Reviews of eHarmony

Some years ago, I subscribed to EH and was matched with a number of unsuitable matches. The decision to stop service there came when I had a face to face with my conservative church goer, dressed like a tart from 7th avenue. I decided to complete a new profile last month to prepare for the free Labor Day communication. There were a few more choices than previously about who might and might not be compatible. And a new feature called "flex match" that matches someone compatible but outside your settings. I have received mostly good matches. I left my distance open to USA and got many more matches, but the most compatible ones are from my region. I am pursuing face to face with one particularly well suited match and have emailed a few others. I am very happy and have met women of all incomes, professions, and appearances. It would appear there are many more compatible women based upon faith, values, and politics to me than in the past. The cost is okay too. I am happy with the service at this point, but perhaps my 29 dimensions are more common than others; they told my divorced friend he was not eligible for their service and would receive few matches. He took the test several months later and was denied as well, so they must not be entirely about money vs consumer happiness.

To DB: and the DB's a joke person- I dunno- he might be truthful- i've got that problem too, as a woman- i'm attractive, down to earth, mid-40's, no kids and quite successful financially, and can't get matched with a guy in my income bracket. i am open to race/age/religion/drinking, & i don't mention $$ in my profile because i don't want to attract a gold digger but at the same time, why do i have a majority of matches who make, and have accomplished, so little? i don't want a CEO or a Dr., but i do need someone who doesn't consider Denny's a viable dinner option...

I signed up for Eharmony some years ago and it's amazing how everything other reviewers have said is the same thing I am thinking. A good majority of the profiles on there are no longer active and half the users only come on during the promotional period like the free communication weekend during the holidays. I contacted a few guys on here and many of them didnt respond only to send back those prewritten comments and then shut down from any further communication. In reading some of the profiles half the guys I contacted were very superficial and shallow because they wanted mostly white, hispanic, and asian women (black women were not even an option) who pretty much looked like models. These men ignored the women who were educated and seemed to be normal and had real interests. I didnt bother with signing up for a membership it was clear it would be a waste of time and money. Why would you want to communicate with people who are shallow and superficial when you could be connecting with people who are down to earth and not full of themselves. The attractive people on eharmony seem very full of themselves and when it all boils down to things you don't want to deal with that crap when meeting someone. Spend time meeting people who have their heads in the right place and are not full of BS.

I just wanted to respond to "db" on here. He acts like he is this multi-millionaire CEO lol when we all know he is some little gay dude who is on his boyfriend's computer. lol, his motorcycle comment was great about costing more than 2 years of salary for some people. lol, glad everyone can see how delusional and gay some people on EH are. He probably is like 300 pounds.

This seems to be working - 140+ matches in first 12 days, most within SE Queensland. Yes, it might just be everyone within distance in the fairly narrow age range and some are not particularly good 'matches' to profile. But mostly easily sorted through. Some icebreakers received, some sent. A few emails sent. First face-to-face meeting tonight.

My view is that it will work if you are open, include some photos and fill out the profile as much as you can in a genuine manner.

Its the best site of its type that I've found so far.

I am more than unhappy with e-harmony. I went into this with an open mind, and was ready to take online dating seriously. I spent alot of time writting out my profile. I purchased the 3 month membership only to be disappointed. Where are the matches?????
I took a proactive approach and did send a few ice-breakers, with no response. I've recieved matches that are so far away from me, even after changing my settings....
I've also read some reviews that not one person has responded to them as well. Begining to think that e-harmony is making up profiles and just attaching pictures to them.. LOL

I am grateful for e-harmony after 3 months I found the love of my life thanks to that site, We are getting married 7-14-2012 I believe it cuts out the "bullshit" stage of getting to know someone that you aren't compatible with. You meet the person and you waste 3-6 months getting to know Mr. or Ms. Wrong. Yes i agree the questions are never ending but suck it up take the time and be honest! you "will" find a match. :0)

250 matches as of 2 months into a 3 month membership
50 icebreakers sent
Not one reply?
6 - 300+ word e-mails sent
Not one reply?

Not one person has contacted me.

I am starting to wonder if any real people are on this site.

The law of averages would suggest at least one communication.

But then from what I've read you need to do this for at least one year to have any success.....

Frankly, I've got better things to do in "real time" than waste more time on e-horrible.

Best of luck to anyone who tries it this.

I gave EHarmony eight months and a little bit of money for not much at all. I was constantly matched with women who didn’t want children or were unsure. Even though I rated that topic as most important in my profile. I believe most matches were just sent do to geographic proximity.
Months after ending my membership I am still getting matches and requests for communication in my email account. That means the Eharm has knowingly matched me to active members this entire time. I find this to be unethical and in poor taste. Lying outright to women just to keep the money coming in to the company. This also makes me look like a bad guy since these women never receive a reply from me.
You would do better to save your money and just go Phishing if you must look somewhere.

listen folks don't bother with this site its as big a scam as all the rest of these sites. remember these are not public service sites they are in this to make money and that is the bottom line, that they make money. yea right, they have big TV ads telling of a free weekend chance to meet someone, you have a better chance of meeting the person of your dreams at your local 7/11 store, they avoid telling you that you don't see the person who they say is a match and all the "free communications, well its all computer generated for you.

these people need to ride the rail out of town tarred and feathered, it just another way to get your money and they deliver no product, computers do all the picking so you can bet they are making a bundle on this site........