Reviews of Lavalife

I used ll for a short time and had a few dates -- 1 that was nice, the others were ok but kinda flat. All were with nice women, but the chemistry wasnt there. I have since moved on and am involved with someone I met socially.

At first I thought ll would be a quick and convenient way to meet people, set up dates; and at first it was. However, I found the process to be somewhat brutal. At first, setting up the profile, getting the photos, writing the bio, revising the bio -- all this can be fun and build anticipation. And I didnt have to wait long before I was on some dates. Maybe Im old fashion, but I found I really prefer meeting people socially. I think that if this is difficult for you for career or other reasons then ll could be an option. Its not for everyone.

Personal observations/minor rant:

I would recommend sticking with the Dating and RElationship sections. I tried, off and on, the Intimate section and found all I got were run arounds. A big pet peeve were women with profiles in INtimate that were really looking for a dating relationship rather than a casual. It was misleading. This is seriously wacked when you consider that probably none of the women advertising bother to buy credits because, as in real life, men make the advances. Its not alot of money, but you have to be somewhat not clued in to participate in a fee-based forum where guys are spending money so they find out you arent being up front. TIme and again when chatting or exchanging mail it would eventually come out that the woman was looking for a dating, even committed relationship.

Ladies:

There is a difference between casual and dating/relationship. Casual means you see each other once and awhile or on a regular basis and have sex (and go out, have dinner etc) - but its casual, there are no strings and, inspite of whatelse you may do, sex is at the center. Otherwise, its called dating, and you should be in the dating section. The women in the other two sections tend to be more honest, I think.

Buddy, you are a joke. If you sent out so many messages and smiles and got so little in return, you must be one ugly fuck. Not to mention your nasty, racist disposition. Remember what she said: "based on your email I am not interested." Your horrible attitude evidently came through in your writing. You are ugly on the OUTSIDE and on the INSIDE.

I have been out on 17 dates with good-looking women in a 6 month span. I had a blast on lavalife. But then again, I know how to talk to women and I give them respect regardless of their race or appearance.

BTW, good luck getting sex on lavalife. If women don't even want to smile back at you, what makes you think they are going to want to have intercourse with you?

Horrible site, and dreadful women. As one person put it, these women are not able to attract a man in real life, so they go online.

I contacted about 150 women by email (and I changed my picture, changed my profile several times) and got ONE date, 3 expressions of "sorry I don't think we are compatible". I "smiled" at 200 women more all across Ontario, only to receive 4 return smiles. When I emailed those, only ONE who emailed me back - the remaining 3 just did not reply and wasted my money. One of them, whom I emailed again and asked her to follow-up said "based on your first email, I was able to tell I was not interested in you and therefore did not reply" (she was not even pretty and she was 34 - a bit picky I think given her appearance, age and nasty character)

The only reason I can think of is that I am not a white man, and these white women are racist in their heart.

As a result of my experience, I have no respect for women at all. I ignore white women - bitches and assholes, racist pigs. I'll still peruse them, but for sex alone.

The trick to Lava and any other dating site is to have an email or messenger name the same as your nickname on the dating site... eg... your nickname on lava is "sweet_trisha" then all you need is an email that is "sweet_trisha@hotmail.com" same with msn and yahoo and aim etc. There is no need to be paying these companies money to find love or whatever you are looking for... it's all in the nicknames ;)

Lava is probbably the best site I know of. They are very good at filtering out all the junk that many other sites have. But just like any ma and pa company turned corporate... they are bastards! Don't pay them a cent! Thanks.

Hello, after reading through the other reviews I thought I would add my comments.

I am (I really am!) young, highly educated, fit and easy on the eye. And, I would say i'm a pretty nice person. Since moving to vancouver, I've discovered three of my new girlfriends are also on lava. They are also gorgeous, both inside and out!! Too good to be true you say?...

Some of you out there sound angry and disillusioned about the whole thing. I suppose there may be a lot of fake profiles out there, but I happen to know of a few profiles that are the real thing. What's more, there are a lot of real guys out there as well! I've had a great time with every single one of the dates i've had from lava. In a few cases it hasn't gone any further, sometimes because of me, sometimes because of them. I have made quite a few really good friends from the remainder. I actually even fell in love with one guy, who i would never have met in any other circumstance, but then I suppose he decided I wasnt right for him :(. But that is part of it and I move on.

You are probably not doing yourselves a service if you approach an interaction with 'this is fake, this is going to be a waste of my time'. The other person can pick it up on it, i certainly can, and it is a turn off. Also, i guess you have to trust that the other person knows what they want. If it isn't you well... my attitude when that happens is its too bad, their loss, and then I move on.

I have interacted with a few a**holes as well, but i refuse to lose my 'innocence' about the whole thing. I choose to see the best in people and trust I will just find out sooner or later whether it's true. Knowing that is my attitude, I don't get as disappointed when the reality is not quite what i'd expected (and really, it never is, only sometimes the reality is actually quite nice, not too bad!) My god there are so many people on internet dating!! And so many different types of people as well. I don't expect to find the perfect person after a couple of weeks on a place like lava.

And also, interestingly, because of the people i have met so far from lava, i have actually changed, what i want has actually been slightly modified, am actually becoming something new. Those people contributed something to my life whether or not we are still in contact. That's the only thing about my profile that's probably out of date i guess, i should fix that....

This is about as run of the mill a dating site as you can get.... Unfortunatly i agree with a lot of the other people who have posted on here....

If your looking for an over night fling.. DONT put your profile in relationship!! Is that such a hard concept? Mr "young, professional, looking to settle with a nice homey girl" is also in the orange section looking for "swaping, fetishes, a no strings quickie and some hardcore Be*ver licks" Like.. does anyone else see anything wrong with this?

I have paid my big 19bucks to have credits... but dont find that it helps much... i guess few girls in ottawa have creidts as most guys dont really seem to know what to do when they get messages, or send backstages...

I think lava's web design is horrible.. i could redesign a more easy to navigate site in my sleep...

But then again.. i've been on lava life a very long time.. .back when it was webpersonals before it got bought by lava.... and i have met some VERY great people this way.... Unfortunatly i think like most have said here... in the last few years.. the word is out...

Low self esteem guys... not so great guys... liars.. cheats.. married men/women... etc... can now post a profile.. and have most girls/guy at their place doing the nasty in under 24 hours....

Lavalife has made the whole dating ritual to easy and expendable... why stick something out and work on it.. when you can repost and meet 20 available peoples in 15 mins?

so what the hell is a young professional like myself still doing there??

To be honest folks.. I really couldnt tell you.....

Hope....

Had been on lavalife for about 3 months, had chatted with a few men - dated intermittently. This review is in response to the (obviously unattractive) male who denigraded women in his own review, with emphasis on the stupidity of the women he had the displeasure of interacting with. First of all, I am a highly intelligent, independent, funny woman (note the emphasis on this word instead of "chick" and "girl"), who also happens to be 5'3, 115 lbs, blonde hair, blue eyes, and voluptuous (real, by the way). I joined lava with the expectation of getting to meet men in a relatively innocuous medium, where I can chat with them, get to have a sense of their sense of humor (or lack thereof), and see if their intelligence and attractiveness exhibited are enough to warrant agreeing to meet for coffee. Well - there were a half-dozen males whose profiles gave even a hint of wit, attractiveness, or smarts. Just so you know, Mr Jerk, men can be just as idiotic as you describe women to be, if not worse - because they somehow believe that, in addition to being a moron, they can remain content with being paunchy, balding, sloppy weenies (and they don't MIND posting photos showing themselves this way!) who ask to meet attractive women, then have the laughable gall to say they only want "fun, not anything heavy". At least most women have a sense of physical appearance. It makes me laugh that a clearly-unattractive guy has the cajones to REQUIRE a woman to be cute, smart, etc, when they definitely can't even measure up themselves to their own expectations. Mr Wonderful, here's a newsflash: the great gals you have had drawn to you are NOT waiting for your approval. Sure, maybe they have been naive enough to let their hair down and be spontaneous, not knowing that your obviously low self-esteem (could it be that maybe you are a bit small...minded?!) is the real reason you have problems meeting women to connect with, so you judge them immediately and then discard them. Of course, not before fucking them, right? Or are you too discerning of a high-quality guy to do that? Yeah, right. By the way, the rating of 2 has nothing to do with the quality of the service, but the quality of the losers who spend too much time cruising for an easy lay. I quit lava because I'd rather meet real guys and get to know them the old-fashioned way, by meeting them surreptitiously. Mr Wonderful, do YOU know what that word means? One last sentiment for the road: go fuck yourself.

I've reviewed some of the reviews that were written about Lavalife. Some of details described about this particular site are so true I couldn't help but laugh. It is so true that many of the profiles that I've reviewed on that site are so ridiculously inflated, it's just not funny. The site is not really a problem for me, just the users.

A few weeks back I met up with a fellow and he seemed really nice, down to earth and a true gent. After our meet, I went home and delved further into his use. I found his profile in the intimates section. I couldn't believe my eyes. Ladies, before meeting up with anyone from this site make sure he's not a dirt bag looking for a friend with benefits.

For safety reasons ensure you let someone know where, who and when you are going to meet this person. You never know who's on the other side of the monitor.

Gents, I don't play both fields, but I've also read the female profiles from lavalife. I can agree with you that some of them are high maintenance ladies with a profile with tinge of bit*hiness and attitude in them. Be careful of who you contact and read the profiles carefully.

To both genders: Please do not over inflate your profile. I've had one guy post his profile height as 5'10. There are two problems with this, the first is how the heck am I going to recognize who you are when you are shorter than what you've posted and the second is if you can lie the first time around, what makes me think you won't do it a second time?

If you are lucky, you may find the one true love online. Realistically, these sites are made for friendships or as in paragraph 2... sex.

Good luck to everyone.

For crying out loud people...it's a dating website, there is no guarentee that you will actually meet people. The site is supposed to act as a medium for you to possible hit it off with someone. I will admit that there are some fake people on there, and some really weird ones as well, but there are a lot of decent people on there as well.

If you're not getting responses, then maybe you're doing something wrong. I get a kick out of all of these people who cry that they don't get any intertest, try something different, put up a picture, try a new picture, write a new profile. I mean come on.

As for the price, yeah, so they charge, but think about how much money you would spend in a night going to a club ($10 at the door, plus how ever mmuch on cabs and drinks). So really, $14.00 isn't that bad.

Treat Lavalife for what it is...a half decent dating website, and if you think it's more than that, then you got problems.

ATTENTION ALL LADIES! LAVALIFE IS FULL OF CREEPY GUYS. NO ONE READS THE BIOS OR HAS ANY INTEREST IN WHAT YOU'RE LOOKING FOR - MET THREE OF THE MOST RELATIONSHIP-PHOBIC, PATHOLOGICAL LIARS THROUGH THIS SITE. BE VERY CAREFUL WHO YOU END UP ACTUALLY MEETING OR GIVING YOUR NUMBER TO! I'm sure the site is full of decent human beings, but 3 for 3 is a total scam. And it's not just me - I've talked to MANY other people who've had problems with meeting people for serious relationships on this site. My advice? Don't post a picture - seriously! The people you want to stay away from are the ones who look just scroll through the site "meat-market" style and don't pay any attention to what you've taken the time to write in your bio about what you're looking for in a relationship. And the credits thing is ridiculous - there's no way to get your money back if you decide not to use the site anymore, even if you still have credits left! My advice, go to eHarmony - if you're honest on the personality profile (and I really mean it, be honest, even if you think it might paint you as an undesireable person) you'll find someone. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and we met through eHarmony after I was signed up for ONE WEEK - getting married next year. It was the best thing that's ever happened to me.