Reviews of eHarmony

I chose the 3 month E Harmony membership. I had two dates with a man who finally admitted he had herpes. I met a narcissist who NEVER listened to one word I had to say. Then I emailed with a guy who used various expletives to tell me off when I realized we were too different and I expressed this to him in terms such as 'I see differences and feel we should stop here.' Then I get hit with the F-bomb from him.

I see two things: (1) E Harmony should screen men differently than they do women to weed out the problem men. (2) Women do not be nice. Go after what you want, do not put up with strange behavior no matter how small and STICK to your guns. Show the world that you mean business by showing how tough and committed to normalcy that you are because if you do this, you will attract the right kind of man, the healthy kind.

Thanks,
Janey

I went ahead and signed up for an entire year, thinking I would give it a good chance. It was $239.40, or three payments of $79.80--for a year, that's only $19.95 a month. Sounds cheap, eh?

NOT if you are getting matched up with neurotics and, this one blew it for me finally, a former polygamist who was hoping to keep his identity a secret.

I wrote to EH and demanded a full refund for the offense and exposure to this religious perv. They at first offered a partial refund, but what they meant was they would refund one payment. So I ended up paying $159 for two useless months + one perv.

Quite the racket. They say they were within all their legal framework agreements and have no responsibility for what their members do, past or present. Wow.

And honestly, even without the perv, it is a really backwards way of meeting and so time intensive with so many people on there who are not even paid members, it's a time sink for anyone with a life. So, contrary to those handful of EH commercial folk who are getting paid to be on TV, I have my doubts at this point. I'm going back to the normal way to meet--face to face straight off. :)

Save you money.

I don't know why all EHarmony of the reviews are bad. I'm 50 years old I have been on EHarmony now for under a month. I am communicating with 6 men, have already been on 2 dates, and have 3 more scheduled within the next 5 days. I was on Match.com and hated it, I was getting communication from men 2,000 miles away, men just looking for sex dates, or men who did not read my profile and I had nothing in common with. So far all of my EHarmony guys have been great. I think because of their personally profiling I am communicating with guys I have stuff in common with. The phone conversations I have had (total of 7) with the guys have never lasted under a half an hour sometimes we can talk for an hour or more. All of the men are busy working professionals, educated, home owners, and most are responsible fathers with kids in college or high school. I am thrilled to have tried EHarmony and will continue my membership, as I would have never have met these men on my own. Maybe LA has a larger single community, I don't know but I also have 86 matches on my home page after just about 3 weeks. But also ladies I do not have a height requirement, height is not important to me even though barefoot I am 5'7" (men are not fashion accessories).

I spent about 1 1/2 hours filling out profile information on eHarmony. I wanted to participate in their "communicate for free" weekend. The next day I was excited to receive several emails regarding potential matches. When I went to the eHarmony website to view them, I was greeted with a screen which gave full profile information, but the picture was left blank. The page said that I must sign up for a monthly subscription before I could view the photos! Why should I have to pay to see what these men look like? Looks like their "free" weekend was a total bait and switch!!

I have been sucked into eharm once before this current term, and each time I vow never to be taken in by them again. I am one of those "heavy" women one of the other reviewers complained about being matched with, and I have also complained to eharmony about not having any sorting by body type. They ask for height and take those preferences into account, why not weight? I know that all men are not attracted to my type - although some are - and so eharmony is matching me with men with no regard to whether they would be attracted to me or not, assuming that their matching system would override superficial characteristics such as weight. Well.... NO!!! Although I typically like the profiles eharm sends me, it is a two-way street, and if the man is not equally attracted to me, well.... It's a waste of my time, energy, and money, and I will never be taken in by them again. I will invest my time, energy, and money into sites who cater to bbws, as that is where I have had the best success.

I recently read the review about eharmony posted by Will. He makes a good point. I had problems with eharmony on the opposite side. I am a full figured gal...not excessively as defined by his standards. I hate lies and deception. I kept receiving matches from very hot guys whom I knew would never be interested, so most times I would close it before they did. I put a recent picture on my profile of myself clearing showing that I am not skinny. It is almost impossible to find success on eharmony. There is no way to list that you only want guys who are ok with a bigger girl and there are some out there! It was as much a waste of my time as the "hot" guys who eharmony matched me to. What a waste of money. I don't want a "hot" guy. I was always completely honest. Eharmony makes it hard to state really what you want. I understand matching people by their so-called chemistry, but you don't get to see their cant stands right away. You should be able to list up front that you dont want to receive matches from someone who is overweight or to old. Obviously the little bar that you can set to very important to not important doesn't work. You should also be able to list that you DO NOT want to get matches from someone who isn't into your body type. It's a great big waste of time.

eHarmony is a con! Run, don't walk away from your computer before signing up with these schmucks! I was a member for a couple of weeks in 2002, HATED it and, after spending about 20 minutes meandering around their obnoxious, customer UN-friendly website, I finally found what I needed to click on to quit (well in advance of the automated renewal date to avoid additional charges). However, their website was set up to not generate any type of confirmation that I'd terminated my membership--no e-mail confirming I'd quit and no chance to do a screen print of my "resignation". When another month's membership fee appeared on my AMEX card the next month, I contacted them by e-mail and then by phone and, all the nitwit would say is: "per our membership agreement, you have to quit prior to your automatic monthly renewal date". When I explained that I HAD quit, he tried to entice me into staying by offering 2 months of free membership. Finally, I had to contact AMEX to get the charges removed. Friends recently talked me into considering "another try" for eHarmony, saying "oh...they've changed". Well, they HAVEN'T! This time, I decided to do some pre-work in the form of e-mail inquiries to the eHarmoneers requesting written confirmation that I'd GET written confirmation if I joined and then resigned. After several rounds of nonsensical, canned e-mail replies ("Thanks for your inquiry; You'll have better luck finding a match if you post more photos"--nonsensical since I hadn't joined or posted ANY photos and, since it didn't come close to answering my questions). When I submitted the same question two more times, I finally got an e-mail saying my membership had been terminated (even though I wasn't a member) for reasons they weren't required to disclose. Since they aren't required to disclose it, I will: eHarmony doesn't want to let people quit without a fight--and, if preventing them from confirming their resignation works, that's what they'll do. DO NOT give these monkeys your credit card number under any circumstances!

I signed up after believing what a great deal it would be to sign up for 3 months at only 19.99 a month. I didn't realize what a joke it e-harmony was until after I confirmed my subscription. I am partial to blame since I didn't research the site before signing up. They don't let you review and browse for your matches. You are strictly assigned based on the questions you answer. After I completed mine I was only matched with 7 people.. yes 7! I have been on match.com and have had a lot of great successes and went on many dates. I enjoyed match because it allowed for casual dating which is what I intended when signing up for eharmony.. well, obviously casual dating was not going to happen since based on their questions I am only compatible with 7 of their "thousands and thousands" of users. My subscription with match ended and I wanted to see what other sites had to offer.. if anyone is considering a dating site I would definitely say go with match! That is where I am going back to!

HOWEVER, after reading their terms and conditions you CAN cancel within 3 DAYS of signing up with no penalty. I searched the site for a 1800 # and waited on hold for over 30 minutes (this is how badly I wanted my money back) They guy on the line was really pushy trying to offer me a 14 day trial with a no penalty cancellation but I declined right away. All I wanted was my money back for this joke. He finally refunded my money (hopefully, I will have to wait 7-10 business days...)

Anyways, I am renewing my match subscription because at least I can browse and actually pick my own matches!

Eharmony was a waste of my money and needless to say my time. The "women" were overweight and looked older than the reported age. Sorry Eharmony, but I can do much better without your help. Getting my money refunded has been a pain. The agent tried to dissuade me from canceling my account. She told me that there was reason for removing the phone number from the webpage. REALLY???
Isn't Eharmony about trust and communication?

For those of you not satisfied with eHarmony, there IS a way to get your money refunded. I signed up on 2 different occasions within the last 2 years. Both times, I signed up for free and began receiving matches. I was interested in some of the matches so I signed up as a paid member so I could communicate. I was not satisfied for various reasons and called the toll free number to have my credit card refunded. On both occasions they offered to double my membership time at no charge just to keep me. I refused and they credited my credit card back and it was fairly hassle-free. I just looked, and the number is 1-800-951-2023 for those of you unable to find the number. It says it is a 24/7 customer service number. My biggest complaint is that this site does not reveal the paying members and the non-paying members. If both matches are not paying members, no communication can occur. I think eHarmony is praying on people's vulnerabilities and enticing people to sign up for membership after being lured in by all of the matches. In reality, most of the matches, are probably NOT actual paying members and are thus not available to communicate with.