Reviews of Lavalife

Ok folks, let me give you the run down of this site. I have been on it on and off for a few years. There are real women on it, as i have met a few. if the women profile isnt long enough, or has strict restrictions as to what she wants, then its most likely fake. This site is FULL of fake accounts. They go the extra mile too with these fake profiles. They will send you smiles, then not reply to your messages. Some will even give you an msn email, chat with you for a lil bit, and then disappear forever. And let me tell you folks, its by no fault of yours. I was kind, nice, polite, and attractive, so there was NOTHING they could say bad about me. Yet they all seem to follow the same game plan. Some will even msg you via live chat, and then go offline, so that you have to spend to get in touch with them. Yet, they never come back online, or never reply. Lets face it, women, as strange as they can be, do not act that way. I know, my sisters, my friends that are girls use these sites and they do not do this. They dont reply to men that are rude and married and whatnot. Not nice guys that are polite and cute. This site is a joke, and to scour and search to find the REAL women within it is almost impossible. Dont waste your money and your time. I say go and meet women in person, you'll have better chances that way. oh yeah btw, i've noticed that when you dont have credits anymore, you suddenly receive more smiles than before...coincidence, i think not!!

Lavalife, possibly the best of the online dating site. But the reason it's the best is simply that it has the most available contacts. In all honesty, almost all dating sites are horrible, yes, even the free ones.

Lavalife has a descently appealing interface, which is simple enough to use. My gripe is that the interface relies heavily on java and flash; which can be a problem for quite a number of people. Some users may not have a stable java implimentation, and other may not have a platform with flash (Linux, though thats been corrected recently).

As many have said before, I'll repeat it, THERE ARE FAKE PROFILES! This is a given for any pay personals site, they are often used to lure people into joining the site, which is a common tactic and shouldnt be held against them. As for fakes actually contacting me, its never happened. Personally, I think those people simply got shafted, but it is entirely possible lavalife has taken more underhanded techniques.

The price *seems* very inviting, at 1/2 of what friendfinder charges, Lavalife appears to be the better deal, but as others mentioned, its actually VERY expensive. Over my 4 years on the site, I rarely bought, and was very VERY selective with my credits.

Lavalife was actually somewhat good for me meeting people. The number of "crazies" is only as high as you let find you. Ive seen so many of the reviews, men yelling that most of the women are nutters. Honestly, take a quick boo of the men also on the site. A good portion of them are crazy as well. Its just life people, you dont think everyone is a great catch normally anyway, right?

Whats really a major point of problem with lavalife is the relative inconsitancy with reviews. At times, my profile would be approved in seconds, others it could take *days*. As well, some reviewers are overly choosy, claiming details as a general description of your job as too much information. Infact, my poor choice of extra info finally led to lavalife banning me. A paying customer of 4 years. Ouch, just ouch.

I did meet some very nice women, and enjoyed my time very much. However, its flaws, and poor customer support and treatment have left me less then pleased. Im a professional student (masters), and I almost feel its now neccessary to go back out and spend much of my time at bars. Thankfully theres okcupid.com and plentyoffish.com

Enjoy!

There are things to like about lava, i have been on there for more than 4 years, and have in fact met almost 20 women in person because of it. The problems with lava are the same as with other online daying sites, people who can't be objective about themselves, people who lie and play games just for the fun of it, there is no way of getting around that when you are looking online. Recently things seem to have gotten worse, in my eyes, I know there are real people out there who are seriously looking, but they seem to be harder to find, lately it has been all game players and people who can't be objective about themselves....or am i the only one who believes that being 40 pounds overweight is average, and 80 pounds over counts as 'a few extra pounds'? Also of particular note, of late I have noticed a number of women who send smiles, then when an email is received in return, they delete their account, and start another one. I am certainly not irresistable lol, however, there is no reason that this account jumping should have happened on my account, as my messages were polite and respectful, some people even find them funny. I don't know what advice to give to people who are considering lava for the first time, it can be wortwhile, but you have to put up with a lot to get the rewards out of it. The best advice I can give newcomers, unless you are hooking up for an agreed upon intimate encounter, don't rush into trying to meet people, and don't let them rush you either, talk for long enough that you are comfortable that the person is actually as they are representing themself. Be smart, and be objective, keep your eyes open for substantial inconsistencies. Also, it may not hurt to sign up with more than one site if you are serious, you may be surprised how many people who have caught your attention are on different sites, and you may be able to learn more these profiles.....and on occasion, you will find glaring inconsistencies. OK, think that is enough of a rant for one night, good luck y'all

Lavalife sucks. Plain and simple. 50 credits does not divide by 6 credits that you pay each time you email someone. So you're left with the decision to abandon the 2 remaining credits or dish out some more. It's driven by the worst customer service available. One person will approve your ad, another will deny it - even if it is the exact same.

The do indeed have fake profiles designed to make you spend credits on such profiles. Talk to those who have worked there.

I have been a member of Lavalife on and off since it used to be WebPersonals back in '98. Not sure it says much about me, but then again, not sure it says much about the system.

At first, it seemed great. Lots of people and chatting and emailing. I have probably met 40 people face-to-face over the years and of those, I have "connected" with four, dated three of those guys for three months each, and had a serious two-year relationship with the fourth (distance and circumstances could not be overcome), so I know that you have to go through a LOT of profiles and a LOT of emailing and first meetings, before you can actually move to the first real date.

However, seems this time around (after been off the system for almost three years) when it comes down to actually following through, I find many guys (sorry I can't speak for the women, only me), can't hack it. I have found on numerous occasions that people don't respond to emails, or when they do, drag out meeting as long as possible, so they can make sure they don't miss something else. I also find a lot of their emails childish -- "you look kissable" comes to mind.

In general I have observed that most of the guys don't seem committed to finding someone, let alone finding someone they want to be committed to. It's like the "kid in the candy store" syndrome. They are so excited by the huge choice, they can't stay focused.

I don't object to people having profiles in all three sections, but what I find funny is that guys will ignore you in one section and are more than willing to chat you up in another (I am sure you can figure out which one). Hey, I like sex too, but what do you do for the other 23 hours a day??? Do people not realize how easy it is to figure out when someone online has a profile in more than one section?

I guess I am just tired of unanswered emails (Hey, take 30 seconds to respond, even if it is to say "no thanks"), guys who are players, who just keep you in their radar until they are bored or find someone else, or guys who feel they are entitled to "thin, petite, supermodels", when they are short, fat and balding.

I just want to meet an honest, sincere, genuine person. But I am so done with Lava. I am a financially secure, intelligent, attractive, sexy, fun-loving, independant 45-year-old who has decided to pack it all in and stay single. Sorry guys, but you all missed out.

Hi Everybody:

i've paid for credits on Lavalife twice, and i think the site is ok overall. i don't know if they have "Fake Profiles," they may indeed exist, but i've had several genuine responses.

now, regarding CONNECTING with those women who've responded to my contacts, that's a different subject, and that's just fate: you either discover there's chemistry, or you don't.

those here who mention having a decent profile are correct, and let me say it loud and clear to you GUYS WHO NEVER LEARNED HOW TO APPROACH WOMEN:

"HEY, THEY DON'T WANT TO SEE A PICTURE OF YOUR D*** THEY WANT YOU TO BE SINCERE, GENUINE, FRIENDLY and a sense of humor really helps too."

i'm nothing to look at, but i've had beautiful girlfriends, including professional models. were they just "slumming?" well... maybe =8^) but they said they were attracted to a guy who was kind, polite, genuine and treated them with respect.

ALERT ALERT ALERT

these three sites are TOTAL SCAMS.

> MARRIED CAFE > INTERNATIONAL HOUSE OF WIVES > ADULT DISCREET

these sites appear to have different owners, but they are actually owned by the same person. they all have the same spelling errors in the Home Pages, they have the same photos with different profiles, etc.

I EVEN GOT THE SAME CONTACT MESSAGE FROM TWO DIFFERENT PHOTOS, FROM TWO OF THESE SITES

Again, “Hey guys, and a few of you girls too, regarding hooking up, remember the golden rule, be genuine, adjust your attitude and make your expectations reasonable, and things will work out!”

Can you give a zero star rating?

This site has some major problem. Buy 50 credits but messages cost 6 credits to send. And forget abxout getting any credits back. Send a smile, get one, send a message. They delete their account without reading your message. Too bad, you are out the credits. They change their profile and you decide you are no longer interested, bet you have already sent a message but they haven't read it, Too bad, you can't cancel the message and get your credits back.

Then there are all of the fake profiles. Right now look in the intimates section for "prettywoman35". She has been on almost continuously snice July 11, but has still not read a message I sent and probably never will. I sent her a smile and got one back the same day (the 11th) Sent her a message the same day. How can you be on that long and not ever read them. Then out of the blue I get a smile from a new profile "starbright14" whose profile has almost the exact selections and profile text. but with a gorgeous picture. Two more fake profiles designed to suck you into sending a message and giving Lavalife more money.

I have already warned at least 5 people personally from joining and throwitng their money away. Don't waste your money on Lavalife. You are better off putting a personal ad in your local newspaper, where at least any responses you get will be from real people.

I've been on LavaLife for about 5 years, and inspite of my best efforts I've only had 1 "date" as it were when I went to see an online friends play.

One of the biggest problems I've seen are women who get hung up over a man having a profile in the intimate encounters section. I mean I know I have a profile there, I also know that if I'm responding to an add in Dating that that's what I should expect. A date. Not wild sex for the entire night.

The other problems I've had with LavaLife aren't entirely the fault of the management. People posting old picutres, pictures of celebrities (I mean I've seen Jessica Alba's picture on there, gimme a break), and of course not following through on their smiles, or plain ignoring an IM. Sheesh like someone can't afford to post out a I'm not interested for free. I mean its FREE for crying out loud.

Okay I've finished venting my $0.02CDN.

Lavalife is probably one of the best sites out there because they advertise in local papers. It gets more profiles generated. The trouble is the odds of you actually liking someone in person is 1 in 100?

Use lavalife if you just moved to a new city otherwise hang out with your friends. Networking with real people is the best way to go. If your in college volunteer on student council (social committies}. You can also get free beer and food this way.

Plentyoffish.com is free!

Ladies and Gentlemen

I too have been on Lava, this is my second time, and although it did work once, it is a long and pain staking task to wade through all the same BS everyone has mentioned in the 80 some odd reviews here. It is after all, a site designed to make money by making it difficult for all to connect unless the males have buckets and buckets of credits. Females don't really have to spend a dime or lift a finger except to read the mountains of emails and also wade through the same crap the males have do.

I offer one alternative site that is up and coming and has Lava worried because it is absolutely free for both genders, no silly smile gimmicks, no having to wonder if they're fake or not, just email away as many times as you want with no restrictions. There are also forums to express your opinions on a wide variety of topics.

And although nothing in life is free, I fear that at some point, the owner will cave and sell it to one of the larger dating sites because he simply has a huge membership. In the meantime, enjoy it.

Give it a try, you may encounter the same nonsense as you do on any dating website, but the good thing is, it's absolutely free, no spam, no pop ups , no spyware, no active-x drop ins, nothing .... nothing to lose.

http://www.plentyoffish.com/