Reviews of JDate

10 Things I Hate About Online Dating

a list of cliche things girls put in their profiles

1. The Interests

Everybody likes music, and art, and traveling, and the outdoors, and sunshine, and having fun. These are not things that give any insight as to who you are as an individual. I wouldn’t even really describe them as interests but more just standard features that come with any human being. It’d be like shopping for a used car and coming across an ad that says “Great vehicle, runs on gasoline, tires are round, has matter and density.” I still don’t know the make, model, year, milage, accident history, horse power etc. If anything I view the vaugness as a trap into buying a lemon.

2. I’m shy but I’m not shy

A lot of girls can’t decide on what they are. “I’m shy but I can also be very outgoing.” “I’m just a jeans and t-shirt kinda girl that loves to get dressed up and go out too.” “I’m a realist but I have a bit of a hopeless romantic side. . .” When filling out your “about me” section you should use a “Which of the following best describes me?” approach. Like an SAT question, choose the letter that best answers the problem, don’t fill in every bubble.

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JDate doesn't deserve even one star. I signed up on 2/2/2010 and tried to cancel on 2/5/2010. Jdate keeps people's profiles up even after the person has stopped paying for the service. It wasn't until I started searching the site that I noticed that many of the profiles were several years old and the person had not been on the sight for over 60 days. By saying the person has not been on the sight for over 60 days, the consumer doesn't know if the person has not been on the sight for years.

I have found an awesome free Jewish dating site that blows away Jdate and I'm still in awe that it's completely free. www.Catch4Catch.com offers free online dating for the Jewish Community and it's completely free!

I'm browsed all the other free Jewish dating sites and trust me when I share with you, this one blows them all away. What beautiful layouts, color schemes and amenities.

I will never go back to Jdate again. As long as Catch4Catch.com is around, I won't have a need to. Love the Jdate alternative!

David

I have been on Jdate for a long time, but mostly just to be a voyeur. I refuse to pay anymore, simply because it's too expensive, and there aren't a lot of people on there that interest me. Right off the bat, I want to address one thing: Most of the people on this site are really over conflating things. First of all, there are fake profiles on JDate, and when I see them, I contact JDate support who IMMEDIATELY responds with a thank you, and removes the profile. There are spammers, yes, but that is the nature of the internet. One side effect of this is being contacted by astonishingly gorgeous men or women who live a thousand miles away, or who are blatantly fake; this is not JDate's doing. JDate has been doing this for a long time, and I doubt that having a russian super model who lives 2000 miles away hot list you would drive anyone with even half a brain cell to drop $40+ on the site. If they wanted to mislead you, they'd put reasonably attractive people in your area who email/flirt with you to drive you to subscribe. This is certainly a possibility, but I doubt it. Second of all, yes, people who online date are messed up in many ways. Guess what; you're dating online too! Everyone thinks that they are normal, and it's everyone else who is "on a dating site for a reason". Sorry, you have issues too, or you'd be married, or meeting someone in public.

It's an utter kick to the gut when someone doesn't respond (especially if you think you would be great together), and even moreso when they stop responding for whatever reason. I had a girl who "clicked" with me, we talked for an hour, we had a great chat, she gave me her personal email, I wrote her once, she responded, I responded, and I never heard from her again. She's on the site all the time, but I have no clue what I did to deserve the cold shoulder. You know what you do? Move on; there will be someone else.

I do have to agree that the site is frustrating, and debilitating, which is one of the reasons I don't subscribe. The thing is, people know what they want, and they go for it, and just because it's online dating, doesn't mean they are going to set aside what they are looking for and talk to someone they aren't totally interested in. You have no idea what motivates someone on this site, only yourself, and that's the only person you should be concerned with. I have gone on quite a few dates, some went great, some were bizarre, and some were depressing. There are some crazy girls, there are even more entitled, narcissistic girls. There are also girls who are great, and who you may just not click with. It's certainly better than OKCupid, and if you're Jewish, Match.

Side note: I want to apologize to all the women on the site on behalf of men in general. I hear so many horror stories about guys who simply talk about sex, who are really just looking for sex (and will do or say whatever they have to in order to get it), or who even open up webcams to show their junk/email pictures of their junk etc. Please believe me, not all guys are like this. There are a few good ones out there.

I just got off the phone with Jdate customer service rep and complained that while I cancelled my Jdate subscription a month ago, I was still charged today, on the first of the month. The rep said they would cancel my account for the future, but would not reimburse me for this months subscription. So now i'm paying for a full month of a service I no longer want or will use. Terrible customer service...I will never go back to using that website and I hope this review serves as a disincentive to anyone thinking about joining.

Oh, I have such a love/hate relationship with Jdate. I scrolled through the reviews and so many of the descriptions are accurate. I'm 36 and have been on and off of Jdate for year. I live in a smaller Midwestern city with a decent, but not large Jewish population. Sadly, I think I've gone out with nearly every eligible bachelor from the community. Many were wonderful and we remain friends, many not so wonderful. The criticisms are valid: Jdate lets profiles remain on the site for years even if it's been ages since people log in, lots of fake profiles from people in foreign countries, the same people on here year after year (and I'm loathe to admit it, but I'm in that category too), both men and women who have inflated expectations about their potential mate, naughty emails and im's from cougar hunters (am I really a cougar at 36? seriously?), horrible webcam experiences with Israelis (never, ever agree to see someone on their webcam--it can only turn out badly), shallow men and shallow women, expensive, inaccurate photos, etc...

Having said that, if you want to meet and eventually marry a fellow Jew then Jdate does have the ability to bring people together. I would recommend just signing up for a month. Don't sign up for the 3 or 6 month subscription. Don't search by "most popular" as this just means really attractive people, not necessarily people that are still on the site. I would suggest searching for new members. Keep in mind that some of the newer profiles are fake, so read with a keen eye, but it's nice to find a new person before they've become jaded by online dating and its candy store approach to relationships.

And I'll also say that while I'm sure Jdate has more than it's fair share of entitled, shallow women, there are also many women like myself who are genuine and non-materialistic. I think that for every entitled woman on Jdate there is an equally shallow man who just wants to get laid.

There are pros and cons of Jdate.
First of all-it is very expensive, and I'm not sure if you can even get a refund. There have been a few good things about the site. Being a 25 year old graduate student, it has been useful meeting people with similar interests. Some of the people I have met on the site I continue to keep in contact with, and a couple have become good friends.
On the negative side, I have met a few guys who were very misleading, and great liars.
It is very easy to lie about yourself on these sites, and pretty much tell anyone anything, put up pictures from 10 years ago, when you were 100 pounds thinner...The last guy I met on the site, named Joe, told me he was in med. school, and we ended up meeting and dating shortly. Not to get into it, but the things he told me when we met on the website/email/phone turned out to be nothing but lies, he lied about his past relationships, how much money he made, he was actually dating another girl at the same time when he said he wasn't, other things that just caused nothing but stress for me. I just think women and men need to be very careful when meeting people on this site and other dating sites...because it is so easy to lie to someone when talking to them through the internet or the phone for the first time, because they are a complete stranger and can pretty much make up anything they want. I know most people want to make themselves look as good as possible when first meeting someone on the site, but some do it to the point where they are lying and can be very hard to develop a relationship with someone who is lying.
I think there should be a warning page on jdate where people can post things up about certain members just to warn others..haha that would be great!

The moment I signed up for Jdate I felt like I'd been mugged for $130 and dragged off to Great Neck. I am only 38 yet have heard from every senior citizen from Bayside to Boca Raton and boy are they sweet, really. However, I would no sooner kiss that face let alone sit on it. With almost no exceptions, guys my own age don't contact me. So, as I'm not quite ready to settle down in a retirement village for the early bird special, I went ahead and emailed someone (fool that I am!) whom I thought sounded seriously great and (no surprise) never heard back. Hi, in case you're reading this. I still like you even though in re-reading your profile I am pretty sure you are probably a real a**h*le, hence, never married at 46. Yikes. Be that as it may. Online dating may, indeed, have changed how and where people meet but human nature hasn't changed. Men still have a primal urge to be the pursuers, I guess. Wait a sec. Is it possible that I'm not pretty enough for someone my own age? Wow. This is like free therapy. Sniff. Sniff. I'm such a sucker though. I actually "Hotlisted" a guy who clearly, based on his description, wants Princess Diana for his girlfriend. "She must be able to walk with cabbages and kings," he says. Then he goes on to provide the definition for "cabbages and kings." Hmmm. Guess he doesn't mind if she's illiterate--she just has to be smokin' and have good posture. His username is BronxZoo0CDD in case you want to check it out. Oops. Guess I definitely ruined my chances with that one, too. Anyway, dude, Di is dead, but I hear Kate Winslet's free.

First off.. I'd like to start with a simple Irony. I did find a couple girls I liked on Jdate... and the irony of it is that the only girls I found on Jdate that were cool and down to earth were not Jewish :)

So here's my complaints about JDATE.

1) They seem to have an inventory of fake profiles designed to get people to join. I had 20 women put me on their hot list. They're all around 20 years old, look like models, and at least 1000 miles away. Yeah.. I'm sure they're all real and interested.

2) You may notice that the women on JDATE are better looking in general than on most sites. This tells me one of two things. A. They're fake, or B. They have some serious mental problems. Some of these women are absolutely gorgeous.. there should be no reason for them not to be able to find someone without the use of a dating site.. yet some of these profiles are years old. Sorry.. just doesn't coincide with reality.

3) Many of the girls on JDATE are only looking for 1 thing... a wallet to cling on to. I actually had a phone conversation with one girl. The conversation was great until I told her that business has slowed down in the recession.. then immediately the conversation ended with "um.. I think our connection is bad". I'm glad that happened though. Yes, business is bad.. but I still make a pretty damn good living.. and I'm glad I won't be sharing that bounty with a girl like that.

All in all.. JDATE.. serious disappointment.

I so agree with everything that's been written here. Nothing will matter if they don't get past your pics, and your pics will have to be George Clooney-like or forget it. I also am an attractive man who has a great career and is in great physical shape. To get an email answered on jdate is a downright miracle. Yes, there is a awful sense of entitlement. The same women ... month after month ... year after year ... on every day ... obviously not getting into relationships and who knows if they even date. And these women won't even entertain answering an email. Yes, the ones that I have written are frequently about an 8 or 8.5 ... I am probably about a 7 or 7.5. Big deal. I've dated 9s before. It's insane.

Why do they treat responding to an email, having a quick chat on the phone, and going on a date like it is putting their life on the line? I think that many of the women (and perhaps men also) on jdate carry a lot of baggage and seem to be very scared or frightened of the internet dating process. Of course, I understand that it can be somewhat intimidating for a woman, but you really have to do it if you want to use internet dating in the hopes of being in a relationship.

The site has definitely gone downhill in recent years, and I have ended my subscription. It's easier to bang your head against the wall.

I started on J-date during the February snowstorm. I have not dated in years; raising a son and recovering from a painful divorce. But one day I said why not? Okay now it is two months later and have I had an education on J-date! The IMing deal is downright creepy. I am trully Pandora...or a dating innocent, or just a religious Jewish girl wanting to find a decent man. Yesterday, I am checking my profile and a young guy..16 years younger starts Iming me. He had corresponded a few times before. So, I thought why not? By question six of "chat" he said, "What do you like?" So I am thinking peppermint/choc. chip ice cream....he responds...."What do you like in bed?" I told him I think it is fascinating that he does not want to talk to me on the telephone, private E-mail is too "intimate" for him but he will ask me; a stranger "my sexual appetites"! I had opened Pandora's box and not known. I wish I had kept the "fence" around the Torah! I changed the subject...and asked him about his family...then he was back to sex...."sucking my nipples...oral sex...etc." Okay by this point I was sick. However the investigator in me wanted to probe a person who does this. I asked him how many successful dates he had been on? Only a few. I asked him if this Iming is the new 2010 version of "phone sex" without the exorbitant fees? He did not know what I meant. I asked him if he gets women to talk/ IM him their sexual preferences and why would he do this? Well, he sobered up pretty quick....apologized. I told him, I forgive you as I guess, women and men are different. I told him that women for the most part....on J-date want to find decent Jewish matches...women want to find love, respect, a man they can trust, and they want to "nest". His behavior was not any of this. He once again apologized....and then went right back to....."How do I satisfy myself'? Okay...no more Chesed.....I was done. I bid him farewell. I was stupified and now do not want to accept any further Ims. So this is where I am now on J-date. I have had one date with a very sweet, religious guy, who lives two states away.
So take heed J-date women:beware of Ims! And you decent Jewish guys out there.....we know you would not do this. Kol Tuv...Susie