Reviews of eHarmony

I have been on eharmony for 5 months. I have gone out on a number of dates, but have not found my "soulmate," but I am optimistic. The women I met were attractive, interesting, and had agreable personalties. In conversations I've had on dates, the women usually admit that their other matches are attractive, but they, like me, are looking for that which transcends mere physical appearance. Eharmony does use "appearance" as one of their matching criteria. In short, I'm trying to be delicate here, those who complain about not being matched with their "physical match", might want to indulge in some honest self-reflection. I am a good-looking man and, with few exceptions, have been matched with good-looking women. I almost did not join eharmony because my buddy, who's a very nice guy actually but somewhat out of shape, kept complaining that the women on eharmnony were "unnatractive or fat." I feel that people must have reasonable expectations. If you don't have experience meeting physically attractive people off the internet, don't think eharmony is going to do it for you. If, however, you would like to find a compatible match with a person you find interesting and fun, eharmony, I think, is a good place to start.

It sounds to me like a number of the reviewers for eHarmony (and possibly other dating sites) have rather unrealistic expectations. If you were really as attractive and fit as you claim, would you really need the internet to find someone? Not to mention that if you're stressing looks above all else, eHarmony isn't right for you in the first place as it's meant to match you based on other things that make "true love" possible in the first place.

I was a subscriber three years ago. I had a lot of matches but I would rather not date someone who's really religious, is too lazy to fill out their profile or has a poor grasp of the English language/spelling. I would say 90% of the matches I got fell into those categories in one way or another. Even when they did send a request for communication, those rarely got past the beginning stages. I had my profile up for three months and met only one person in that time. We talked on the phone every night for four months and finally met. He was a great guy (had a few issues but who doesn't?) and we ended up "dating" for almost a year. Even though we lived about 200 miles apart, we got together whenever we could. It got to a point where he just stopped calling and I never did find out why as we always seemed to have a great time.

I suppose the site works to some degree, which is why I gave it three stars. However, they really need to revamp their matching system to match subscribers with subscribers (although for them, how would they even get people to subscribe unless they thought they had some real matches?).

Just my two cents.

I joined eharmony about three years ago as a free member. My listing is still on the site. lol The commercials got to me and I said, Heck I will give it a whurl. To date I have not met ONE match. They used to send out free trials and a lower one month rate. Prior to me taking advantage of the "trial period" I would get DAILY emails with matches.

I then used my "trials" to see if I would see the photos and communicate with the matches -things you can't do on a without a subscription.

There were no photos with the matches, and all of them were closed! Every single "match" decided the distance was too great. lol Prior to paying those matches were open.

One I paid-the matches STOPPED.Not ONE NEW MATCH WAS SENT. After my "trial period ended" the matches resumed.

I decided to take advantage of another free trial and the same thing happened. I canceled well before the expiration period and was informed that I still had to pay for the month. Once again no matches.

They won't get another DIME from me.

I was surprised to learn about who ran the site, but for Christians their customer service is rude as hell!

I've had a better than expected experience with eHarmony.com. I've been in communication with a few women in the month or so since I signed up. Of course there have been plenty of others that I've closed out or have closed me out - who cares? And, of course, you have to watch out for unseemly characters, but that's the same no matter how you meet someone. You can't really expect a website to do all the work for you, you are ultimately responsible for weeding out the bad seeds (and there could be lots of them) but if you take the time, are responsible, have enough of a sense of humor to laugh at some of the crazy matches they send you (as you close them out), and aren't one of the crazy people yourself (remember, the only common link of all your failed relationships is you), this service can work.

I'll admit I was very skeptical at first, but I've met several attractive, professional women - beyond any of my initial expectations. I paid for a one month subscription and extended for another and feel it was money well spent. I guess for those who think the site is a ripoff you can always go back to meeting "normal" people the old fashioned way - bars, library, church, etc. How's that working for you?

My friends urged me to sign up on a dating service. After the free trial period with eharmony, I signed up for six months. I had some matches, communicated very briefly with one person, then decided to let my subscription end.

To my surprise, I received an e-mail from eharmony that stated they had charged $24.95 on my account for a one month automatic renewal. That same day, I went back online, canceled my subscription and requested a refund. The Customer Care Representative denied my refund claim. I asked for a manager to review my request. The manager's reply amounted to "Sorry, too bad you did not read the fine print." (Not to mention, the fine print I read was six months ago.)

In my e-mail, I had said that all this could have been avoided if eharmony had sent me a generic e-mail stating my subscription would soon end and a renewal fee will be charged to my account. The response to that suggestion was for me to send my "unwanted" suggestion to this other person, (Shouldn't a manager have forwarded my suggestion along?) and implied "You can send the suggestion, but don't bank on it ever getting seriously reviewed or implemented.

I was not 100% sure I made the right decision when I canceled. Now I am.

can't rate it, not a member, just had to add my two cents to this drival.

If U dislike the Christian attitude of the place - has your method been working for you? Obviously not! You're on eharmony looking for the perfect match. What is worse 1) a gay basher or 2) the person who is bashing the gay basher. its a toss up. if you don't like something, its your choice, but This site, eHarmony, is set up a certain way because they have good reason for why they do things their way its what is working 4 them. Don't you recall when you got a job working at XYZ Company an employee is required to learn & practice their policy and procedure manual, now aren't you? So if eHarmony wants to exclude certain individuals that is their choice &their business; + those of you who circumvent the system for your own advantage - that is why it is not working 4 you.

another thing, in your years of dating - how much money have you spent on all your dates /in the case of the female - the clothing, the perfume, the hairdo? THOUSANDS!! if you have to pay up to $200. for a perfect match on eHarmony - why complain or if you don't want to play by the rules - live with the failure.

about those who are obese; ugly; too old; too young; -- on & on. it takes all kinds in this old world & it would certainly be a very depressing place if all of us were alike now wouldn't it? There are some men who love fat women as well as women who love fat men. Its all in your preference. If someone is shutting you down before you get a chance to meet them, then perhaps you ought to PRAY about that before you enter into this deal on eHarmony. Prayer does work & being a Christian is really the thing that will help you understand the workings of a committed relationship anyways.

I used to pray "God if this place is not for me, you will close the door tight and I will not be able to enter in here, but if this is where I can accelerate in my career, please open the door for me and help me to find favor with my interviewers" - when I was praying about getting hired on a certain job. And God always protected me from taking the wrong job in all the years I worked I continually upgraded myself in better career choices so I guess God does open the right doors because He is all seeing/all knowing.

Now before you bash me because I am a Christian - perhaps we ought to revert back to my second paragraph. Don't bash me for my beliefs I don't bash you for yours. if we would quit finding things to bash anyone else about... then this world would be a wonderful place. If you don't like a thing, U can go elsewhere - there is lots of room on this world - find your corner - perhaps your match will find you there - or you can pay up and wait your turn.

all you people who look only at the outside of a person, could that be why you are missing your match & if by chance you get lucky & get that woman~half your age & she looks like Marilyn reincarnated, it will soon be some other fellow's dream date too & she might go on down the road to whoever offers her a better deal, can U handle that? If you turn your dog loose and he doesn't come home -you better find a better meal for the next dog! It takes commitment &work to make a relationship last. Communication &compromise are vital too. If you don't give 200% & your mate doesn't give 200% then chance of failure is 100%. If someone ugly and fat makes you happy, just quit trying to convince your buddies that you're just using her until you find a better woman or vice versa. For behind every fat person is a skinny person just waiting to have a reason to come out.

I always felt like if a person had money & good looks then they should always be looking over their shoulder wondering who their friends really were or if their friend liked them for their money only. If a woman has been married before & is poor, has excess baggage =children? really now?! Ok on to my thought - if a woman has a few children & a man needs a good woman to keep him company & provide a stable home w/ love & affection & give him stepchildren that will grow up to be somebody and make him proud as their stepfather - my word - what is wrong with that? See a challenge - meet it!! Your role as a parent or stepparent is to guide that youth into something spectacular! (whether you are the real gene donor or not!) He or She could be The next President or world leader, or Fortune 500 Company Executive.

My husband told me when we met - "You have so much and I have nothing" I said "See how God works, he knew I was miserable with all my worldly goods because I had no one to share them with so He sent me You! We can balance each other out" and that is just what we do!!

If thru life you have looked at a persons looks and said No way, I am too proud to be stuck with that, then perhaps that is why you are missing your perfect match, you forgot the important thing. Any human is changeable if they so will it. Perhaps a poverty stricken mother of two children could turn into Marilyn if you spend your love and a few bucks on her. give it a rest guys, and gals. look past the outward appearance. Cultivate the things in your mate that you would like to have the mate become. Its about finding someone compatible &then you work together to create within each other a person you can be totally enslaved to.

lets accept our looks and get on with the program of life and then perhaps start doing something better for this earth before we do leave a nasty planet for our grandchildren. well that's my two cents. now don't bash me, I am just trying to help you here.

eharmony 'sucks' all thay do is take as much money as possible from there customers and try to fix you up with people on the other side of the planet do not waste your money it cost me about $4oo.00 and i had to cancel my credit card so thay would stop charging me on a better not i tried www.dynastydate.com it cost me $29.95 for one month and i could see people on the site and talk to them when i wanted to it has been a good exspereace KELLY, MASSACHUSETTES

E-Harmony stinks! The questions they ask are indeed logical and important. But I answered them all in in a flash, they said I could not be matched!!!

I am definately a normal, normal average every day person, probably above average in many respects... I work, love animals, fit, nice person etc. etc. etc. but in a split second, the web site stated I was unmatchable!

How can this be???

I find it rather insulting and hurtful! Don't waste your time!

NO STARS! NONE! I'm not going to repeat what's already been said. I have a tale of one very hurtful outcome to eHARMony's pernicious hidden habit of continuing to make matches with inactive members. I was having the typical experience of too few matches when one day a match appeared that stopped me dead in my tracks. It was a man I was once engaged to. I thought he was in a serious new relationship. Had they split up? Getting my hopes up, I emailed him. He told me that not only had he not been a EH member for nine months, but that he was engaged! I will never forgive eHARM for this embarrassing and cruel screw job.

I fell for the ad- matching you with a 29 demensional personality test. I thought it would be a great way to meet men who were not just interested in my looks. The first misleading thing is that a majority of your matches are no longer members and you cannot communicate with them- so these are not matches. In my opinion the matching based on the "proven" test is a complete lie. I will factor out all the obese men and give you the example to prove my opinion. I was matched with a mentally retarded man. No joke, you could tell by his photo, and discussion of living in a group home. I have a doctorate and a well paying job, how is this a match? I inquired about the legality of dating a retarded adult and how I was suited for him. Eharmony said the let any adult join and would not answer about what made this a match. So, do not join the system is just a marketing come on- no truth to it at all. Learn from my mistake, if you have to pay before seeing photos that is you clue something is wrong. And women, I read the data on eharmony and the demographics are 70% women and 30% men, not good. Avoid it! I still get matches and have been off the site for months, so others are being misled. Avoid this site.