Reviews of Match.com

Thumbs down for match.com

I am a fairly nice-looking black guy living in Austin, TX. I have not went on one date or even received one phone number.

I think most of the profiles are fake. But I also think there is a problem with the way match, uh, helps you match what you are looking for.

For example. As I said, I am a black guy with a good career. But I think my race is stopping me from going out on dates. Most of the profiles I see are women who, when they check the race of the man they are seeking, often check white, hispanic, or asian. And the profiles that check "no preference" usually never email me back.

You can't blame a woman for liking what she likes. I just wish match.com would add a search engine to their site which would let you know which women really would date a black guy so you dont have to go through so many profiles to see which women would give you a chance based on your race.

I'm a generally optimistic person, but I agree with all the negative observations that crop up again and again in these reviews. However, I think that in a review forum like this, it is important to sort the gripes you have with a particular site from the comments about the members.

As for me, suffice to say that I have a very hard time convincing people why I've never been married. (A nosy older co-worker with whom I shared a room at a recent conference kept on observing me closely for three days, trying to figure this out, with not- so- subtle baits and outright questions. She all but asked "what's WRONG with you?" :) ) I'm what is considered great "wife" material - attractive and a curvy size 8, friendly, good cook, no substance abuse, healthy, emotionally stable, responsible, etc. (I'm also childless and have a somewhat flexible schedule.) Incredible as it may sound to many people, the simplest answer is the correct one here - I've never met a guy I've wanted to marry.

What am I looking for, one might ask. In my Match profile, I clearly stated what qualities I find fascinating in a man and included several clear photos of myself. It appeared that the vast majority of the guys who responded had either not read my profile information, or were arrogant (?) enough to think that the stated qualities were irrelevant. How difficult is it to find a smart, friendly, sane, Engineer type guy? (I'm in a scientific field and get on well with techie guys.) Most guys who contacted me were decades older than me (including a man who stated his age as 88), and subliterate. They also seemed to have given up on life, and appeared to want a woman to take care of them in their old age. My quest for a smart, vigorous, interesting guy with whom I could travel places and attend classical music concerts could not be further from the personalities that came through in their profiles.

Yes, Match cannot be held responsible for their members not reading profiles. But I wonder how difficult it would be to set up their system so that people who check certain boxes are by default blocked from contacting members who want to exclude from their searches, profiles with those traits.

I met a gal her user name was BlueEyesGirl1961 Real Name Cindy Berg. She claimed to be a Christian and only to be socail drinker. Come to find out she had a deferred DUI and is on medication for depression.

She never attends church and always wants her date to take her to a resterant that serves Alcohol. This person will use you if you let her.

The people on match seem to be very cold most of the time.

Whew! It gets old reading about women lambasting men looking for younger women. My search parameters go up 3 and down 4. I am just over 50 and get hit on constantly by much older and highly accomplished professional women (NY,NY!). I am in excellent shape for my age and get plenty of attention from interesting and attractive women on Match period. No problem there.

Anyway, this older looking for younger is hardly limited to males. The favorite line is "I look much younger than my actual age." Trust me, if you are 59, you don't look 48. I don't mind the older women contacting me. The point is that both men and women do it. So, please lighten up!

"Separated" people do not seem single to many other singles--so, that will reduce your responses. But everyone knows that there are "separated" and "separated." Some people are just in a fight with their spouses, and they go on a singles site in some sort of anger, but others are, seriously, moving towards singlehood. So don't let that deter you, and, yes, you should put something that shows that you are, really, almost single.

The fact that anyone can put up a profile, not join the site, and just deal with winks, which don't go anywhere, is problematic. That is a marketing ploy to get them to join: we all wish that every singles site just had real members on it, who can communicate. Something MUST be done about it, but we can't do it.

Most profiles are real: most of us, lonely people, are real. You can sift through the chaff, with a positive attitude, and meet some nice people. But singles sites are, mostly, dating sites. You can get dates, but, finding a real mate will take time and devotion.

It's not match's fault that old guys communicate with younger women--it's the men. They are fat and bald, but want to date slim and attractive women. The internet enables them to "reach" for things that they cannot grasp. Just let these guys know that "no, we are not a match, but thanks for the attention."

The point is that men are, still, expected to be providers, and women are expected to be attractive. Pity the low-earning guy who is hoping to, somehow, find a gorgeous woman to achieve his dream. Pity the fluffy woman who hides her real appearance behind photos that are either out of date or concealing. These people will get dates but not mates, and not many second dates.

It sure is a jungle out there. But you can, with some effort and care, meet some nice people, and, who knows?

Does anyone think Match.com commercials are the WORST???
I can't stand to watch them. Who would be motivated to join based on the people the "highlight"??????

I have thought of joining, but whoever they have for there advertising, and whoever at Match.com approved these...well, NEVER would I consider this "popular" matching service.

My opinion, if anyone else wants to immediately turn the channel when these ignorant commercials make air....and waste it, let Match.com know. They need to fire someone.

Maybe all these bitter people should just date each other bcuz then they will believe there really is som1 on the other side of the screen.

I have been on match for less than 2mo, & have been on as many dates as I want! The people r real it is still up to life & reality to see if it works out. U r not insta couple. I have met guys that want to date me & I am not interested. I have also met guys who I want, but all they want is to have sex with me. It is just like the real world people. U make the choice it is not promised that u will find ur soulmate. This is just another venue to meet people.

Maybe u need to work on ur desperate attitudes & or looks... Sorry just being honest.

match SUCKS. I met ONE guy on there. Met him for dinner where he tells me he is a recovering crack addict. I asked him to repeat himself because I thought he was joking.

He bragged about how much money he took his rich wife for in divorce and turned out to have one testicle without further explanation.

This guy asked me if my body looked good without clothes as it did in a picture of me in a bikini on my page. I was disgusted and left.

Match.com is a total joke! I signed up 4 days ago and have had no less than 20 fake emails/winks. Here is an example of an email, always accompanied by a picture of a very handsome man and always from a different location than the email. In this case, his picture caption said he was from the U.K. but the email says P.E.I. Canada! The English is always poor, and says almost the same thing in every email. I wish I could attach them all here - it's unbelievable!

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From: eltonlovelife (eltonlovelife@talkmatch.com)
Date received: May 26, 2009
Subject: Hi Dear.

Hi Dear.

I saw your profile and i must confess that i like it and i am intrested in having you as my friend, you have a nice and beautiful profile and face full of smile, I live in Charlottetown, Prince Edward Island, i will be very glad if we can be friend but first let have some chat online and know more about ourselves and see how we can match because i am new to this dating on the internet as i just registered on this site.

My name is Elton and i am a business man, I want us to be friends and discuss so that we can learn more about ourselves.

Please i will be very glad to have you as a friend, i am online now on yahoo and msn messenger if we can chat so that we will know more about ourselves........my email is mr.eltonbrizio @yahoo.com or mr.eltonbrizio @hotmail.com

My Regards.

Mr. Elton

eltonlovelife
49-year-old man
London - North West, , UK
Seeks women 40-55
Active within 24 hours

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The "daily 5" matches that Match.com sent me didn't even match my criteria. I am looking for someone that doesn't want kids and 9 out of 10 "matches" said "definitely wants kids" or "probably wants kids". I tried to cancel my subscription by selecting "other reason" and telling them about the fake profiles, and everytime I tried to cancel, it would say "unable to process at this time". After trying it several times during the day, I selected "found someone on Match.com" instead and lo and behold, it worked! Congratulated me on finding someone, please give us details, would you recommend us etc....what a joke. Don't waste your money!!!

TO: New to Match (Los Angeles) -

In reference to your article and personal experience online, I appreciate the fact that you do respond to those you aren't interested with a short and polite email.

The fact that 40% or so of those men responded negatively shouldn't detract you from responding to all emails, be they nay or in the affirmative. The fact is that they (the 40%) are showing a lack of maturity and should be re-confirming your good reasons (& personal judgement) for why you initially said "Not interested" to them in the first place.

Another important reason is regarding class and good manners. Even if others don't display good manners, keep showing class and do what's right. Men like me can take a "No" from a woman. That's part of the dating game and that's what separates Men from the Boys. Take care and good luck.