Reviews of eHarmony

E for effort! Maybe not really! I signed up for a month and as soon as I signed up I wished I hadn't. They only gave me 7 options for matches.....the lawnmower man, the creepy guy from office space, etc!!!!!!! I think it is a SCAM in order to keep me wondering if a guy I am actually interested in will show up! We'll see if right before my script expires if they send me some guys that I would actually like to talk to. Boooooooo E Harmony you suck! I'm not artifical by any means but I'm with A thomas (see review Below) I want to wake up feeling atracted to the man I am in a relationship with. I asked for guys who were athletic and fit and I got mostly chubs! Not that there is anything wrong with a little cushion............if that's your thing???? But this is supposed to be a match of likeness in everything. They rant and rave about their scientific matches! Is their scientist gone mad or blind????
E Harmony Shape up or ship out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I feel cheated by Eharmony. I was browsing the web one day and came across their promotion - 1 month subscription. I signed on. Like many others here I receive practically no matches from Eharmony for days and when I do they are far from the man I've described in the long and tedious questionaire (it's an ongoing saga). I wanted to resign and found that they have already charged my credit for a full year. I went back to read the agreement and found that I could resign now but my subcription will continue for the year they've charged me for and there's no refund. I am annoyed and disgusted by their underhanded methods of soliciting clients. They should be taken to task. I have advised my friends never to sign up on Eharmony.

Damn, I'm was on eHarmony about a year ago and never paid for it. I got loads of matches but I found that reading them and not being able to communicate freely just didn't do it for me. I was still somewhat in a dysfunctional relationship so I gave up trying to sort through too many useless matches and disabled my acct. Now that I've realized my dysfunctional guy was never going to work on his issues and blame everything and everyone else, I was seriously considering paying eHarmony because I figured at least these men actually WANT to be in a relationship....but these reviews have totally discouraged me.

Blah.

What other sites have you all used with promising results?

Thanks! :)

Actually I would not have given them a one star but there was nothing lower.

After filling out the questionaire which took a long time, you find out that yes, begining communication is free, but if you should happen to find someone, you still have to pay for a membership for at least one month (over $50.00 US) to have that final comunication in order to find out their contact information.

WHAT A SHAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

E-Harmony's current "free" trial is a joke. You spend 30-45 minutes filling out their "profile" only to be matched to picture-less profiles. If you want to see pictures, you can join for $$$. A few years ago, I joined and within a few hours, 3 X girlfriends appeared on my list! So much for matching!

I had had good experiences with eHarmony before, so when I felt like dating again, I signed up for three months.

The first five matches they sent were amazing - I mean beautiful, educated, cultured women any man would just flip for. I messaged several of them, the ones I thought would be a good match, anyway. Not a single response, and in addition, not one even viewed my profile, which I chalked up to them having met someone, and with their qualifications it didn't surprise me, so I was cool with it. Oh well. I gave each of them 72 hours, then closed them.

The next batch were far different. Very unattractive, odd fixations on crusader lifestyles - the "you had just better believe that animals are people too" sorts of ideals. Which is cool if that's your thing, but pretty kooky in a dating sense, and probably unmatchable for most people. (The TV ad where the woman says, "Let's talk about something fun...like magic!" comes to mind.) And they were not attractive. Overweight (my preferences indicate only athletic matches), mannish features, too much makeup, etc. Hideous. It was clearly the bottom of the barrel. I closed them.

I wrote to one woman without a picture showing. We were a pretty good match on paper. But when she responded with a picture, she was in absolutely no way even close to the parameters I have set. I felt shallow and a little sad, but I closed that profile, too. Look - call it shallow, but I am not going to wake up next to a woman I am not attracted to for the entire second half of my life. Period. And she shouldn't have to compromise either. When you meet people "out", you are attracted physically first - seeing one another from across the room, etc. - not having a single idea of who they are or what they're about, so I know I'm right by standing tough on this issue.

Let me also say this - I am in no way seeking a "hottie". I'm a handsome, well-built man, but no male model, and I just want someone good looking I'll be attracted to. The odd thing though was the dichotomy of quality in my matches and how quickly it occurred - after three days, literally overnight. The matches went from very interesting to completely outside of my parameters, just like "that".

Now the matches have slowed - trickling in at one or two every couple of days. All are out of my geographical area, (which is 60 miles and includes West Palm Beach, Boca Raton, and Florida's Treasure Coast - an area of roughly 3600 square miles exceeding 3 million in population.) So I know that people are out there, and lots are on eHarmony. Law of averages.

So. I will concede that my income ($30k-$40k) is on the low end of the scale, but I'm an artist, so it's to be expected. And I think that my settings are pretty stringent, not feeling that compromise is a great idea when seeking a life partner. Either super-hot horsey set women and Palm Beach yoga babes, or women who won't eat any living thing or look like my father.

But I get the sense that eHarmony is scamming us. I think they have a day or two or three of "teaser" matches they send out to everyone to urge them on, and that these are based on MY preferences, not necessarily the match's, so they don't respond. Or, even worse, these are either already closed profiles, or shills - people hired to pretend to be available.

I got a match tonight of someone I literally was matched with FIVE years ago on eHarmony. Same exact profile as before, same pictures, everything. I remember her because of her distinctive name, and because she truly has a man's features and pancake makeup. Either she's been out there seeking for five years, or they just have a bunch of old stuff they throw out there to string you along. If I'm right, just about the time their computers predict I'm losing interest, or just before renewal time, I'll get more "hotties" in my inbox.

I am fairly certain I have wasted my money here. I'm a normal, decent looking, intelligent man who doesn't do the bar/club scene, works from home and lives in a semi-rural region. There just aren't that many options for me to meet women. But in a broader region of 3600 square miles encompassing a major metro area, there have GOT to be at least a few normal, decent-looking women on a site like this. What gives eHarmony?

I will stay the three-month course and do my best on there, but will not renew.

Matthew, the truth hurts huh, you little fag?? You got upset I made fun of your life partner, David in Alaska, and you tried to respond. Well everyone knows you are a queer so please get off David's computer and get a JOB, you waste of life. I know you arent Eharmony because I know they dont allow fags like you and David on there thankfully. Keep responding and I will keep embarrassing you, queer.

The one star is for Glenn's comments about other people. I'm glad you don't have any problem meeting nice, attractive women on Eharmony. However, after reading your post, I'm curious what they think of you? Do they think you are a rude, arrogant, self-centered tool like I do?
I know a few people who Eharmony has rejected as a client, and they are perfectly normal, upstanding people, quite different from an anger-ridden douchebag like yourself.
I also have no trouble meeting quality women on Eharmony, but the difference is that I treat people with respect, instead of belittling them to stroke your own overblown ego. No wonder you are still on there looking....

I have to respond to two idiots who posted comments. First, this directed at 2bfriendsfirst-dude, you are a MORON thinking there was a warranty in case you didn't meet someone, that is MATCH, not Eharmony. Why blame them for you being so stupid???

Second, directed at DavidInAlaska (the loser who couldn't get matched). Instead of whining on message boards, David, why don't you look in the mirror and be honest with yourself for once and see why you are so repulsive and can't get Eharmony to match you???? I never known anyone with that problem, I just think it's because you either looking for dudes on Eharmony or you are weirdo, or I think both.

Eharmony is fine for what it is. I have zero problems meeting nice, attractive local women on there. Most people on here whining about not finding anyone, I suggest you to try to lose weight or make yourself more attractive so someone would actually be interested in getting to know you. Otherwise, just STFU, no one cares that you can't meet people on Eharmony.

Just started on this site two months ago and have met one man. Seemed very nice the first two dates then evil kent came out!!! i am attractive, smart, and with a good job and only one pretender responded. Where are all the nice men???? I'm glad i only joined for a short time.