Reviews of Lavalife

Major Tom, you have some really MAJOR issues with women. Since when is it YOUR job to teach women lessons?????

BTW I agree, this woman Tammy sounds shallow, actually sounds like some men I've talked to........ anyone can play that game, on or offline, and it doesn't take a genius to pull it off. Glad you feel so good about yourself though, maybe dating sites are just not for everyone (but I'm sure you've thought of that too:))

Rejection sucks for anyone, but I would hope most of us are adult enough to deal with it and move on. Life is too short to worry about teaching people lessons who won't get the message, now or ever. Yeah, I could think of a bigger waste of time, like watching paint dry.:)

Gather around my fellow disheartened men. Some of us are below average, some of us are average, and some of us are good looking, yet we are all made to feel like the Elephant Man when sending out smiles, emails or whatever to the women that frequesnt these sites. I have an interesting test I am doing to really illustrate the kind of women who joind these sites. No they aren't like us. Why:

Men join dating sites because we hate the stress of the bar scene and figured online dating would be a more straight forward way to meet women.

Women join the dating services because either they are really too hideous or too fat to get date OR they are looking for to proverbial rich, goodlooking, successful modelisque businessman/doctor/lawyer/etc.

So I wanted to do a test that would really prove this.

I created two profiles. One profile is both accurately depicts who I am as a person with various recent pictures so women can see what I look like and am like.

The other profile is fake. This profile is the stereotypical unrealistic rich businessman who is a world traveller and a model to boot(thanks to a model site I found and took a pic off of).

I emailed a woman who would be considered pretty, average body(not fat,not thin), and an average success for her age(32 I think). I contacted her with my real profile first and sent her a really well thought out email. Keep in mind she is as good looking a woman as I am a guy. She is also as successful in a career as I am, so pretty even match, right??? Nope, not in her eyes. She can't even be bother to email me back saying you sound nice but I am not interested. No she just deletes my email(I have a very nifty computer program that gives me this info).

So I email her with the fake profile. She immediately responds with an email with a high amount of interest. I can tell she can't wait to meet this model businessman. Here are the transsripts of her emails to MR. Model so far:

Cont next post!!!

On a technical level, I find Lavalife to be disappointing. The site freezes frequently, forcing me to log on twice. This has happened on multiple computers now, convincing me that it is not a problem with my computer.

I'd be interested in learning who else has experienced this.

like any wheres else on the Internet, Lavalife has it's idiots. I got through the first page of reviews basically running down the fake women, well, in all fairness, it's not easy for us to meet men either. This is NOT necessarily the fault of the people at Lavalife, it's the idiots who like to pull crap like videotaping women in intimate positions (not me fortunately UGH), block you as soon as you show them your picture, like DUH, we can make another account and see if that profile is still active. I sure wonder how men could think women were that stupid and have no feelings to hurt, but I guess it's no different than offline, disrespecting the opposite sex seems to be all too common. HHMMMM hint here, if a woman is over 40, likely she doesn't look like she's 20, now did that make sense or what??? lol

Like any other dating site, it's best to use COMMON SENSE, and YAH, MANNERS help too. Men and women are equally guilty in playing games, and I can't understand why some really gets such a kick out of hurting someone they don't know.

I will be honest I belive the site is strictly for sex. The common line is "Good luck with your search" Which clearly shows this is only for "Getting lucky" Best if you just want to get laid... Besides that dont bother. The amount of unattractive men there is staggering.

More on this (too lazy) is here http://www.sprnch.com/forums/showthread.php?t=6245

Just being honest.

Pure unbridled fantasy for people who think that perfection is waiting out there, just for them, at the other end of a modem. Never seen so many people with completely unrealistic expectations and demands from others when they in fact are sorely lacking in those very qulities themselves. I think it does work for those who are deluded enough to convince themselves that the person they have met is "the one". But isn't that how it works through normal channels as well? The odds are fairly bad and there are plenty of "lavalifers" who who will be there indefinitely.

Sorry to sound so bitter. Left a very bad taste in my mouth.

AB

after reading a number of the comments on here i feel like putting my 2 cents in first of all take lava for what it is...a medium through which you MAY meet someone..i don't believe i read any promises anywhere on the site secondly, there are good people there, but like actual "real" life it does take effort to find them... and being angry and bitter about "fake" profiles and unreturned smiles? grow up and move on..it happens to everyone all the time you either make the decision to spend the credits or you don't...and it is cheaper than a night out (at least in Toronto) and if i don't respond? it usually means i'm not interested and i have learned that responding even nicely only encourages the conversation i'm trying to avoid or maybe i'm busy..or tired...or just not paying as much attention as i should or maybe my kitchen just caught fire either way...i've met some wonderful people and some wonderfully strange people dated some,befriended others, and some i would cross the street to avoid but i always try to play nice...perhaps that's the secret

I used to have such a hard time finding dates on Match.com and the blind dates were painful. I found a good website that will hook you up with someone in your area to go on a double-date with. Me and my friend John went on a few double dates with women we met on Match.com and there was a lot less stress. The women seemed to feel safer too.

The website also has this thing called Profile Overhauler. I haven't done it yet, but I guess they write a profile for you using all of these marketing techniques that get your more dates. They also take these really good pictures. I might do it soon. Anyways, the website is overhauler.741.com

Happy Dating!

I decided to try out Lavalife because it worked well for a friend of mine.

The Positives: It on;y costs 6 credits to do the intial mail message, but messages after that are free.

Now the Negatvies:

Fake Profiles: They send you a smile, you send one back, and then you spend six credits to contact them. Then nothing. Good0-bye credits

Unrealistic women: Maybe this is just Kelowna and Vancouver, but the women on these sites are looking for the reformed bad buy turned good who is both rich and great looking. And these are from women who are from barely average to good looking. I am a pretty good looking guy but I am not a model, so apparently I am ugly.

Average Body: Women who say they are of Average Body type are always about 30 to 40 pounds overwieght. Every woman I met who said she is avaerage, is actually fat. So ladies if you are overwieght then state it. Average is not 30 to 40 pounds overweight.

Heres how it works. If she says,

Slim: this means she is slim or skinny

Athletic: This means she is in really good shape or what us men would consider average(good body, just not Miss Fitness)

Average: this means 30 to 40 pounds overwieght. Women who say they are average are actually fat.

Slightly Overweight: This really means 60 to 80 pounds overwieght.

BBW: BBW

Glamour Shots: Watch out for these ones. Sure the shots are done artistically in balck and white or against some kind of background, but the women never look that good. If the woman looks like an 8 out of ten, she is probably a 5 out of ten. However she looks in the glamout shot, minus that number by three.

For me, I spent approx $60 Canadian. Went on dates with women who lied about their body type. Had some wasted dates, and had a few one night stands. Was it worth it, if I just wanted to get laid, then yes. But, I wanted to meet someon who I could have a long term relationship with. Impossible.

So what now. I am meeting women by actually going out and doing activites. This was I can see exactly how they look and they can see exactly how I look. Much better.

SUBJECT: The problem not getting responses with Lavelife is the inability, or lack of effort from the site, to attract women.

I have experienced many of the same things people here have mentioned. For example getting no response (similes and messages) and having women disappear while knowing that I'm a decent looking guy, have a decent profile, and have not done anything wrong.

Just think of lavalife being a night club. Often clubs have an event like "ladies night" or specials like "Ladies drink free" in order to attract girls. Why for girls and not for men? Because where there are girls the guys want to go. And what do guys do when they get in a club? They buy drinks. A lot for themselves and some for the women there.

Well if we think of lavalife like a club and except for drinks we instead have credits. Now let’s face it, in this society men are generally expected to make the first move. And by this reasoning we would expect them to buy the bulk, but not all, of the credits. Just like in clubs they buy the bulk, but not all, of the drinks. But herein lies the problem, unlike a club where a guy can walk in and see that there are a way more men than women and simply leave, it is not readily apparent at lavalife that there are way more men than women on the site. (Just do a quick google search on men to women ratios on dating sites)

So the moral of the story is that to get girls to use your dating service (or visit your club) you have to do something to attract them. Guys usually search for women and women often try their best to attract guys (Just think - why do women take way longer to get ready than men??). So guys are going to go on lavalife as an extension of their search for women. Women won't search the sites they have to be enticed too. So with the above reasoning my theory as to why we not getting responses is simply:

- The Law of Supply and Demand.

Simply put there are more men on lavalife so women can be much more choosy.

But the reasoning does not stop here. (Please take note that the following are just theories of mine and may or may not be true) Now couple the supply and demand with other factors like:

1. Some women joined the site out of curiosity and never really would want to meet someone over the internet.

2. There are probably a few who are really crazy and just screwing around with fake profiles (not company created) to see how many responses they can get.

3. There are probably girls who like the attention they get from the site but don't really want to meet anyone there.

4. In all probability there exist a higher proportion of women online, especially the attractive ones, who have really high standards and unrealistic expectations so they will not respond to someone unless they are absolutely perfect.

5. Maybe some women are online because they are pissed off with men. They may have been hurt recently and now be in an "all guys are jerks stage" and therefore not receptive to men. They are looking for reason to reject rather than to accept guys who contact them.

6. And finally, some girls just don't like your profile or the way you look.

So add up all the above reasons and it is easy to see why so few responses are received.

So why does lavalife, or any other dating site for that matter, just simply make efforts to attract more women? Simple, Money. The more women that guys have to contact the more credits they spend. And then it gets like a casino mentality, oh I got a response from that girl but she is not receptive. So maybe the next six credits will be the real women I'm looking for. A lot of these sites are built on great marketing schemes and, what I assume to be, cheap overseas labor. Not quality services.

Not to be all negative I have met some nice women in person on Lavalife but not nearly what the marketing campaign promises. So this fall I think I'll try volunteering and maybe join a club or two. At least if I don't meet someone then I'll be helping someone in need and won't spend any hard earned dollars for a poor quality service.

So in the mean time for all you singles out there best of luck in your search for that special girl or guy. If you're on Lavalife you'll need it.