Reviews of Lavalife

lavalife is a complete scam. their system is filled with fake profiles. i can't count the number of times i get smiles from attractive women on the site, and then when i respond with an email or a message (read: spend credits), suddenly there is no response on from these supposedly interested women.

look, dating is tough enough. but to have to put up with the constant trickery of this site is totally discouraging. every time that i respond to a smile, i now feel like charlie brown with lucy and the football. you want to believe, but it gets swiped every time.

and, of course, when the profile is real, it's is usually a bbw. which, is not really what i'm looking for. i'd quit, but at this point i still have credits, that i just can't stand to leave behind. so, instead, i'll let the swindlers get their due, and then, i'm done.

Okay..I've read the reviews and I just have to laugh. What do you mean by the site "works" or is a "scam". They do not guarantee that you are going to find love or even a date! That is all up to you. I've been on the site for a while and a lot of the men's profiles are pathetic, cheesy and just simply desperate. Be realistic with your expectations!!

THIS SITE IS A SCAM!! DO NOT JOIN!! THEY GIVE YOU A FREE TRIAL AND THEN CHARGE YOUR CARD ON THE SECOND DAY!! When I wrote them about their little scam they started jerking me around with such gibberish as "Please note that if you cancel at least 24 hours before the end of your free trial then no amounts will be taken from the credit card that you have used to receive this promotion." CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT BULLSHIT? I CANCELLED ON THE SECOND DAY!! THEY REFUSED A REFUND AFTER 3 EMAILS. I WARN YOU ALL: DO NOT GET INVOLVED WITH THESE SCUMBAGS. THE SITE BLOWS, THE WOMEN ARE HIDEOUS AND PRETENTIOUS, AND IF YOU REALLY NEED A SITE TO GO TO TRY YAHOO. ITS NOT BY ANY MEANS GREAT, BUT DEFINITELY BETTER THAN ALL THE REST.

It seems like too many people are actually expecting to meet people from these sites! j/k I have been on Yahoo, Lavalife, AFF, Iwantu, wildmatch, etc over the last two years. The women on these sites are shallow, unrealistic in their expectations and more than not, women who can't get a date normally due to thier size/weight/looks. How many men meet these fantasy requirements!! And then there's the married ones who are looking for discreet encounters and if you don't have 6 pack abs and a 10" penis, forget it. I have met about 8 people over the last two years and believe me, people lie about themselves. Athletic means they can't run 100 yards, proportionate means they can't sit in an airplane seat without taking up half of your seat too and good looking means your dog would throw them back. How about the profile that looks too good to be true, guess what, it is! You respond to them and then get spammed with porn sites. Can't win for losing. If you don't drive a BMW or have lot's of money, you can forget meeting these babes for sure. Have fun people!

Well, I would have to say although I have met one or two people in the flesh from Lavalife, the site is a big scam. I have sent "smiles" to many people who within 5 mins respond with a "smile." Once you try to initiate a conversation they drop off the face of the earth. So either there is a lot of people out there who change what they want in a period of about 10 mins, or the site has planted accounts. I guess either can be possible but if you change your mind every 10 mins...that's probably a good indication of why you are on a dating website. LOL Best of luck to all!

A lot of these reviews seem to be from men.... would you like to hear about it from a woman's perspective?

I've been on LL for a few months. My experience sounds different from all of yours. Yes, my pic is public. Yes, my profile is real. Yes, I have sometimes made the first move and *gasp* bought and used credits. No, I am not a "professional".

I can get quite a few smiles, e-mails and backstages in a week. If you're wondering why a girl might not respond, it's not necessarily because her profile is fake. Maybe it's because your profile is rife with misspelled words and those annoying "lol" things. Maybe it's because you think that you're "fit" or "muscular" and, well, you're not! Maybe you've put a "rant" in your profile about women who "play games" -- it really doesn't make you look good. Maybe your pic includes a poorly blacked out picture of your ex. Maybe your IM introduction made her feel uncomfortable. Maybe she's not interested in a guy over the age of 40 with grandkids! Maybe your e-mail is an obvious form letter.....

I've met about a dozen guys for coffee, drinks, dinner, whatever -- and I've kept quite a few of them as friends. And yes, sometimes I don't get answered back either -- suck it up and move on to the next one!

Someone explain this to me:

"Another minus is the fact that Lavalife is, well, expensive. You don't buy "time" when you subscribe, you buy credits. For example, $14.99 buys you fifty credits. This sounds great, until you learn that a single email is worth SIX credits. so that's almost two bucks a contact. You do get a discount for buying more credits ($24.99 for 100, $39.99 for 200) but it still amounts to more than a dollar per first time contact. On the plus side, all other email communication between you and that person is free forever."

So once contact is intiated, all subsequent communication is free? I thought each and every email/message was 6 credits.

I just found this site, and I've been entertained by the reviews. Exactly what I have experienced. I'm specifically responding to the post by L Moser (I think I got that right) about his comment towards the end of his post about how most ladies (especially on the adult personals sites) are expecting big private parts out of guys, or no communication. Yes, there are guys with big you-know-what's out there, but, hey, you know what? They've most likely already got girlfriends, girls. I initiated chat with a woman in my area (she lives fifteen minutes away, in fact) who stated she was looking for a relationship, but the first thing she asked was how big I was. I told her, and I'll tell you. Six inches. Now, I know that's not going to qualify me for any porno movies, but I've known guys, nice guys who have been good friends and deserve happiness like we all do, who are smaller than that. I mean, can you imagine a woman's reaction if a man only wanted to date a woman who had big boobs??? Sexist, dirty pig, she would call him. Scum of the earth, right? But women seem to be able to get away with the same kind of insanity just because they are women. I just don't get it. But I have ceased to try to figure people out. But on to my review of lavalife. I have been a paying member for about a year, and I have yet to meet a single (and I'm using the numerical meaning here) woman. Their "local" search gives you ads from people who are anywhere to a hundred miles away (how is that local???) And, at least in my area, there aren't very many choices to pick from. Well, this has been a long post, longer than I'd intended. I'm just looking for a girlfriend, someone with whom I can connect and form a bond, and I would really like to find someone I can be with for the long term, preferrably my whole life. I don't want to get divorced, but it seems in this society that's innevotable. I'm trying the dating sites, but with limited money and being that they're all looking for more and more money, I don't know. But I've had a fun time reading the reviews on here, as some of them have been very funny and made me laugh out loud. Glad to see I'm not alone, but sorry about it too. Thanks.

I went to lavalife last Nov and I deleted my profile a couple of weeks ago. During last three months this had been a nightmare to me because I got hurt. Everything seems so fake. I did get a lot of attention on lavalife although I am not super pretty. I only replied to 5 guys that I thought are decent and serious. Some of them, to me, are so weird. I started a relationship with one of them and we broke up last week. And finally I understand what they want is to have fun or keep on having new sex partners when they have nothing to do, when they feel lonely or when they are bored with someone although they try to hide this point. It's like that he is still looking for other donkeys when he is on this horse.

I don't think people on lavalife are all losers but I do believe there are a lot of different types of people there. Some guys may complain that girls on lavalife are weird too. I believe it. It's all about what your expectation is from lavalife. To me, I am tired of digging out the real person behind each mask.

there are some nice women on ther but alsosome not so nice ones. My friend dated one found out that she'd recently been in a mental hospital and is positive. SHES THE woman on there all the time hours very unstable and unhealthy.Watch out for the ones that are on all the time because they're either unemployed or needy. If there's any hint of desperation in the profile run.