Reviews of eHarmony

I give Eharmony a negative 300 stars for every buck they swindled from me. Last year I moved to NYC and thought EHarmony would be a good way to meet other Christian singles. I put in a lot of effort in the beginning and reached out to several men but only a quarter of the men responded to me. I only met one genuinely nice guy during my membership. I was matched with approximately 1,000 men in six months, but many weren’t from the NYC metro area. I kept an open mind and even traveled several hundred miles to meet a couple of men. Big disappointment. There are probably a lot of very nice guys that use this site, but unfortunately EHarmony matched me with a bunch of disrespectful, uncultured, narcissistic neophytes. I found out through an online search that one guy I met was actually 7 years older than his profile indicated, which made him 15 years older than me. I also got matched with several men my age (mid-thirties) that used phrases like LOL and only wanted to date women 10-15 years younger (now that’s lots of laughs). If you are an educated women 35 or over chances are you will be disappointed with EHarmony. Yes ladies even 35 is considered too old for most of the men on EHarmony, this is why EHarmony matches us with senior citizens. EHarmony is not only a waste of money, but more importantly, it's a waste of time and energy. This is just one women’s opinion based on experience. I hope others have had better experiences. Best of luck to all!

Most matches don't respond to me. One time, just for fun, I made it so that members had to get to stage 2 of communication before they could see my picture. Several communicated with me and then closed me out as soon as they got to stage 2 where they could see my photos.

Ouch! That really hurt. Seriously. I felt like a troll for several days afterward. Sometimes, I still feel an emotional sting when I think about that.

Yes, I've been grumbling so far in this review. However, I really can't blame EH for much of this. Yes, I've been rejected, snubbed, ignored, tossed aside, etc. But that's dating. Seriously, how is EH much different from going to a bar to meet people? It isn't much different. Yes, I know the commercials say otherwise, but that's the nature of marketing. Like it or not, using EH is not a guarantee of getting a girlfriend/boyfriend, just like any other venue of meeting people.

Oh, and to those of you who are saying EH is a scam and that the matches you get are created by EH to keep people subscribed, I'll just say one thing: Please take off your tin foil hats. You look kind of silly in them.

If you're going to date in today's world, you're probably going to have to deal with quite a bit of rejection and people ignoring you. It's not EH's fault. Let's face it. In today's society, people wait until Friday or Saturday night to even decide what they'll do that weekend. Ask them on Monday if they want to come to a party the upcoming Saturday, and they'll probably flounder. Hey, the party sounds good, but something better might come up. This mentality has carried over to dating, too.

Random Girl: Sure, this one guy sounds nice and looks great, but if I commit to him, I might get asked out by an underwear model next week! Better keep my options open!

I don't like it more than anyone else does. I've grumbled, griped, and vented about it as much as anyone else has, but I can't change it, and I certainly can't blame a dating site for it.

Time to change subjects. Some of the other reviewers on this site have complained about the matches they get. Here is a summary of much of what I've read.

EH Reviewer: Listen, I'm not shallow. I hate superficiality as much as the next person, but most of my matches were downright unattractive! And the few good matches I did get didn't even want to talk to me! I don't get it! I'm fairly good-looking, and I have a good job, and I'm SMART, too!

Okay, first of all, you ARE shallow. I know you don't want to be, but you are. You clearly want an attractive person to claim as your significant other, but you. You want someone your friends will covet you for being with. Why not just admit that instead of trying to cover it up with all this "I'm not shallow, but" crap?

As for your "good matches" not being interested in you, well you remember what you said about not being attracted to any of those "unattractive matches" that you hated even though you're not shallow? Well, that works both ways. You may not be attracted to every person you see (fair enough), but not everyone is attracted to you, either.

Bottom line. EH isn't perfect, but it's a potential road to take in the quest to meet someone. It's not a guarantee, just like the local night club or grocery store isn't a guarantee. Yes, the communication process is a little annoying, and some of the canned questions they give you send your matches are kind of strange. The must haves/can't stands are ridiculous, especially the one that goes something like "I can't stand someone who is not clean." Gee, come to think of it, I'd LOVE a woman who looks and smells like she just got done rolling around in a manure pile! *sarcasm*

However, it's still not EH's fault you can't find someone. Don't get me wrong. I'm not unsympathetic. I know it hurts to get rejected time and time again and to have matches ignore you. Like I said earlier, I've felt like a total troll at times. However, I can't blame EH for that.

Eharmony is a HUGE waste of time and money. I have hundreds of what they call "matches" that I'm not interested in at all. I'm going to cut my losses and try "chance" which costs less and I'm sure I'll have better luck with.

It's all a successful marketing ploy....look at their success stories...they are old news! I'll never waste another dime on this worthless website again.

Actually, I would give the website less than one star.

OK-I have been a member on and off for several years. I have seriously been on 5 months now. It can be such a DOWNER! The men do not seem serious to me. They have been downright childish and rude at times. You might be talking or emailing for days and then they just Poof. Sadly this is a real term and happens frequently according to the eh message boards. I've had 3 dates this last time on. None working out-even for a 2nd date.
The majority of my matches are not appealing to me...they aren't what I'm attracted to physically.
By the way these are mid 30-40 yr olds.
Don't pay full price-coupons all over internet. And you have to been invested in the process for it to work.
Non payers don't get the full experience.

Just my 2 cents.

I would give EHarmony less stars if I could....

They are rip-offs! First off, their website hasn't changed in years, all they do is advertising to get people to join, and to encourage communication between members isn't facilitated through them.

You have advertisements of their other services even when you are a paid member. The pictures are hard to see. You have to click on every profile to open a picture, so you can't just browse and look at photos, everyone is described as their first name and age (really boring).

PLUS they automatically charge your card if you don't cancel!!! and they won't give you a refund even when you call the same day...they are like "sorry, it's an automatic system."

They are full of crap and just suck your money. They match you up with ANYONE in their system....there is no 29 points of communication. I should know since i live in a big metropolitan area and they matched me up with people I wouldn't date or touch with a ten-foot pole. if they can't find someone to match me with in this huge area of the SF Bay area, then they can't match you up if you live in dinky town.

DON'T JOIN!!!! IT'S A BUNCH OF BS!!!!

As far as I can tell, this site is a disaster. The endless profile questions I guess I can take, but I told them I was gay first off and they continue to send me heterosexual matches. Ok, maybe that's just an administrative blip, though the fact that the company paid $500,00 last January to settle a discrimination suit over this very issue is troubling. But beyond this, when I try to find a way to contact anybody on the site, I couldn't. Did I miss the 2-point contact icon somewhere in some upper corner? Maybe, but I get the feeling that they really don't have anybody to handle problems. Then I get an email with my (still straight) contacts, and along with an email address explicitly for replying back to them. Great! Finally, right? But no, the email address doesn't work: my email bounces back. So what am I to think? Fortunately I haven't paid them any money yet. I never will.

Is there really a need to pay for a dating site anymore? There are plenty of sites that have much better quality of people and on top of it all are free! Just take a look at friendango.com for example

BEWARE of love scam !

A lot of fakes on Eharmony, Match.com and others. Scammers have infiltrated the sites to the extent that they rule the dating world.

I have been scammed of $8,200. I know it is my fault. I blame myself for it. It was a very long and elaborate way to get money out of me.

Mine worked by having someone matching me on eharmony. Then, the person built connection/rapport with me for three months. Then she got a job, company needed to send her to either China or Nigeria. Got the job same day to Nigeria (red flag I missed). There she got robbed, needed money to pay hotel and air ticket back. Then, back home, I got a phone call that she was involved in an accident, that's when I felt I was conned. By then, $8.2k left my account.

Red flags/comments: she said she loved me after 2 days
She was eager to give me her cell phone number, her so-called dad is a scammer
she sent me poems (all come from internet from other people)
They use skype and other ways to contact you. I thought they were in Uk with country code 44 appearing on my cellphone. Turned out they are calling from Nigeria using international call diversion.

My conclusion is that ANYTHING THAT HAS NIGERIA IS A SCAM.

I am writing this so that hopefully someone else doesn't fall into the scam.

I just got married to someone I met on eHarmony. I was on the site for six months and took some time off. Then I was on eHarmony for another six months. I was introduced to my now husband and went through the different stages of communication. We then communicated for another 3 months before we had our first date. eHarmony is not for everyone. If you are looking to go on date after date, then this site may not be for you. If you are looking for a long term meaningful relationship than this site could be for you. I had dated enough to last me a lifetime and was ready to met someone I could marry. I wasn't in a rush and it took some time but it was worth the wait. In the past three years I have met 4 other married couples who have met on eHarmony.

AVOID THESE IDIOTS!
They are:
1. overpriced
2. deceptive
3. their customer support ranges from horrible to nonexistent.

Details:
1. charging twice what they should.
2. they advertise free communication weekends, but never tell you that you still have to pay to see photos, and the communication is VERY limited.
3. This is the worst. When my bank changed my credit card number due to theft, eharmony emailed me asking for my new number for the monthly billing. They provided a link which took me to a page that told me I'm not authorized to make billing changes online, and to call them instead.
Every phone call was answered with a voicemail which said they were so busy I had to call back later.
I emailed them several times about this, no response.
Finally they sent me another email stating my membership would be cancelled (what a shame!) if I didn't respond to this email at the address provided. I responded to this email immediately, and incredibly, I got an auto-reply back saying they no longer accept emails at this address, or any other. All communication must be through their FAQ page.
This is one messed up company, and I would advise anyone to never give them a penny.
It's also impossible to ever get off their email list.