Reviews of eHarmony

I too would give this sight 0 Stars if that was an option.
I signed up for E-Harmony last Fall for just the 3-Month trial to see how it goes; I decided to get back in the dating/relationship game after I spent 1yr. mourning the end of a 7 yr. relationship (that ended due to the loss of a wanted pregnancy). Good thing I only did it for that long.
Like many of the other reviews, I received lots of matches w/guys who did not fit my expressed wants & needs at all from age & location to values & interests. So I agree, the matching is totally random. The website is not easy to navigate, so I had to slog thru over 100 matches, clumsily archiving & then closing those that were no match, whittling the list down to about 25 I was actually interested in contacting. Of that 25, only 12 responded. The rest? I have no idea if they were expired, scammers/plants or just rude men.
Nine of these 12 men just blew thru the “Guided Communication” to get to the “Open Communication” where the very first message posted was a suggestion to meet right away & have sex; I was also inundated with their private e-mail & phone number in said message, as well as 1 guy who included his website where I could see nude photos of him! Bottom Line: The men on this site are just trolling for sex.
Three actually turned out to be real men & I met all 3, but only clicked w/1. He & I emailed & phoned for a LONG time before I agreed to meet. When we finally did, we clicked even better – immediate chemistry that grew as we dated for a few months & it was great. After a long wait I insisted on, we finally took the relationship to the physical level. 1 week later, he e-mailed me he’d had a girlfriend all along & couldn’t see me anymore. So unlike the other guys who were up front about trolling for sex, this guy went thru an elaborate hoax of weeks of stringing me along just for the purpose of deliberately hurting someone because he had the power to do so. Basically, this site is full of men of bad character with no integrity who are just trolling for sex!!!
2 good things came out of this otherwise painful, waste of my time & money experience: 1 of the other 2 guys I rejected (nicely, by the way) stayed on to become a guy-friend. I made the decision to forget having a guy in my life & to be a single mom now that I’m pregnant. There are enough men in my life (uncles, cousins, friends) that my child will never want for a father figure. Bottom line, doesn’t matter if you use a dating website or go thru friends to meet men; they are all scum-buckets just trolling for sex & not truly interested in marriage & family.

I have been a member for quite some time. While I agree with the concept that eHarmony advertises and promotes, I do not feel that it works all that well. I have met a couple quality women on here and been on a few good dates. I get several matches per month, all that seem quality. But 95% of the matches I get, nothing happens. I try to start conversation with every match I get, and almost always do NOT get a response. Rarely a match will close me, which is understandable.

THe only times I have really gotten a response is when they do their "FREE COMMUNICATION" weekends. Which is very misleading because it doesn't allow you to communicate past a certain stage.

I understand that they have to, and want to get new members to sign up, however, what service are they providing me if I never get to actually communication with ANYONE from this site.

I am sure it works for some individuals, but I doubt it works for most. It is too expensive and not enough activity.

My God~~~i was shocked to read all your guy's posts, coz i just registered yesterday on E-harmony hoping to find my soulmate there, but now i feel its........nearly a dream to come true.

why scams everywhere?life is too hard...

Very disappointing experience. I had very limited dating results with this site but that is not the most upsetting part. I did not renew my membership and they have kept my profile and picture on the site. To other members it looks like I'm still an active member ignoring their messages. So then I have to think how many people did I contact, thinking they were ignoring me?! One of the men I was communicating with thinks I lied to him. He is very upset and has closed the match because I told him I was not extending my membership. I provided him with my phone number but he has not called and sent me a message (which I can not answer without renewing) "Your still on e!" and he closed the match. I had this exact experience when I decided not to renew my membership on Match.com. Though the message was "you (insert naughty word here} all lie!" I don't know why I thought eharmony would have more integrity. Does anyone know how long they will keep my profile out there after I have not renewed.? How can I get them to take my profile and picture off the site? It really bothers me that people think I'm just ignoring them. I would never be so rude! AND I don't like being used as a free marketing tool either!

What a huge disappointment EHarmony has been. I have not been on one date as a result of this website. Many matches have been provided, and I have emailed lots of them in hopes of responses. However I get none. I have been on the site for 6 long months!! I am an attractive, divorced 45 year old professional and frankly I can't wait until my membership with EHarmony is done...what a waste of my hard earned money.

I have been very disappointed with my experience with eHarmony. I have gotten several matches sent to me, that's not the problem. The problem is that you can't get the matches to respond. I have sent out many "first questions" and emails and have not gotten one response back. What does that mean? Are they not getting my requests for communicaton? I don't think that I have put anything too unappealing on my profile and my picture is not bad. YOu would think that at least I would have gotten one response out of all that I've sent? It's pretty frustrating considering the money that you pay for the site. I think I'll try Match.com.

VStarr from Alabama, and Sue from Washington.

You both sound the same person (four stars/five stars can't trick us). Even playing with star rating cannot fool us.

Pitching for a company that is deceitful is morally disgusting and says a lot about you as a person. I can't imagine how you look, and where you live.

Do you really believe you are getting good value in using eharmony ? Yes, if they pay you to say something on this board.

No! , for the rest of us who have been conned. 97% of people here who posted are not happy with the service. Go and read all the reviews.

Instead of eharmony fixing the problem, it says we are the problem, and pays for people to come to this board to convince new users that it is providing good service.

Shame on you for me being fooled (burnt) once, shame on me .......No, I am not going to be fooled twice.

I hope any person in his or her right state of mind would think wisely before doing anything that is regrettable.

I'm not surprised by all the negative reviews of eHarmony, because people who like the site probably don't bother to post a good review, but I'm going to be an exception. I have been on eHarmony for about 7 months and "no", I haven't met my soul mate, but I've met some decent guys and have had fun dates and have dated some more than a few times. They are real guys who are pretty good matches for me. A lot of the matches I get are unattractive and I'm sure they don't get contacted by anyone who is interested in them. This means there are a lot of people who aren't going to like eHarmony. It's not a magical thing and there are no guarantees, but it's at least a way to meet people. And sometimes I will go awhile before getting a match, but it's OK because there just aren't tons of matches for everyone. They also aren't going to automatically send you every person in their database that you match with. I've never gotten more than 7 in one day. I don't have a problem with that. I am also on chemistry.com and you get 5 matches a day at least, BUT they aren't as good of a match as with eHarmony. I've also met some good guys and gone on good dates with chemistry.com people. I LIKE the fact that people can't just go on the site and search and find whoever they want. I would rather be matched. I don't think it is a scam at all. You have to read the fine print, just like with everything you do. Of course they make it difficult to cancel, because they want you to stay a member. If you want to cancel, you can follow the directions and cancel. If someone on the site seems too good to be true and then asks you for money, don't give it to them. It's not eHarmony's fault if you fall for something like that. You have to use good judgment when dealing with anyone on an internet dating site. I enjoy eHarmony and will continue to be a member. It's much cheaper to do this than to troll around in bars and going out looking for men.

I wouldlike to rate E Harmony minus 100 stars. what a big rip off, I had to sit for hours answering thier dumb loadedtype questions on thier initial profile. I am 51 yrs of age educated, have a good job, no small children at home, not bad looking for my age, and think i have a pretty good sense of humor. Well its a good thing I have a good sense of humor , because this so called dating site has been a joke. i specifically told them someone near my age, geographic location , ect . yu wouldnt believe how many were 77-79 yrs old , I live in central Texas and I recieved"matches " from new York, Florida , St Louis, Arkansas and everywhere in between . There were a few guys who actually seemed normal and decent from reading thier profiles, sent them the stupid questions that E Harmony chooses for you , and thevast majority never answered back. Maybe they werent even real people who knows, 2 guys answered me back , the one I was very interested in E mailed me 17 times in 3 days,then Valentines Day came and I never heard from him again.This has been so disapointing, I am giving it up , guess I may just have to stay single forever.

Eharmony is a horrible scam. After signing up for only one month, I noticed a second charge on my credit card for the second month. When I called to dispute the charge, they informed me that there is an automatic renewal charge. I had to fight with them and tell them that I would take them to court if they didn't refund the charge for them to finally do it. I would never recommend this site to anyone, it is horrible. Two thumbs down.