Reviews of Match.com

I tried Match.com and eventually quit it and other dating sites because I simply cannot stomach the online dating scene. I cannot stand the dating scene in general.

Some of the men I met were nice, there was just no mutual chemistry. I have nothing against these men.

But the others were either shallow, phony, rude game players or - opposite extreme - men who pressured you to have a serious relationship with them even though you hardly knew them, or just met them.

I would love to be in a romantic relationship, but I am much happier NOT looking for one; simply because every time I do try to find romance, I always meet those types of men. And sometimes they find me. I would love to have a serious long-term relationship, but I'm just not willing to subject myself to humiliating or tense situations just to find one.

I have decided I'm just going to enjoy life and meet men - and people in general - that way.

If you are a black woman, match.com is probably not the best website for you. I am an educated, professional black women, working on a PHD and they have only sent me matches that do not want to date black women. Also, if you do a search for people looking for someone like you, the results show a bunch of people that ...don't want to date black women. It has been a very offensive and time wasting experience for me.

But for others that decide to go this route, good luck!

I was on this website for over a year and a half and as far as meeting men goes-- I met plenty. I must also add though that not one of these men has turned out to be of a character I would respect and trust in the end. I have never been lied to, led on and felt like I was part of some online dating game in my life! I kept on with it hoping to eventually find someone worthy who truly was on this site looking for a lasting relationship... I even got to know a few men over periods of months ( two being nine months) but even then I realized in the end that I would not even want to remain friends with them. I am not sure why I find this such a surreal way of meeting someone-- all I can say is that I really learned to live to believe the truth that actions speak far louder than words, and especially written words. I am not saying that it is not a great way to meet people because it is... I just think that once the game gets going it does not take much to make a guy jump to the next gal in the line up so to speak. There is no sense of trust or commitment ever developed by remaining on the site at all-- how could that develop if one sees their guy "online" all the time?!? I guess it all depends what one is looking for doesn't it?? But I find it disappointing to admit that after meeting likely over 60 men and receiving 1000's of emails and winks I feel more single and alone than ever... and by an unfortunate conclusion I also have to admit that this is likely a good thing for me despite my attempts at looking for something beyond being felt like an object of desire in the bedroom.
I respect myself more than that. I do appreciate the vast number of single people out there though-- but maybe the old fashioned way of somehow just meeting through everyday life is a whole lot more real and satisfying in the end no matter how much more difficult it is to meet... Maybe online dating makes it a bit "too easy" in every way :)

I found Match.com to be poorly represented by a guarantee of a refund if you couldn't find a date within 6 mos. But, you had to quantify your membership by going on x amount of dates within the alloted of time.
This is not fair to woman at all. For men that is fine but, what about womens safty? Why should women be dictated on how many dates they are required to go on whether or not they like the person in order to get their money back.
I personally opted to pay for the 3 mos and forgo the "guarantee" it wasn't worth the extra 3 mos. to be dictated on how many dates I was mandated to go on.

Many men on Match.com are scammers. Usually the same story, widowed with a child, travels for a living, etc. I met what I thought was a very nice man, very handsome, communicated for several months but I did do a background check on him. Needless to say it was less than desirable with prison in the background among some other things. Beware. Many of these men are not what they say they are. For $130 get a background check done and save yourself heartache. I am glad I did!!

I used Match for about two years and am proud to say I met the man I would later marry on the site. During those two years, I went on roughly 90 first dates, 40 second dates, 20 third dates and had 2 three month relationships before I met the man who became my spouse. Most of the men I met were nice enough, although ultimately but for one, not for me. What I liked about Match was that the member could set up their own matches, there was a large pool of potential in a relatively close geographic area and there were many singles in my age bracket (48-55). I adore my husband and believe that were it not for Match, we would not have met.

Although it is far from perfect, I found Match to be as advertised and it helped me potentially conect with dozens of women who were not in the traditionally dating pool or available to me because of the large geographic area in which I live. I would also add that I liked the fact that one has a captive audience with, for the most part, like minded intent. Weeding through the non-matches was no big deal as any interest is a compliment and I took it as such. This is a tool and one must learn how to use the tool.

I was on for about 6 weeks and found the activity to be quite good. I met with 6 woman as a result and am seeing one of them now. I could have done a better job of screening via the phone and cut that down to 4 woman as two I had no interest in whatsoever however we never chatted via phone. I would advise folks to never do that. Some women I knew right away, within two minutes on the phone, there would be no fit.

I found the usual issues: Not as pictured, not necessarily honest, scammers, however I would say this is a snapshot of real life. Let the buyer beware. Not all of the women I emailed responded and my currently seperated status certainly was a red flag to some however I found the experience to be quite positive. My profile was well thought out, I had plenty of good current pictures, and I ALWAYS emailed. The WINKS are useless from guys. If you cant take the time to write a note, how much time are you going to invest in them in a potential relationship. I would read their profiles with genuine interest and then ask them questions in the email pertaining to what they wrote, and I would always ask them about their overall experience with Match. I never made the notes too long, just enough to get them to want to respond. If you are witty, add some wit.

As with life, make sure to have your expectations correct with this vehicle. I would certainly recommend the site and my sister met her current boyfriend on Match almost a year ago and they are still together. She is who prompted me to join and, so far, I am very glad I did.

I felt I must add my tuppence worth having read some of the comments made by women. For a genuine single man the negative experiences are pretty much the same. I came across a few genuine people, as far as I can tell, a few scam artists, loads of winks from profiles that are either totally inappropriate (I'm in my 40s getting winks from 20 year olds the other side of the world etc) or the profile goes before I can reply, mentally unstable or desperately seeking anyone with a UK/US passport.

I to have been ignored and totally sympathize with the woman that said she found it hurtful when you write a well crafted email to someone only to be completely ignored. To the reviewer that said she never even sent a simple `no thanks' even to the well written, genuine sounding emails, please do not sign up again as it is this lack of courtesy that contributes to the negative atmosphere of the site. I do appreciate that women must get a lot of inappropriate `how about some sexy fun' emails and of course these should be deleted with the contempt that they deserve.

Also never get involved with immigrants from poorer nations than your own. They are invariably passport hunting. Also the ones from Africa quite often have AIDS. I personally shied away from contacts like this anyway (too many unknowns) but I have a black friend, originally from Zambia, who works as a nurse over here and she said she was shocked at the number of young black women she knew about who came over to the west looking for a husband to pay them and look after them when they were already married back home and were trying to get money for sick relatives.

A couple of final points are that this site has a slight feel of a meat market about it and you constantly feel that you are being scammed for more money (few few extra £s per month for email read notification for example). Also bearing in mind Google does a lot of work to rate sites and call up closely related matches, I found it interesting that one of the suggested alternatives was a sex site with the tag line of `The Facebook of sex'. Makes you think...

For a woman looking for a relationship, this site is not the place to be.

For a man just looking for sex, match is the best place to be.

Be careful, online dating sites attract the emotionally unavailable people that have easy access to lots of women! Buyer beware!!

I have no bad things to say about match, other than the fact that I wish I could hide my online status. For the people that are complaining Match is a scam...that's simply not true. I consider myself to be an attractive woman who has no problem finding a date, but am too busy with work and school to actually go out and find one at a bar. That being said, a reviewer stated that he sent out about 15 emails and not one of the ladies looked at the profile...well, I will be very honest and frank. When I get an email from a guy that I find to be completely unattractive, I won't bother to even look over the profile, at all. It would be a waste of my time. I know it sounds harsh, but when you get alot of emails per day, you just don't have time to look at profiles belonging to people you can never, ever see yourself with. Just doesn't happen. You can write the wittiest/funniest/most enciteful email, but if you are very unattractive, I won't care about what you have to say. I do it all the time. Yes, it may seem wrong but I am entitled to my opinion. So, for the people that claim that Match is a scam, look in the mirror. Online, the first thing people will see is your picture. If that's not even close to a 7, most people will click over to the next thumbnail. Just sayin...