Reviews of eHarmony

E Harmony has done nothing the tv commercials say they do. You would not believe the poor quality of matches, it almost seems they just pull them out of a hat. I have been "matched " with people who I had absolutly nothing in common with time and time again . If you e-mail E Harmony to complain you are sent a form letter telling you that they know whats best and that you are just basically being too narrowminded and picky. I dont call it too picky to expect them to find a match that lives within a reasonable driving distance , or who is near my age.Height was also another issue, why would E Harmony think I want to date a guy 7 inches shorter than myself? I am 5 ft 8 inches tall , reasonably attractive, a professional woman, with multiple diverse interests and a good sense of humor. one match was even a 4 ft 3 inch dwarf!!!!! The clods and rednecks they have tried to pair me up with is worse than insulting.i have already told them to cancel my membership. I would give them 0 stars and not advise any person to join this scam of a dating service.

I'm disappointed in the service. I got a lot of Matches. Almost too many to be functional. Then they give you the same repetitive questions for the matches to ask you that I just had my answers saved to just quickly past. It was like being on an interview and I just gave my bio and then there's nothing else. I was on for a year and found no one worth meeting sans 2 co-workers that were poor options and someone who turned out to be a good friend. Everyone else I was almost offended that the service would think I was compatible. So many men who had such little experience with women at 30 years old! My pal was on match.com for less time than I was on eharm and just got a ring! A few others have reached success on other sights too.

Hi, First off I would like to say TO THE SAN FRANCISCO GIRL, I was a member of eharmomy for a year. I was NOT JUST TROLLING FOR SEX, AS YOU CALL IT. I AM OUTRAGED THAT YOU WOULD SAY SUCH A THING ABOUT MEN IN GENERAL. I AM 50 YEARS OLD AND YES SEX IS GREAT WITH THE RIGHT PERSON, BUT NOT WITH ALL. I've had enough sex in my life that if I never have it again I wont lose any sleep. BUT FOR YOU TO SIT THERE AND CATEGORIZE ALL MEN. YOU ARE NOTHING BUT A RACIST MAN HATER. Did you ever stop to think that maybe the problem was you and that was an eazy way out for him? And yes what he did to you was not right. But im sure he had his reason. From the review you posted I might have to tell you to go fly a kite too.
For all others I never did find a match on e-harm. I to think it is a waste of money. And the price is not even worth taking about. So please just send me your money and I too will promise to find you true love. Really I promise. Lol.ha ha ha. Everyone can promise the moon and stars. I travel around this great country of ours all the time. So if any real ladies would like to go out to dinner, I don't drink so the bar is out for me. But dinner and a movie would be fine. Im at fwb60 at the.hotone
Good luck everybody.

Frank in Spokane,
You say that the man I chatted with on E-Harmony for 1 month, then talked on the phone with for 2 weeks (BEFORE I would even meet him) & dated for 2 months before I would agree to sleep with him (but he pressured me for sex until I relented early (I have a policy of dating for 3 months before sex) HAD HIS REASONS FOR PRESSURING ME, GETTING ME TO RELENT & THEN DUMPING ME 5 DAYS LATER!!!
SERIOUSLY, WHAT KIND OF REASON FOR BEHAVIOR LIKE THAT WOULD BE GOOD? Remember, he had a girlfriend all along, which he was cheating on. How do I know he wasn’t just spouting a line/excuse for breaking up w/me? Well, unfortunately, I had introduced him to one of my favorite hang-outs and a week after his phone-call break-up, I saw him there, with a woman who was flashing around an engagement ring. Guess he needed 1 last fling before taking the plunge. I actually feel more sorry for that poor woman that I do for myself. Though I no longer patronize that restaurant, my friends still do, and they, too, have seen him there with his fiancée as he’s not hard to recognize, tho my friends only met him once, at my birthday party, which fell during the time I was dating the jerk.
I’m not a man-hater, though I should be considering how badly I’ve been treated – I’ve put 2 (long term, 6-7 yrs.) exes through college, invested in 2 other long-term ex’s art projects (one’s film & another’s band’s CD) and more recently, the ex I broke up with a year-and-a-half before dating this E-Harmony guy, blamed our fertility problems on me/my age, despite the fact that a] he was no “Spring Chicken” either, and b] his former drug use (a fact of his past he keep hidden from me until necessity brought it to light 5 yrs. into the relationship) shriveled his sperm. And when (at his insistence) I paid for fertility treatment (for him, as I needed none, plus I had a job, he was in college – that I paid for), successfully became pregnant but then miscarried at 12 weeks, he both blamed me (again) and, just as sad/devastated as I over this loss, did not seek solace for the loss in my arms (as I tried to do in his), but in another girl’s, 10 yrs. his junior, whom he married 2 months after he met her & has been complaining to mutual friends these last 2 yrs. of a lack of children in said marriage.
You also leave out the part where I state that most of the other men I “met” on E-Harmony blew thru the Guided Communication, only to get to the Open Communication where they would immediately proposition me for sex, with one man directing me to his website where I could view his nude photos.
Plus, you leave out the fact that, despite this E-Harmony guy’s despicable behavior, I got a child out of it, so I guess its not all bad. I’ll take a real baby over a 42-year-old baby in a balding guy’s body any day. Moreover, I have no intention of telling this man he has a child, because the behavior he exhibited to me proves that he is not father material & I would never allow someone so cruel to have the power to inflict pain on an innocent child.
I’m sorry for you that guys like this give you men a bad name, but I know, as a woman, I’m not alone in having experienced men/relationships like mine, and can probably speak for many who are now gun-shy about meeting/getting involved with you. If you men want to blame us women for making it difficult for you to find/have relationships with women who are willing to be open & trusting, you only need to look to yourselves for the lack of women like that being available – whether on E-Harmony or down at the local bar – because we’ve been fooled by lies, used and cast off too many times.
In your case, your E-Harmony experience was filled with fake female profiles, boo, hoo, hoo. Try being scammed because the majority of the men on the sight are liars & worse.

This site plays tricks on the monthly fee. They entice you with lower monthly fee or free browsing in the beginning but as soon as you took the survey and placed your profile, the pages advertising low fees disappeared and you are presented with higher monthly premiums. If you don't join for several weeks, the lower fee offers appeared in your in box again. After three months, I have not had one person responding, either to my reaching out or reaching out to me. I have had better luck with the free Craig List, without any picture, I received 14 within days on that site and people were not that bad either. Another paying site also generated much more results. eHarmony proved to be completely useless as far as I am concerned, and several friends of mine had the same experience. We are all considered attractive and successful women! I will never use this site again. They also make no-auto-renewal choice very difficult and convoluted. My friend was renewed for another six months despite her request to discontinue subscription. I don't know where all the success stories come from, this is a site that promises a lot but delivers very little, or in my case, nothing!!! Perhaps it's geared for under 40 crowd.

Join eHarmony and be perpared to get screwed!

eHarmony account is set auto-renewal. So if your not paying attention your subcription will renew by what you origional contract lenght was. Their No-refunds renewal policy is absolute. The auto-renewal along with no-refund policy is simply a tool to screw over the subscribers one last time before they leave! I agree to paying 1 month as my part in error for not paying close enough attention to the "account settings" but 3,6 or more months is absolutely ridiculous. If it wasn't meant to screw the consumer it would renew monthly not doubling the subscription. Simply because you decided to invest multiple months in good faith in eHarmony you get taken for more than anyone just giving the site a try for a month. Great way to treat your best customers! Spread the word about eHarmony's abuse of its customer and poor quality matches.
I have had little to no luck on eHarmony. I've been on other sites with absolutely no problems. I am not a disgusting nasty person & date on a regular basis without the help of websites. I have only had 1 date/meeting generated by eHarmony in 6 months. If I had actually had any decent matches I would have renewed myself. I can afford the money, I can't tolerate being taken advantage of. I wouldn't recommend eHarmony to anyone!!!!

Kim K

A lot of what eHarmony does works well however, I find it disconcerting and a waste of my time that I receive so many "matches" that 1) have very incomplete profiles, 2) don't meet my criteria: out of age range and particularly out of distance range. Also I am an active person and clearly indicate that in my profile yet I am often sent "matches" from men whose only activity is walking to the mailbox. Feels like eHarmony believes it needs to send X number of matches a day or week and to meet this quota load my new "matches" list with "non-matches." It's easy to tell when eHarmony has run a free weekend by the number of barely completed profiles with no picture I receive early in a week. I used to respond to some, requesting a picture or more info but realize that by doing so I'm being used by eHarmony as a marketing tool. Can't express how much I resent this.

I fell for filling out my detail info, only to find out that I checked SEPERATED and should have checked SINGLE! I was divorced in 1983 and have recently broken up with a girlfriend of 15 years - I am single! What a waste of time and worst of all they will keep all my data and keep me locked out. This is extremely silly as I could game their system with different emails, names, etc. After reading other reviews it seems I'm better of without eHarmony anyway. I wouldn't recommend this site to a monkey on a rock!

Don’t waste your money on eharmoney!! It is a rubbish website and plenty of fish is much better and free. I joined eharmoney and paid a month subscription; they took 2 months from me and wouldn’t give me a refund on the second month when I queried it. I couldn’t upload a photo of myself and many were rejected, I had to email them and they had to upload it for me. I couldn’t finish my profile because their site crashes when it is busy. I had to email all of the questions to them and they did it. I couldn’t reply to questions from a nice guy that I met through the site and when I asked them to send him on my replies to him they told me that they wouldn’t for privacy reasons. I found a form where there were many other people who had bad experiences like mine with eharmoney. I tried to access the site from various computers with all of the latest software and it was the same story every time. I found the whole experience nothing but frustrating and would advise anyone else to not bother with eharmoney. I would recommend that you go through plenty of fish, I thought that I would get a better service with eharmoney because you had to pay for it but I was very wrong. I have since went onto plenty of fish and the site never crashes, you can do your profile and respond the matches and its free. Happy dating.

Cannot recommend eharmony. I was initially sent many matches, very few of which met my criteria for age and distance. Most are MUCH older and MUCH farther away then desired. This was the first week or two of membership. I just reached my first month, and have had only one "match" sent to me in the past 3 weeks.The bait and switch way of doing business has also been frustrating and I have also been frustrated with their "free" communcation that stops at actual communcation so a paid memeber has no idea why a nonpaying member is not getting back to them (which is probably why one of the other reviewers had very few responses to his attempts to communicate via email). You will get an email that asks if you want to accept communication, when you click "yes" you are sent to a page that let's you know "oh, by-the-way, this is not included" and gives you rates you can subscribe at. Meanwhile, the poor member at the other end is wondering why you have not responded, after going through the other "communication starters".

Another problem is in order to delete "archive" one of the matches they send, you essentially have to click on the profile, which then looks like you have checked out the profile, which makes the profiled person believe their profile has been looked at by you. I would like to delete all of the "matches" that are well over the age and distance I would be interested in, but must first go to the profile to do so. Sigh.
I have on my calendar the day I need to cancel so I don't get reupped. Thanks for the tip about deleting photos and other profile info! I have no plans to ever use them again and am uncomforable knowing they would hold onto my info!