Reviews of eHarmony

Well many of the other reviews I have to say my experience with eHarmony is a very negative one. I was on two weeks got better matches from a less costly program and they were actually in my state. Most of my matches from eHarmony were not only anywhere from one to two states away but across oceans as well and I clearly stated within 50 miles from me.

Another catch to this eHarmony is that you can not cancel an account. You only stop the automatic renewal so what ever plan you choice they take that money and will not refund. Example - One year paid in three monthly payments they take the first year and stop your renew after the year even if you cancel within two weeks of signing up. Call customer service for assistance and all you get is over and over that only cancels automatic renewals you can not cancel an acount. What kind of company takes a years worth of service when someone only uses two weeks? There should be some kind of trial period according to the type of plan you choose.

In my opinion - there are better and cheaper service do not get roped into eHarmony. Your better off with Match.com they did the best at matching and asked constantly questions to keep your profile matches within the answers of those questions. Much better service.

The Ineffectiveness of eHarmony as a Dating Tool
I subscribed to eHarmony for a month and during this period I collected and analyzed the matches sent to me. First, I rate the profile quality from 1 to 3; 1 being 'very simple': descriptions are in single words, such as 'swimming', 'family', etc.; 2 being 'simple': descriptions are in single sentence, such as 'I like good food', 'honesty is very important to me', etc. 3 being 'complete': descriptions are in sentences and paragraphs that give me a better idea of what the person is.
Statistics summary:
• There are 53 matches delivered of which 13 are local (I live in a city of 3 million people, and I include matches who are 100 miles away as local), which equals to 24.5%.
• Average profile rating is 1.7, meaning that most profiles don't tell me much about the match. Only 5 profiles (<10%) have a rating of 3.
• 26 (or 50%) of the profiles have photos attached.
• 24 (or 45%) of the matches have viewed my profile, meaning that 55% of the matches are 'dead leads'.
• 6 (or 11%) of the matches have acted, either 'communicating' or 'rejecting' me.
• The 13 local profiles have an average rating of 1.5, which is even lower than the overall average of 1.7.
• 5 (or 38%) of the local matches have photos, again it is lower than the overall average.
• 3-4 (or 23%-30%) have viewed my profile (taking into consideration of the anonymous views), meaning that at least 70% of the matches are 'dead leads'.
• Only 1 (7%) have acted (rejected).
Conclusions:
For the local profiles, only 3-4 matches have viewed my profile, and consider that most are not even subscribers, the chance of getting a local match is very slim.
Most profiles are so simple that they don't reveal the characters of the matches. It is worse than other dating site such as 'match.com' or 'lavalife'. It is questionable that eHarmony can use the overly simple profiles to generate the matches based on its proclaimed 29 dimensions. The idea that eHarmony can deliver more compatible matches is therefore false.
• eHarmony determines how many matches it will send you. I have no control over. This is again much more inferior than the other dating sites. In my case, I got only 3-4 real local matches (including non-subscribers) in one month's time and may be zero real match. Very disappointing indeed.

I signed up for E-Harmony's free communication weekend recently and have received a plethora of possible matches. However I haven't officially subscribed yet because quite frankly, the one month subscription price is too expensive for what the site offers. It's not that I'm cheap, but my "common sense" tells me that it'd be foolish to sign up for a 3 month subscription until I knew it'd be worth it after a one month trial... which goes back to paying 59.95 for one month on a what is relatively nothing more than a dating site is just too damn expensive. With all the questions you have to answer and the essays you have to write, they should be paying YOU for all that work! LOL!

My main problem with E-Harmony is that there is no way of knowing whether the matches I received are "PAID" members who are active or if they were just there for the weekend and can't respond after I sign up. There seems to be no quality control on a alleged member's recent activity, so you really don't know if your matches are "current" members or blasts from the past who may have disappeared from the site months or years ago. Also, I noticed that the photo I posted was viewable to all when I "thought" it was viewable only after I gave permission. Maybe that's why I'm getting so many communication requests from women who I can't see, but who can see me. One instance I found hilarious was that one woman closed communication with me and I hadn't even sent any shred of interest, just read her profile... which was filled with misspelled words as she tried to come across as erudite. So whoever you are... thanks for closing me out "Einstein". LOL!!

But I must admit, the questionnaire was fun to fill out and although it didn't tell me anything I didnt already know about myself, I found the end result of their analysis to be fairly accurate. Now, I've read a lot of negative posts here trashing E-Harmony, but I gotta tell you, while some may be vaild, it's easy to see that others are from narcissistic. frustrated people who are natural born obfuscators that would complain and blame if they were in a room of 100 members of the opposite sex where 99 of them were good people and only 1 person was a loser. Face it, some people are destined to complain and blame others for their shortcomings for the rest of their lives and a site like E-Harmony gives them the fodder to justifiably do that without ANY introspection.

But I regress... I am still thinking about signing up on E-Harmony but anything could happen before then because I do meet women when I'm out and about all the time because not only do I work in the legal field, I'm also an artist and a socio-political activist. I do meet interesting women from time to time, but I haven't felt that "vibe" from any of them for years now... which is why I decided to give E-Harmony a try. And if I do, I'll be back to honestly and OBJECTIVELY post my experience. The best to all.

I used eHarmony for a grand total of two days. Way too much hand-holding, though I suppose I didn't spend enough time on the site to let that work for me. There was practically no customization allowed; the profiles are completely canned.

Again, this might work really well for those that are serious about online dating, but for those that are not, it is hardly a justification of being out several dollars a month (which is collected lump sum at registration too). I got my refund pretty easily, though. Took one call to customer service and the explanation I just posted here.

I cannot stress being TOTALLY truthful with your answers. I think some of the issues many people face is they meet people who did not answer the questions truthful or and not totally truthful with the people they are paired with.
I was matched with my husband by e-harmony 6 years ago.
He and I are human. So remember faults are NORMAL. You and I have them. He had waited for months on the site to find me.
He waded thru the sea of women who were not truthful. I had a few matches but my husband REALLY stood out. And I really stood out to him. It took me one month. Which amazed me! I began with the attitude of i'd like to meet some nice people and have a few nice dinners and good conversation. I was not looking to remarry it just happened and I was thrilled. I just wish I could have found him 12 years ago! BUT I would not have been the person I am today!
I was totally honest with him and he with me.
All of the creative things I mentioned in my profile were and are totally true. AND he loves it all !
PLEASE remember this is a process (not overnight) and when the time is right and you and the other person is totally truthful. YOU CAN FIND THE RIGHT PERSON!
Several other friends of mine were paired with their husbands thru e-harmony! So believe me TRUTH and e-harmony can help you!

Can anyone tell me how to get out of my account and out of eHarmony? I started the questionnaire, thought better of it, but can't get through to stop their dunning e-mails about finishing the process and taking advantage of their wonderful service. Each time I log in I am immediately taken to my last Q page from which there is no way to unsubscribe. When I take the what seems to be the unsubscribe route..., well you get the message. Help!

No make that -1 star.
Along with agreeing with the prior posts on all issues, I just HATE it when sites say "Contact Us", and then send you to the Q&A section, i.e. no contact address or vehicle. So apparently, either Eharmony has gotten their fill of negative feedback or they just dont care, as long as they are scooping peoples money.

Horrible. The "matching" appears random. The profiles are so canned as to make it nearly impossible to get a flavor of the person. It is an annoying experience. Match is far far far far far better.

Don't waste your time or money.

-An annoyed eHarmony user who just wants his money back.

I would give less than a star but thats the lowest one available. I never had tried this web site, but many friends suggested it. It is rather difficult to date when you reach a certain age, plus I don't live in a thriving metropolis! Anyway, I checked out the site, it seemed interesting at first. The problem I have with it is that when I searched for matches, I never got any. I changed my profile, my area, almost everything until i just searched the entire country and it still said "we can not find any matches for you at this time" WHAT! I know in the entire United States their has to be 1 man out there that matches me!! Come on!! Then the few matches they sent me were as far as Alaska, and some much older than me (older than what I wanted in my profile) What's up with that? The bottom line is that I paid the money and realized too late its a rip off. It is very different than other internet sites I have been on. But I guess that's my lesson learned. I had to check it out and now I know to tell everybody EHARMONY is a rip off!

EHarmony should be reported to Consumer Protection for fraud. Here is just one indicator of the site scam they perpetuate called 'Free Weekend." The ad promised free communication, no strings from Thursday to Monday. So I thought I would take a chance. First you have no access to pictures, searches or direct e-mail to a possible match. When you contact a possible match you have to go through the guided discussion which is a cumbersome canned Q&A process. The only way you can directly e-mail a match is AFTER you go through the canned guided discussion. You respond/he responds etc..ect..etc..This normally takes 3-4 days then time runs out and you have to pay to be able to directly e-mail. That is their hook. There are plenty of strings attached to this free weekend. I realize this is a promotional campaign but if they operated legitimately and really gave perspective clients free access a lot more people would sign up. So this is an indication of how they do business. Avoid EHarmony like the internet snake oil salemen they are.