Reviews of Lavalife

For what it's worth, I like the bar scene, meeting in supermarkets, at work, or whatever. I am been very successful at it, and met my husband that way. Losers can't handle the real life dating scene, so they run for the internet. For all you complaining narcissistic bitch females that can't seem to find anybody and wonder why all the attractive men on the planet don't throw themselves at your feet, did YOU ever think of asking an attractive man out? If YOU are as great as you think you are, you wouldn't need the internet in the first place. Internet dating has been a scam since it's inception that targets the losers of society. You can bilk the desperate over and over, it seems. This is in contrast to a REAL marriage agency that costs real money to join and sends losers that can't be matched right back out the door. Try Valenti International, if you have the membership fee and qualifications. Otherwise, honey, it's learn some social skills and make yourself visible and available. Otherwise, it's just your lot in life to stew in internet hell, and I for one have no problem in seeing people get what they deserve. I like the internet because it gives losers a hope of success and keeps them out of the way of the movers and shakers that really do end up meeting and creating a life together. The internet dating sites are as good as its members, so that should tell you something. People who even refuse to post a photo or write more than a two-sentence profile and leave after making a couple of halfhearted searches without deleting their profile. That allows the site owners to give a false idea of an expansive membership base. May those members rot in internet hell, and I think it's a good place to park their loser ass out of my sight anyway. May the owners of the websites party on your membership fees.

Most websites have folded up, and Lavalife will untimately be no exception. The owners of the websites really have only two problems: convincing you to sign up, and convincing you to renew a subscription. About 80% of the fees are collected from loser males, and even higher percentages from places like Friend Finder. For a month's subscription fee, you can go to a bar and buy drinks and have 1000 percent better change of meeting an interesting person. Just don't buy that first drink unless somebody you are interested in is there. There are lots of other bars to try out in a night's time.

Sorry Anon. but who do you feel you are really fooling? It's obvious that you are a represenative for the Lavalife. Why are you giving out advice on how one should spend their money? BTW, It is common in most cultures for men to make the initiative. It is not foolish for a women to wait to see how interested the guy is, as this is possibly but probably unlikely representative of his intentions. Yes, it makes perfectly good sense to you the business owner for women to buy credits but a few dollars is usually not the issue. My opinion is that this site attracts the exact crowd you would find in a 'meat market' bar scene. It's just more convienent for a guy to sit at his desk and shop. If your intentions are to only start a friendship forget it, guys seem to get pissed at that. I haven't met one who did not come on strong...and why doesn't anyone look like the pic.s they post? I would agree that this is a huge waste of time if you are looking for any quality relationships. I'm pretty sure, and even heard it from some guy friends, that the guys on LL keep a score card.

This site is okay. The biggest problem is the bad layout and crammed website design. You can't use the back button on this site either. I don't have a problem with the "pay as you go model" where you buy credits rather than a recurring subscription.

The local search logic is pretty messed up. In my local searches I get a majority of women in British Columbia. That is just not "local" to where I live in the Seattle area. To get a real local search you have to do a lot of fiddling with the custom search interface. I messaged back and forth with a few women and it didn't end up in any dates. One of them wanted to screen me in a Yahoo IM session and after that I never talked with her again. Eventually I met someone on this site who I had a year and half relationship with. I'm sure that was purely by random chance.

For men, you will get a lot of smiles from women in Russia who are 99% likely to be scammers. I got a lot from places like the Phillipines too.

I think relationship between man and women is most important,a man should always treat a women nice and with love and respect,who stands by her in bad and good times and takes care of all her necessities. He should give her all the love he can so that she feels like the luckiest person on this earth.

well it seems as though Online dating is the way to go these days,or is it? meeting someone is Just a click of the mouse away, everything is done at the snap of ones fingers---ahh the new wave of speed dating....... with EVERYONE (including myself) saying they are tired of the "bar" scene.....as Aforementioned by others on here, the setup for Lava seems simple and almost fair enough, gobbling up 6 credits at a time as you leave messages.....and dont even bother with the instant message service- what a compleste waste.......

and yes Ive clicked on MANY that "matched" my personality - sending the Backastaged pass/ pic , introduction paragraph with the send a "smile" happy meal pre-packaged pick up line attached.....(*roll eyes*)

The guys to gals ratio looks at about 2:1 so gals have their pick of the litter, Dime a dozen I guess.....- hey It works in the ladies favor, they dont have to spend on ANY credits, just show an average pic with some tight elegant clothing and watch my smiles and messages climb up.....ha ha...all the power to them..Oh yeah ----guys, game over if you have a single Flaw-----the next guy is waiting right behind you-

"I am searching for a PROFESSIONAL man who is Honest and trustworthy"-- -Yep another 20 guys send roses with their picture attached.....dont tell me that all professional guys didnt have to step on a few fingers to get where they are in life either....

I too consider myself not a bad looking guy, maybe Im too nice of a guy? maybe im not honest and Trustworthy? I train alot work out- stay in shape---maybe if I had Blond hair and ice blue eyes it might increase my results- oh well Life isnt fair heh?

Ive had better luck actually going out and meeting people, that way they can truely see who you are in person.....oh well yea Ive spent the last of my cash this week on that site-I honestly given it a fair enough chance -I think.....chance after chance glimmer of hope? nope ---for a while there I was that Donkey (aka:jackA$$)Chasing the carrot. yes Lava has left me with a Bitter taste in my mouth, so I had to vent...... well time to suck it up move on and try something new again.

Today I feel to tell my opinion... don't dream to much online system dating,in general, no matter if it's Lavalife or other phone system like that, but you don't have to expect a lot of serious people... I never found a very good one man may be, for the other I don't know but, for me it was not. I lost enough time on it. of corse, the girls don't pay money, but they can paid by a lot of energy. And sometimes it could be the same for many men who can pay by this also... so much energy. I think that subscribe to a private agency will be a more successfull because they filter the people before you can meet someone, and excactly I am not sure but if you think this, a very serious person don't waste a time to go to an agency for nothing, it seems more serious. Anyway, I will try by this way now.

N.B.: deeply, nothing is for nothing into a life so, Girls if you don't pay, is it because you are a trap for the hungry men !

I've only been on Lavalife for a short time, but to this point, what a waste of time. The instant messaging service seems to be nothing more than a way of enticing you to use up your credits.

Some 3 or 4 times so far, I have opened conversations with people that seem to match me, to virtually be ignored. If people don't wish to speak to you, why should you have to pay the credits ? You should only pay when an actual conversation occurs, not when someone says "hello", and thats the whole of the conversation for 10 minutes!

I hope it improves, or I may as well just go back to IRC.

ciao

To Sad Girl,

You mention this guy strung you along for a year (or six months)but regardless, I am not sure I completely understand. Did you actually go out together for that long, or just talk by phone or email? It may seem like a silly question, but I just wanted to clarify. If you actually went out for 6 months to a year and he decided you were not right for each other, I don't see how you can blame Lava. No dating site can guarantee a lasting relationship. That is completely up to the two people involved.

And don't feel sad because this one didn't work out at Lava or any other site. Brush your self off and move on. You will find that special someone one day, but you wont do it by feeling sorry for yourself or waiting for someone to come knocking on your door.

Take care

Hi,

I joined lava a year ago. To whoever reads this, please don't waste your time or money on this system. You will be truly disappointed. It's okay for meeting people but not for meeting the right one. The men on that site are not really serious. I was disappointed to find that most of the educated men on that site where very immature. I met one guy who strung me along for a year. He told me he was serious about meeting someone and he wasn't. He threw me a classic line of "Let's be friends and see where it goes" meanwhile he was not interested to begin with and already had someone in his life. I kept on asking him early on in the game where it was going and he was not honest with me until I had fallen for him. I should have seen the signs but I foolishly trusted his word. This went on for 6 months until he announced to me that it wasn't going anywhere.

Other people I know have had similar experiences.

Do yourselves a favor and do something more worthwhile than waste your time on that system.

I find Lavalife very useful for meeting new guys. The last time I was on the dating scene was at the beginning of the 1990's (2 long relationship back to back). I like the thrill of meeting guys for the first date but I had a very coincidence happening to me. I had just started a new job and was at lunch with my new colleague when I found out she had a date with the same guy I had a date with the day before. Well, turns out that it is the name of the game and things like that are pretty common. Needless to say that I'm very unconfortable with the serial dating thing so maybe the online dating concept is not for me. I advise women to take the guys very lightly on Lavalife. Some of them will lead you on to believe that you're the only one (yeah right) just to get you where they want. And don't freak out if he's dating your colleague! And to be honest, I would never date a guy who has an Intimate profile on Lavalife... It's way too creepy. If you want encounters, go out there, get drunk and get some. And yes, for the curious, I'm still dating my double-dater... I want to see his reaction when he finds out that his secret is out in the open.