each month and feel its been a waste. Of coarse anything is possible, its possible to meet someone online just like its possible to get hit by lightening! And with every criticism I will give you I will say why.
I had allot of matches and allot of closed matches that I never even got to know. People closed matches based on who knows what! I mean they never meet me or even talked to me. To look at a profile and disqualify me automatically is weird to me. And I am not bad looking to say the least I will post a link to my myspace and or face book pages if you like!
I think this site attracts allot of people who are looking for the ultimate perfect person, and I'm sorry to say that doesn't exist! They don't look at relationships correctly. If you are compatible and got matched I am sure it was for a reason. Instead they just want what they asked for and if you don't meet the expectation they have created in their mind they show no real effort to get to know you. That’s called laziness!
The 3 matches I actually communicated with were horrible experiences. 1 person I went out with twice and he end up telling me after wards in his own words I wasn't good enough for him. He had the nerve to say he needed to be with someone he felt was smarter than him, F**k him! And he had the nerve to still try to get in my pants regardless of how "dumb" I supposedly was.

Date 2 seemed nice off the bat. He told me stuff like "I haven't felt this comfortable with anyone in a long time"
Then he just started avoiding me after 1.5 dates and ended up texting me saying he had no connection with me! On top of that this jerk said he had been married before and he never even initially put that in his profile. So if he wouldn't have lied, him and me would have never been matched to begin with. So not only is he a liar, but has no balls either!

Date 3 I never meet, we just emailed back and forth. I suggested we chat on the phone and he said after he gets to know me we will talk. So I thought that's cool. Next thing you know the match was closed, saying, "perusing another relationship".

These people never even gave me a fu**in chance! They act like they are shopping for a car not a relationship!
I refuse to spend $50 a month to be treated like this. I can easily get the abuse for free else ware!
I am of coarse being sarcastic! But I need to vent for one, and two I wanted to make people aware that it’s not worth the money you pay. And its sad to say but I have tried other dating sites and have gotten different but just as bad experiences as well!
I have no idea where to meet nice men these days and frankly I am giving up for the time being.

http://www.myspace.com/Sweet_Pea1983

There was no option for a negative star so I am giving disHarmony 1 star. I was matched with a former employee of mine who, of course, I knew quite well, and I couldn't think of someone I would be less compatible with culturally and from a personality standpoint.

I had been on eharmony before without any success many years ago and thought I would give it a try again. What I guessed this time was that if I signed up for the free trial and then poked at the website enough, sooner or later they would send me a BARGAIN for someone they thought they were losing. So I think I only paid $30 for three months, but even that amount is too much for this collossal waste of time.

Their personality profile on me was pretty spot-on in four out of five areas, one area a complete miss, but from the matches I received it looks like they don't use this information in any of their matching.

Their "Guided Communication" is stilted and gets in the way of any communication.

It's amazing that such a large operation like this can get away with such deceptive advertising.