Reviews of Lavalife

Pros: I like the credit system, it means you are permitted to only pay for actual communications on their system, not for the time you spend being a member on their site. Also that you can write back free to another person's email. I like the category sytem-very good idea to place one's self in the relationship that they're looking for. Too bad that some people place themselves misguidedly in Relationship and then Intimate which is not analagous.

Cons: Where the heck is the Georgia memberbase around here ? I get zip responses and it seems like only Canadian natives are patronizing them. I live in the Atlanta suburbs, have profiles up in "Relationship" and "Dating" and don't hear from a soul IMO the problem is not mine. If I put myself in "Intimates" and still hear nothing, I'll know that I should just bury the hatchet.

It's been a good experience. I enjoy it but I hate the instant messaging system. Lavalife has enabled me to expand my circle, meet new people and try new experiences (like eating smoked salmon pizza, mmmmmmm). It's an efficient way to meet people, definitely.

There was one particular person I've exchanged smiles and emails with. At the beginning, he posted photos of himself openly showing his balding head. A few months later, his profile photo was stil there but with the top of his head cropped off. I saw him in a different section and you see only his face (the top and sides of his head cropped off). The irony is that he was open in his profile write up about his having herpes as well but he's not so open about his hairloss. Why try to even hide his baldness? It will come out sooner or later!

Ultimately, I never got around to meeting him because he had an Intimate Encounters profile. Shame on him...maybe that is how he caught it!

I did not really try Lava Life because I don't want to waste any money. I have tried Match.com during free trials and Eharmony for 3 months paid. Basically, I had zero luck with all of these sites. I know I'm not bad looking. Also, I own my own home and make enough money to hold my own. Other than that, It's "Don't ask and don't tell" as far as incomes goes. Basically, for a man to succeed on these sites, he has to either lie or make very good income in addition to having alot of time on his hands. Most working men never will meet someone via these sites.

Vonetta: some people have reasons for NOT posting pictures (mine is posted but that's MY choice) - it's too much of an invitation to certain unnamed ppl to post pictures out of People Weekly - um, like any of us should be that dumb right, but men and women will do it anyways.

Tammy's Dill-do - lol - like that one - yup, I think Major = Minor Tom is obsessed with this Tammy, but does posting on here over and over again about one person count as stalking??? Maybe someone will be kind enough to point her here and she can judge for herself. Who knows what else has been going on with regards to harassing this seemingly hopeless woman (at least according to the so called experts here she is lol). I agree, she should be left ALONE. Teaching "lessons" to someone who will not get the message isn't for THEIR benefit, it's for YOURS (because they won't understand anyways). BTW - you should NOT put yourself down, there is nothing wrong with being a craftsman, as long as you are gainfully employed. If you do that, then others will be less likely to see it in a good light too. Actually, I've never thought of it as good or bad, it's just another occupation like firefighter or bus driver. I don't know what kind of craftsman you are, but I understand most trades take years of training, skills and a lot of work.

My 2 cents worth - or worthless, that's the beauty of the internet, is the NEXT button:).

I like it. It's definitely an advantage to have an attractive photo of yourself on display because I do get alot of messages (I'm in the Dating category).

My gripe: Lavalife should not allow people with no pictures available to put up profiles.

Hey people, I put a profile on Intimate Encounters and I found a lover within 1 week. She sent a smile to me. Then I had to purchase 50 points for $15 from Lavalife. I sent her an email, we talked on the phone a couple of times, last night we hooked up with eachother. She's a very considerate lady and we shared a very special night of romance.

For the spin, I've always had good luck on Sexual personals sites. I know how to attract the attention of women, who want just good sex or to make love with a fun guy. Being a good-looking guy helps attract the attention of women but good looks don't please women.

I've never had a lot of luck on relationship based websites. This is because the (most of these) women who use these websites are more obsessed with material possessions and the guy's job. I'm employed as a craftsman and I make 50k a year, which is more than the national average. Still, this is not someones soulmate's line of work. Another fact is most of these women have never been loved the way they would like to be loved. So they don't really understand their romantic needs. The must gut-wretching fact is women don't come to fully understand their romantic need untill they're married but I'll save this factoid for another time.

I think the reason they don't like me on relationship sites is because I remind these women of a player. The fact is, I'll stick it out with whatever woman I meet untill I or She knows it won't work out between us.

Has anyone read Major Tom's articles about Tammy. Well, I was curious about Tammy so I did a search on Kelowna. (People, keep in mind that Kelowna is pretty small, roughly the same size as Yakima, Wa, Allentown, Pa, or Redding, Ca.) Tammy screen-name is TAMMY341 and she's about 36yo. Tammy is pretty but she's no supermodel and you can tell she is in her 30's. In my opinion, I think Tom is obsessed with Tammy. Romantic obsessions is unhealthy because the obsessionist ignores his/hers own needs. Hopefully Tom doesn't start stalking Tammy.

Tom my message to you is: leave Tammy alone. She's a burnt out Spinster and she wouldn't ever make a good lover for any self-respecting guy. She could be into Strap-ons and that's why she's single. Basically, there is a reason someone is 36yo and still single.

Now for the emails to my fake profile THE MODEL BUSINESSMAN and out emails back and forth:

You inspire me. Do you like sailing?

Tom

Thank you!! thats a nice thing to say!!

Never been sailing....heard it was quite fun!! Would eventually like to try it!

Tammy

Early day today for me. So have you had much luck meeting men that you like? I recently signed up to meet someone outside of my business circle. So tell me about yourself.

Tom

I have met some nice guys on here...but nothing has evolved apart from meeting some new friends!!

Tell you about myself...hmmm...that could take a long time....so I wil start by telling you what I like about myself!!

I have a wicked sense of humour! A friend of mine says that I have a the sense of humour of a 12 year old boy! Whatever that means....but I try to see the humour in what I do...at times it keeps me sane! I like the fact that I love a good conversation...not the surface stuff...but the conversations that could last for hours and I learn something! I work hard...but I can also play hard. I try to keep balance in my life....and know what is not so good about me...and still think its ok!!!

I love adventure, and challenging myself. I love what I do for a living...but would like to find a way to work for myself and achieve all of those goals I have set...however,...I am definately looking up a huge mountain with a long way to go!!!

Anyway...tell me about what you do!

Tammy

I am a business man who owns a string of restaurants in Vancouver and am now expanding to Kelowna. In my free time, I love to travel to various tropical and semi-tropical locations such as Hawaii, Puerto Vallarta, Southeast Asia, and occasionally Australia(as I was born and grew up there).

I think we should meet, but I am unsure where. Do you have any ideas?

Tom

I spent 10 years in Brisbane!! Well actually 2 years in Brisbane and the rest in Toowoomba!! Something in common!!

What restaraunt?? there are a couple of new ones opening in here in town...you have me curious!!

I think we should meet too! where abouts in Kelowna are you located? By the way...my name is Tammy!

Tammy

Excellent. How did you like Brisbane? Brisbane is my homecity and where I went to university. I went to the University of Queensland for my undergraduate degree. I can't really say at this point, as no one who knows me will know until it is open. Hopefully it'll be able to compete with the vast competition.

I live in upper mission. I can't meet tonight as I have an important meeting with the owner of Mission Hill, but tommorrow evening would be much better for me. We should meet for dinner, my treat. I was thinking of a quaint place called De Montreuil. How does this sound? I believe they have some form of dress code so you may wish to wear something appropraite to accent your beauty.

Tom

I loved Brisbane!! Way better than Toowoomba!! I even spent two weeks at the U of Q and have some great memories!! Great Campus!

A man of mystery! Ok...you can have your secrets!! Just remember I am entitled to mine!!

Tomorrow night is not a good night for me! I am an avid Dragon Boater and I have two practices to complete tomorrow evening. How does Friday sound??

Upper Mission! Wow...another thing we have in common! I love the area! I am assuming you are close to Kettle Valley:? I am in South Ridge ....just above the Quarry!

Thanks for the compliment and I will try to wear something appropriate if friday works for you. I look forward to finding out what got you to where you are!!

Tammy

(GOLDDIGGER):)

My meeting went well and I was able to make an exclusive agreement regarding a specific type of wine that only my restaurant will carry.

I see that you've IMed me but have a program on this computer that it will cause havok with.

Friday will work well for me. Choose a time in the evening that will suit you and we can meet at the restaurant I mentioned. We will save how I got to where I am for when we meet.

Tom

Way to go with Mission Hill! Hope its one of their better ones! You must be pleased!

I have to work in Penticton on Friday and won't get in until 6. Is 7 pm too late??

I have something to look forward to now!!

Tammy

It is one of their better wine and one that actually hasn't been released to the public yet. Why don't we make it a late supper and meet at 8:00pm?

Tom

alright!!! 8 pm....see you then!

Tammy

Hi Tammy. I'll see you then as well. If you get there before me could you get a table for us. I'd really appreciate that.

Tom

No problem!

Tammy

So her it is so far. Of course Tom will not show up. Tammy will end up ordering a drink, waiting and waiting. Will she wait for 1/2 hour or a full hour.

Some of you may think I am a bastard for doing this. Maybe, but I am doing this for all of us guys who have been stood up by self obsessed women. This one is a golddigger and superficial. And vain too!

I'll update this when she send the The Model/ Businessman a pissed off email once she gets home after being stood up. If women can play the game, so can we guys. Maybe she'll learn not to be so superficial.

Oh and I love the fact that she will atcually have to take time to get all dressed up!!!

I read that post from sprnch.com and found myself confused by the writers sentence structure. Then I followed the last posters REC and tried sprnch.com. To keep it short, I wasn't impressed by the site. You should know there is something wrong with sprnch.com, when most of the profiles on sprnch.com are using a model's picture.

As they say, you get what you pay for. If posting a bunch of messages on a website in order to attract attention to youself is your thing, then sprnch.com is the site for you. Just beware, with sprnch.com you'll be dealing with the internets most insecure freaks, who are out to lambast as many posts as possible. Then couple in the fact you'll be dealing with fakes of epic proportions.

Sprnch.com is just the kind of site that will make a person appreciate match.com and lavalife.

Lavalife cant compete to sprnch.com I thought lavalife was a good site but they designed it to make money not meet people. Sprnch to me is awosme to actually meet people. lavalife vs. sprnch.com ? Sorry Sprnch wins.

Well I've read several comments on this site now from men who have been slighted by women on lavalife and who have beefs about honesty and such and I felt compelled to respond with my own opinions. Just like women who are fake, who don't respond to e-mails, who block etc.,... let me tell you there are men who do the same thing!! Just like women stretch the truth about their weight, men stretch the truth about their height. I can't tell you how many men i've met who put their height as 5'6" and when we walked beside each other into a restaurant, I was taller than he was (I'm 5'2"... 5'3" with normal everyday walking shoes)I'd say at least 6 men now who were shorter than me and lied about it. Similar to women, very very few men actually look like their pictures. And by the way, back to the weight thing with women.... I'm sorry, but 30 extra pounds IS average for North American women, you just haven't noticed because you were too busy looking at all the skinny women and have ignored the average women because of their weight. Just as you say women are golddiggers looking for tall dark and handsome, men only want gorgeous, athletic, and super slim, they don't care about women's brains, achievements or goals in life. Case in point, Just as Major Tom did his little experiment -- which btw, my opinion on that is simply, she wasn't interested in your boring profile, suck it up! -- I have also put a second profile on LL in order to determine a guy's true intentions, and while he was telling me he wasn't interested in dating anyone else but me, he was responding to my fake profile telling her how excited he was about how much they had in common and sending nasty grams when the fake profile didn't continue the interaction, I got what I needed - the truth and deleted it. Ooh.. here's another experience I had, a guy who played me big time, chatted with me for several weeks, set up a date on the phone for the next night at a restaurant and then stood me up! Well about 6 weeks later he messages me again as if he's never ever talked to me before, when I lambasted him for his rudeness and inconsideration, he had the gall to tell me he's never ever talked to me before, even though I told him his hotmail address, his cell phone number, knew all about his work, his home, etc, because he told me all of this, and I even sent him our msn conversations that we had and he still maintains that it wasn't him I was talking to. Yes, everything I knew about him was accurate, but he didn't set up a date with me... what kind of game is that??

So for all the beefs on here from men and their experiences, there are equally as many from women. My opinion of lavalife is that there are a lot of game players, players in general, married people looking for attention, people with low self-esteem looking for attention (both men and women) and there are a lot of people who are just normal looking to meet the right one, unfortunately we have to weed through the idiots and take the good with the bad. In 3 years I've met over 50 men, some just for the sake of meeting, a friday night date etc., some i've met I wished would have become more. Some have wished they could have got more from me. Either way, I still haven't found the one yet, and LL is a great format for making introductions - what you do with those introductions is up to you. But the best advice is just not to stoop to their level and maintain your integrity. When you're not interested in someone, politely tell them thanks for the interest but your looking for something different, there's far too many cowards out there already that give online dating a bad name.

From an "average" person, looking for another "average" person.