Reviews of Lavalife

well it seems as though Online dating is the way to go these days,or is it? meeting someone is Just a click of the mouse away, everything is done at the snap of ones fingers---ahh the new wave of speed dating....... with EVERYONE (including myself) saying they are tired of the "bar" scene.....as Aforementioned by others on here, the setup for Lava seems simple and almost fair enough, gobbling up 6 credits at a time as you leave messages.....and dont even bother with the instant message service- what a compleste waste.......

and yes Ive clicked on MANY that "matched" my personality - sending the Backastaged pass/ pic , introduction paragraph with the send a "smile" happy meal pre-packaged pick up line attached.....(*roll eyes*)

The guys to gals ratio looks at about 2:1 so gals have their pick of the litter, Dime a dozen I guess.....- hey It works in the ladies favor, they dont have to spend on ANY credits, just show an average pic with some tight elegant clothing and watch my smiles and messages climb up.....ha ha...all the power to them..Oh yeah ----guys, game over if you have a single Flaw-----the next guy is waiting right behind you-

"I am searching for a PROFESSIONAL man who is Honest and trustworthy"-- -Yep another 20 guys send roses with their picture attached.....dont tell me that all professional guys didnt have to step on a few fingers to get where they are in life either....

I too consider myself not a bad looking guy, maybe Im too nice of a guy? maybe im not honest and Trustworthy? I train alot work out- stay in shape---maybe if I had Blond hair and ice blue eyes it might increase my results- oh well Life isnt fair heh?

Ive had better luck actually going out and meeting people, that way they can truely see who you are in person.....oh well yea Ive spent the last of my cash this week on that site-I honestly given it a fair enough chance -I think.....chance after chance glimmer of hope? nope ---for a while there I was that Donkey (aka:jackA$$)Chasing the carrot. yes Lava has left me with a Bitter taste in my mouth, so I had to vent...... well time to suck it up move on and try something new again.

Today I feel to tell my opinion... don't dream to much online system dating,in general, no matter if it's Lavalife or other phone system like that, but you don't have to expect a lot of serious people... I never found a very good one man may be, for the other I don't know but, for me it was not. I lost enough time on it. of corse, the girls don't pay money, but they can paid by a lot of energy. And sometimes it could be the same for many men who can pay by this also... so much energy. I think that subscribe to a private agency will be a more successfull because they filter the people before you can meet someone, and excactly I am not sure but if you think this, a very serious person don't waste a time to go to an agency for nothing, it seems more serious. Anyway, I will try by this way now.

N.B.: deeply, nothing is for nothing into a life so, Girls if you don't pay, is it because you are a trap for the hungry men !

I've only been on Lavalife for a short time, but to this point, what a waste of time. The instant messaging service seems to be nothing more than a way of enticing you to use up your credits.

Some 3 or 4 times so far, I have opened conversations with people that seem to match me, to virtually be ignored. If people don't wish to speak to you, why should you have to pay the credits ? You should only pay when an actual conversation occurs, not when someone says "hello", and thats the whole of the conversation for 10 minutes!

I hope it improves, or I may as well just go back to IRC.

ciao

To Sad Girl,

You mention this guy strung you along for a year (or six months)but regardless, I am not sure I completely understand. Did you actually go out together for that long, or just talk by phone or email? It may seem like a silly question, but I just wanted to clarify. If you actually went out for 6 months to a year and he decided you were not right for each other, I don't see how you can blame Lava. No dating site can guarantee a lasting relationship. That is completely up to the two people involved.

And don't feel sad because this one didn't work out at Lava or any other site. Brush your self off and move on. You will find that special someone one day, but you wont do it by feeling sorry for yourself or waiting for someone to come knocking on your door.

Take care

Hi,

I joined lava a year ago. To whoever reads this, please don't waste your time or money on this system. You will be truly disappointed. It's okay for meeting people but not for meeting the right one. The men on that site are not really serious. I was disappointed to find that most of the educated men on that site where very immature. I met one guy who strung me along for a year. He told me he was serious about meeting someone and he wasn't. He threw me a classic line of "Let's be friends and see where it goes" meanwhile he was not interested to begin with and already had someone in his life. I kept on asking him early on in the game where it was going and he was not honest with me until I had fallen for him. I should have seen the signs but I foolishly trusted his word. This went on for 6 months until he announced to me that it wasn't going anywhere.

Other people I know have had similar experiences.

Do yourselves a favor and do something more worthwhile than waste your time on that system.

I find Lavalife very useful for meeting new guys. The last time I was on the dating scene was at the beginning of the 1990's (2 long relationship back to back). I like the thrill of meeting guys for the first date but I had a very coincidence happening to me. I had just started a new job and was at lunch with my new colleague when I found out she had a date with the same guy I had a date with the day before. Well, turns out that it is the name of the game and things like that are pretty common. Needless to say that I'm very unconfortable with the serial dating thing so maybe the online dating concept is not for me. I advise women to take the guys very lightly on Lavalife. Some of them will lead you on to believe that you're the only one (yeah right) just to get you where they want. And don't freak out if he's dating your colleague! And to be honest, I would never date a guy who has an Intimate profile on Lavalife... It's way too creepy. If you want encounters, go out there, get drunk and get some. And yes, for the curious, I'm still dating my double-dater... I want to see his reaction when he finds out that his secret is out in the open.

this is without doubt the best dating site on the internet.. and trust me, i am a member on alot of sites (not desperate lol, looking for friends in my new location haha). unike most payed (which is the only way to go) sites like these, it does not charge a monthly fee, but uses a credit system.. which is good, because on sites like these you may not see anyone you like for a month, at least with lavalife you are not paying for the "chance" but only for contacts you initiate. so you could go 2 months before you find someone you could click with without any charge until you initiate that 1st contact.

I have seen negative reviews submitted about this site, and every one of them mentions that it is because they are not getting messages or replies.. WELCOME TO THE INTERNET lol.. it is a fact that not everyone like everyone, and if you sign up to any dating site, thinking that you are going to be guarunteed a match, you are facing a losing battle.. it does happen, but not for everyone. I have made a large number of friends via this website, i have also wasted many credits contacting some people (that even winked at me 1st) to find they were not actually interested, or were passive clickers, who smiled at everyone in the hope of finding someone.. but then being picky after that lol.

the only downside to this site, and it is in no way a lavalife problem from the business/website side.. is that the majority (especially women) of people sign up for free without any intention to pay. they will smile at people they actually like, but wont spend money to contact them (i can see a good future with these people lol) so you may find that you are buying yourself with the credits for them lol. on that note lol... If you are a member, and someone smiles at you, smile back.. if they are truly interested, they will buy credits and get back to you, if they are not prepared to buy credits and contact you.. let them go back onto their hunting spree..who needs freeloaders haha... on the other hand.. if you smile and they smile back.. you initiated an interest, buy and or use credits and contact them.

this is the only downside to this site.. otherwise it is well maintained, have great customer service, ha sa good database of active members (and a good one of non active also lol, but you will find that everywhere).

10 out of 10 for Lavalife for service and experience.. good luck to other companies who try to compete (sure match.com makes more money, but they also lose more members).. i rather lavalife which retains members longer while still attracting new ones.

Hey folks,

I'm fairly new to the online dating thing. I am currently only registered with Lavalife and don't plan on going with any of the other sites (mostly because I like the credit system). I am a graduate student in a fairly male dominated program and I am not from the area where I am currently studying. I have found this site to be really useful in getting to know girls in other departments across campus that I wouldn't have otherwise come into contact with. I also found it useful in quickly getting into and building social circles that would normally have taken 2-3 times as long to form. Which is a lot harder to do as a graduate student than as an undergrad.

I've read every single review of Lavalife on this site and was quite amused. More than half of these reviews are of disgruntled guys that rejected this medium of meeting people. Here are some words of wisdom for you guys:

- Lavalife is not the end all and be all to finding someone, its only just something else that you do in your spare time to have a little fun on the side with every thing else in your life.

- When a girl sends you a smile and you are interested, send them a SHORT email back (3-5 lines). It should reflect something of you where two of you share common interests and maybe one burning question you have of them which should reflect why you are interested. Don't reveal anything to them you don't have to (i.e. don't give out your email on first contact because the sport of it on her side is lost - sounds stupid but its' TRUE). If they were interested enough to cue you then if you reveal one aspect of yourself (i.e value, likes, places you like to hang out ... etc.) and perhaps a question or two then they should be interested enough to get back to you. Don't throw your heart out on the line, be patient and let things unfold naturally just like you would any where else.

- If after a few emails if doesn't work either you were TOO eager or the two of you just didn't simply connect which is good cause it just saves the two of you time and effort in the long run.

Overall I give Lavalife a good rating, sensibly speaking: treat it for what it is.

I just love love love it when a man says 'Yes I'm in Intimate Encounters but I'm only in there to meet new people...not seeking one-night stands.' Yeah right!!! Guys, it's pointless to say you are in that section for honorable reasons!

Anyways, I am strictly in the Dating section and I've had no problems with anyone I have chosen to meet there. They were all nice and pleasant and I have made some new friendships from them too. I do recommend it.

There are jerks in there too but I often find out when I'm getting to know them through email and chat before I decide to not meet them. Dont be afraid to say 'no thanks' if someone makes you feel uneasy or if you are simply not interested.

My first impressions were fine, it wasn't too expensive, there seemed to be more women from my area than I first expected since I come from a smaller town. Unfortunately it wasn't long before I got my first few smiles sent to me, thinking that this meant they were interested (what a concept) I of course sent replies using credits. Well needless to say, no response, this happened several times and finally I mentioned in my profiles not to send a smile if you aren't interested. Well that didn't work (should have known). Next I put it in upper case letters so as to be unmitakable in my opening line, my first opening line rejection email was the reply. Had one person send me a smile so that I would message her as it turns out she wanted to tell me how much she hated my opening line.

Lava changed it's payment policy, instead of charging more, they increased the needed credits, so anyone that had credits got screwed frankly. We had 30 days to use them up. This is why lava now has a credit system that doesn't match messages. Like so many others I am still with 2 credits and will never buy more.

I have profiles in Dating and intimate encounters, seems some here think that shouldn't be. But hey, I use the same name in both and point out I have 2 profiles, if the woman is too lazy to read the other, that isn't my problem.

I spend more time fighting with lava over the wording of my opening line than anything else. I don't know where they get thier sceeners from, but they are incredible prudes.