Reviews of Lavalife

Now for the emails to my fake profile THE MODEL BUSINESSMAN and out emails back and forth:

You inspire me. Do you like sailing?

Tom

Thank you!! thats a nice thing to say!!

Never been sailing....heard it was quite fun!! Would eventually like to try it!

Tammy

Early day today for me. So have you had much luck meeting men that you like? I recently signed up to meet someone outside of my business circle. So tell me about yourself.

Tom

I have met some nice guys on here...but nothing has evolved apart from meeting some new friends!!

Tell you about myself...hmmm...that could take a long time....so I wil start by telling you what I like about myself!!

I have a wicked sense of humour! A friend of mine says that I have a the sense of humour of a 12 year old boy! Whatever that means....but I try to see the humour in what I do...at times it keeps me sane! I like the fact that I love a good conversation...not the surface stuff...but the conversations that could last for hours and I learn something! I work hard...but I can also play hard. I try to keep balance in my life....and know what is not so good about me...and still think its ok!!!

I love adventure, and challenging myself. I love what I do for a living...but would like to find a way to work for myself and achieve all of those goals I have set...however,...I am definately looking up a huge mountain with a long way to go!!!

Anyway...tell me about what you do!

Tammy

I am a business man who owns a string of restaurants in Vancouver and am now expanding to Kelowna. In my free time, I love to travel to various tropical and semi-tropical locations such as Hawaii, Puerto Vallarta, Southeast Asia, and occasionally Australia(as I was born and grew up there).

I think we should meet, but I am unsure where. Do you have any ideas?

Tom

I spent 10 years in Brisbane!! Well actually 2 years in Brisbane and the rest in Toowoomba!! Something in common!!

What restaraunt?? there are a couple of new ones opening in here in town...you have me curious!!

I think we should meet too! where abouts in Kelowna are you located? By the way...my name is Tammy!

Tammy

Excellent. How did you like Brisbane? Brisbane is my homecity and where I went to university. I went to the University of Queensland for my undergraduate degree. I can't really say at this point, as no one who knows me will know until it is open. Hopefully it'll be able to compete with the vast competition.

I live in upper mission. I can't meet tonight as I have an important meeting with the owner of Mission Hill, but tommorrow evening would be much better for me. We should meet for dinner, my treat. I was thinking of a quaint place called De Montreuil. How does this sound? I believe they have some form of dress code so you may wish to wear something appropraite to accent your beauty.

Tom

I loved Brisbane!! Way better than Toowoomba!! I even spent two weeks at the U of Q and have some great memories!! Great Campus!

A man of mystery! Ok...you can have your secrets!! Just remember I am entitled to mine!!

Tomorrow night is not a good night for me! I am an avid Dragon Boater and I have two practices to complete tomorrow evening. How does Friday sound??

Upper Mission! Wow...another thing we have in common! I love the area! I am assuming you are close to Kettle Valley:? I am in South Ridge ....just above the Quarry!

Thanks for the compliment and I will try to wear something appropriate if friday works for you. I look forward to finding out what got you to where you are!!

Tammy

(GOLDDIGGER):)

My meeting went well and I was able to make an exclusive agreement regarding a specific type of wine that only my restaurant will carry.

I see that you've IMed me but have a program on this computer that it will cause havok with.

Friday will work well for me. Choose a time in the evening that will suit you and we can meet at the restaurant I mentioned. We will save how I got to where I am for when we meet.

Tom

Way to go with Mission Hill! Hope its one of their better ones! You must be pleased!

I have to work in Penticton on Friday and won't get in until 6. Is 7 pm too late??

I have something to look forward to now!!

Tammy

It is one of their better wine and one that actually hasn't been released to the public yet. Why don't we make it a late supper and meet at 8:00pm?

Tom

alright!!! 8 pm....see you then!

Tammy

Hi Tammy. I'll see you then as well. If you get there before me could you get a table for us. I'd really appreciate that.

Tom

No problem!

Tammy

So her it is so far. Of course Tom will not show up. Tammy will end up ordering a drink, waiting and waiting. Will she wait for 1/2 hour or a full hour.

Some of you may think I am a bastard for doing this. Maybe, but I am doing this for all of us guys who have been stood up by self obsessed women. This one is a golddigger and superficial. And vain too!

I'll update this when she send the The Model/ Businessman a pissed off email once she gets home after being stood up. If women can play the game, so can we guys. Maybe she'll learn not to be so superficial.

Oh and I love the fact that she will atcually have to take time to get all dressed up!!!

I read that post from sprnch.com and found myself confused by the writers sentence structure. Then I followed the last posters REC and tried sprnch.com. To keep it short, I wasn't impressed by the site. You should know there is something wrong with sprnch.com, when most of the profiles on sprnch.com are using a model's picture.

As they say, you get what you pay for. If posting a bunch of messages on a website in order to attract attention to youself is your thing, then sprnch.com is the site for you. Just beware, with sprnch.com you'll be dealing with the internets most insecure freaks, who are out to lambast as many posts as possible. Then couple in the fact you'll be dealing with fakes of epic proportions.

Sprnch.com is just the kind of site that will make a person appreciate match.com and lavalife.

Lavalife cant compete to sprnch.com I thought lavalife was a good site but they designed it to make money not meet people. Sprnch to me is awosme to actually meet people. lavalife vs. sprnch.com ? Sorry Sprnch wins.

Well I've read several comments on this site now from men who have been slighted by women on lavalife and who have beefs about honesty and such and I felt compelled to respond with my own opinions. Just like women who are fake, who don't respond to e-mails, who block etc.,... let me tell you there are men who do the same thing!! Just like women stretch the truth about their weight, men stretch the truth about their height. I can't tell you how many men i've met who put their height as 5'6" and when we walked beside each other into a restaurant, I was taller than he was (I'm 5'2"... 5'3" with normal everyday walking shoes)I'd say at least 6 men now who were shorter than me and lied about it. Similar to women, very very few men actually look like their pictures. And by the way, back to the weight thing with women.... I'm sorry, but 30 extra pounds IS average for North American women, you just haven't noticed because you were too busy looking at all the skinny women and have ignored the average women because of their weight. Just as you say women are golddiggers looking for tall dark and handsome, men only want gorgeous, athletic, and super slim, they don't care about women's brains, achievements or goals in life. Case in point, Just as Major Tom did his little experiment -- which btw, my opinion on that is simply, she wasn't interested in your boring profile, suck it up! -- I have also put a second profile on LL in order to determine a guy's true intentions, and while he was telling me he wasn't interested in dating anyone else but me, he was responding to my fake profile telling her how excited he was about how much they had in common and sending nasty grams when the fake profile didn't continue the interaction, I got what I needed - the truth and deleted it. Ooh.. here's another experience I had, a guy who played me big time, chatted with me for several weeks, set up a date on the phone for the next night at a restaurant and then stood me up! Well about 6 weeks later he messages me again as if he's never ever talked to me before, when I lambasted him for his rudeness and inconsideration, he had the gall to tell me he's never ever talked to me before, even though I told him his hotmail address, his cell phone number, knew all about his work, his home, etc, because he told me all of this, and I even sent him our msn conversations that we had and he still maintains that it wasn't him I was talking to. Yes, everything I knew about him was accurate, but he didn't set up a date with me... what kind of game is that??

So for all the beefs on here from men and their experiences, there are equally as many from women. My opinion of lavalife is that there are a lot of game players, players in general, married people looking for attention, people with low self-esteem looking for attention (both men and women) and there are a lot of people who are just normal looking to meet the right one, unfortunately we have to weed through the idiots and take the good with the bad. In 3 years I've met over 50 men, some just for the sake of meeting, a friday night date etc., some i've met I wished would have become more. Some have wished they could have got more from me. Either way, I still haven't found the one yet, and LL is a great format for making introductions - what you do with those introductions is up to you. But the best advice is just not to stoop to their level and maintain your integrity. When you're not interested in someone, politely tell them thanks for the interest but your looking for something different, there's far too many cowards out there already that give online dating a bad name.

From an "average" person, looking for another "average" person.

Tip: A good photo makes all the difference. I posted one of my best snapshots (of my being happy and in good spirits - it does translate into the photo) and, for the next four months, I never had to pay for credits, a lunch, dinner or a drink. I met all sorts of good men...and having fun doing so. I made some good friends too.

I was in the Dating category and, the downfall is that I do get asked for a one-night stand as if some men think all categories (Dating, Relationships, Intimate Encounters) are interchangeable. I am so happy to give them heck for it.

I am all too happy to give a guy superheck for having a Dating profile looking for a equally-comfy-in-jeans-as-in-a-ballgown girl, then he has an Intimate profile looking to swap fetishes, get spanked and have a hot oil masage. Guys, choose one category and stick to it. Ask out only the girls in the category you picked. You dont do it, you will rightfully get heck sooner or later.

One other downside is to the system itself: Instant Messaging. First, you cant turn it off. I would be answering mail or browsing only to get interrupted by an unwanted instant message. Second, it doesnt control the quantity you of IM's you get; try managing up to 15 guys who want to chat with you. Abominable. The way I cope is to put 'No Instant Messages' visibly on my opening line. That way, if someone does IM me, I'm not obligated to talk to him even though he spent credits to chat with me.

Linda signs on Lavalife a very popular dating website in Canada and the US. She gets bombarded with private messages and instant messages from guys from all over the world. She meets Gregg and likes his approach. They talk on the phone. While talking she sees Thomas and she didn’t like the way Gregg coughed on the phone. She ends the conversation and moves on….

Dating sites have become the big thing and in my eyes are destroying the sexes. There are so many. Lavalife, Match.com, adultfinder, yahoo just to name a few. Men see it as a flock of desperate women and sooner or later one will give… Women see it as a mass of men giving them attention times a hundred.

There is a reason why when you see a person sparks fly. Going on the web to find a mate can be a positive experience as long as you go about it properly. I have found people use dating websites as a form of alcohol to drown their loneliness and then become addicted to the attention and accessibility. Once you become hooked the chances of you finding happiness is close to nil. I will try to show you these bad habits and help you steer clear from them.

Why a dating site? You need to ask yourself why you are on Lavalife or any personal site like it in the first place. Don’t confuse yourself. If you want an intimate encounter the logic of “acting” like you want friendship will confused the people looking at your profiles. This also is important in reverse. You will not be happy getting bombarded about sex if that is not what you’re looking for. And please don’t be fake. If you’re on a web site that is notorious for “hucking up” don’t play like you don’t know. Ask yourself this; are there more holy people on this site than non holy? Would your mother approve of it? Would your boss?

Do you have any knowledge about marketing? Let’s get to the point, your trying to sell yourself period. Try to keep your profile to what you want. A sexual photo for a person who hates people constantly talking about sex is probably not the best thing to post. Post what you want to express to the pubic you are and what you want. And let’s make sense. Why be upset that people are contacting you if you’re on a dating site? Your marketing is working. Take it off if you don’t want the attention.

Control Being bombarded by men is very flattering. But keep in mind why you went to the website in the first place. Talking to everyone at once that you like will defeat the purpose of finding someone special if you do not give a person your full attention. Control also means self respect. Jumping from person to person really is lack of respect for you. You must have some type of standards. Use them.

Respect If you decided you’re looking for a man or a woman to date and you only want one. Once you meet a person on these sites you should STOP looking and start working on getting to know each other. What happens when you don’t do this is, “well he wore blue I don’t like blue…” you become extremely picky because you know you can get a new man/woman in 30 seconds. You will keep coming back and your natural skills of meeting people in public will diminish as your online persona will intensify. You can not take your online persona into a restaurant and have dinner. Unless they have webcams at the tables.

Photos The biggest fault of online dating is everything is wrapped around your photo. Yes you want someone cute/sexy but you are judging a book by its cover. For some reason good looking people are lacking in the good personality department. Not all but a good chunk never took time to work on their other attractive skills since everyone loves them just by looking at them. Keep this in mind. Also keep in mind when you get a response this could be the reason why you got it in the first place. Do they even care about what is behind the face? Would you want to participate in a group that works this way?

Lies My friend put me on here, I use it to keep in touch with my relatives and others are heard 50 times a day. If you lie to a person you just meet about nothing, imagine when something serious actually happens once you get to know them.

All in all I believe you should NOT go on dating websites to find a true love. When they started? Yes. Now? No. Maybe a site that has a good mix of the sexes and the topics are not so directed towards dating. www.Sprnch.com for example. Why? It’s not in your face type of website. You can get attached to them by getting to know more about them. Maybe you guys have something in common you would have never found out from a dating site.

Remember you’re online because you have some spare time. Use it wisely. Always try to do things to have a productive outcome.

I used to be an avid internet dater. In those days of surfing profiles, I noticed many users put their last name in their screenname. In this post I am going to tell you why using a last name is a dangerous mistake, on the part of the user who uses their last name.

What you've heard is true, some people just lead a very boring lifestyle. People with a boring life generally have trouble in the world of romance. As you know, boring people troll the internet looking for romance, which draws them to internet dating sites. It is on these dating sites where boring people can become dangerous to other users.

Infactuation is a common trend amongst the desperate romantic who exists on the internet. What happens is these people see a seemingly common profile they like. They will latch on to it because they feel a connection to that person. Over time, the deperate romantic will become more interested in the targeted user. It's at this point, the desperate romantic will start using the free internet tools to find out more about the targeted users lifestyle.

Thanks to the internet we can find a lot of information on a specific person. The ring of Information websites is endless on the net. There are high school reunion websites to find out where someone went to high school. White pages is tabbed on every major website, this is a good place to find a phone number and match someone's last name to their first name. Also, there are public record websites on every corner of the internet, these sites will match someones name to their age for free. Finally, Google can find any missed bits of information on someone. Finding someone's contact information on the internet is free, easy, and quick.

Fortunately, there are steps that can be taken to prevent being the apple of a unwanted eye.

* The very first step is to not use you last name in your screenname. You shouldn't even use a variation between your last name and another word. You're going to have to create a unique screenname. So be creative!

* Don't use any nouns! Pronouns are the King of the deck! You don't need to list the college or high school you attended. You should never use a noun stating which company employs you. If you play sports don't list your respected team. This means don't use a picture of yourself in uniform, a practice picture will suffice in your profile. The same should go for someone who has all their profile pics taken at the same location.

* Use caution when stating local destinations of your interest. Someone from the net could follow you to a public spot. No one likes having a stalker problem.

* Don't allow youself to be fooled because you have low self esteem. As I mentioned above, there could be something about you that someone likes. On the internet, you're just as much of a target as Model Mary.

* Take breaks from internet dating after your subscription expires. This will give your fan time to forget about you and move on to the next profile. Also, this cures internet dating burnout.

* Carefully read and organize your emails. If you've made contact with a fan he/she won't be able to wait with the reply back to you. Look for strange comments within your received emails like, " You haven't logged in for 3 weeks.".

* Don't give anyone any contact information, untill you've had time to make a judgement on them...

* Know what kind of person you're trying to avoid. Generally, a desperate romantic has a intelligence quota of 120 or better. So, they are pretty good at putting two and two together to form one. Typically, these people have lower self esteem.

Most of the time these people won't bother to contact you but it's still creppy to know someone could find you. The truth is, this wouldn't be a problem if people could be more positive and feel better about themselves.

Update. Tammy did email my alter ego and I emailed her back. Here is the dialogue:

Tammy-"so...what happened?"

Major Tom-"I did not meet you because you are a gold digger. You only want to date me because I am good looking and successful. I have had friends on this site, some of whom you met and some who you just deleted their mail. They told me you were are golddigger but I wanted to give you a chance and find out for myself. What I found out was the truth that you are a superficial person. I didn't want to believe my friends about Kelowna women but they were right.

Tammy-"Wow...you figured me out. I am a gold digger, and I only look at superficial things in life to help me become happier. THATS RICH CONSIDERING YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT ME. You obviously had some bad experiences from women and you have lumped me in their catagory.

You know nothing of who I am, or of the character I have. You have no right to judge me the way you have - and I know nothing of your so called friends. What you did was immature and really dumb.

You missed out on meeting someone EXACTLY OPPOSITE of who THOUGHT youwere meeting. You are clearly not who you say you are.

You are not worth my time."

So this whole adventure was for the benefit of all of us guys who never really get a hobest chance with a woman because she is chasing after the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, only to find out when she is 40, that there is not pot of gold.

Online dating doesn't work for us attractive but normal looking guys. If you aren't Brad Pitt or Antanio Banderas, then don't waste your time. You'll have a beter chance meeting women just doing everyday recreational things. And furthermore most women in Kelowna, B.C. Canada are golddigging superficial women.

Too bad, really.

Over and Out, Major Tom

I hate having to use a new email address everytime I post, oh welL. Now onto the update:

*See the second and thrid post below this one for the background to this saga*

Well according to a friend of mine, who works at the Restaraunt, Tammy did come in dressed up and actually looking quite good(hard to tell from her picture on this site). She ended up getting a table and waiting for about 45 minutes. Sh did end up asking one of the waiters if she has seen a guy fitting this Model's description. He said no. She paid for her drink and walked out looking pissed off.

Tammy never did email my alter ego asking what happened, so I will leave her be. Maybe this will be a lesson to her not to be such a golddigging superficial wench. Also it will prove to her that if it sounds too good to be true, most likely it is.

Had she emailed my alter-ego back with an angry email, then she would have been told that she is not up to the caliber in looks that I am used to.

Am I immature for doing this. Yes. But again, I did this not only to teach her a life lesson, but for me and all the below average, average, and even good-looking guys that get screwed around by women because we are actually good guys.

Johnathan(I think that is your name), you are my hero and I thank you for your great idea. You deserve a beer and a handshake!!

Major Tom

Major Tom, you have some really MAJOR issues with women. Since when is it YOUR job to teach women lessons?????

BTW I agree, this woman Tammy sounds shallow, actually sounds like some men I've talked to........ anyone can play that game, on or offline, and it doesn't take a genius to pull it off. Glad you feel so good about yourself though, maybe dating sites are just not for everyone (but I'm sure you've thought of that too:))

Rejection sucks for anyone, but I would hope most of us are adult enough to deal with it and move on. Life is too short to worry about teaching people lessons who won't get the message, now or ever. Yeah, I could think of a bigger waste of time, like watching paint dry.:)