Reviews of eHarmony

I too would give this sight 0 Stars if that was an option.
I signed up for E-Harmony last Fall for just the 3-Month trial to see how it goes; I decided to get back in the dating/relationship game after I spent 1yr. mourning the end of a 7 yr. relationship (that ended due to the loss of a wanted pregnancy). Good thing I only did it for that long.
Like many of the other reviews, I received lots of matches w/guys who did not fit my expressed wants & needs at all from age & location to values & interests. So I agree, the matching is totally random. The website is not easy to navigate, so I had to slog thru over 100 matches, clumsily archiving & then closing those that were no match, whittling the list down to about 25 I was actually interested in contacting. Of that 25, only 12 responded. The rest? I have no idea if they were expired, scammers/plants or just rude men.
Nine of these 12 men just blew thru the “Guided Communication” to get to the “Open Communication” where the very first message posted was a suggestion to meet right away & have sex; I was also inundated with their private e-mail & phone number in said message, as well as 1 guy who included his website where I could see nude photos of him! Bottom Line: The men on this site are just trolling for sex.
Three actually turned out to be real men & I met all 3, but only clicked w/1. He & I emailed & phoned for a LONG time before I agreed to meet. When we finally did, we clicked even better – immediate chemistry that grew as we dated for a few months & it was great. After a long wait I insisted on, we finally took the relationship to the physical level. 1 week later, he e-mailed me he’d had a girlfriend all along & couldn’t see me anymore. So unlike the other guys who were up front about trolling for sex, this guy went thru an elaborate hoax of weeks of stringing me along just for the purpose of deliberately hurting someone because he had the power to do so. Basically, this site is full of men of bad character with no integrity who are just trolling for sex!!!
2 good things came out of this otherwise painful, waste of my time & money experience: 1 of the other 2 guys I rejected (nicely, by the way) stayed on to become a guy-friend. I made the decision to forget having a guy in my life & to be a single mom now that I’m pregnant. There are enough men in my life (uncles, cousins, friends) that my child will never want for a father figure. Bottom line, doesn’t matter if you use a dating website or go thru friends to meet men; they are all scum-buckets just trolling for sex & not truly interested in marriage & family.

I would like to share with you my experience with eharmony dating site. It is the worst dating website I registered so far. Paid so much money for 3 months, and so far there is noone there I like. Here is how it goes.
First you have to answer 9pages of questions about your personality, which then is mached with the potential "mach". The trick and what they don't mention is that you cannot do the search by yoursef, they are just sending you your matches. In order to get the matches you have to be really flexible on who you want your match to be. So for example I'm based in London and I receive matches from Australia ( how the hell am I going to date with a guy from Australia or US?), but that's nothing. All the guys there are FAT - and I mean it, or SHORT or UGLY. Yes I am picky, but this is really a disaster considering how expencieve it is.
Basically I'm speachless, and I regret waisting the money I paid. I have been on many sites and I have never bothered to write a review, but this time I decided to protect anyone who wants to register there to take this idea out of your mind!
It doesn't work. Go obn other nteresting sites. Theye is many of them. Much better.
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My boyfriend and I met on eHarmony in February so I have to give it a high rating because we have had great results. We both feel lucky to have found each other, and we both agree that we NEVER would have met without eHarmony. We have busy careers and just weren't meeting people so a dating site made sense. We had both tried eHarmony over a year ago, unsuccessfully, but desperation drove us to try again! We are both fit and attractive (although my pictures aren't that great) and it was surprising how few good matches there were, and hardly anyone made the first move on me. I was getting discouraged. I thought I'm pretty and smart, what's the matter with these guys? Here I am! I think most men just look at your pictures and move on. The girls who look like Barbie get all the hits. I had over 150 matches at one point and my (future) boyfriend was close to the top of the list, so I reached out to him first. It was dumb luck; who knows if my real soul mate is #150? I skipped that stupid Guided Communication and went straight to email with several men, and eventually had nice dates with two others before I found my "match". Both men were nice, met me in a public place, paid for the coffee/meal, and asked me out again. Then I met C. and turned off matching and let the other two know I had found someone special. They were happy for me. Now C. and I are planning a future together which is what we both wanted! Who knows how eHarmony really matches you--sometimes it does seem random. But it can work if you work it. MY ADVICE is: use the "Email" feature and don't be shy. Girls--make the first move, keep it clean and friendly, and don't be afraid to drive the bus! Online dating isn't about who makes the first move--it's about getting past the anonymity barriers that also protect us from nut jobs. But once you get past those barriers you can see if it's someone you have compatability with. Best of luck!

I give it 5 stars because I MET SOMEONE! I signed up about 4-5 months ago and HATED IT. I went on about 10 dates with guys whom I was very compatible with. Unfortunately I did not feel any romantic connection to them and some did not feel it with me. No wonder there are so many poor reviews on here, because it does get frustrating going on multiple first dates and no sparks in sight! Fortunately I met someone and EH is the best thing that could have happened to me. All I can say is KEEP TRYING. Some are lucky enough to find a spark with the first person they meet and for others it could take a year, but it will happen. Trust me!!! EH is a program that matches compatibility, but its up to you to know who you feel that connection with, not the program. When you meet the one, you'll feel exactly how I feel now. I know what its like to hate EH and to get impatient and I wish there was someone there who kept motivating me to stay patient and keep my head up high.

I agree with the pricey membership. Some may find luck in free websites. There are jerks everywhere but there are definitely more on the free websites. As for weirdos like not knowing if you met a married man or woman, just be cautious. Take it extra slow. Get to know the person and if they talk to you only during weird hours of the day or can't chat whenever they are at home, you know something is fishy and dont ignore that gut feeling.

This site is an utter joke! Please do not waste your money, time and (most important) your hopes on this sick joke! The whole thing is a scam. They gradually "dole" out a small supply of matches to you at a time in a pathetic effort to keep you drinking from the well. Instead of letting you "search" for matches on your own, you have to wait for them to give you your "daily" (or if you are not so lucky, weekly) allotment of a handful of matches.
OH and let us get this straight, the whole BS platitudes they throw out about "matching you on criteria meant to find your soulmate" is a crock of malarkey. Totally baseless and and preposterous. 90% of the matches I get HARDLY look liky my soul mate. You could have better results just getting access to their database of people and letting you look for your own "soulmate", but NO! They think they know you better then you know yourself apparently.
Eventually you might find a "match" that will actually talk to you on this site (it will seem like 99% of them dont) and you'll be introduced to the WORST aspect of Eharmony: Their completely non-intuitive and protracted "guided communication". This basically takes you through a series of pointless Q&A messages, which really dont get you ANY close to really knowing and appreciating what each match has to offer.
This site has failed me miserably. After 8 months, it has brought me ZERO results. Perhaps, it works for some granted, but those are the lucky few. Their motto is "all it takes is one", which is the same as when the lottery uses the tag line "Hey, you never know". Rest assured, your chances aren't much better on Eharmony than they are buying a ticket for the lotto!

I tried eharmony two years ago for a six month period, then I am now at the end of my renewal of a two year period. My advise is if you are not planning to extend your contract, do not tell them as they stop sending you potential matches. In addition to this, they kept sending me matches that they claimed were "perfect matches" - even when they were off my distant, age, or religious preference. They also claim to match you on physical attractiveness level. The men they sent to me were not always in my physical attractiveness level or neither was I to the men I was sometimes matched with. I wish they would have an option to browse all our compatibility matches and let US decided who WE think is attractive to US! This is my last time to use eharmony. Oh... and there is conveniently no number for you to call and speak with anyone from the company. You have to e-mail them and you usually get a generic e-mail back. For the amount of many you pay, they should invest more in customer service and less on TV advertisements.

This is a total rip off...There is no way to contact them, they send you "matches" 10 years outside your range both ways. Also send you "matches" 300 miles away...Now who is going to drive 300 miles to meet someone. Why fill out all of that information to get "matched" to your perfect person who lives 300 miles away, Perfect????I think not. Never waste your money to join this site.

I would give eharmony a zero rating if there was one. They gave me matches that are too far to meet and I had a very short distance on my settings. Many of the matches that I recieved have nothing in common with me, so I don't know what their match criteria is. I wanted to cancel my membership but was told that I had to pay for 3 months even though I didn't want this service. This is a cash grabbing company only looking to make a profit at the expense of the lonely and After talking to many people they agreed that they were not happy with this site. Plenty of fish is free and it's a lot better and easier to deal with than these clowns. Everyone Save your money and don't bother with eharmony.

I have been on eharmony for 9 months and I am extremely unhappy with the this site it's a total waste of time and money. I would encourage anyone thinking of joining eharmony to not waste their time and go to match.com or plenty of fish. Eharmony did not do anything for me but frustrate me. I go to the gym and workout every day and I have an athletic build, long dirty blonde hair and I am employed and successful. If it doesn't work for me what would it be like if I was out of shape and bald?

You really ought to provide zero or negative star rating options.

I am retirement age and wasted $287.40 for a one year subscription. I have received several "matches" based on, it seems, only the most basic attributes. I have stopped replying to eHarmony's invitation to start communication because NOT ONE of the "matches" responded to my outreach. I have had only one person invite me to start communication.

At my age, eHarmony is a bust. How silly I was to follow a young friend's recommendation to do this. What old man is going to be vibrant and not beaten down by life's disappointments? What old man is going to have flat abs? One, maybe two, in a thousand. eHarmony does not seem to know these men.