Reviews of eHarmony

It is a shame that you can't give this site a 0. I agree with everyone else and I wish I would have seen these posting before i bothered. Ran into the same exact problems that everyone else did. I had created a profile awhile ago and I got 1 repsponse from a person in another state and then they just disappeared. So i figured i'd try it again since they had been advertising how it was better now. Yea what a joke. Got sent tons of postings but as everyone else said it seems to be a ghost town. Heck I just started emailing everyone back just to see if anyone was alive out there. Number of responses from anyone 0. Yea not even a i'm not interested, just plain nothing. But as I think a few other people pointed out just as my account was about to expire, Oh magically some interest from a person that seemed to not exsist as i sent numerous items with no response. And their matchin criteria is a joke if these people exsist at all. I think another person put it correctly the people are looking for perfection and is probably why they are single. I believe you would have a better time finding a date if you stood on the corner with a sign saying, "Will work for date." I just wish there was some place that was actually useful. As one other person said it would be nice to have a place that actually worked more then not.

I've been a member less than 2 weeks and already I want to quit. I had 30 matches, only 1 guy initiated contact but he didn't bother to follow through or close communication. I don't have much in common with most of my matches, other than being Christian -- all are either too young or too old for me, too far, or can't write a sentence without spelling errors. Nothing like eharmony to make me feel like the ugliest person around when no one contacts me. Really, I'm very pretty, well-educated, athletic and sophisticated, and I'd have no trouble meeting guys on match or in the real world. At least eharmony helped me realize I'd have better luck elsewhere if I made the effort.... Eharmony is like being set up by your mother's friend who knows nothing about you and the potential match other than the fact that you're both single and [insert generic word here]. But the match emails you, asking for a photo, and you respond with one, never hearing from that person again. Who wants to be blindly matched up like that?

I sincerely wish I could give this ridiculous site 0 stars. The "matches" are way off base, in my opinion. I answered all the questions honestly, indicating that I'm not big on sports/exercising. I'm not a lazy slob or anything, but I find that brisk walking with my dog is enough for me.

Almost all of my matches, however, are into marathons, working out at the gym every day, mountain biking, skydiving, etc. I'm a fairly sedentary person and I'm supposed to be compatible with someone who spends all his spare time doing extreme sports? What would be do for a date?

In addition, I'm in my late 30s (38, to be exact). Most of my matches are around 50! Are kayaking and mountain biking really that popular among men of this age group? Where are the ordinary (meaning somewhat out of shape and a little overweight) guys on this site -- you know, the kind of people you see everywhere when you're out and about?

Save your money and don't sign up for this service. As far as I can see, the "matching" is way off base. Really. I think the whole "29 dimensions of compatibility" is a scam. It's got to be, if it doesn't take physical energy levels into account.

i just signed up for this website a few days ago and im starting to think i made a mistake. fist off this place is a ghost town all my matches are either no longer members or haven't been on for over 3 weeks. next none of the match perimeters work at all i set my match filter to only match me with people with in 30 miles away and it constantly matches me with people 100+ miles away. over all i would have to say eharmony sucks i gave it two stars because i haven't been on long at all and maybe it will pick up but who knows.

This site has too much control - matched with people who hadn't been on for over 3 weeks, no response to "smiles" or other contacts, exploitive and I would avoid, avoid, avoid this site...the money spent on advertising is from generated from people who sign on believing this is an incredible dating site - stop and save your $!

This site blows. Eharmony is as crooked as a politician. I was "matched" with someone I knew, when I called the fellow for a laugh, he told me that he had once tried a free weekend years ago, but had never joined. There have been only two guys I have tried to contact, but neither called me back. Not to be conceited, but I'm a pretty good catch so I had to wonder about phantom matches. The men who did contact me were way older and less educated than I had specified and lived too far away. In a month, I never went beyond that stupid "must haves" and "can't stomachs" with anyone.
I also heard the nightmares about canceling -- and your photo being out there for years on end -- so I called the telephone number to make sure it was taken care of. A recording warns you that there's a big wait and you should go online, but I waited anyway and after 15 seconds, someone picked up. After an argument, they agreed to refund me the final two months of their wonderful three month deal and take my information down. DO NOT join this site, it will make you feel ugly and ripped off and lonelier than ever!

Eharmony is horrible and awful!!!After 2 frustrating years never again I closed and deleted my account.People on this site are so picky and judgmental!!!You can not get any one to talk to u and if some does it stops as quickly as it started.One wrong word or question and you done!!!!I just don't understand why people have to judge like that and there not even trying to get to know the person!!!So my last few days I put in my profile how I felt and how frustrated I was with the site and the people on it,I was venting.I got more responses in the couple of days then I did in two years.Serouisly people do really have to be a BITCH to get people to talk to u!?!?!? Unbelievable!!!!!!OMG and the commercials are on all the time now and there driving me nuts,LOL.Oh and the rating is is a double 0!!

If there was an option for 0 stars, I would have picked that instead. This website "matches" you up with someone based on how you answer the questionaire. I mistakenly purchased a 6 month membership because of my schedule, it's difficult for me to go out and meet people. The site doesn't allow you to browse through their data base of potential suiters. I had my settings on "very" important when it asked about age and background. No offense, I'm sure the men that were as old my father were probably great guys, but I was really not understanding why they would consider someone who is on the brink of retiring to be a flex match. The steps you have to go through to communicate with someone of interest is sooooo cheesy. Is it really that hard to send a message of greetings with a basic paragraph that lets the other person know they are interested? I've tried match.com in the past, but decided to give this one a try because I wanted to see if there was a different realm of men that I hadn't browsed over before. True that, just not men that I would have anything in common with, other than the fact that we enjoy sports, music, etc. Doesn't really take much on that broad spectrum at such a high level to find a couple of common interests, just not the ones I'm looking for in a relationship. I mean really, the "must haves, can't stands" is just stupid. Anyhow, I am still in search of sharing my life with someone, but at this point, my dogs are better company than some of the matches I encountered on eharmony. In the 6 month period, I probably made contact with about 15 guys, met 2 and completely lost interest in the website after I realized, eharmony does not get it.

I actually like parts of eHarmony. I have met a couple very nice, intelligent women. That said, eHarmony had a very deceptive matching process. Anyone who has ever set up an account and completed their questionnaire is someone you might be matched with. Said another way, you might get matched with someone who filled the questionaire out 5 years ago, never joined, and will never ever answer your emails. There are two problems with this. It looks like they have a lot more members and you're getting a lot more matches than you really are. Second, if you don't know this, it's quite a blow to your dating confidence when 90% of your matches don't respond.

The other problem is all the 'free communication' weekends they have. Again, you get matched with people you can't meet because they're not paying members. You'll find yourself wondering why someone sent you an email but never replied to your response.

Personally I think these are deceptive practices. Especially considering Dr Warren's emphasis on 'honesty' in relationships.

I've been a member now for over a week. Most of my issues are not with eHarmony. I don't like the fact that I've been sending messages to guys who CAN'T respond because they aren't members. So, It's very discouraging when u see a nice guy and think, why should I? He's not gonna respond anyway. My profile is very blunt...no point in making a pretty profile JUST so the guy can dump me later. That being said, I'm glad guys close me out! If they can't accept that I'm an independent woman who can change her own tires and chop wood, then forget em all! There are lots of reasons why a guy could close u out, ladies. Maybe he saw ur profile or whatever and said to himself that u weren't the type that they could easily screw over. See it as your saving grace! You don't need them! Would u rather deal with the drama from a lot of guys or just cut it from the beginning? BTW, I went out on a date with one guy over the weekend from the site. He told me I was fascinating and seemed overjoyed with how the date went. He even asked me for another date..he now will not communicate with me anymore. oh, well. Maybe he lied. Maybe he was after something he knew he wasn't gonna get. Maybe he didn't think I had a brain and could easily be controlled. Whatever the reason, I don't need him or any other guy like that! I do find it hilarious that all these guys talk about is honesty but in the end, who REALLY wants honesty??? Honesty hurts as much as the truth. The difference is having closure and not being left wondering wtf in the middle of the night. And to comment off what a chick said earlier...just because a guy has Jesus and God in his profile doesn't mean crap! I had a guy who was like that and said he wanted a woman who was SOULED OUT TO JESUS! But guess what! Later in a message, he wanted to talk about how sexy I was and began to name parts of the body that were sexy. There was NO mention of God outside of his profile. So, grow up and get the hell outta that mindset. You probably turned down a whole bunch of good guys but because of your prejudices, you missed out and I don't feel sorry for you! EHarmony members are being used to entice others to join according to a representative! I told him not to lie to me and he didn't...he couldn't! Because I had him surrounded. So he told me that we get matches who are non members. We send them questions or messages. They get them, they get all excited and then they join...most don't. So, they KEEP getting emails about all these pretty girls and maybe when they find one interesting, they'll join. That's why they dont/can't respond. They stopped giving me matches after a few days but because I made a fuss about it to them, I got matches again. I can honestly say that if It's cold in the room, turn the AC down. So, if some of you took initiative, perhaps u would've had better results...if it doesn't apply, let it fly. :) I've gotten ugly guys. I've gotten fat guys. Not eHarmony's fault and not THEIR problem...It's yours. I don't think Brad Pitt was EVER hot...especially now when he looks like MOUNTAIN MAN! But a lot of other women do. You can't expect human beings to be honest. And no matter where you go in life, you have to deal with the law of numbers. Many people fail, few win! Just how it goes.