Reviews of Lavalife

Phyllis in Realityvill said: People who even refuse to post a photo or write more than a two-sentence profile and leave after making a couple of halfhearted searches without deleting their profile. That allows the site owners to give a false idea of an expansive membership base. May those members rot in internet hell, and I think it's a good place to park their loser ass out of my sight anyway.

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Wow, sounds like someone couldn't get a date on the internet so took to trolling the bars at 2am doesn't it?

Myself, I prefer to not have to deal with some drunken, desperate Phyllis draping her lush self all over me when I go out and lately that's what it's become, a lot of "strong" women who are really criticizing harpies cutting everyone else down to bolster their own egos.

As much fun as a catfight is, most bars don't have the jello/oil/mud facilities necessary - that and enough liquor to overlook the fact that Phyllis is overlooking the realityville that is she needs a plastic surgeon and a therapist to even be considered a remote dating possibility.

Though I'll bet her town pump reputation makes her popular.

My experience with Lavalife has been over 10 years, first with the 'phone (originally 'casual encounters') service, and then the web site. I've found that in the 'phone service, Lavalife appears to have double standards in their acceptance of profiles, one for women (who seem to get away with almost anything) and one for men (who seem to have to be 'very' guarded in their wording). Lavalife's basis of rejection of a male profile is total crap, and insulting. And the way they allow users to send winks and other garbage to burn up the paying members time, is a discrace. As far as the web site is concerned, all I got were 'smiles' from young chicks who were obviously planted to entice the paying male members to send emails to them, and burn up their credits. A bad taste from both services, But I think the 'phone service is the biggest ripoff.

I have several profiles on Lavalife. I am hetero and looking for a guy in one of them. In another one I am bisexual and looking for a woman to play with me and my male friend. In another profile I am lesbian and looking for a woman only.

I get several times the hits on the hetero profile, but I must admit that I have actually went out with more women who responded to my other two profiles. At the moment I am living with one of the women I met.

I think that internet dating works way better for women that have grown some skin as there are way more men than women using the internet for dating. Most of the men tend to be boorish and not worth answering back to, but if a gal has grown some skin to where the boors do not offend her, there are some good men to meet. I just never met one I want to settle down with. Until then, I will probably concentrate more on women who are bi like myself....

I've been on lavalife, in the relationship section, on and off for a number of years, and I've met some interesting and nice men. Lavalife works if you use it properly: have an honest descriptive ad, post a recent photo, only contact people who do match you in some way, forget about instant messaging, it's a waste of money. Interestingly, many people put more time and effort into writing a resume than they do in writing a profile, and do more checking of a potential employer than they do of a date. Yet, they are looking for a life time mate?! Then there are unrealistic expectations, the odds are that the 1st or even 10th person you meet is not "the one". If you're older, keep in mind that people get divorced for a reason --- and that reason wasn't because they were wonderful caring attentive spouses.

If you don't like the work of online dating, get out your credit card and head for an expensive service that will do the work for you.

Life is so strange sometimes. People walk in and some people walk out. It's months now that I haven't been on lavalife. To all of those who were able to find that someone special to click with I wish you all the best. It must be a great feeling to finally find the one you've been waiting for all your life. Sometimes love makes us do silly things but that's what the magic is all about. Having found that magic even if it's one sided is the hardest thing to let go of. All we are left with is the emptiness and the bittersweet feeling of what could have been. I hope someone gives me the chance to get to know me someday. I was a sad girl fow a long time. Now I get up and Thank God for every day he gives me so I can make myself happy. Let's all try to be happy whether we've had bad or good experiences on LAVA it's all meaningless in the end. Hold your heads up high and SMILE:) I know we all want someone to love and love us back but someotimes we have to wait and be patient. We are all special and beautiful in our own ways and if people don't take the time to find this out it's simply their loss. Enjoy life.

M.of Men.....show the "ONE" your true colors like you have done with the lucky ones who've seen the rainbow in your heart ....

From the girl with a heart full of hope

I have tried lavalife off and on for 4-5 years. I find it entertaining and also a wonderful screening tool for finding men online. I now live with a wonderful man that I met my first night on lava. We didn't move in together right away, of course, but we took the time on lava to get to know each other, met one night, had a great time. We continued our relationship but still used lava for meeting other people and have had some interesting sexual adventures. I still use lava to this day and when I am in the mood for something new or want to go out on the town with an old friend, we rekindle on lava and off we go, like old times. I have really enjoyed lavalife. It think it depends on the person and what you are really looking for. I was not in the dating or relationship section of the site because that was not what I was looking for. I went online to find someone with the same needs as I had and that is exactly what the site is there for. Compatibility, whether it is social or sexual. Thank you lavalife for being there when I need you.

I have never been to Lavalife, so 3 stars is to "split the difference." This is directed at Phyllis...

Your statement about Internet date sites being for "losers" is hurtful and unfair to many.

You cannot know what any one person has been through in their life. What kind of hardships, misfortunes, injustice or despair they have endured. Sure, most of us have the power within ourselves to overcome certain things, but that doesn't give you the right to label those who just haven't yet or are truly unable.

Everyone comes from somewhere

From where i sit, Lava and all the rest of these sites are the same - especially for women my age (mid 40s) and right there, you know my gripe! I'm fed up with the games people play; fed up with the shallow people who play 'em. This isn't about "female psychology" fella's. It's not about "losers" or "winners" (whatever that means) It's about a society that values youth and conventional beauty -even when you're as "old" as me! This site and the others like it are trading on that, so don't kid yourselves. This is a meat market and little else. In my age group, at least, one in ten might be on the up and up. Findng that one guy is like winning the lottery. The rest want a trophy chick to haul around town and show off. As a kind, honourable - and I like to think - non-egotistical person, these sites have slain my self-esteem more than a few times. A winning "profile"? What "profile"? It's only the picture they're all going by, right? Who are we kidding here anyway? Not me. Not anymore.

I was reading reviews and someone stated: "I spend more time fighting with lava over the wording of my opening line than anything else. I don't know where they get thier sceeners from, but they are incredible prudes." and that happened to me too, for the small part of my profile because it is too negative (or I think they thought it was bad advertize for Lava). Honestly, I found it too extream. That site is just creepy.

I have been on lavalife for a couple of years - off and on - mostly off. My view is that online dating - regardless of the medium 'breeds mistrust'.

I am middle aged, look pretty good for my age, earn a comfortable living and would like to meet someone about my age. The fellows my age on lavalife all seem to want trophy girls. I have met a couple of nice fellows there - but for the most part - there seem to be some real creeps. I either get young guys who want a domineering woman so that can rub their feet and who knows what else, or old mean men (Returning To - would be one of them) who within a three minute instant message session demands my backstage, sends me his, then because I did not respond immediately - accuses me of being superficial for judging him based on a photo from a magazine. Truly bizarre! He claimed he is honest and kind - but that is not honesty nor kindmness in my books.

Needless to say - it is 'brutal' and I am no longer there. Surely to goodness there is a better way - where we are not instantly judged and treated in a manner we would not like to be treated.