Reviews of eHarmony

I wnet through the entire questionairre which kept refreshing the whole time so it took me over and hour and when I got to the end it said it could not match me because I selected separated at the very beginning. I heard of being rejected from online dating sites but I didn't believe it until it just happened. This is not fair to do this to people and EHarmony should not only address the technical issues with thier site but they should also stop potential clients at the moment they select a question which is not going to qualify them for the service.

As of today, it's been 1 month and 10 days. This is not what I expected. I figured there would be serious men seeking relationships; I like the communication process because you can get to know someone but depending on the person and how often they check the account, it can be a lengthy process. I've gotten to the fourth communication with eight guys but I was only really interested in one guy. He never called. So as if now I feel as though I wasted 60 bucks. I will continue to use the service until Feb. but after that I will cancel.

ZERO stars... what a bunch of shit!

Luckily I got a 4 month deal for $29.85, so I only wasted $30... I am pissed about the 100-200 or so hours of my life that I wasted on this though.

Here are the numbers... judge for yourself.

total matches: 958 (includes a 1 or 2 month stint in 2007)

closed matches: 710 of them closed either by me or them. I have no problem with people closing me or vice versa. I am one of those people who either attempts to communicate with or else closes every single match (while I am active.) Only 15 of these people did I get past the introduction stage with anyways.

Currently open matches: 248. Yeah that's right I am attempting to communicate with 248 women! More than half of them don't have a picture either. Exactly 11 of them have given any kind of response.

So out of 958 total matches, 26 have responded in some way. That's about 3%.

I must clarify who i am. I am a real person. A guy in my early 30s, never married, doesn't smoke at all, drinks socially (not even close to a drinking problem,) has only tried marijuana once, is not overweight, is in decent shape, full head of hair, probably average in looks, not poor or rich... basically I am slightly better than the average guy who has one or more of these problems, but I do not really stand out either. I can hardly get anyone to talk to me and just forget about actually meeting someone. I am not desperate, and I have been patient. If anything I think this site is unhealthy for the amount of time you put in. Unless you have a thick skin like me you may start to feel desperate.

I am SOOOOOOOOO done with this site.

Guess how many women I have met in person?

ZERO, which is how many stars I give this site.

I've had luck on eharmony. I've gone on one date with a nice guy, but he was a little too clingy so I cut it off. I have another very attractive successful man who is going out with me tomorrow. I am only giving eharmonhy 3 stars though because I really don't like internet dating. I don't like it because I would rather meet someone in my everyday activities and get to know him as a friend first, with no pressure. But I figured this was a good way to kick start me out into the dating world again. I say try it for three months and then cancel if you don't like it.

Yes, I agree, they don't deserve a SINGLE STAR!

If you are on this site, you are either uninformed or WILDLY optimistic.

There are only cons about this site:

You can't BROWSE!
You can't SEE anyone you find without an account!
If you EMAIL someone and you HAVE an account, they cannot READ your email OR SEE YOU!!
You CANNOT buy an account that will allow you to communicate with other members that don't have one!
The site is full of SCAMMERS and fake profiles.
They ADVERTISE FREE COMMUNICATION, but you write them OR see them. TOTAL BS!
They spam me with 100's of matches every day since I quit them and ALL OF THEM HAVE NO PICS! REALLY?!?!?

Go to PLENTY OF FISH, they are free, and have less fakes and or scammers than the PAY SITES... GO FIGURE!

I have had 3 or 4 dates from e-Harmony; they all were loosers looking for a woman to support them except for one very nice man with whom I had nothing in common.

I do think that e-Harmony has ringers set up to lure all of us gullible singles into their web. I get what it seems like everyone else is getting...A message or reply from someone; then nothing! I received 6 matches one day and without discretion, I sent them all those crappy initial 5 questions and not a single reply. Ok, I may not be Angelina Jolie or Jennifer Aniston, but I am an attractive, intelligent, articulate woman and I did not receive even a single reply. I don't want to sound nasty, but these were somewhat older, unattractive men...it could have been a big blow to my self-esteem if I had not already thought that e-Harmony runs a scam.

I also agree with many other reviews that I get matches that make me wonder, "what the heck". It is apparent that we have nothing in common. Do any men on here read trashy novels, watch tv, drink beer, eat pizza, and have normal jobs? All of the matches I get exercise all the time (it is obvious from their pictures they don't), read deeply intellectual novels that no one has ever heard of, have fabulous jobs, and eat healthy - are all 50 and over men into extreme sports?! I think they just make this stuff up to go with whatever my interests are and then add a picture or two...probably their staff.

I am a fan of OK Cupid...I have done much better and met much classier men on this site. And for the most part when I send a message, I get a reply. I can browse, pick, and choose. I get to determine with whom I am compatible.

I'd give it 0 stars if I could. eHarmony is a farce and shouldn't be allowed to exist. The worst dating website in existence. A scam!
There is nothing scientific about their 'matching'.
You have no way of 'browsing' members.
You have no way of knowing which people are subscribers.
Total waste of time and money. STAY WELL CLEAR!!

I WANT ALL BAD EXPERIENCES TO KNOW YOU HAVE STOPPED 3 MEMBERSHIPS HERE LOL WAS OUR NEW YEARS EVE TO EACH OTHER.

NOT GONE IN VAIN AT ALL

AN WHY HASN'T ANYONE REPORTED THIS COMPANY? Come on people!!! join together! ACTUALLY stop them! until I saw these reviews, these pple are makin $$$ hand over fist on OUR loneliness!! thats B.S!!!! and sincerity!!

I wished I had read the reviews from real people before giving eHarmony my money. This site is a joke! I gave it one star because that is the lowest rating available.

I am an attractive woman who has current photos that are good - they were professionally done. I am well-educated, successful professional. I have had no problems on other websites getting dates at all. However, I fell for the "special" screening that eHarmony does, so I thought that might give me an edge that other sites did not, in matching me with someone whose personality supposedly complimented mine.

I had close to 100 "matches". I only saw pictures of a couple of these men. All I ever knew about them was a few sentences that eHarmony let me read. Out of this pool of 100 men (alleged men), I only got emails from 3 or 4 of them. Most of them were "inactive", and in the entire time I was a member, did not have ONE date out of this "huge" number of men.

I don't even know if any of these men were real. On another site, match.com, at least I can see a man's photo and read what he has written about himself. I had absolutely no idea if these men could spell or even read.

I remember this BS called "guided communication" - what a crock! I think this was an attempt to get my mind on answering a bunch of personal questions so that I wasn't thinking about not getting any real matches!

Save your money - go to a free website or a different paid one. Don't fool yourself and think that eHarmony will provide a perfect match - they are only "perfect" at taking your money.

Wow 2100 pages of Eharmony haters, I think I finally found some real matches! lol

Females in IL/STL that are health oriented 25-40 mail me. lol

Eharmony is a scam, they want my 45 bucks and give no bonafide

matches...ZERO...NONE! What a scam they have going, Bernie Madeoff must be

running this site!
99% and most likely ALL are NON-active Ghost members to entice fools into joining.

Paying members cant contact anyone who is not? So what am I paying for again??

Oh yeah so I can see what they look like...wait I can do that for free on any other

dating site.
Then you can't organize them other than 'archive' some and then maybe 'close' some

so then your all confused and are forced to see your mis matches ( over 500) all

mixed in with the ones you want to keep for reference. So after frustration sets in

you end up "Archiving" them all. gee how handy to look at a blank screen huh?

Then they argue and refuse to give a refund because I was on for 4 days with ZERO

responses...and ZERO SENT MAILINGS??(because they wont let you send to non

members) Every letter they write back is argumentative as they still try to sell me more

on the site??? SERIOUSLY?? This is the worst company I have ever dealt with.
Looks like everyone is finding out and putting the word out about Ehardonme.
Shouldn't be long now until the prison doors slam on them.

Anyway I wish everyone luck on their search!
Rik