Reviews of eHarmony

I have been on eharmony for almost 3 months. It is the most impersonable system I have used. This can't measure compatability! It's chemistry, physical appearance and of course all other human related factors. Lavalife is better and free! What a waste of my money! I find that evey day I have about 6 or 7 new matches (mostly out-of-town) or have no pictures sent to me! Every man is SO wrong for me. The couples you see on TV....don' look like that in their pictures (at least the men don't). And the communication process....how does that work?......are we in kindergarten? And the questions they have you answer.......how boring.....I don't care who has been the biggest influence in your life....I don't even know these people !!!!!!! You might hear of the odd person hooking up.......the odds are that once in a while this occurs. WHAT A HUGE SCAM! PLEASE DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME, ENERGY AND MONEY!

I will hopefully find my destiny the old fashioned way! Good luck to you all!

E Harmony tries very hard to find people who are similar to you. They have a very detailed questionnaire. The problem is the people they choose are usually are not in your city . Also with this guided communication you go back and forth, ask and answer many questions, and still nothing happens. I am starting to wonder how anyone connects here. And it appears to me that the women are very, very,very, very, particular.. Its very expensive a $50 a month. E Harmony should give you a refund if people don't connect. Frankly, I feel I am a very nice person and I don't understand why anyone wouldn't give me a chance. If I ran a dating service I would ask that the members try to accommodate other members and not go out of their way to find reasons to not meet someone. You don't know if someone is right for you unless you meet them. And they are spending $50 a month so they are serious about meeting people. I rarely close out other women.

I am very disappointed and should never have paid in full.. It starts out with a bang and then nothing-- I mean ZERO! ..In the beginning, I got a big bunch of matches 99% of whom never responded -they are in my age group and I am considered very attractive- and then I have expanded my area to cross country and have even lowered my expectations and still nothing..

I wish I could get my $200.00 back.. after a while this thing just disappears along with your money!!! If you pay on time, you can stop your payments so BE AWARE!

I have been on eharmony for three months earlier this year, received matches constanly, had three dates and met a man a fell in love with. He left me four months later and I am still trying to figure out why. Heartbroken I thought, let's try this again, and it seems either the culture or my expectations have completely changed: I get almost no matches. Weeks are passing with not a single match and the ones I have never respond. The matches are absolutely not what I am looking for: unattractive appearance, wrong age group, out of state, bearly able to spell any word correctly, none of my interests are their's, and their occupation is almost always "manager".
I wish I had the opportunity to exclude certain traits, hobbies, interests when creating my profile, or eharmony would evaluate why I closed a particular match.
Bottom line: don't expect too much, it is a huge coincidence if you find sombody you feel attracted to. There is no science behind the match making process except for comparing the occurence of certain search terms in two people's profiles. I also found out that most of my matches could be found on competing sites, so switching to another site won't change anything.

HOW DUMB CAN I BE? I JOINED SEVERAL YEARS AGO AND FOUND IT A BAD CHOICE. I DID IT AGAIN RECENTLY AND FOUND IT EVEN WORSE. AFTER I PAID,I WAS SENT TOTALLY UNACCEPTABLE MATCHES AND SUBJECTED TO A MYRIAD OF MONEY-GRUBBING POP UPS. TRYING TO CANCEL WAS NEARLY IMPOSSIBLE. I MET MY LATE HUSBAND THROUGH MATCH.COM AND WE HAD FIVE FUN FILLED YEARS AND MARRIAGE.

I'VE YET NOT READ A POSITIVE REVIEW OF E HARMONY.

IT SEEMS THAT I MUST ENTER A 1-5 STAR RATING TO SUBMIT THIS REVIEW. IT'S UNFORTUNATE THAT THERE ISN'T A -5 RATING.

I joined eHarmony, Chemistry.com and Match at the same time. Here are some things you should know about eHarmony before joining:

- eHarmony is primarily a Christian-based matching service and, apparently, I'm the only person who didn't know that. Most of my matches' profiles were heavy on the "christ is my savior" and "the lord's guidance" talk which also seemed to be the hot topic during the few dates I had. When I would tell friends they all told me eHarmony used to be exclusively a Christian matching site and laughed that I didn't know that. Nice, thanks.

- eHarmony is a "relationship" site NOT a "dating" site. I contacted customer support about a problem I was having and made the mistake of referring to eHarmony as a "dating site". Rather than an answer to my question I received a paragraph about how eHarmony is a "relationship" site, not a "dating" site.

- eHarmony puts very little weight on physical attraction - and it shows - from the fact that you have to subscribe to see photos to how they handle the matching process. Chemistry.com and Match.com allow you to see photos before subscribing.

SUMMARY: I did meet a few great girls on eHarmony and much prefer the process over Chemistry. The ONLY problem was the religious thing. I'm Catholic and do go to church occasionally but these girls were borderline obsessive. The majority of the conversations were about bible study and being saved.

Here's my down-and-dirty comparison of the 3 services from experience:
- eHarmony is great for ultra-religious people looking for marriage
- Chemistry is great for professional nerdy-types looking for marriage
- Match.com is great for hook-ups and rebounds

Been on E-H since the early days. Felt their matching system had some merit. Met a few ladies that were very nice but ultimately we weren't marriage material to each other. The amount of responses I was getting was very low. It appeared that the amount of paying users was virtually nil. If you both don't pay you can communicate. With a little investigative work I now realize that only 20% of the matches at best are paying ( able to communicate) members. If you would just watch your match list but don't view any matches you can tell who has looked at your profile. Approximately 80% will never view your profile telling me that they no longer frequent E-H. Now out of the 20% that look at you profile not all are paying members. Then factor out the ones you are not visually attracted to, the ones that aren't attracted to you, the ones that are to far ( Hey, I'm in L.A. traffic is a nightmare), The ones where their isn't a personality match, and any other selection criteria you can come up with and the pickins gets pretty slim. Contacting E-h is a _ uckin pain in the _ss altogether. When you select not to auto renew you first have to fill out a survey of your experience, wait a damn minute whose money is this anyway. I don't believe I should be extorted to fill out a survey to stop paying for a service that at best seems lame and at worst may be outright FRAUD. Now if you're still thinking about signing up wait till they are hard up for cash and run the special where you get three months for 10.00$, ... that's right 10.00$. Hey it's only a ten spot and you never who you might meet. Or you can do a little research as I have and watch to see how many people view you profile to give you a ball park number as to how many might be paying members on your match list. Last but not least, 52 yr 6', 190LBS swm, house, career, HOG just north of the L.A. basin, hit me up if you like riding. Later :-)

i met a colombian woman from new york and supposbly she fell in love with me and i fell in love with her.i paid for all her flight tickets to meet in san antonio.and then my kids and i flew to colombia to meet her family in colombia and met all her friends.i paid for everything even a debt of 6000 dollars on her credit card.and then we came back and we got married in san antonio.i paid for all her friends from new york and family to fly to san antonio from colombia. i really thought she was the one so i gave her a 6 diamond carrot ring that has been in my family for 70 yrs.and also i gave her a Piaget watch that has been in my family for 30 yrs.i also remodeled my country house for her on the pecan farm because i knew i would be busy at the time and i wanted her to be comfortable.i had a full time maid which was also her chauffer because the she could not drive or cook or clean or do laundry or nothing.one morning after 2 months of marriage she told me she didnt want to be my fuckin maid anymore and walked out the door,my kids were totally upset and distraut.she stole some gold shipwreck coins from me and would not return the family heirlooms.but after all this i still feel that there is someone out there that would love to be with me and my kids.beware of the colombian women.we never had an argument or cross word said between us until that morning.feeling hurt in eagle pass.then i found out later she was using me to get her citizenship.which never happened because her information was all a big fraud.becareful of a girl of angela gomez velez.she uses many different aliases.yvonne is one of them.remember a girl from an south american advisory group and from new york .but is colombian.you have been warned

Eharmony is very deceptive when it comes to members who have children. They ask the question: "Do you have children who live with you full time?" If you say, "no", they interpret that to mean that you do not have children AT ALL and post your profile accordingly. They will then say that this member does not have children at all and match them with members who prefer to date people who have no children. I've spoken to eharmony about this discrepancy, and they stated very specifically that they do not care and will not do anything to rectify the situation. They would not even offer me a refund. I find this practice of deception to be very telling about a company and have no trust in them at all. Also, I've found they match me based solely on race, age, and location. Some of the matches are so incompatible in interests, values, etc. it's amazing. I would not recommend this to anyone!

This site is advertising on TV so everyone is signing up. I was matched up with a MARRIED man who misrepresented his marital status, the town he lived in, and his desire to have a family. It's pathetic how some people who sign up for this service are preying on those who genuinely want to find love. A waste of time