Reviews of eHarmony

Here is my story: I have been a member for 6 months and had tons of matches. I would personally write each match an email, no more than 200 words. In that email I would ask questions, talk about all that was contained in their profile and be genuinely engage in what they had to say in their profile. (Yes, I read every word in my matches profiles). WHAT a waste of time and money! Out of about 150 hand written emails or so, I only got two people to respond. One stood me up for a face to face date and then called me the next day and said she was sick. I said that was okay and said lets just reschedule when she felt better. I called her about a week later and she said "I moved, sorry". The other gal, a real nut case too... a scientist.... she would never want to meet even after 25 emails back and forth and two phone calls. I invited her to a public event and then she said... "we have different views on religion and science, I am bowing out." Funny thing was we had very little conversations about religion and science so I did not understand that statement at all. So here I am... reviewing Eharmony. I am not a jock looking type, I don't spend my time watching sports or at bars, I am not fat, and I have lived an interesting life. I am not like most men, I am not looking to get laid and just have sex... I seek a much deeper relationship then that! I was married for 16 years, have a great son and have a pretty good friendship with my ex. I can say I was blessed with this :) I am shorter then most men (5'2"). But this has allowed me to partake in a professional sport. I moonlighted as a race horse jockey while I worked my other professional job. (I am not a cowboy or redneck) I lived overseas for many years too, in a really unique part of the world. I happen to speak Russian too... I know I am not that good looking of a man, I think I am cute, but it seems San Francisco (Bay Area) women only seek the George Clooney types and none want a real serious relationship that wold lead to marriage. I know I will find a mate, but she will not be on eharmony or any other dating site. What I have noticed is there is an extreme impressionable touch to dating sites like eharmony. A massive superficial filter is deployed by people when someone views a profile on eharmony. I am a good man and have a track record of such... So Eharmony and match... I am done with you, I am done writing first contact emails in which I put a lot of thought into it and effort only to be totally ignored because I don't fit the mold... I am tired of being judged through the lens of women with a George Clooney template over their eyes! I have better things to do!

I agree with the gentleman who said eharmony is just a tool and it's up to you how you use it. You do have to make some effort and reach out to people. I used their black site http://www.eharmony.com/black-dating and after narrowing down my matches had a good experience.

EHarmony is a tool and you have to employ your intelligence and judgment to use it to your advantage. It is unrealistic to think that this service will stroke your ego or deliver up perfect mate material every time.
As a person who had not been in the dating world for many years, I learned a lot about myself and men my age from my experiences. The men I met (and got to the dating stage with) were nice, good looking, smart, and successful. But I had to sift through the unsuitable matches and work through all the questions, etc., with these guys I eventually dated. After about nine months of this I met a man with whom I clicked. We are still seeing each other more than a year later, and it is a nice relationship. I appreciated e-Harmony's system for protecting my personal details until I was ready. You can either work e-Harmony or you can complain that it is worthless. Your choice.

Even one star is being generous. I have tried Match, Plenty of Fish and eharmony is no different- just horrible.

The entire Internet Dating scene is no different than sitting in a bar taking chances.

Just because the fatherly figure who advertises that eharmony does all those things is truly a joke.

I paid for three months - and no one ever contacted me. Once some guy looked- but that is ALL. My so-called matches never lived near me and some lived at least 100 to 300 miles away.

Guess I am done with the entire Internet dating thing- no one is honest and pictures are out of date. Sad commentary about our society.

I am so discouraged.

Just horrible, I am very active slim and healthy girl, been matched with fat couch potatoes gross individuals who I would not even give a second look in real life,... Gross!
And I paid for that service,!

Aaron in West Virginia (dating in West Virginia, ok), congrats on being one of one in 10,000 to find someone on Eharmony. It has always been my contention that those who are average looking with lower standards stand the best chance of finding a mate on Eharmony. In the spirit of that 100% accurate statement, please provide a link to pictures of yourself and your bride to be. I'm by no means a model but am a cute guy and has always dated cute girls outside of eharmony. The matches I got were not remotely attractive or a match for me, so I want to see what you and your significant other look like. It may shed more light onto the situation. Thanks, and have a great Christmas

I am a Christian in LA and thought now in the dating realm, let's deal with a more religious based organization that says they will match you to your better match. Ha!!! I like gardening, but I happen to be a very active person and very social, they hooked me up with a dry seed farmer from Montana that in his spare time likes to watchTV alone. Really?

Then the next was the biggest jerk that said he has dated over 100 women in the last year, and did I shoot porn as I am a photographer , and his skydiving buddies have their, so not kidding his words, His bitches, showing up.

And on top of that didn't get a hit for over a month as hamony gave my wrong email address. This is so the biggest rip ever EVER!!! They don't check out anyone. Girls please be careful they really don't check people, don't be fooled by the ... whatever. Be careful, this is not a good site.

Complete waste of time! Not even worthy of (1) star, but then zero isn't an option.

I'm petite, fit, educated, considered attractive by most and make 6-figures. Most of the matches they send me are truck drivers or short, bald and overweight and they pay no attention to your filters. When you call they say, "It's what's on the inside." Right! Well, sad but true no one looks across the room at someone and says, " Wow! he looks kind" or "Gee, I bet she's smart!" It's physical appearance that attracts you and then personality.

After a month, I am now being constantly matched with men who are not members. No one looks at my profile and all the matches haven't been on for over three weeks. When I finally close someone out, they never close me. I asked why they continue to match me with inactive members and their response was for MORE money, I could upgrade to an Elite eHarmony membership. Really? Pay more money to produce the same dismal results. They said we'll match you with (10) people in the first two weeks that meet your physical criteria. OK. What happens after two weeks. The membership is for a year. You then start sending over the bottom of the barrel again? No answer...Someone needs to expose this company for fraud. Someone should join Elite eHarmony and then have a national media outlet go through the (1) year membership process with them. I'm confident, it doesn't work either. Every time you call, they tell you how people are meeting and falling in love, sure they are. What do they look like? What kind of income do they generate? Are they so worn out from looking that they simply settle?

I am not sure where everybody else went wrong when they used Eharmony. I am getting married next Oct to the girl I met 2 years ago on Eharmony. I believe where people start going wrong is #1 They do not know what they are truly looking for. #2. When they do "think" they know what they want, they switch it up in the middle of looking for someone, and #3 They are way to picky and are probably looking for someone who looks like a barbie doll with money. This site is not one of those you go on to just find anybody. This site actually compares your answers to others trying to match you, and then gives you questions to ask the other person to see if you like their responce. Then if all goes well, and you both agree to talk, you start communicating by email and then it goes from their. EVERY person has their flaws, nobody is perfect, but the people that you do meet may have 90 percent of what your looking for but its the 10 percent of flaws that person has that people look at and that is why they missed out on finding someone who can make them happy. Advice: Make your standards real, make your goals real and be honest.

Well I'm glad I read these reviews! I made an account just today, but after reading so many bad reviews I decided to close my account. I think I'm able to get a refund since I closed it before 7 days, so hopefully I don't get any charges! I can't believe I was about to pay for this!!